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Maurice Legget

 

Is that Android? Whew, the ghetto....haha jk. But my first and only two serious relationships were long-distance. The first was 2 years, the second like 8-9 months. It was tolerable when I was younger but I was also lucky enough to have relatively easier access to them than you do, currently.

Even just being a few years older, my tolerance for it has quickly declined. I don't mind starting off that way or even having it woven into our relationship due to careers but we need to have a gameplan. I'm not doing long-distance indefinitely with a to-be-determined cessation date.

If he has no plans of moving anytime soon and neither do you, I'd think a little harder about pursuing it further. It sucks when you find that connection with someone and unfortunately, I feel like it's becoming a lot more common to end up in situations like these. But shit, what did Erykah Badu say? "I guess, I'll see you next lifetime." lmao

To your previous point, it definitely does slow down the process of understanding if you are truly compatible so there is a level of risk. And that was a bold ass but real ass statement lmao. That sounds like something I would say.

 

From what I've read on social media and comments, they were both pretty happy and friendly guys. One person said this about Artist:

"I used to work with him at a hotel in San Francisco. He was such a sweet guy. Everyone had a crush on him. He was a total pot-head. Always high lol, but such a cool person. Also he told us he was half Pakistani (which no one believed)."

 

A show about Effeminate, SGL Black men into Fashion, Interior design and celebrities.

 

Priest do it all the time...don't even know why yall trippin...

 

LMFAO!!! They didnt show anything, so it dont count.

 

Yea, I was gonna say, lube doesn't really 'expire'. It might not be as good and silky as it's supposed to be, but it doesn't become dangerous or anything.

I actually researched this a while back because there was a point where the Dollar Tree had all of this durex lube, because it was 'expiring' that same year. I pretty much bought every tube from every Dollar Tree in BK, and let's just say it worked perfectly fine for me.

 

I was expecting this to happen at some point. Any picture uploaded to the internet should be considered public by default IMHO.
Also, S3 buckets accidentally made public was the highlight of engineering fuckups in 2017-2018 majors incidents were the U.S Department of Defense(lol) and GoDaddy.
Someone literally keeps a list on Github of the many companies that have "accidentally" made S3 data public nagwww/s3-leaks
The problem with that particular AWS service is because it's a Swiss Army knife. it is essentially like Google Drive on steroids. which is both what's good and bad about it. For instance, you can host your blog, document or anything on there anything you want to be public. I keep my resumé on an S3 bucket and just share the link on my personal website for recruiters to see.

On the other hand, we use it at my job to store encrypted secret data and other sensitive data. The problem? A few years ago, It was incredibly easy to make everything public

 

I said the same thing. It’s no way they met on Christian Mingle (grant it, some freaks are on there too lol). I would’ve been upfront and said we met for a hook up and we ended up connecting on a deeper level. I don’t think anyone would have thought any less of them haha. They could be a success story for Jack/Grindr or whatever app they used.

 

This whole thing is crazy to me. Where were the other ppl? Were they really stalking him to have bleach and rope on the ready? Was he the 1st solo blk person they ran up on?

 

You are correct. I think it should be clear (obvious) we're talking about within reason, not fecophilia. Not no 2-girls-1-cup type shit.

The first thing that ALWAYS comes to my mind if/when it happens is, "that is what soap and water is for". I'm not saying continue to completion....nope, get up, clean off and then jack off and keep it moving.

There was one kat I was with in my early early twenties who was beginning to paint and I told him dont worry, not to move, went to the bathroom, cleaned myself off, got tissue, cleaned him off and then wiped his butt with a warm cloth (rinse and repeat) and still had a great session afterwards...just with no butt play.

I'm thankful that years later when I did it to somebody they were just as patient with me and didn't make it a big deal.

Everyone is different....its just not an "end or the world" crisis for me.

 

This is one of the reasons when ur at work or doing a job it soo important to at professional. Its ok to be cordial and what not. But ppl will take ur jokes n friendly-ness for something else.

 

It was the first thing I noticed. It's a common trope in Hollywood films.....especially in horror, thrillers, and sci-fi. Another recent example is the most recent Predator flick. Trevante's character sacrifices himself to help the white protagonist. Sterling K Brown's character (who was a complete badass mind you) gets killed, and Keegan Michael Key's character also get killed.

 

The 'Black monolith' won't get it for a very long time, because blk ppl are the undefeated, reigning world and olympic champions in all divisions of oppression. Our oppression invalidates all other forms.

The unfortunate reality is that they won't understand their contributions to gay oppression until we are 'normalized' to them. Gays 'bring it on themselves', being all 'extra' and 'loud'. The gays can't ever just 'be normal'. All the same things white ppl said about blacks before finally meeting a 'normal' black person.

 

The end of the day difference is that the NFL IS a player's career! This one gig is not Travis', nor any other artist deciding to silently 'join the movement' by not using their platform in association with the NFL. Hell, back when Paul Robeson and Dorothy Dandridge were fighting Hollywood's one track depiction of blacks as maids and butlers, they boycotted the roles. They didn't expect all of the black people who earned their actual livings in domestic roles to up and quit for the cause!

Travis, like every other black artist opting out, doesn't NEED this like an NFL player NEEDS his livelihood. What is the use of the 90% (not being literal) of black men who comprise and earn their livings in the NFL being unemployed? Entertainers, who aren't dependent upon the NFL for a check, on the other hand, can easily say, 'I'm standing in solidarity with a movement going on around me', if he so chooses. He won't miss a meal because of it.

That said, idc if he does the gig or not. I don't know anything about this young man, other than the fact that I wouldn't exactly be looking to him for decision making cues about anything besides a weed man. What I will say though, is I don't remember ppl giving Chrisette Michelle any support while she was getting dragged up and down the underground railroad for accepting that quick gig. Ijs.

 

Don’t really need a paid membership per se, just personal space and time. Got my (decidedly modest) results this summer from Pinterest pages:



A lot of people think of Pinterest as the social media platform for old ladies with cats, but I swear I’ve gotten way better workout info on there than the last 20 years of (every-issue-interchangeably-the-same) Men’s Health

 

And another damn thing....if he created a fake page...why does that shit say fucking Dwight Howard?


I mean look at all the support this whore is receiving now all over social media and cries of "victim blaming" from these woke metoo feminists. As if she didn't out this dude. This shit is the twilight zone for reals.

 

I hate the idea of holding hands. I do not want to hold hands in private, in public, at the mall, at the club, underwater, on the moon, or anywhere else. It doesn't have anything to do with what anyone else thinks. I just like my space. I'm not super affectionate anyway so just the idea annoys me lol

 

E'r last one of em

 

Well....as to why we can find our new tribe and create a (surrogate) "family ". One that encourages us to be our best selves, support and unconditionally love us if we so choose. #likeminded
Though, I totally understand and can relate.

 

Just don't talk about it at Sexy Time. Bring it up over lunch. Then if he's receptive to it suggest going to a sex store and getting some new lubes toys or something. The folks at the shop will give you advice too. This way you make it an event that you both can look forward to later.

We've said this before but gay men really suck at communicating with each other. Y'all will feel a lot better after you have this conversation even if it's awkward at the start.

 

Yeah all just speculation. They say they met on scruff, an app “primarily for white bears and cubs and the men who like them.” So its likely he just genuinely likes to stick is “hand” in Winnie the Pooh’s honey pot.

 

Ive had very few stranger hookups in my entire life. Ive just never liked the awkwardness. I voted 3x a year just because it's not like I haven't had them. I do feel like Im missing out and letting paranoia get the best of me sometimes, but Ive accepted that my fear of catching EVERYTHING from touching a man's thigh isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

It's actually kinda crazy when you think about how much more comfortable a little bit of convo can make you, since a mofo could obviously still be feeding you a bunch of lies.

 

To be honest, the actions of dudes don't really get me to "grind my gears" territory...especially if they are randoms or dudes I haven't met in person yet.

But if we're just talking about Pet Peeves, then all of what has already been mentioned applies. I'll add a few:

1. Being silent and unresponsive during foreplay and coitus...I like being aggressive and move based on the feedback I'm receiving, when they are silent and just lay there, it messes up my flow. This directly corresponds to-

2. Not reciprocating during sex. I've heard of Tops who don't kiss, suck peen or like anyone going near their rear...but when Bottoms just lay there and don't do anything besides moan and groan, it gets boring and I get soft. Usually that's when an attentive partner will "help" your lil man rise again, but so many dudes I've been with still just lay there. (Granted, I'm referring to the more masculine dudes, the softer guys have no problem with this).

3. Being attached to the hip or their "Best Friend" at a party or club. I don't have gay friends who go out anymore, so when I get that itch I often go solo. And because I'm not on any dating apps anymore, these are the only opportunities I have to meet men for dating. I like to approach guys when they are off on their own like going to the bar or returning from the restroom. But so many guys become siamese twins with their friends in these spots, so a guy like me who wants to respect relationships doesn't just step to couples and try to holla at the one I like. I remember in that other thread @Lancer said he took the chance and stepped to a guy standing with a group of his friends and just starting caking right in front of them...I couldn't do that. I feel like that adds pressure on the dude and could lead to you being embarrassed if his friends disapprove or you get played in front of them.

 

I've had a few, ummm, 'under the weather' hookups after a gay water (or 12), and I've regretted many of them. Maybe not regret (nothing was affected) so much as 'what?/why?/lets pretend that never happened'. If that aint a wrong reason, Idk what is... The irony is that Im quite the prude other wise, w little interest in random sex and the body count to match.

Like a lot of guys alrdy said, please don't waste your time trying to chase this webseries sex. While sex can be great, it can also be awkward and unfulfilling. Don't go out of your way to do some shit you rly don't even wana do. Hell, odds are, you'll alrdy end up doing that enough, thanks to life.

 

All of this!! Wine is my very real problem. I have gained nearly 50 pounds from 22 to 32 years old. I am 6'0" and when I started my military service I was 130 pounds. I was skinny. I bulked up because of the military exercise regimen. I plateaued at 150. Really solid nice looking body. Over the past decade and several jobs where I was not particularly active, I hover between 180 and 190.

I recently started a fitness program and started sitting less at work and drinking more water. I totally eliminated soda and sweet tea (my kryptonite). I started to develop some health issues, primarily acid reflux and heartburn. The doctor told me it was diet and weight. Now, I am working slowly but deliberately to restore some balance. The problem is I love wine. I am a wino. I know its a problem don't judge me.

You are right though about men not talking about weight I think it is important particularly in the black men category because we are dying young by ignoring how weight affects our health outcomes.

 

I calmly take the condom off and go lay down....not a huge deal bc it's going to happen but I'm def not about to keep fucking you.

Now I've never been legit shat on though...I'd probably ask him to leave...like bro, you knew you were about to have a whole ass bowel movement....

 

@Infinite_loop hell nah lmao - the travel/ig models just it that much easier to be let down.

@Krimsonic_ we're painting with a broad stroke but yes, i agree - I'll give a lil bit on masculinity just to have some level of engagement so we're not sitting there looking stupid after I'm tired of asking him questions

 

Writers need artists, and artists need writers! We might do the first CA comic strip, lol.

 

This is why I keep straight women at a certain length.

 

Back when I was in college I was sorta talking to this older married woman. I backed off once she wanted to sneak me into her husbands house to have sex though. I had imagined a situation where he walked in on us and I got paranoid so I deaded it.

Married man, on the other hand, I may have went through with that if that situation had ever presented itself. I would probably do it now too. Fuck it, I'm single with no responsibilities to maintain someone else's relationship that I don't even know. Especially if that dude is the one coming at me hard.

If a married dude (or guy in a relationship) is trying to cheat with me and I say no, please believe he's gonna just cheat with someone else.

The only line I don't cross is if I know the couple. Like if his boyfriend has looked me in the eyes or shook my hands before. Like, I wouldn't actively pursue a dude I knew to be in a relationship or married. Otherwise, for all I know that person doesn't even actually exist.

 

Trust. No question. Ppl like to say 'we cant have ____ w/o trust' but genuine, whole-hearted trust leads to/allows for a comfort level that cuts all of the walls and layers blocking you from addressing any other issues.

 

I kind of understand where your coming from but I would probably sleep with a transman but never a transwoman. I'm not attracted to vagina specifically but I've seen some vids/pics of transmen that turned me on. The trans situation is interesting and is very complex. I feel like some want to be just considered a regular woman but is that fair to biological women and the men who want them? idk. In sports wouldn't a biological male naturally have an advantage ? I assume so. With that recent Ginuwine incident, I didn't like her trying to force him and then label him transphobic. If a straight person turns them down because they are trans, no matter how unclockable and beautiful they are, that's not transphobic to me. Also I don't get those videos when they talk more fem like then switch to their "man voice" to emphasize don't mess with me I'm still a man. Doesn't that just goes against what they are fighting for? So many questions, I just hope they stop getting murdered and putting themselves in those positions to get murdered.