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I don't know what to think of this...

 

Odell is just a care free young black dude with money enjoying himself. We all do weird things when no ones looking he just decided to film it.

 

I would have to go with the census. However, during foreplay, Alicia Key's has really good sensual music.



So does Sade.

 

LOL Nick's gay voice was basically this

 

ill go with the cash love me some odell but i got bills.

 

....hmpgh

 

Oh yeah lol, haven't watched it in a loong time but I was big fan!

You are killing me with these avatars!!!!!

 

This cute Latino guy who's a student dentist at school told me that I look like this MMA fighter while I was in the gym.... I strongly disagree but the dude is handsome though!

Rashad Evans

 

I don't want a traditional funeral in a church with a preacher since I don't believe in that stuff. Just a small gathering with some drinks, snacks, and upbeat music. Cremate my body and plant a tree where the ashes are scattered.

 

This is why @ockydub 's article is important. This man had a path that white most of us wouldn't have taken we should be able to understand where he's coming from even if you disagree with the way he decided to handle things.

He was in a relative spotlight, in the sports world, in one of the most aggressive sports there is. I think he was trying to prove his manhood. I don't think he had to do things the way he did as far as the kids and such.

But I'm thinking now in the back of his head, as crazy as this may sound, he wanted to do the porn knowing that it would come out eventually and he'd have some form of release [did not mean the pun this time]. However, the people who were close to him have dropped him which is the fear so many back men have.

We can be strong, masculine, bold, and as tough as we want to but we all want a support system.

 

I get it. I've gotten better over the years with small talk. For me, you have to be comfortable in the environment you are in or else, you will shut down even saying "Hi" to someone. If you are comfortable, it's a lot easier. If I am comfortable in the environment I'm in, I will try to find the most basic thing to talk about like "Damn it sure is raining out here!" or "This elevator is sooo slow" or if someone says something like those I will just chime in saying "Yeah, I hate the rain!" or "I know. It was like this yesterday...".

1. Make sure you are comfortable in the environment you are in.
2. Find the most basic thing to talk about/say something about.
3. Make eye contact or give some gestures to help with moving into the conversation.

 

They really went there and went deep. I can relate on the body image issues for one. I can relate to @Nick Delmacy experience more so than with @ockydub because of the paranoia that comes with putting myself out there. I will be 26 in one month and I spent most of my time really struggling with accepting my sexuality. It has not been easy but as you and many other Cypher Avenue members know, I've come a LONG way since 2013 especially. Thank God for that.

As far as the sex thing, that has not happened yet but I can say that I have been afraid of it because of body image issues when I was younger, diseases, and also thinking about the act of gay sex in context with religion and faith.

As for relationships, I guess I am still trying to figure out how to go about casually dating.

I can't wait for Part II!

 

Funny you created this thread. I have been thinking a lot porn addiction and its side-effects on "love" and intimacy for the past few weeks. A friend suggested that I read Out of the Shadows:Understanding sexual addictions by Patrick Carnes. From that book, it sounds like there are two chemicals that released(different from men and women) during sexual intimacy to strengthen the bonds of relationships. It turns out those chemicals don't get released during a hook-up(that's why most of us are not about that life), but are release when watching porn. Essentially, porn usage can evolve to trick our minds into believing that we have intimacy when we don't. Hence, the apathy towards relationships and the "I got myvidster/pornhub for that " attitude.

 

i agree lol

 

My love of self started at an early age. I've always been a go-getter and have had confidence in my ability to go for whatever I wanted. I was always the smart kid, the class clown and most talented and was relatively well-liked and popular--despite being bullied early on as a kid. But like a lot of black men, I went through (and still go though) my share of shit that challenged my sense of self and my confidence. My first and only relationship with a guy did a lot to add to my self-confidence. He taught me an important lesson about attraction that went beyond just physical attributes, and into character, personality, how one interacts with other people and more. Along my journey, I also befriended a pretty accomplished, handsome and overall remarkable slightly older man (he was like 15 years older) who helped me come into a strong sense of self. Regarding my sexuality, he was the one who told me, "as long as you and God are cool, don't worry about what anyone else has to say." This friend also made a passing comment to me shortly after we met after months of emailing. His words still resonate with me today: "handsome and smart...powerful."

All this being said, having your own confidence, sense of self and knowledge of your value and worth is very important, no doubt. But surrounding yourself by sincere people who value everything about you and can help reaffirm and build you up is important as well. It is easy to dismiss the world and fuck everybody, but that is a lonely place that most folks--deep down--really don't want to be. Fortunately, the world is big enough for us to seek out a community that reaffirms our sense of self. I think sometimes we overstate the fact that in a society, we can't live in complete isolation and that as human beings, living in isolation/loneliness, is not good for the majority of people's psyche...but that's another topic.

So yeah, love yourself, but surround yourself by people who love you too.

 

I loved:

• Thundercats
• Sailor Moon
• Gundam Wing
• Ed, Edd and Eddy
• Dexters Lab
• Johnny Bravo
• Powderpuff Girls
• Looney Tunes (all the cartoons with that)

 

And they are not taking endless topless photos. They're just regular looking dudes who obviously are not broke but not in a relationship for social media clout.

 

@mojoreece like a clash between going live like on IG and onlyfans lmao

But yea, I would never pay to watch somebody do bullshit around they house. I barely pay for the sex. We all know what onlyfans is about and watching you cook and do yoga isn't it.

 

I dapped your post because you raise a crucial point - people's preferences are their preferences - they are not endorsements nor are they shaming. Personally, my former partner, now deceased, was HIV+ and probably was when we first started our relationship - it was the mid 80s and neither of us were tested. I have subsequently had at least one affair with someone who is positive and is a very close friend.

My problem with the discussion you reported is the overall situation in which people feel entitled to judge in extreme terms others' choices. It is not as if you were writing an article (though you have posted on the situation - but I think that is a different matter). Your opinion/preference is just that - it is not a fiat. I have become tired after decades of sitting through similar conversations among my gay peers of the over-reaction, the judging. I want to say and sometimes do "who died and made you queen." When I hear the words shaming, cancel, ___phobia, I simply tune out.

I applaud your choice though I have made a different one. I also once again thank the Boards for existing and hosting discussions like this.

 

I mean....come on

 

I don't understand why Hoteps and other Pan African folk cant understand this. Pre-colonial Africa as well was as pre-colonial America cultures had very open views of sexuality. Its not until colonialism that they had come to accept limited views of sexuality.

It seems we still want to view Ancient Africa through a colonial mindset.

But the new generation is waking up.

 

Everyone knows black, gay AND masculine is just all too much for the majority female audience who will watch this (like a science experiment so they can try to pick up more signs to be able to tell if their men are 'down low brothas') to digest. What woman wants to watch 2 masculine men 'gone to waste'?!

Congrats to them, but I'm good.

Also, do women even work in the fashion/beauty/styling industries anymore? Now that it's practically a requirement for all black female 'celebs' to have 'a gay' on the opposite arm of the one holding the bag he picked out for her to wear, I wonder how long it'll be before females start marching against the oppression they feel in the male dominated beauty/styling industry...

 

I like your template lol Let me steal it.


Body Wise: I'm fluffy. I'm 6'2 240. Tryna lose 40 pounds. But I still look like I'm in shape thankfully to the untrained eye.

Financial wise I'm ok. I have healthy savings and a good credit score but my income isn't where I hoped it would be at my age.

Family wise: Im good. I love my immediate fam but distant from extended fam.

Sex Wise: I have a couple regular GoTo friends every now and then but I'm mostly solo on pornhub. Im not very good in relationships. I'm workin on it.

I'm 30 and mostly happy. I'm a naturally happy person anyway. I smile just looking forward to the next Game of Thrones episode.

 

I have a coworker who is straight for all intents and purposes, but we've kissed a few times. I've had 2 of them over the years, actually. I've just stopped caring about how anyone decides to label their sexuality, if they choose to. Just enjoyed the moment w a masculine guy who I think is hot.

 

In high School eve though I was the tallest, I was bullied because I was feminine. I remember two instances very clearly;
Lunch break was about over and we were waiting for the teacher to come in. The class clown had been making fun of me for a while and I always use to let it slide but not this time. He kept making fun of my look and then called me a faggot. I got up pulled him to the wall and all I could remember was a blacked out rage! I punched him in the face multiple times, just on and on and at the same time I was crying. It was so weird that after it all, I begged him to forgive me, while I was straightening out his shirt. I still remember the look of fear and confusion on his face.
The second time was when this huge guy transferred to my school. He was a known bully and folks were always afraid of him. This one time in biology class he kept calling me derogatory words, I got up told him to bring it! I was still the tallest in school, so my plan was to use that to my advantage. I stood at the sharp edge of the table and I was going to smash is neck into it. Yo, I was ready to be expelled at that time and did not care what the consequences were. All I knew and was focused on was I was going to silence another bully. His friends ended up telling him I was not worth it and he backed down.

Its sad that the beautiful young man took his life. Yo! do not ever let anyone make you feel less than. I do not care if its your Father, mother, brother address the issue there and then. If they do not change cut them the hell off! Better you are free and living your best life than to be in jail for manslaughter.

 

This is pretty scary. I'm a very selective dick sucker..meaning I have to like you and you have to be my bf. You can see the demon all up in your man face when you suck his penis but if you suck it good, he will look like he just saw Jesus.

 

Exactly. This dude got a whole wife at home. He was the one stepping out. I am all for bisexuality but I'm doubtful Daddy in Law to be was open about it.

Throwing away a relationship you've personally invested years in over a 45 min hookup just doesn't seem worth it to me. If you end it there is no way to break it off without looking like a complete ass.

 

Yoooo! Stay outta my search history!!!

Jokes aside, I accidentally came across this site 6 days ago when looking for photos for a potential question-post asking if Squad Members would date an ex-con.

I clicked through a few of the pages but all of the dudes looks beat down to me. Also, even if you did find one that you liked, how would you actually know that they were the ones really responding to you?

I may still do the post but I'll probably get the photos from screen grabs of LOCKUP instead. That series has shown me that there are a lot of VERY attractive dumb, thugish, criminal minded (and violent) men in this country.

 

I thought this was going to be the 1st paragraph lol

I wish ppl realized pan-sexual and bi sexual people actually exist . They can fall in love with either gender (trans too) and get married.

 

A friend of mine is interested in a man and told me to link them up. I gave the dude my friend info and the dude said that my friend is a big boy and can reach out himself. Not sure if my friend reached out yet BUT I've already seen the guy my friend is interested in around and I've always thought he was attractive. We just so happened to match on Tinder today so let's see where things go. My bro told me that if my friend has not reached out that it is none of my business and that I should engage the dude. Let's see what happens.

 

Lol. “It’s time for America’s favorite game show, Celebrity Suspends Social Media Account After Hot Take! Gay community, come on down, you’re the next contestant!!”

I agree with @RolandG and @mojoreece but again, this is why, especially in social media age, celebrities need to have qualified agents and handlers etc to man their social media presence and stop treating PR like it’s a DIY project on HGTV. Not everyone is capable of dealing or speaking appropriately to their audience in a direct manner. Dude is just the victim of good intentions but bad execution.

 

Anti-blackness is a worldwide system. East Asians especially complicit in it. Chinese culture is extremely bigoted against black people. So this is not surprising at all. Remember it's Asian students who are trying to demolish affirmative action in higher education via the courts because they think it gives black students an "unfair" advantage that they deserve.

 

I'm gonna have to check this