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Do looks play a major factor for you in dating or deciding to pursue a relationship

 

SAY WHAT?! Now listen word on the internet streets is that the Queen Ava Duvernay is in talks about making a Sci-Fi Thriller Film titled "Intelligent Life"! Also it is being said that Lupita Nyong'o is in talking about starring in the film so i wanna know from y'all who would you like to see in the black sci-fi thriller film?
Me personally i would love to see Golden Brooks, Elise Neal, Paula Jai Parker, Countess Vaughn, Mo'Nique, Omar Epps, Boris Kodjoe, Morris Chestnut, Tommy Ford, Mike Epps, and so many more!

ava by BlackOnyx1 posted Feb 8, 2016 at 10:08 PM

Straight from the source IGN: "
BY LUCY O'BRIEN Star Wars: The Force Awakens and 12 Years a Slave actress Lupita Nyong'o is reportedly in talks to star in sci-fi thriller Intelligent Life, with Selma director Ava DuVernay circling to direct.

Intelligent Life will come from Steven Spielberg's Amblin Entertainment, from a script penned by Jurassic World director Colin Trevorrow and collaborater Derek Connolly. THR reports that Nyong'o is currently in negotiations to star in the film, while DuVernay will receive an offer an offer to direct in the next 24 hours.

This isn't the only major offer DuVernay is currently fielding. Deadline reports that the director has also been offered the adaptation of Madelein L'Engle's classic book A Wrinkle in Time from Disney, from a script written by Frozen writer and co-director Jennifer Lee.

Intelligent Life centers on a U.N. worker in a dystopian future who falls in love with an alien. According to THR, its tone will be similar to Trevorrow's Safety Not Guaranteed." Link: The Force Awakens' Lupita Nyong'o in Talks for Ava DuVernay Sci-Fi Thriller - IGN

 

So I am in my late twenties and I am an only child living with my mother. I don't like it, but I know that I plan to move to New York by next year so at this point, I don't see the point in me moving out unless it is to New York earlier than planned. I made an attempt last year to get a place, but it fell through because the apartment complex was still being built and a whole bunch of financial changes occurred in the waiting time because the opening date got pushed back.

I don't like living here, but at this point I feel like I don't have too many other options. I wonder so often if this is a turn off for some guys to know that the person that is trying to talk to them still lives at home with his mother.

 

BBC follows two UK-based transgender men, as they reveal their new gender identity to their families in the land of their birth, Jamaica.

 

In my neverending quest to find myself I do a lot of looking both online, in books, and everywhere else in between to see where I fit in and one thing that I often hear more often than not is that I can't do something because "black folk don't" but clearly since we are human beings we do.

My question is why do we say that about ourselves, why do we limit the things we can do. Is it a fear thing, not understanding the mechanics of those things, or just no interest.

And sorry if this is in the wrong thread

 

I was browsing black bear community-focused MaleMediaMind.com. They had a seemingly short-lived podcast and have an active Youtube channel (and an Instagram and Tumblr filled with Beef Cake of various shapes and sizes).

Several of their videos are Google Hangouts and reminded me of video-assisted versions of the roundtable podcasts, and these two made me laugh. The sentiments of "there are too many bottoms" and a lack of "real" tops make me wonder about their origin. I've seen comments online stating that several, if not all, major US metropolitan areas are suffering from a drought of tops. It's something I don't encounter all the time so maybe these thoughts are only said by a small, vocal subset, but it begs the questions "Why are there so few tops, or what gives some this perception?" and "What exactly is a real top?"

I'm guessing it's pretty simple. A) Fem guys are more visible and more often presumed as bottoms, and some vocal men consider a very narrow subset of people to be "real tops". B) These vocal men are really into traditional gender roles and want a man that fits their narrow masculine expectations.

In the second video, one guy says he's heard bottoms say that, even if their prospect bottomed in an early sexual experience and now only tops, he would still see him as a bottom. I guess he wants a "total top" who would never allow anyone to touch his booty hole, the kind of thinking you hear from those who say Tank is suspect after revealing he likes a tongue down there. I wonder what instills this thinking.

Anyway, their observations and reader reactions are kinda funny.

 

I like to listen to Youtube playlists and wanted to hear piano music. I came across this video. I don't know where to begin. lol

 

Days after the Kanye/Amber Rose/Wiz Khalifa "finger in the booty" nonsense, Tank is representing for the straight brothers who like a little tongue action down there. In a Breakfast Club interview, he says an older woman introduced him to getting eaten out, saying it tickled at first but, ten minutes later, he was spreading his cheeks and saying, "Get in there!" He declares that he only allows a tongue. I'd think his people and heterosexual standards would make him refrain from such candid statements, but I like hearing people comfortably discuss somewhat taboo topics that will likely make some look at them a little funny. The topic begins around 15:30.

 

So you are see this dude and he's cool as a fan, hitting the majority of, if not all of your check marks and you find out he's had some surgical enhancement. Not enough where it's obvious but say before, he was flat chested and had implants that just gave him nicer pecs. Sure he still works out but I just wanted a boost.

Or perhaps he wanted a nicer butt going from two bricks on the wall (lol @alton ) to a nice onion but nothing you couldn't see on any other dude. Maybe he had a little lipo to get his stomach flat or got a penis enlargement. Or stomach etching.




Again he didn't get anything done where it's obvious, he's only admitted it to you.

I would not have a problem with it myself. If this brings someone more confidence and self esteem, why not? Women are always running to get boobs and butts done and there's a growing market for male procedures now. As long as it doesn't turn into something where the fixing is always via surgery is always the solution because that's an addiction we have all seen in the public.

Let's me be clear here. I'm not one for a dude making his lips more plump, butt injections on really disproportionate levels, or along the lines of synthlol injections.

 

Everybody knows I went white for 2016. But, I thought Id give yall a space to share where YALLS cuzzins back in ur hometown made the news for carryin on.

Im not saying that Im from here, Im just gonna sat this video right here and shake my head...

 

I can't tell if this post already exists but here it goes anyway - so Cypher Avenue certainly has a slant towards the masculine side of the homosexual spectrum yada yada but I bet even the most hypermasculine guy out here has that one mainstream 'gay scene' thing he fucks with. No need for full confessionals, let's just limit this to music, shall we? You know that one gay anthem you sort of lose your shit to privately or when out and about (not necessarily voguing...this is still Cypher Avenue after all).

So what's your gay (anthem) musical guilty pleasure? Me - Gwen Guthrie 'Ain't Nothin Goin on But The Rent (....I'm looking for a man to put some money in my hands)'.

It should be interesting to read what Nick's and Ocky's are.

 

I ALWAYS wanted to get a Bonsai Tree. The fact a tree can be that small, beautiful and have a minimalist quality has always amazed me, now add that its FLOATING!?! MIND BLOWN!!! My dream apartment would be this from the 'Masculine Bed Room Spaces'+ a floating Bonsai Tree by the side.
Floating Bonsai Trees Are Now A Reality

 

Damn bruh, this story is really sad and a reason for concern given that so many people had lottery fever recently. Dude was only 20 freaking years old...had a son and just had another new 3 week old baby...AND he just spent $4,000 on Christmas gifts for kids in his community. Humanity ain't shit.





A forklift operator who recently won a nearly half-million dollar Georgia lottery jackpot was killed overnight Thursday during a home invasion robbery, investigators confirmed.

Officials said 20-year-old Craigory Burch, Jr. died from gunshot wounds at a home on Stubbs Avenue.

Burch had won a $434,272 Fantasy 5 jackpot in November 2015.

Once on scene, Georgia Bureau of Investigation agents spent the overnight hours collecting evidence from the home.

Investigators said Burch's girlfriend, Jasmine Hendricks, was in the home at the time and ran for help.

A shotgun blast blew open the door and three masked, armed men ran in, she said.

"When they came in, he said, 'don't do it bro. Don't do it in front of my kids. Please don't do it in front of my kids and old lady. Please don't do that bro. Please don't. He said I'll give you my bank card," Hendricks recalled.

That's when Burch threw his pants to the robbers, who looked for but couldn't find his wallet.

Then they shot and killed him before running away.

Burch's mother Leslie Collins relayed an emotional message for those responsible in the killing.

"I want them to know what they took from me. They took a part of my life away from me. My child that I carried and raised for 20 years," she said.

Authorities said they were following leads and interviewing people, but they have still not named persons of interests or suspects in this case.

Friends of Burch said that he had recently used some of his winnings to buy Christmas presents for people in need.

Anyone with information is urged to contact the Ben Hill County Sheriff's Office at 229-426-5161.

 

So listen to the example of gayness and flamboyancy that is used in the commentary.

 

Ok...so I'm sure most know that the "blacktress" Janet Hubert who played Aunt Viv on the Fresh Prince of Bel Air called out Jada and Will Smith on their boycott of the Oscars? So watch the first video, then the second.

 

Some of you may know 32-year-old stand up comedian Michael Che as as staff writer and anchor on Saturday Night Live’s Weekend Update news segments. In addition to pulling off great comedic timing, even when improvising lines with his co-host Colin Jost, Che looks very good in a suit (I can’t lie, he’s my type of dude. If Che has a gay brother, send him my way).



As many readers already know, I’ve been very critical of black comedians in the past when it came to Homophobia. From Kevin Hart to Tracy Morgan even to The Carmichael Show star Jerrod Carmichael, black comedians often show a disdain for gay people, especially when it comes to gay people in their family or circle of friends.

This 2013 stand up comedy bit from Michael Che on homophobia and gay marriage is hilariously spot on and refreshing. Instead of showing disgust for gays, he jokes about how incomprehensible it is for anyone to be homophobic in the first place (starts around the 3:40 mark).



Props to Michael Che for taking what shouldn’t be a controversial stance in the world of black stand-up comedy: Making funny “gay jokes” that both makes fun of and supports homosexuality.















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I found this article to be pretty interesting. While the article is geared towards straight people there are some universal truths. @ockydub or any other members in a long term relationship or marriage any thoughts?

"Marriage is the establishment of routine, the elimination of mystique about significant others, the mundanity of commitment. A lot of married people go out of their way to make marriage seem attractive. We tell our single homies marriage means you get to WAKE UP! EVERY DAY! NEXT TO YOUR BEST FRIEND! There is that. But most days? There are no trumpets accompanying that moment. Just morning breath.

So it is true, in a sense, that marriage is boring and unmysterious. For me, however, this is all its charm"

"Master of None" was right: Marriage is boring. | truly tafakari

 

This is interesting because he is a pretty masculine dude and I was surprised at his views.
He made some good points.

 

In my current employment status (temporary), just came across this piece of information.

CareerBuilder Releases List of Hottest Jobs for 2016 - CareerBuilder

In addition to this piece of information, I'm curious to know what the First Job Experience was like for any in the Cypher Avenue community and what any of you learned from it.

 

As part of my night routine to skim through my read-it-later app for articles I saved throughout the day, I found this gem. An interesting perspective given here and I mostly agree. Thoughts?

Original Article:http://www.nytimes.com/2016/01/10/opinion/sunday/you-dont-need-more-free-time.html?_r=1

You Don’t Need More Free Time


Gray Matter

By CRISTOBAL YOUNG JAN. 8, 2016



AMERICANS work some of the longest hours in the Western world, and many struggle to achieve a healthy balance between work and life. As a result, there is an understandable tendency to assume that the problem we face is one of quantity: We simply do not have enough free time. “If I could just get a few more hours off work each week,” you might think, “I would be happier.”

This may be true. But the situation, I believe, is more complicated than that. As I discovered in a study that I published with my colleague Chaeyoon Lim in the journal Sociological Science, it’s not just that we have a shortage of free time; it’s also that our free time, in order to be satisfying, often must align with that of our friends and loved ones. We face a problem, in other words, of coordination. Work-life balance is not something that you can solve on your own.

Our study, which drew on data from more than 500,000 respondents to the Gallup Daily Poll, examined the day-to-day fluctuations and patterns in people’s emotions, week after week. Two facts about emotional well-being emerged — one that was intuitive, the other surprising.

The intuitive finding was that people’s feelings of well-being closely tracked the workweek. As measured by things such as anxiety, stress, laughter and enjoyment, our well-being is lowest Monday through Thursday. The workweek is a slog. Well-being edges up on Friday, and really peaks on Saturday and Sunday. We are, in a real sense, living for the weekend.

The surprising finding was that this is also true of unemployed people. We found that the jobless showed almost exactly the same day-to-day pattern in emotional well-being as working people did. Their positive emotions soared on the weekend, and dropped back down again on Monday.

It seems obvious why working people cherish the weekend: It’s a respite from work. But why is the weekend also so important to the unemployed?

The key to answering this question is to recognize that not all time is equal. Time is, in many ways, what sociologists call a “network good.”

Network goods are things that derive their value from being widely shared. Take your computer: Its value depends in large measure on how many other people also have a computer. This is because you use your computer as, among other things, a communication technology: for Internet access, email, Facebook and file sharing. When everyone you know has a computer, the technology is indispensable. But if you were the only person with a computer, its value would be limited.

Free time is also a network good. The weekend derives much of its importance from the fact that so many people are off work together.

To help demonstrate this, my colleague and I conducted a second study, this time using the American Time Use Survey, which tracks how much time people spend doing various activities. We found that the weekly cycle in well-being from our previous study was mirrored in the pattern of time that people spent with family and friends — which was roughly double on weekends what it was during the week. According to our calculations, this increase of social time on the weekend accounted for roughly half the spike in weekend well-being.

Again, this was the same for the jobless. Monday to Friday offers five days when the unemployed are off work by themselves, searching job ads, doing household chores and so on. While the jobless have “free time” during the week, their friends and family still have to go to work. The weekend is when the jobless fall back into sync with society.

The weekend, then, is not just a respite from work, but also gives similar relief from unemployment. It is a time when people can get what they’ve been missing: time together.

This conclusion points to a key feature of the work-life problem: You cannot get more “weekend” simply by taking an extra day off work yourself. If we were to take more time off as individuals, we would be likely to spend that time, as the jobless do, waiting for other people to finish work. We are stuck “at work,” in a sense, by the work schedules of our family and friends.

Over the past few years, many workplaces have looked for ways to create more flexibility in individual work schedules. There is no question that doing so has many benefits. But my research suggests that a disadvantage of these efforts is that they may lead us even further from a weekend-like system of coordinated social time. They threaten, ultimately, to exacerbate the decline in civic engagement and social contact known as the “bowling alone” problem.

The solution might be found in a form of constraint: more standardization of the time for work and the time for life.

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  Cristobal Young is an assistant professor of sociology at Stanford University.
  

 

Lets have a discussion about Nice Guys. We all have some idea of what a nice guy is, for me it's someone that's kind-hearted, considerate of others, approachable, and trust worthy. Now it was mentioned in a previous thread that being a "nice guy" can be a tell for being gay and we've all heard the phrase "Nice Guys Finish Last", and women are known to be attracted to bad boys and celebrities are usually praised for their Ahole tendencies...but does all of this still apply in "gay world"? Catty behavior is a common thing I heard (and observed) in the gay community but I guess my real question is..why.... are people so attracted to individuals with bad attitudes and ignore those that treat people with decency? This goes for both romantic and platonic relationships as well.

What do think?

 

im really feeling dude i like all the songs i heard from him so far. how do yall feel?

 

Post a book that is on your reading list this winter or summer. I will start with the one I am reading its titled, Sweet Tea: Black Gay Men of the South: An Oral History by E. Patrick Johnson. Its been on my reading list for quite sometime since grad school ended for me. I have picked it up and put it down over the past few months due to prior engagements. However, now that things have calmed down in life just a bit, I am going commit to reading it and its entirety. I am sure it will carry me well into the summer months, but you can read an excerpt of the book by clicking on the hyperlink above if you are trying to decide if want read the book. Peace and respect my brothers!

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He turns around before the ball goes into the basket and talks sh!t to the Kings bench...OH HELL NAW!

Oh and he didn't spare his lil brother...

...and then...

 

I got good news and bad news. I have so many comics I want to catch up on but don’t have the money to pay for them sh!ts. Than the Lordt guided my browser and I found HelloComic.com were you can read comics for FREE. That’s the good news.



The bad news is you gotta deal with some annoying redirecting ads, BUT I think I found a slight trick to avoid most of them. When you click on the page of the comic you want to read, the website will attempt to redirect you to one of their sponsors. It will do this for every 2-3 pages of the comic you're reading, again this will get very annoying (be warned). However as soon as you are finished reading one page and click the arrow to go to the next page, the second that next page looks like it is about to finish loading, click the “X” button on your web browser bar to stop the page from fully loading.This will also stop the site from redirecting you to the ad. It doesn't work all the time but does work most of the time (for me).

Man I been reading comics all night AND I got to keep my money in my pocket. They have a HUGH selection of comics from all the publishing companies.

So comic readers, if you just want the story and don't care about having the actual comic in your hands, this might work for you.

 

I'm just saying dude look like he about to go sell some food stamps. But hey...this muthafuka can ball. Do you Westbrook. I would still drag my ballzak across your face.

 

im subscribed to these ppl on youtube thought ill share some of there vids to help if the new year diet or change in food and mind set.






i love his dude




i was thinking about doing this no sugar challenge wanted to know if guys wanted try it with me?

 

So they had this display at a Starbucks in London. Is this 2016 or what? Come on. Noooobody saw this figurine and thought maybe that isn't a good idea.

 

This Woman Shamelessly Ogling UFC Fighters as They Disrobe Is Living Her Best Life

On Dec. 10, 2015, in Las Vegas, Nevada, a woman in a blue polo shirt became a hero to shameless horndogs, proponents of the objectification of men, and every shade of overlap in between. Onstage at a weigh-in before last month's UFC Fight Night, the aforementioned woman in a blue polo shirt was stationed behind the designated weigh-in spot and proceeded to un-self-consciously check out each float in the UFC beefcake parade as they undressed before her.

It was (of course) caught on camera then later edited into a supercut (of course) and (of course) set to music:



There's a lot we don't know about this woman. Who is she? Where does she come from? Why is she the only woman onstage who is fully clothed? Why is she onstage at all? Is she onstage because her job requires her to be onstage? What is her job? What are its requirements and how might one go about applying for a similar position?

In fairness, we're also missing some crucial information on the disrobing men involved: No one seems to have asked how they feel after being subjected to the eyes-only version of a tongue bath. Do they feel this interaction was consensual? Or exploitative and dehumanizing? Or do they not care, seeing as how they're about to be paid thousands of dollars to fight on television? Until this matter is resolved, let's not incorporate this woman's moves into our daily lives.

But damn, blue polo shirt lady. We're one step closer to true equal-opportunity thirst.

 

He can sell me a starter home anytime.