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    Darnell Ferguson, 29, has had one heck of a journey to becoming the man he is today. He's gone from being homeless and incarcerated, to owning 3 restaurants. He knows exactly what his purpose is and has persevered through it all to make his dreams come true.

    His journey started his junior year of high school when he transferred from his high school to a local vocational school in Columbus, Ohio that offered culinary arts courses: “I was failing out of high school, then I ended up switching high schools to a vocational school. So I went to vocational school for culinary arts and thought that if I don’t like it, at least I’ll be able to eat good… That was also at the time when Emeril [TV celebrity chef] was huge and I liked what he was doing, so that was one thing that really caught my eye… I liked the uniforms, the professionalism, I liked everything that wasn’t like what I was used to.”

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    After graduating, he studied at Sullivan University in Louisville, Kentucky. Ferguson arrived at school eager to start, but learned that he could only get partial aid. As a result, he was only able to enroll in a few evening courses and considered dropping out. However, he decided to push forward and excelled. He did so well that he was one of 22 chefs (only two of which were black) chosen out of thousands to be a part of the 2008 Olympic Team in Beijing, China.


    Although things were going well for Ferguson, he still needed money to survive and turned to selling drugs to support himself. Upon graduation, he instead chose to continue selling drugs rather than pursue a career in culinary arts. He wound up being arrested eight times in three months. As a result, he lost all of his possessions and was evicted from his home.

    “The last time getting locked up, I remembered being in class and them talking about being a statistic and how once you get in the system you can’t get out… I started thinking that now I’m the guy that I didn’t want to be… That’s when I told myself that I was going to get serious about something I know that I can do, which is cooking…”

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    Darnell abandoned selling drugs and started taking jobs at local restaurants around Louisville. This experience led him to learn something new about himself – he had a bad temper. Things became so bad at his job that he and his boss had one argument that almost became physical. That's when he knew something had to give.

    “I had anger issues… The big issue was that I was controlled by it… You could say one little thing to me and I would snap because I didn’t have control over myself… So therefore we would get into it all the time… I became so tired that I asked someone if there was a church around here that I could go to. I went to Southeast Christian and ever since then everything changed for me. I started going to church, starting reading about God because for me, I didn’t know God was real… So that for me was a shock… I wish I would have known this a long time ago but I wouldn’t have listened then, even if you told me… That’s just the truth about it.”

    Darnell lost his job, but he found God. Unemployed for a year, he focused on church and opening his own restaurants. He eventually found two investors, but one canceled before he could secure his investment capital, causing him to lose hope. A few months later he ran into a friend who owned a restaurant that only served lunch and dinner. He offered Ferguson to lease the space for breakfast – a practice called “Pop-Up”. For his skill throughout his cooking career and during the Beijing Olympics, Ferguson was titled a “Super-Chef,” which became the inspiration for the name of the “Pop-Up” - SuperChefs.

    He quickly became known for his work and within months, other restaurant owners were were reaching out to him about opening “Pop-Ups” in their restaurants – one being the same boss that fired him.

    In 2015, Darnell decided to expand and open his own full-service restaurant. After partnering with a friend from college and securing an investor, his dream became a reality on July 9, 2015. Since then, Ferguson has added two more restaurants and four “Pop-Up” locations.

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    Ferguson prides himself in serving “high-end” food for an affordable price. The menu items are also centered around comic book themes to make things casual and fun.

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    Darnell has been through a lot in his young life and is proud of the man he is, but he never forgets where he came from. He always gives honor to God and gives back to his community, giving motivational speeches in his spare time and bringing kids from the West End of Louisville to SuperChefs to tour the restaurant.

    “The journey is the success. Most people think the destination is the success. Don’t let today be taken for granted… Enjoy the journey… Everyone is so focused on the destination… You have to enjoy what’s happening because the growth is the best part.”
     
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    100 Percent Of Seniors At Chicago School Admitted To College For 7th Year In A Row

    These young men at Urban Prep Charter Academy are what black excellence looks like
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    For the seventh consecutive year, Urban Prep Charter Academy is keeping it one hundred.

    Every senior at the predominantly black, all-boys charter school in Chicago

    has committed to a four-year college or university.

    At the school’s three campuses combined,

    the class of 2016 has been admitted to more than 220 schools.

    “It’s a great day,” Rudolph Long, who’s attending Hampton University,

    told CBS Chicago on Urban Prep’s college signing day on Tuesday.

    “I feel great. We all made it.

    We all come from good environments so to see us all going to college is nice.”

    Overall, the senior class has received more than 1,500 college admissions

    and has been offered more than $15 million in scholarships and grants,

    according to CBS Chicago. Founder and CEO of Urban Prep Tim King said

    the students have been admitted to schools all over the country,

    including Georgetown University, Yale University, Morehouse College,

    among other schools. King tweeted a photo of some of the seniors at signing day.

    Since 2010, every senior class has had 100 percent of their students admitted to college,

    the school’s website says. The school’s motto is “We Believe,” which serves as a reminder

    “that Urban Prep students will not fall into the trap of negative stereotypes and low expectations,”

    the school’s website says.

    “Every year, I’m just wowed by these young men, by what they are doing,” King told CBS Chicago.

    “We started Urban Prep with the goal of moving the needle when it comes to black male achievement

    and these guys proved to me, the city and the world every year,

    that we did the right thing when we founded Urban Prep ten years ago.”

    Bravo to these young men!
     
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    Obama Urges Howard Graduates To ‘Be Confident In Your Blackness’
    “Passion is vital but you have to have a strategy. And your plan better include voting.”

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    President Barack Obama urged graduates to continue the work of improving the lives of African Americans during his commencement address at Howard University on Saturday.


    President Barack Obama urged Howard University’s class of 2016 on Saturday to “be confident in [their] blackness” and continue past generations’ work to improve the lives of African Americans in the U.S.

    After opening his address on the progress African Americans have made, Obama spent a good portion of his speech discussing the importance of being black and the challenges facing graduates of Howard, one the country’s historically black universities.

    Obama, who wrote about being black while raised by a white mother and grandparents, told the graduates the notion of what it meant to be black in America had changed since he graduated college.

    “Be confident in your heritage, be confident in your blackness,” the president said. “One of the great changes that’s occurred in the country since I was your age is the realization there’s no one way to be black, take it from someone who’s seen both sides of the debate about whether I’m black or not.”

    “The past couple of months I’ve had lunch with the Queen of England and hosted Kendrick Lamar in the Oval Office,” he continued. “There’s no straightjacket, there’s no constraint, there’s no litmus test for authenticity.”

    But being black also comes with a responsibility to address injustice in the world, Obama said.

    Remember the tie that does bind us as African Americans and that is our particular awareness of injustice and unfairness and struggle.
    “Even as we each embrace our own beautiful and unique and valid versions of our blackness, remember the tie that does bind us as African Americans and that is our particular awareness of injustice and unfairness and struggle,” Obama told the students. “That means we cannot sleepwalk through life. We cannot be ignorant of history. We can’t meet the world with a sense of entitlement.

    “That’s a pet peeve of mine, people who’ve been successful and don’t realize they’ve been lucky, that God may have blessed them,” he added. “It wasn’t nothing you did, so don’t have an attitude.”

    The president noted that the unemployment rate remains higher among African Americans than their white counterparts and there was still a racial achievement gap in schools. The Treasury Department has announced that Harriet Tubman would appear on the $20 bill, but Obama noted that black women continue to be paid significantly less than white men.

    “Harriet Tubman may be going on the 20, but we’ve still got a gender gap when a black woman working full time still earns just 66 percent of what a white man gets paid,” he said.

    Obama called on activists to vote in order to fix these problems. He noted there were still too many barriers to voting and said there was a “legacy” of blocking people from voting and a reason why some officials had an interest in blocking voters from the ballot box. But the president also expressed frustration that voter turnout in the 2014 midterm elections was so low.

    “Passion is vital but you have to have a strategy,” he said. “And your plan better include voting. Not just some of the time, but all of the time.”
    Obama implored graduates to vote not just for their president, but in their local elections as well. He framed the importance of voting through the legacy of previous generations of African Americans, who were subject to poll taxes and literacy tests in order to vote.

    “You don’t have to risk your life to cast a ballot, other people already did that for you,” the president said.

    Beyond voting, Obama said activists had to be willing to compromise if they wanted to achieve change, echoing comments he made last month while traveling in London.

    “Change requires more than just speaking out, it requires listening as well. In particular it requires listening to those with whom you disagree and being prepared to compromise,” he said. “”Even when you are 100 percent right, this is hard to explain sometimes, you can be completely right and you are still going to engage folks who disagree with you.”

    Obama, who often speaks about how change is slow and incremental, also said that refusing to compromise with those who disagree would lead activists to feel good about themselves, but not change.

    The president told the students that listening also means that activists shouldn’t interrupt politicians’ rallies — a tactic the Black Lives Matter movement frequently uses — and that controversial speakers shouldn’t be disinvited from speaking on college campuses.

    “As my grandmother used to tell me, every time a fool speaks, they are just advertising their own ignorance,” he said.
     
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    I just came out at work earlier this year. My plan from the beginning was to attain some level of success and job security before I outed myself. It took 10 years to do that. Appearantly being black in coorprate America and in the construction industry comes with its own challenges.

    I'm not the type to lie, so I got really good at deflecting questions about my personal life and keeping everything professional. However, those more personal relationships are needed to move up corporate ladders. For example, if I never bring my mate to any office functions it looks like I don't like the job or Ive got something to hide. How can I be put in positions of confidentiality and trust if I appear shady with parts of my life? Plus after so long the only person I would be fooling is myself.

    I came out in casual conversation to my boss and several coworkers I'm cool with. No big speech, no awkwardness, just a matter of fact. I've become so much closer and relaxed with everyone since. I even brought a date to a company dinner.
     
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    I think it depends on your career and work environment.
     
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    Library Attendance Is Declining. Here’s Why

    Quick aside, Librarians and Veterinarians are just two careers in extremely high demand for people of color and if you're still undecided or know someone who is looking towards the future, these are are both rewarding and well paying options.
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    For centuries, libraries have simply been places that house books. This meaning of the word is embedded right within it; the Old French librairie, used in the 14th century, means “collection of books.” An image of dusty stacks comes to mind, but, of course, the form a book can take is changing, and the ways we learn are changing along with it.

    A new Pew study highlighting who uses libraries, how frequently they use them, and what they use them for, reflects these developments.

    The takeaway highlighted by Pew: People who go to libraries identify as “lifelong learners,” and people who identify as “lifelong learners” are more likely to visit a library than people who do not. A smattering of stats elucidate this point. Library users, for example, are “more likely to pursue personal learning activities,” and “more likely to cite positive impacts from personal learning.”

    Learning doesn’t necessarily mean reading books anymore, however. Educational courses, talks and videos are all methods that appeal to a variety of learning types, and reading is only one way to to acquire new knowledge or a new skill. A kinesthetic learner may benefit from a performance, an auditory learner from a talk, a visual learner from a film or book.

    To accommodate these different needs — as well as visitors’ range of income levels — libraries have expanded their purpose to include community events and free Internet use; however, according to the Pew study, many visitors aren’t aware that these services are available. The survey notes that while 62 percent of libraries offer online career and job-related resources, 38 percent of adults don’t know whether their library offers them. Likewise, 35 percent of libraries offer high school equivalency classes, and nearly half of adults don’t know whether their libraries offer them. The numbers are similar for programs on starting a new business, online programs that certify people who’ve mastered a new skill, and ebook borrowing.

    The latter is an especially glaring example of the dissonance between services provided and knowledge of those services. While 90 percent of libraries offer ebook lending, 22 percent of adults say they don’t know whether their library offers ebooks, and 16 percent say their library does not offer ebooks.

    This disparity could be due to the fact that ebook reading isn’t quite as popular as predicted; strain from reading on a screen is proven to hinder learning, and print books are actually preferred, even among digital natives.

    Still, librarians who’ve poured resources — and scant funding — into new initiatives may wince at these numbers. As The Atlantic suggested in a response to the Pew study, it could be that more funding may help librarians attract more attendees, as attendance has declined by 9 percent since 2012. This figure is bolstered by the Institute of Museum and Library Services, which reported an 8.2 percent decrease in in-person visits since a peak in 2009. But, the study notes, virtual visits aren’t logged as carefully, so it could be that library-goers — who statistically are a tech-savvy set — are more likely to conduct their visits online.

    Still, many of the services provided by libraries are only available in-person, and advertising those services costs money. The Atlantic writer Robinson Meyer observed, “In other words, there’s empirical evidence that usage tracks investment. If libraries receive more public funds, more people use them.”

    This makes sense. If libraries are providing the services that visitors want — learning resources that can be read, viewed, and experienced — then upping attendance is a matter of getting the word out about exactly what is available.

    Libraries have evolved into much more than houses of books, but their original purpose remains intact, and sacred to attendees (in a 2014 study, 55 percent of respondents said losing a library would be a blow to their community). To preserve reading materials, and to promote new ways of learning, would-be visitors must first learn just what a library can be for.
     
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    If you look or know the history of Cypher Ave, you would know that I 've on occasion pushed investing vs. just having money sit in a savings account. I'm no expert but know the importance financial diversification. I know investing scares some people but the basics are not that complicated. Anywho I wanted to share a screen shot of my limited portfolio to show you don't have to be a baller (I'm far from it) to invest in something.
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    Qty is the number of shares I purchased way back when.
    Avg Price is the cost per share.
    Cost Basis is the total of my purchase of that stock at that time.
    Total G/L is the amount of gain($) made.
    Market Value is the current amount/value of the stock if I were to sell.

    Notice how 'Total G/L' is green, that means I made money by doing nothing. Also notice how Jetblue was only $4.44 per share. Keep in mind these stocks were not purchased in one sitting but over months when I had funds available. The sooner you start the sooner you can grow your money.

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    As many of you know, I work in the International Relations / Foreign Policy field and have a few advanced credential to match but I have never actually worked in the field of my credentials because I have been recruiting people and convincing people that the Foreign Service might be the job for them. I have the title of diplomat but I have never actually worked in that capacity, I have mostly been a teacher and spokesman. Well that is all about to change, I received my first political officer orders. I am preparing to move me and my entire life to a foreign country for the next few years and have been receiving these professional development sessions where my "mentor" basically told me to FAKE IT UNTIL I MAKE IT. Is it me or is that some bullshit ass advice?

    Have any of you faked it until you made it?
     
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    I have to agree with what others have said it depends on what carrier field you're in whether or not you have protections at work or even what state you live in. In many states it's still legal for a company to fire you if they dislike your sexual orientation. So it would be wise to check state and local laws as well as company policy. It also depends on if you're a public figure or not. If you're in politics, pro-sports, acting, or some other high profile field coming out is going to negatively impact your career no matter what stage you come out if you're black. If you're white you're whiteness will provide a degree of insulation from any blowback from homophobes. That said I think being successful in your career provide you with some protection because people may overlook the fact they find your sexuality objectionable because you're good at what you do. On the other hand it may not. You may actually have more too loose if you do become successful then come out. This is one of those things where you gotta go with your gut. There is no right or wrong answer.
     
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    Black Boys’ Need for Black Male Mentorship
    My Man Blue by Nikki Grimes is a compilation of poems that tell the story of Damon’s need for a positive Black male role model in his life. With Blue’s mentorship, Damon believes that he can accomplish almost anything.

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    The exciting book Brothers of the Knight written by Debbie Allen was adapted from the fairytale The Twelve Dancing Princesses. The Rev. Knight has 12 energetic sons who love to dance all night without him knowing. When he sees them in the mornings, he finds that their sneakers are torn, and it is a complete mystery to him what his sons are up to. Perhaps the nanny he hires will find out.
     
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    The stock market has been doing unusually awesome in the past few years. if you dont know what to buy look up ETFs. also if you have more than $5,000 to "play" with look up trading on margin. Personally I like TD Ameritrade because their mobile software is better than anything else ive seen.
     
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    My first job out of college was the Military and I couldn't be known, it was during DADT. When I got out of the service I worked in the legal field and only a few people knew. My current job know as a diplomat, political officer, I am known because I have a husband and that is hard to hide in my kind of work. I came out by putting our picture on my desk and most people noticed it the first few days.

    I honestly don't think its necessary and it only becomes necessary when it starts to interfere with your happiness and life. People don't realize that keeping secrets and holding in shame is harmful to ones health. If if safe for you to be open at work I say do it because then you don't have to walk around with baggage.
     
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    This is just life. Live your life and deal with this shit-it will not go away. Being yourself does not mean you have to broadcast anything, but it also means not having to worry about shit like this-it will happen anyway regardless of what you do or don't do-you won't please everyone. Do you and let the chips fall where they may. Often when things go bad at one place it is for the best-you just never know with life. It is not worth the thought or worry-that shit ages you inside and out. JMHO.

    Concentrate on doing a good job and the decent people will judge you on that, not on your personal life. The rest, fuck them. Again, JMHO.

    *also, if you know someone already has 'suspicions', then that one, and the ones who will judge you negatively are already gossiping and judging you now behind your back-you can almost be sure of that. That is how those kind are. You probably won't lose much. And the worry about what these people think, them 'distancing' themselves from you, is causing you to 'distance' yourself from other gay guys who are not your enemy. Is that what you really want? Just something to think about.
     
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    Could say a lot here but will say that White Wealth completely eclipses Black and Latino Wealth, with a large factor due to people of color not having nearly enough land or real estate.
     
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    My company is very gay friendly but I don't think my local branch actually is. There's videos talking about it and anti harassment policies and sign offs that are required across the board. However I'm not going to blab it out.

    I don't see any point in me talking about it now. I hope to get married but even after that I probably won't talk about my husband and my vacations much at work.

    It'll be something that casually rolls out of my mouth and I'll keep it moving. I'm not going to be hiding it forever but I don't see talking about it without context or relevance.
     
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    I had one student openly ask in a group of girls recently if I had a boyfriend. And I replied "no." Then if I had a girlfriend. And I replied "no." If I liked men. And I replied "no." Then she asked do you like girls. And I said "no." Then I asked "why is this information helpful for you in anyway shape or form?" Then she just left me alone afterwards. I'm actually glad that she was so straightforward though, because I hate when people are thinking things, will talk for days about you behind your back but never ask, or create their own stories.
     
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    That's actually a good idea. I feel like a lot of gay men do that. Part of the reason they're super successful is because they don't want anyone to give them shit for being gay. Plus, it really matters if you're in a setting where you don't have job protections.
     
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    I was apart of a community service program in college where we would go to local schools and education programs to tutor and mentor kids. I also briefly was an adviser at a high school. It really depends on you on how open you are to to share your personal life. Kids are very inquisitive especially if they see an highly educated young black male (its surprisingly rare for some of them to even see this) they feel they can relate to and want to know Everything about you lol. They will want to know if your dating or seeing anyone but I told my kids I was single and working on school and make money they understood. But they prob though I was just f*** randoms lol smh. I know when I was dealing with urban high school students one girl tried to openly flirt with me in Spanish (her teacher caught on right away and stepped in). One boy asked did I go to the strip club (I acted like I didnt hear the question). Only one HS boy asked if I was gay (I lied and said no) but I think he secretly had a crush on me cause he called me his baby once and thought I didn't hear it smh. So its just up to you on how much you choose to reveal.
     
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    Both have benefits and different levels of responsibility but... These folks out here talmbout "I'm renting because I may leave [Insert City X here]." but have been living in [City X] for 6 years and haven't even looked at employment at another city or saved enough to move away from where they are.... You may as well buy. Even if it's a one bedroom condo.

    Now if you just don't want to have the overhead of a mortgage, I totally understand. There's insurance, plumbing, appliances, yard work... That's all on you but you have a consistent payment and unless you have a money pit house/condo most people won't be replacing an hvac or stove every year. And you can always get used appliances on the low low.

    Also markets vary so buying in Atlanta may not be ideal but renting in Jackson, MS may not be ideal. There's a lot of variables to consider.
     
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    While giving a talk about Minority Serving Institutions at a recent higher education forum, I was asked a question pertaining to the lack of faculty of color at many majority institutions, especially more elite institutions.

    My response was frank: “The reason we don’t have more faculty of color among college faculty is that we don’t want them. We simply don’t want them.” Those in the audience were surprised by my candor and gave me a round of applause for the honesty.

    Given the short amount of time I had on the stage, I couldn’t explain the evidence behind my statement. I will do so here. I have been a faculty member since 2000, working at several research universities. In addition, I give talks, conduct research and workshops and do consulting related to diversifying the faculty across the nation. I have learned a lot about faculty recruitment over 16 years and as a result of visiting many colleges and universities.

    First, the word ‘quality’ is used to dismiss people of color who are otherwise competitive for faculty positions. Even those people on search committees that appear to be dedicated to access and equity will point to ‘quality’ or lack of ‘quality’ as a reason for not hiring a person of color.

    Typically, ‘quality’ means that the person didn’t go to an elite institution for their Ph.D. or wasn’t mentored by a prominent person in the field. What people forget is that attending the elite institutions and being mentored by prominent people is linked to social capital and systemic racism ensures that people of color have less of it.

    Second, the most common excuse I hear is ‘there aren’t enough people of color in the faculty pipeline.’

    It is accurate that there are fewer people of color in some disciplines such as engineering or physics. However, there are great numbers of Ph.D.’s of color in the humanities and education and we still don’t have great diversity on these faculties.

    When I hear someone say people of color aren’t in the pipeline, I respond with ‘Why don’t you create the pipeline?’ ‘Why don’t you grow your own?’

    Since faculty members are resistant to hiring their own graduates, why not team up with several other institutions that are ‘deemed to be of high quality’ and bring in more Ph.D.s of color from those institutions?

    If you are in a field with few people of color in the pipeline, why are you working so hard to ‘weed’ them out of undergraduate and Ph.D. programs? Why not encourage, mentor, and support more people of color in your field?

    Third, I have learned that faculty will bend rules, knock down walls, and build bridges to hire those they really want (often white colleagues) but when it comes to hiring faculty of color, they have to ‘play by the rules’ and get angry when any exceptions are made.

    Let me tell you a secret – exceptions are made for white people constantly in the academy; exceptions are the rule in academe.

    Fourth, faculty search committees are part of the problem.

    They are not trained in recruitment, are rarely diverse in makeup, and are often more interested in hiring people just like them rather than expanding the diversity of their department.

    They reach out to those they know for recommendations and rely on ads in national publications.

    And, even when they do receive a diverse group of applicants, often those applicants ‘aren’t the right fit’ for the institution. What is the ‘right fit’? Someone just like you?

    Fifth, if majority colleges and universities are truly serious about increasing faculty diversity, why don’t they visit Minority Serving Institutions — institutions with great student and faculty diversity — and ask them how they recruit a diverse faculty.

    This isn’t hard. The answers are right in front of us. We need the will.

    For those reading this essay, you might be wondering why faculty diversity is important. Your wondering is yet another reason why we don’t have a more diverse faculty. Having a diverse faculty — in terms of race, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, religion — adds greatly to the experiences of students in the classroom. It challenges them — given that they are likely not to have had diversity in their K-12 classroom teachers — to think differently about who produces knowledge. It also challenges them to move away from a ‘white-centered’ approach to one that is inclusive of many different voices and perspectives.

    Having a diverse faculty strengthens the faculty and the institution as there is more richness in the curriculum and in conversations taking place on committees and in faculty meetings. A diverse faculty also holds the university accountable in ways that uplift people of color and center issues that are important to the large and growing communities of color across the nation.

    Although I have always thought it vital that our faculty be representative of the nation’s diversity, we are getting to a point in higher education where increasing faculty diversity is an absolute necessity and crucial to the future of our nation.

    In 2014, for the first time, the nation’s K-12 student population was majority minority. These students are on their way into colleges and universities and we are not prepared for them. Our current faculty lacks expertise in working with students of color and our resistance to diversifying the faculty means that we are not going to be ready anytime soon.

    I’ll close by asking you to think deeply about your role in recruiting and hiring faculty. How often do you use the word ‘quality’ when talking about increased diversity? Why do you use it? How often do you point to the lack of people of color in the faculty pipeline while doing nothing about the problem?

    How many books, articles, or training sessions have you attended on how to recruit faculty of color?

    How many times have you reached out to departments with great diversity in your field and asked them how they attract and retain a diverse faculty?

    How often do you resist when someone asks you to bend the rules for faculty of color hires but think it’s absolutely necessary when considering a white candidate (you know, so you don’t lose such a wonderful candidate)?

    Rather than getting angry at me for pointing out a problem that most of us are aware of, why don’t you change your ways and do something to diversify your department or institution’s faculty?

    I bet you don’t, but I sure hope you do.

    An Ivy League professor on why colleges don’t hire more faculty of color: ‘We don’t want them’
     
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    [​IMG] COMPTON, Calif. (KABC) -- A 16-year-old Compton teen has made history by becoming the youngest African-American to pilot an airplane around the continental U.S.

    Isaiah Cooper landed at the Compton-Woodley Airport around 10 a.m. after traveling more than 8,000 miles in 13 days. In the beginning of his journey, Cooper ran into a little trouble but did not give up.

    While flying through Wyoming, he faced extreme wind shear and was forced to land and switch planes. He said quitting was never an option for him.

    "Just stay focused. There's a lot of people that will try to detract you from the road that you're on," he said. "Whatever you want to do, you can do it, just put your mind to it."

    He added he has no plans to take it easy after completing his record-breaking trip. His next goal is to fly around the world solo when he turns 18, which would be another record.
     
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    http://lifehacker.com/renting-is-throwing-money-away-is-completely-false-1747050568

    You might have heard the old adage “renting is throwing money away.” It seems like common sense. You don’t buy anything when you rent, but you keep to keep the house you buy. However, nothing could be further from the truth.

    As personal finance blog Afford Anything breaks down in massive, incredible detail, buying a home is a lot more complicated than “Rent, except you get to keep it.” Not only are there major additional costs that you’ll be paying for the rest of your life (like repairs, renovations, and property tax), but for the first several years of your mortgage, you’re barely even gaining any equity!

    Should you keep renting? Is renting better than buying? Or should you purchase a home? Is buying the better choice? Your answer is going to depend on a massive number of factors, including:

    • The local price-to-rent ratio.
    • How long you’ll live there.
    • Your alternative investment options.
    • Your assumptions about inflation and investment gains.
    • Maintenance, repair, insurance, property tax and capital expense costs.
    • The rate at which rents rise.
    • Et cetera, etc., etc.
    You get the picture. My goal is to impress upon you — once and for all — that this myth that “renting is throwing money away” is wrongheaded. In fact, it’s dangerous. It oversimplifies a life-changing, six-figure decision. It’s probably caused thousands (or millions) of people to buy houses they later regret.

    The entire piece is long, but should be mandatory reading before making the decision to buy versus rent. While it’s true that you’re buying an asset when you purchase a house, it’s an asset that barely keeps pace with inflation, and you lose the opportunity to make other investments. Not to mention, renting is underrated. Even if you think you’ve considered this topic top to bottom before, you’ll likely find some information you hadn’t thought of before (like a detailed explainer on the price-to-rent ratio) that you hadn’t thought of before.

    Renting is Throwing Money Away … Right? | Afford Anything via Rockstar Finance
     
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    I don't think it needs to be known at all. At the same time, I don't think that you need to go above and beyond to hide it either. At my job people may have suspicions, but I never actually have that conversation with anyone because I don't work with anyone who I'm close with like that. I go to work, mind my business, and then go home. My work persona is pretty private and my interactions are very surfaced anyway.
     
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    My first job was as an aftercare and VPK (Preschool) teacher at a daycare. I was in my senior year of high school and I was making bank at that job! (well.... as a highschooler, I was making bank lol), it was rewarding working with the kids and helping them with their homework, and helping with the infants, man I loved that job, I'll always remember it. Best part is, it was only two houses away! and I helped myself get the job, I volunteered there for three months and after that the boss hired me. I loved it. Although when your the only male working in a place full of women, there was so much drama between the women at that job that at one point the police got called..... at a daycare? like as the kids would say "where they do that at"? That place could've been a reality show, Lmaooo! After working there though, I can't look at daycares the same. smh lol.

    But what I did love is that many of the parents liked me so much (you know as the only guy I got alot of shine. lol) so they would let me babysit their kids on the weekend. And most times during babysitting I never had to do anything since the kids were asleep by the time I got there, the mom would order pizza and dvr my soaps for me. lol
     
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    My first job was as a Page for the Senate of VA. That was a great experience. Being able to have a front row seat to law making. It was my sophomore year of High School and I was the only black page that year, so it was of course an interesting experience.
    My career first job, that I applied and got hired for is what I am doing now, teaching Special Education. I was a tutor while in college over the summers and it made me realize I didn't want to do anything much with my Business Management degree I was working toward. I then went to grad school for Special Education and applied two years during that time trying to become a teacher and it wasn't until I graduated with my degree did I get hired.
     
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    Nursing Assistant and Licensed Phlebotomist

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    Nah. lol.But I'm working on it as I'm currently in school
    Why did you pick it? How did you get it?
    I picked it because I didn't want to work jobs that had nothing to do with what I wanted to do, which my goal one day is to become a Physician in the capacity of a Nurse Practitioner, I'm thinking of specializing in pediatrics but the night is young. lol. And I got it because I applied and got hired.
    What do you do at work? (be specific, titles mean nothing)
    As a nursing Assistant I help the patients get dressed, assist them with medication and daily hygiene needs. As a Phlebotomist, you draw blood, process specimens and assist with also centrifuging specimens as well.
    How long have you been working there?
    As a nursing Assistant for about ten months and for phlebotomy since december.
    Are you satisfied? Are you looking for something else?
    As a phlebotomist yes, I decided to become a phlebotomist to do something more medically oriented.
    Is the pay good? (is it really holding you down?)
    It is, I've managed to garner alot for my someone my age, so I feel blessed because of that.
     
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    My dating life doesn't really come up at work so it's never been an issue. But when I've befriended coworkers I usually let them know at some point, so long as it comes organically in conversation. There've been a couple of awkward moments when I ran into one of my students (I was a registrar) at a local club or bar, but it was less about them knowing my sexuality and more about maintaining the proper boundaries for my job. They respected that and I took them on as mentees.
     
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    My first job was working for a lawyer during my freshman year of high school. I would work 3 hours a day every day filing papers, making copies, cleaning up the office and running back and forth the courts. Then I would work full-time in the summers. (I also worked at a museum.)

    After I graduated from college, the lawyer introduced me to someone who introduced me to someone else who helped me land my first professional job out of college...which was my dream job. To this day, I have not held a professional job that I've applied for and give my first job and boss the credit for paving the way for me as a professional. I learned a lot at a young age and that has benefited me throughout my career.
     
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    Until Tyroc mentioned it, I was going to inadvertently skip over my 2 years as a paper boy (ages 13 - 15). A year after surviving that bit of torture, I got a job as a courtesy clerk (bag boy) in a grocery store. The day that I turned 16, I got my license, drove to the grocery store, filled out an application, and stalked the store manager every other day for weeks until he finally hired me.
     
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    This is cool. I'm an index fund + extras kind of dude. As they say, the market only goes one way- up. Get in now (or low...you know, just get IN) and leave it there for 15-20 years. And then relax.

    And for the record, my "extras" are things I hold near and dear- pharmaceuticals, medical devices, rehab facilities, insurance companies (hey, if you're gonna pay them, they might as well pay you too!). Health care baby. I can't wait to actually get enough money to plow it into these areas-then it'll actually make a difference.
     
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    I understand the workers reaction. This globalization, post industrial, neo-liberal, economy is designed to make the average man and woman in the "first world" into 3rd world peasants. Political and social elites have been selling us on this "free trade" bullshit since the 1970s the results have been disastrous for most of us. But there is a reason this is happening. It's designed to give the ultra wealthy complete and total control over the population. Call it plutocracy or neo-feudalism. But whatever you call it the results are the same. Bernie Sanders is one of the few people in politics fighting against this or even talking about it.
     
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    Even with this,I feel like some people will find a more covert way to express their homophobia.Kinda like how instead of lynching cops these days do "random" stops and searches. Like you said,just gotta assess the situation.
     
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    @Champagne_Papi not another damn teacher on here. What a gay ass occupation. But naw, I would have never expected you to be a preschool teacher.
     
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    Political Officer, Diplomat

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    Degree or nah? Bachelors in Political Science and Communications, Masters in Security Studies & Diplomacy
    Why did you pick it? How did you get it? I applied with the State Department, took the foreign service exam, and was a little lucky.

    What do you do at work? (be specific, titles mean nothing) represents the interests of the US abroad. The job varies in scope every day.
    How long have you been working there? 3 years
    Are you satisfied? Are you looking for something else? Mostly satisfied, this is my dream job. I was a university teacher and paralegal before this and I hated those jobs.
    Is the pay good? (is it really holding you down? Pay is solid. Although who couldn't use more?
     
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