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  1. DFW Brutha

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  2. machoBLKnerd

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    man this was a great thread! wish i was around when this convo initiated.

    me: shirtless pic w/ a substantive profile msg. to help jump start a convo.

    i never thought of shirtless pics as inherently sexual, so it's interesting to read comments suggesting that showing your torso = automatic hook up interest. i rarely hook up with strangers mostly b/c i'm not comfortable eating a stranger's ass.

    my two biggest pet peeves
    • hitting me up, but expecting me to lead most of the convo #annoying
    • blank profiles
    i generally don't respond to blank, arrogant or bitter profiles or when dudes SUP me. ultimately, i try to assess a person wholistically -- pic/stats, profile description and first msg in combination with each other -- to decide if i'm gonna respond.

    CONFESSION: 98% of the time i catfish. just the face, not all the extra stuff. just not comfortable putting my face out there and i'm confident most guys will find me attractive. so when i meet someone, if they are annoyed, then they're like "but since you're cute, it's cool". not proud of this practice, but it works out pretty much every time.
     
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  3. mojoreece

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    Hes really good looking dude:kiss: just want to kiss those lips, dimples.....and other things:p

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    Come out and meet him in the real world, I did (and there were no civilian casualties) and can honestly say @SB3 is a very good looking dude and not intimidating looking unless you may be fu@kin with him.
     
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    If @alton and @SB3 don't go somewhea and have every last seat. Ain't nobody intimidated by yall sequoia tree behinds.

    Well I'm not. My last bf was tall. Maybe for these mofos who can't ride the tilt a whirl, but that would not put me off at all.
     
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  6. Champagne Papi

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    This is a reach mate and you know it.
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    I didn't watch the video, I just couldn't stomach it. I couldn't sit there yeh and entertain a group of niggas complain about dating and why they're single when they're possibly the one making that shit more difficult than it has to be innit.

    Listen here, I haven't got the energy to deal with your art heaux shit on here too yeh.
    ...just @ me mate
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    Lmao! If you hurt my feelings, I'm gonna kill you...that's why I don't date. Lol. But on a serious note yeh, I didn't start dating until about 3yrs ago when I was 22. And out of those three years, two of them, I was with someone (or I thought). I now just want to be out here actually dating for the first time and just allow myself to be open and available for different experiences. If I get off the market, that would be dope, but I'm not losing any sleep over that I'm not.
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    Because niggas don't know how to communicate, no one knows how to converse anymore; plus, all niggas want to do is text.

    In addition, 90% of them out there are supercilious dickheads with interminable standards and requirements. There are over a million profiles that have an incessant list of, "if you're : ___, just keep it moving.", it's madness. How does one expect to date by trimming nearly 95% of prospects?
     
  8. alton

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    Likewise, here. The 6'2" Angry Black Man smfh
     
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    I am NOT, in no ways, no how getting married anytime soon. Hell I don't even want to live with another dude right now.
     
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    Let's make this a thing!
    -Are you gay
    -We limit love with labels.Im not hetero or homo, Im just sexual #AlternativeLabels
     
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    Gays aren't checking for me. They hear bartender n assume Im a slut, and that I don't have a savings, insurance, 401k n ira, even though im 33...

    :yeshrug:
     
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    Ok. I don't see location using the site from my phone. (Y'all be on folks location huh?)

    Well regardless, the gay community is still small as it is. Word gets around when you are on hoeism. Nothing to be paranoid about if you are not out there life that but still.
     
  13. JNH412

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    Whoever snag nick gon have the dopest gifs on they digi-invites
     
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    not really into pretty dudes give me an 5-8 and ill be happy. i like shy geeks and nerds like myself lol.i like a humble, loyal, goofy and smart dude if they like video games, anime, cartoons, or horror movies thats a big plus!!!
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    Everything should be taken in moderation... Everything.Some people can overcome their bad pasts and do. Others will not.
    I've seen it..we all have. People have patterns and sometimes those shouldn't be ignored.You shouldn't be judgemental about the things a person has done in the past but you should be mindful of it.

    Every person is different, I see wisdom in both arguments.Balance is key, don't limit yourself or your opportunities and don't let just anybody in..that goes for everything..
     
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    This part. I was like, they did these hard cuts, no transitions, no fades. I don't even do media like that and I know you need to put present things better than this. And WTF? A commercial? No.
     
  18. NickAuzenneNOLA

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    For me, absolutely not. If I choose to not want to seriously be with someone that has been with a ridiculous amount of people that is my standard that I have set for myself. Facts are that who you lay with follows you and the person you decide to be in a relationship with is also linked to all of those people. It can be both embarrassing and and a stressor on the relationship so for me I believe it's unnecessary to pursue when I know my limits. I won't get into semantics about trigger words like slut-shaming because that isn't my attempt here. What is is to provide the person a realistic outlook and facts are that people are judged by who and how many as you said "dicks they sit on" now rather that's fair or not is debatable but it's fact. I'm a professional man in a highly competitive industry, I'm also young, black, and openly bisexual. My partner has to be a direct reflection of me as he or she will be yet another thing I will be judged on and if that persons past is littered with dozens upon dozens of people someone will find out and that will reflect on my reputation so I'm not interested in that type of person that would be so careless with themselves. That's for my personal life.
     
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  19. BlackguyExecutive

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    I am over here trying to remember my vows and be a good husband. Y'all trying to get a brother caught up!
     
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    I don't recall sayin' I was completely out of the game, either. But it's cool...I get it. lol Honestly I wasn't even expectin' to be mentioned in this thread at all so...eh.
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    I keep telling urybody that @ControlledXaos is The Prince!
    Not even met him face to face and know enough to bow down to his greatness!
     
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    This is how I see myself finding my future partner lol
     
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    I like Average Joe/Regular Dude types. I think there's a sever lack of appreciation for the Around the Way types.

    But again, I have dated and fooled around with hot model types before but... substance just wasn't there. Where I am in life right now, it's more important to get that 'friendly' type of relationship going versus one that's mainly based on the initial attraction.

    I totally like @Nick Delmacy examples.
     
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    It's all love though
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  26. Omega Level

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    Man. I got a couple for this thread. This prob was one of my main ones tho. Needless to say this "break up song" is about us not wanting to break up.....or at least me (playing my small violin)

     
  27. Nick Delmacy

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    The last thing I want for my life is to be "visible" and have my face show up in Google Image search results next to Tripp Ali, The Cast of About Him, oiled up male strippers, flamboyant fems and a bunch of peen/ass pics when you search for "Black Gay Men in Atlanta."

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    This brings this old cartoon to mind.
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    So many fish in the great big ocean.
     
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  29. Nick Delmacy

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    Yeah dedicating their event to the Ballroom Scene just drives away so many "middle of the road" gay men who may otherwise be interested in attending or supporting. That's like having the NAACP dedicating an event to Trap Music...true, it is a part of the Black Community, but you can't be surprised if it turns off a lot of Black Americans who doesn't feel as if it represents them.
     
  30. SB3

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    Both @questforknowledge and i are good, decent, mens. We walk very different paths, but they both get us down to the bar at least once a month to chill.

    @RolandG only has eyes for @Nick Delmacy . He n @hannibal should go on that black wrestling pron site
     
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    People tend to get this way when they run into a string of rejection from their "objects of desire", it all depends on how one handles it. When enough of a said type rejects you, all of a sudden its..."all these {insert type} is only lookin' for {insert type} " when the real case is you just happened to have run into {insert number} nikkaz that didn't want anything to do with you. LOL Some muhfukaz (like myself) don't have the patience for the "hunt & peck" so I just decided to fall back for a minute, but I be damned if Im'a sit and bitch about it. If a nikka don't want me for WHATEVER reason, that's his prerogative and ain't shit I can do about it. LOL Muhfukaz just need to cup they ballz, man the fuck up, and SHUT the fuck up.
     
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    i respect both your dedication and determination on this front even if I don't get it but from what little I've read from you here on the boards. It seems like you're strongly dedicated to your goals and ambitions, which is incredibly admirable and rare in one so young. I hope you do get that right first time.

    Younger days bring back memories of girls who claimed the V card even though they had worn out sphincter muscles and stretch marks about their lips but an intact hymen. Ah, good old Catholic School.
     
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    Yea, but Id also expect that u get how there's 0 need to cater to it, since the entire world we live in caters to the possibility of white ppl meeting
     
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    I could care less about white men and their preferences. The white gaze doesn't factor in the way that I view the world. I am attracted to African American men and other black diaspora men ( afro cubans, africans from the continent, afro Caribbean, afro brazilian etc). In a eurocentric society, the values and norms of white people are upholded. I don't subscribe to those norms and values. In fact, I find those values to be twisted in many ways. I embrace blackness in all its beauty and diversity.
     
  35. Nick Delmacy

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    When, Sway? Not in this thread...at no point in this thread did I say anything about Fem Men. I made mention of clothing with the word FAG on it. Yes, I have disdain for that word...

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    True, we welcome all opinions, even those from White people pretending to be Black people on anonymous forums.

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