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    Boi,byee! The Beyonce is out here slayyin left n right.She killin da fashion game,killin da music game,and smashing da dance world.Y'all know she looks better and sound better than Adele,Whitney,and Mariah combined.I ain't even about to hear dis.You tried it for real on this day in 2016!
    I've been saying this for years.She sounds ok, and can pop an twerk as well as any black chick in the club on Saturday night.But you ain't let me get caught saying that in front of the gays,blk women,and blk men who are blinded by attraction.
     
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    I've always found a smile opens many doors for me.
    It takes people's guards down and it usually makes them more compliant, which in my line of work had been the difference between a good day and unnecessary roll around.

    Smile at the cashier in a department store and you may get a friends and family discount or they'll take that extra time out of their frustrating day to go look for that item in the back.
    I once had the gate ticket taker upgrade me to first class, only the once though.
    I've had the best and easiest cell phone number for the last 16yrs because I was flirtatious with a sales rep who took the time to pick out a number that I liked, I thank her forever for that.

    I've noticed It's confusing to mostly black straight women and black gay effeminate men. They always fish for more, as if the smile and slight flirtation might mean more.

    ALL servers get a smile and a good attitude from me to a little under flirting because I am crazy paranoid of what perceived unfriendliness will bring to my food or drink.

    Aside from my commute to and from work on the NYC transit system where smiling is usually reserved for the unstable, I'm known for my smile. image.gif
     
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    Dont judge that way. Im a slave to texting, n im out here committed man
     
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    Take care of yourself. Be physically, financially, emotionally and spiritually fit.
     
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    I don't understand why any of it matters. If you're cool with being naked, wonderful, if you're not, that's cool too. I don't necessarily believe it has to exclusively deal with self-esteem either. I am an only child raised by a single mother, so always had to be clothed and didn't have much privacy growing up. I'm not necessarily ashamed of my by body, but I don't even walk around my own house naked or barefoot. Being naked for prolonged periods of time just feels weird to me. I can't even sleep naked, but that's more because I sleep wildly lol.
     
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  8. @yahoo.com

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    This is a question I use to gauge when I am available to date. There are times when I have so much going on or there are issues that are consuming me to no end, or I may not be happy where things are in my life. If I can say that I would date myself at this point, I date. If not, I put all potential suitors on hold until I have enough for me. Once I have enough for me - whatever that is, then I would have a little more to make a relationship work.

    Looking at the quesiotn on the surface, I would date myself. I am a very good catch and have the right tools to make relationships work.
     
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    I did it consciously. I spent most of my teenage years and undergrad with horribly low self-esteem. Once I got to about junior year in college, I decided that I was going to be open and accepting and to those who couldn't come along for the ride well tough. I know that sounds smug but my parents were accepting so I had that as a foundation. The problem was that I cared more about what external people thought. I was raised to always be viewed as a "decent and respectable" person and to never bring shame to anything you are associated with (family, neighborhood, school, etc) - which conflicted with being attracted to men. This reached a breaking point in grad school and I vowed to never let people have that much power. I literally looked in my bathroom mirror and said "from this day forward I will be open about who I am and let the chips fall where they may". What happened was that I lost no friends and the newer friendships felt much more genuine. Second step was I became affiliated with a group that promoted positive interaction among black gay men. I made some fantastic friendships there and I still refer to the members of that group for a "booster shot" every now and then. It feels good to be around like-minded folk for me. In addition, I also read anything I could get my hands on about living an affirmative life as a gay man. I'm a bit ashamed to admit at 50, I'm STILL not complete but I've accepted that this is my "work-in-progress".
     
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    I started early. I came out to a friend when I was 13 as bi. I knew I was just gay, but part of me was still hoping. Then I slowly started coming out to different family members and friends. And then I was dragged the rest of the way out of the closet in high school when my ex decided to tell everyone about our relationship. I was 15. I stopped caring at that point. Didn't broadcast it, but I was honest about it. Never really had any issues. I know it's difficult for a lot of people. I was just one of the lucky ones.
     
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    Yea, I was gonna say, lube doesn't really 'expire'. It might not be as good and silky as it's supposed to be, but it doesn't become dangerous or anything.

    I actually researched this a while back because there was a point where the Dollar Tree had all of this durex lube, because it was 'expiring' that same year. I pretty much bought every tube from every Dollar Tree in BK, and let's just say it worked perfectly fine for me.
     
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    And another damn thing....if he created a fake page...why does that shit say fucking Dwight Howard?
    :martin:

    I mean look at all the support this whore is receiving now all over social media and cries of "victim blaming" from these woke metoo feminists. As if she didn't out this dude. This shit is the twilight zone for reals.
     
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    E'r last one of em
     
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    Well....as to why we can find our new tribe and create a (surrogate) "family ". One that encourages us to be our best selves, support and unconditionally love us if we so choose. #likeminded
    Though, I totally understand and can relate.
     
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    To be honest, the actions of dudes don't really get me to "grind my gears" territory...especially if they are randoms or dudes I haven't met in person yet.

    But if we're just talking about Pet Peeves, then all of what has already been mentioned applies. I'll add a few:

    1. Being silent and unresponsive during foreplay and coitus...I like being aggressive and move based on the feedback I'm receiving, when they are silent and just lay there, it messes up my flow. This directly corresponds to-

    2. Not reciprocating during sex. I've heard of Tops who don't kiss, suck peen or like anyone going near their rear...but when Bottoms just lay there and don't do anything besides moan and groan, it gets boring and I get soft. Usually that's when an attentive partner will "help" your lil man rise again, but so many dudes I've been with still just lay there. (Granted, I'm referring to the more masculine dudes, the softer guys have no problem with this).

    3. Being attached to the hip or their "Best Friend" at a party or club. I don't have gay friends who go out anymore, so when I get that itch I often go solo. And because I'm not on any dating apps anymore, these are the only opportunities I have to meet men for dating. I like to approach guys when they are off on their own like going to the bar or returning from the restroom. But so many guys become siamese twins with their friends in these spots, so a guy like me who wants to respect relationships doesn't just step to couples and try to holla at the one I like. I remember in that other thread @Lancer said he took the chance and stepped to a guy standing with a group of his friends and just starting caking right in front of them...I couldn't do that. I feel like that adds pressure on the dude and could lead to you being embarrassed if his friends disapprove or you get played in front of them.
     
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    I calmly take the condom off and go lay down....not a huge deal bc it's going to happen but I'm def not about to keep fucking you.

    Now I've never been legit shat on though...I'd probably ask him to leave...like bro, you knew you were about to have a whole ass bowel movement....
     
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    I kind of understand where your coming from but I would probably sleep with a transman but never a transwoman. I'm not attracted to vagina specifically but I've seen some vids/pics of transmen that turned me on. The trans situation is interesting and is very complex. I feel like some want to be just considered a regular woman but is that fair to biological women and the men who want them? idk. In sports wouldn't a biological male naturally have an advantage ? I assume so. With that recent Ginuwine incident, I didn't like her trying to force him and then label him transphobic. If a straight person turns them down because they are trans, no matter how unclockable and beautiful they are, that's not transphobic to me. Also I don't get those videos when they talk more fem like then switch to their "man voice" to emphasize don't mess with me I'm still a man. Doesn't that just goes against what they are fighting for? So many questions, I just hope they stop getting murdered and putting themselves in those positions to get murdered.
     
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    Ugh. I love The Internet. Why is everyone working hard to ruin my happiness? :ravetho:

    I am still going to see Syd in November though, she is the GOAT.
     
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    Last time I checked "Black People" are not a monolith and are derived from very many experiences. I think there need to be qualifiers of who exactly these black people are...is he referring to Black Evangelicals, Black Christians, Black Southerners, Black Northerners, Black Midwesterners, Africans, West Indes/Caribbeans, Black Americans in general, anytime anyone uses the words most or all, I am immediately skeptical. It would be much easier to say that most people are anti-gay that is a truer statement but it is also true that most people are not gay.
     
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    That doesn't make any sense because BOTH are acting in stereotypical heteronormative gender roles, not just the masculine leaning one.
     
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    LOL I wouldn't want them to get "triggered", know everyone is easily offended now days and they need a fainting couch.
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    Man, I was the bottom last time.
     
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    At 6'5 I always say I am an easy sniper target. You know that first shot that gets all the hobbits running for cover and then it makes the news, that's me! You can also find me just jogging through your local neighborhood park, you can't miss me. Feel free to say 'hi' maybe I would hear you from wayyyy up there.
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    I think church ppl prob criticized her more for her fem gay son than her husband. Seems like church folk more caring if you stay with your cheating spouse that almost gave you HIV then accepting your gay child. Just hypocrisy if you ask me.
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    I think it depends. Yes good looking status seeking people are most times jerks. A lot of times people perceive good looking people as jerks without getting to know them based on the stereo type. I also believe that just because some good looking person is not interested in talking to you doesn't make them a jerk but often times that's the view of some people.
     
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    Ima leave it alone!

    But! I realize how mofos can temporarily lose their minds. I would do damn near ANYTHING to make this 3some happen. Like, ANYTHING...

    We're all in love and wanna be together!! They just need to meet me!
     
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    All the recommendations above are good. But @LeMignon whatever you decide to do never feel the need to justify who you're attracted to or love to anybody. Also if they really want to understand homosexuality or you personally they will come to you.
     
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    I'm just here for the song. lol. Reminds me of riding in the car with my dad as a kid.
     
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    I'm excited for this and it can't come fast enough. I love the fact that they're exchanging a slave owner with probably the most famous slave freer! 2020 can't come fast enough and I know the IG memes are going to be lit lol.
     
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    "As if all of us should be waif thin ugly limp wristed types" "Why would I want someone who is frail and a lady boy?"

    B!TCH, WHET????!!!!!!!! LMFAO!!!
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    Not a sports watcher her. I caught the first half on a plane yesterday evening, because I had nothing else to do. I didn't know who was playing, nor did I care.Now, if I go to a live game of any sport, I'm there in a minute. I do enjoy the action, especially when it is being truly played as a team sport- but ask me about players and stats, you'll just be hearing the crickets.

    In college, I was a varsity gymnast for 4 years and I will go out of my way to watch some Olympic sports, because they are for mor interesting (not common).

    I think part of the reason I don't do sports is because when I was much younger, I was irritate by the fact that:
    1. These folks made so much money [RIDICULOUS CASH] for a game. Yes, it is entertainment.. and has entertainment value. And we, the people "worshiped" them so that we invest so much of our finances on games, sneakers, equipment, etc.. most never to earn a 10th of that money.

    2. So many in out community idolize sports so that they put aside any interest in other careers and are left with nothing.

    3. These games are not team sports to me any more. It's about the star players. Entire games hinge on whether a particular individual or individuals play.

    Just my humble opinion.
     
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    Well in going from middle school to junior high, our school district lines were redone to help balance the racial mix. In the process I lost friends because we were not going to the same school after 7th grade.

    I hated "the new folks" so I was a loner. Before, I was known to be smart and gifted but I wasn't involved in many activities. I was in band but I was in C band because I hated my instrument, bass clarinet. I was just there for an elective.

    This continued into 9th grade. Where I was out if band and just taking liberal arts electives. I was into Nintendo, Sega and computers.

    I had a smaller crowd but I was also bland enough where I could fit in with everyone. The red necks, the grunge, the mid tier popular ones... I really wasn't into the jocks and cheerleaders. However one of my friends was on student council and I learned a lot about that. I didn't get my hair cut often, my clothes were horrible. Even for then. I just couldn't wait to leave.

    Second semester sophomore year, after watching things from the outside, I give myself a makeover... Used my chrimuh money to get slicker clothes, hair cut was every two weeks or less. I was named branded, ordering ish from International Male. I was fly over night.

    It wasn't a meteoric rise to the top of the social scene as that wasn't my goal but I do think that I was coming into my own. I was about my school work but wasn't stressing to be at the top of my class. I was in AP science classes and still played games. Didn't socialize outside of school but when it was at school everyone knew me. Junior year I got on as one of the class reps for student council for senior year, was on the newspaper staff and voted most likely to have their own talk show.

    I learned how to play the game. I didn't like it but I did what I needed to do without losing myself. I wouldn't want to go back but if I did I would be playing the game at master level. Id even see if I could have made it into the elite Key Club (basically jocks and cheerleaders or non jocks and girls who were popular or attractive) just to prove a point.
     
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