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I am new here, and I found this site by accident. I am glad that I did because not only is it entertaining, but it is informative as well. The article that caught my attention was the piece concerning the Black Panther, Huey Newton, who was not only a Civil Rights activist, but a Gay Rights activist as well at the same time as the Stonewall Uprising in which I was a participant 50 years ago. I was only 28 years old at the time. The late Dr. Newton has always been one of my greatest Icons.
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Wassup everyone. Thami here
Age: 34
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Interests: just about all types of music (I'll try it before I knock it), cooking (it calms me down) and all things Africa v2.0 (clothing, art, furniture, opinions ect)
My concentration in school: 1st degree in marketing and business administration. 2nd degree in risk and compliance management.
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Howzit to all the grandpas, millennials and everyone in between.
Young lawyer from Johannesburg, South Africa here.
Just passed my quarter life crisis, so I'm keen to meet new people and hear about experiences of sgl men on the other side of the Atlantic and of those fellow brothers in the other parts of my continent who remain victims of homophobic laws and oppression.Franky, Infinite_loop, acessential and 4 others dapped this. -
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Hey guys.
My name is Lusi. I'm from Port Elizabeth, South Africa
Age: 23
interests: Poetry, literature, foreign cultures, learning new languages (I speak five for now). I like weird things that contribute to my spiritual, emotional and intellectual growth.
height: I'm about 1.78m I think that would make me around 5'11" in American terms
your concentration in school: BA in Media Communications and Culture
your occupation: Freelance Public Relations Specialist and Stylist.
the foods you like: Hmmm, this is tricky I like anything that doesn't have tomatoes, onions, beef, lamb and mutton. Yeah, I know I'm full of s**t lol.
I'm a bit of a free thinker, anything that should bother me probably won't but I do tend to have witty and sharp comments.
Random: I come onto these kind of platforms to find people who think in somewhat the same wavelength that I do or maybe that challenges my mind. I only have few friends that do that in my life but that's because they tend to want to start their own farming communities, smoke weed and end capitalism LOL.
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I refuse to be anything but what I am for anyone else. I'm very kindhearted and compassionate. I'm a dreamer with an optimistic leaning. I'm conscientious of others. I'm polite, honest, and honorable. I'm friendly. All of those things make me "nice." It has also "cost" me friends and relationships. From what I've gathered it has more to do with other people's feelings of their inability to reach my perceived standards of behavior than anything I've said or done. I had an associate who I thought could really become a good friend but he ended up pulling away from the group because he didn't want me to judge his behavior (my best friend, who knew him before me, had the issues with his antics, in fact but they're still cool.) I've also had guys I was interested in tell me that I'm "too good to date." Someone else once told me they were waiting for the other shoe to drop because I was just too nice to be real.
Our society is so used to people playing games or judging people that I think they don't know how to receive someone who is genuinely nice. Being confronted with that can be hard for a lot of them to deal with.grownman, alton, Champagne Papi and 4 others dapped this. -
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I def love me some brunch on a Saturday or a Sunday lol. It may be the highlight of my weekend lol. But personally breakfast is my favorite meal of the day period. I never really looked at the bunch thing as a gay thing though, I've gone out to brunch with plenty of my straight friends and their friends several times. I always looked at brunch as just a popular thing in American culture. I don't think it's a big deal when you step away from the US.
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My name is from a college political campaign I ran. My college roommate and I ran for the Student Senate as "Black Guy Senators" and won. Needless to say, there were not many black people running for Student Government Positions. I was subsequently elected to the Executive Council and became "Blackguy Executive" (I served as Executive Vice President and Parliamentarian/Justice in my last two years).
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Infinite_loop Is this thing on?Bae Material The 1000 Daps ClubI grew up in a slightly less homophobic country in eastern Africa(relative to its neighbors) . I was definitely not openly gay, since that was and is still a taboo and shunned upon. I went to boarding school; all the boys lived in one huge dormitory, meaning there were bound to be some homoerotic play. Surprisingly enough, this is considered a normal transition into adulthood in my country as "teenage boys will be teenage boys" is the usual reaction when these stories floated around in living rooms conversations.
I knew that I was attracted to boys at an early age. I never accepted and thought it was something that just going to pass. I thought it was more envy than attraction, since I always admired the dudes that were athletic and physical fit while my lazy fat ass was out there nerding it out 24/7/.
I went private catholic elementary and secondary[high] schools(two different locations) and I met my high school best friend/crush there. We literally did everything together when we were young and ended up being selected to attend the same high school. We became closer and closer as the years went by; we were inseparable and to me his smile, demeanor, and physic was to die for.
I didn't know what the relationship meant and neither did he. but, we played along and nobody really questioned us. I had a "girlfriend", but I wasn't really into her like that lol, but we kicked it here and there.
Well, all good things come to end. I graduated high school, took a job as a cashier for this little hardware shop next our house until I got my visa to come live in the U.S. I haven't dude in 8 years but we talk very sporadically on Facebook. He has changed and it doesn't look like he has a girlfriend or fiancé or wife either. Maybe, this might be a good time to drop in and ask how his dumbass is doing
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From previous threads I know a lot of squad members are comic / super hero fans. For those that are not, see below
Omega-level mutants
An Omega-level mutant is one with the most powerful genetic potential of their mutant abilities. The term was first seen in the 1986 issue Uncanny X-Men #208, but was completely unexplained beyond the obvious implication of it referring to an exceptional level of power. The term was not seen again until the 2001 limited series X-Men Forever. Some abilities depicted by mutants described as Omega-level include immortality, extreme manipulation of matter and energy, high psionic ability, strong telekinesis, and the potential to exist beyond the boundaries of the known physical universe.
The photo is of Franklin Richards, the son of Mister Fantastic and Invisible Woman and one of the most powerful mutants to ever exist in the Marvel Universe. He has powers basically comparable to God and thats how I like to think of myself.Boaxy, ControlledXaos, Deacon and 4 others dapped this. -
Gay men often complain about how it's hard to meet men not only for dating but also for friendship. People in general often state that it's difficult to make friends, especially as an adult. It makes sense that some guys might not want to cut someone off completely after breaking up if they really were one of their best friends. Sure, I'd prefer that my date not be in that kind of situation and it would feel a little weird knowing they have that kind of history, but if I don't get vibes that he is keeping him around for "break in case of emergency" sex, I'd be cool with it. Masculine gay men attracted to other masculine gay men for friendship and dating often have difficulty finding guys they really connect with, and I can understand some reluctance to let go of a rare connection. Now, if most or all of this guy's circle of friends have sampled the goods, I'd probably back off.keith, Discordant, ControlledXaos and 4 others dapped this. -
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Yeah I'm not Side-Eyeing the dude for knowing what he wants, I'm side-Eyeing him for assuming what he wants is plentiful and will be found on dating apps.
Based on the numbers that @Lancer gave us, $70,000/month would be $840,000 per year. According to every source I looked up, that would mean he wants to find a Black Gay Man who also makes TWICE as much as the minimum to be in the Top 1% of earners in the entire world.
https://money.cnn.com/calculator/pf/income-rank/index.html
Who Are The Top 1% Income Earners?
What Does It Take to Be in the 1%, 5%, 10%?
On top of that, he wants to date a Black man...
Here are the profession breakdowns for people in the Top 1% of income:
So he has to not only meet a Black man who is in the Top 1% of income, he also has to likely work in a high position in one of those professions AND he also has to happen to be gay AND has to somehow meet AND be attracted to this guy AND be sexually compatible...he wants to find this on an app full of men with 2 roommates and in-between massage therapy jobs.
I just find that ludicrous.
I'm actually beginning to wonder if he just told @Lancer all of this to get out of the date. I've done this in the past where I'm not feeling a guy in person and then make up something crazy that excludes the dude on the spot so it deflects from me having to say "I'm just not that into you."
So maybe I am side-eyeing this dude...based on how he described his ex-boyfriend, sounds like in the past he was open to getting a "boy toy" who lives in the gym...he may need to just keep doing that.LeMignon, mojoreece, ControlledXaos and 4 others dapped this. -
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Roles suck! Just allow urself to realize that there are many opps/ways to get ur nut. Dudes play too much.
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Bruh! All of my "I would fast for 24 hours and Power Bottom for him even though I'm not a Total Bottom" picks have already been selected...I don't like this game:
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I'm only doing the side eye because he's on the apps like the majority.
If his social circle is more white and less urban that's not his fault but how many super successful black men are there per capita on the apps?
So it may do him better to invest in a professional match making service or expand his social network to get in the circle of the elite black gay males of town.
He's clearly trying to hit every tick on his check list which is fine but he's self limiting his dating pool if they have to be black and make ~58k a month.mojoreece, NewAfrikan, Omega Level and 4 others dapped this. -
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I find it a little strange to suggest that these white men of some considerable privilege cannot or are not equipped with the knowledge of what their kids may face in a world of institutional racism and prejudice. I often think that same sex parents have an even more unique view of discrimination and institutional barriers than most, including, straight cis-genered black couples.
I only personally know two sex same couples who have adopted children of mix races and each couple have taken the time to educate themselves on the needs of their kids, for example, two white lesbians (of some economic privilege) adopted a black baby girl and hispanic baby girl) and I saw them work tirelessly to provide culturally appropriate experiences for their daughters. Including paying for black hair stylists to teach them the care and maintenance of their black daughters hair, now my friend can whip of fierce hairdos for her daughter and they are keeping it natural.
I don't necessarily believe you have to be black to fully recognize and understand the black experience. Despite that most of us have had "The Talk" you would be surprised at how that same exact Talk happens to adoptive kids who have white parents. I also know a significant number of mix-raced gay couples who have adopted a little UN of children where everyone in the family is a different race and culture.
I feel like there are so many black families that don't teach their kids shit about their heritage or roots yet we don't say anything about them.
Lastly, white children make up the majority of kids navigating the foster care system in the US and are twice as likely to receive a permanent placement, and white people are twice as likely to choose adoption, yet black and brown children are twice as likely to spend their entire childhood without being permanently placed, according to US Health and Human Services, so I think that finding these kids good, safe, stable homes should be the highest priority.callie_bear_3, Dante, ColumbusGuy and 4 others dapped this. -
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I have an extensive list, but I'll keep it minimal
1. As of recently something that has been irking me is joining these "conscious black" groups and expecting to see some semblance of unity only to see that shot down when they bring up topics dealing with homosexuality. They show their ignorant asses when it comes to that. I have seen some of the most asinine logics.
2. Slow walkers drive me insane, but that could just be a NY thing.
3. Chain Letters via social media. I will not send this to ten other people and I damn sure am not sending it back to you. That is the laziest "Pay it Forward" attempt.DreG, mojoreece, Pacifistgod and 4 others dapped this. -
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Pathology18 = pathology was my favorite class in med school and 2018 is the year i graduate
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I'm saving myself for the official (Members Only) Post Your Pic thread. Bout to shit on these niggas
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I had already come out to a handful of people before freshman year. None of whom went to my high school, so I decided to play it completely straight and even had a girlfriend for a little bit. We soon broke up. Sophomore year, I reconnected with a childhood friend who I hadn't seen in years on MySpace. He was openly gay. After a while, I came out to him and he invited me to this LGBT youth group. At the group, I ran into a guy from my high school who everyone suspected was gay. He pursued me, but I was hesitant because he wasn't really my type and I had never been with a guy before. I gave in and we dated for a little bit. We broke things off and he basically outed me to the rest of the school through his group of lesbian friends. Rumors started spreading. Soon people we're coming up to me asking me if I was gay. I denied it at first, but eventually stopped caring. I guess I was "discreet" because people knew about it, but I never announced it. I never got shit for it. People were cool. I was heavily involved in school and was nice to people so nobody really had any reason to hate me. I think being more "gender conforming" also helped a lot. The more feminine gay guys did get teased a bit. And I think a lot of guys had crushes on my sister so even if they thought about starting shit, they risked making her mad. I don't have any salacious stories about random guys approaching me for sex. I just dated two guys from high school and that was it. High school was chill. I was voted homecoming king and most likely to succeed, so I guess it wasn't that bad.
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I've been in a long coming out process for about 2 years now. I started coming out to my friends back in 2013 and that's been a fairly liberating process. I don't have too many qualms about coming out to strangers up front anymore either. Family has been another story entirely... I recently came out to my mother about a month ago and my father about a week ago (Hit's my Schmurda!!!! lol). My mom seems to be doing well. She worries & doesn't like it, but she's there for me and just worries that I'll be discriminated against or gay bashed.
My father on the other hand... is Mr. Macho & isn't particularly thrilled or happy. I had my mother have that conversation with him and we haven't spoken in about two weeks now. I don't know how that first conversation is gonna go but... eh, oh well. I've removed myself from my family back west & I've enjoyed living outside of their microscope out here in GA. I can't go back into that shell for their comfort. It sucks, but I'm glad to have that burden lifted. I just have to tell my super conservative grandmother next & I'll have officially made it past the hard part of coming out. It'll be all down hill after that... lolControlledXaos, DreG, Jdudre and 4 others dapped this. -
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I think some comments on here are missing the mark. When those on here are saying, "what about white people? other groups are this etc? most people are this, Most people are that?" I thought the topic of the thread and short comment was about Black people specifically.
So who cares about most of the world being anti-gay or if most Americans don't vote.
The statement was Black people as a WHOLE being anti-gay.
Of course many black folk are indifferent and I do think many of black people today are better at LGBT inclusivness than years and years ago. But if you were to place a chart up surveying a spectrum of black people, as many as possible, and different generations, I'm almost positive it would still read the vast majority as being anti-gay with the other side being indifferent and the smallest side being totally accepting.
Dont automatically think that just because your tolerated now for being gay that they still don't have anti-gay feelings and thoughts that they just don't share.ControlledXaos, I-Stay-Woke, Dante and 4 others dapped this. -
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I don't think it makes your masculinity toxic or fragile personally if you don't like it for yourself however, if you police other people's masculinity or view them as somehow less masculine because of that fashion choice, yes bro your masculinity is toxic and fragile. It's the same kind that has boxed black men specifically in for years. Not allowing black dudes to have any different way to express themselves but the universal methods we all know is toxic all day.
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This is how mine look...
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@yahoo.com When the lights get low, I Burn Brighter.The 100 Daps Club- Joined:
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Ok Fellas... Here is my number 1. Yep. Like marriage material.
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