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Not an issue. I've had relationships with individuals where there was not anal penetration. There is SO much you can do sexually besides that that is incredibly pleasurable. I think those situations push you to be more creative in giving and receiving pleasure.

I did notice that the longer we were together comfort levels and intimacy increased, the discussion of exploring the penetrative option started to come up... but not doing it was NOT a deal breaker.

 

Wow an MLK sex party...It seems everything has parties now...Next will be the Black History Month Freak Down...or The Easter Sunday, "Basket Hop" Sex Party.

Hmmm, I wonder what other kinda freak parties they do..

 

I'll watch the straight stuff on a rare occasion. Surprisingly, I kinda like lesbian porn. Not all the time, but here and there. I like seeing and hearing girls moan. I also like seeing girls travel down south on each other, but it depends on the angle. I like to see it from above or the side. If they do extreme close-ups of the V, I get turned off. Shit looks too medical. That's when I'm reminded that I am in fact gay, but with some Kinseyan characteristics.

 

meh...

The site had white male criminals in the submissive degrading positions in addition to white police officers in submissive (not degrading imo) positions. Nonetheless, all the Black males are criminals. This to me seems to be geared towards White men fantasy/fetish.

All looked like consenting adults and no adults seemed to be harmed in the making of the clips I saw. Regardless if I personally don't like it, I can easily see why some/many would. Let their freak flags fly.

 

Yea, I purposely don't follow the IG fitness pages that show excessive print. You can tell when it just happens to be there versus him trying to show off his asset. I respect the pages that cover their prints up with an emoji or something like that.

As it relates to exhibitionism, it was hotter when I was younger but as I've gotten older, I realized how gross it really is. I won't lie, sometimes I might come across one that is lowkey kinda hot but jacking off on some walmart furniture with you frantically looking from side to side is not. And that shit where they film people in the bathroom is gross as fuck too.

I think the people that go to these lengths have an underlying psychological pathology going on. Like kleptomania, pyromania, etc they really just can help it. The ones that participate in much milder forms of this behavior (IG dudes) just don't have anything else going on for them and don't want to work for anything else.

 

These were real? I always thought the guys knew exactly what was happening. I guess anytime I see something on a screen I immediately it's staged.

 

Here I was thinkin u was one the klassy ones all this time!? Smh

 

Lolol. See, now yall think Im like that crazy man in the bathroom w @@yahoo.com. No! I'd have missed out on $100, but Id have been too creeped out by that guy.

It's nuthin crazy for me..I dont get off on it..I just appreciate when a guy has nice fingers and toes. Idk what that means exactly, but I know it when I see it.

But as for true fetishes...a friend of mine got $100 to kick a guy in the face barefoot. She found it on craigslist, and there were other women there, and they all took a 'shift' kicking him in the face. True story.

 

Put on a damn condom so u dont get this girl pregnant!

 

My inherent STI paranoia made it so that I never even considered a "hoe phase." I pretty much remember every guy I've had sexual encounters with mostly because there aren't tons of them. For awhile this bummed me out, in my mind everyone was out there having all this great, casual, no strings attached sex and I wasn't. Then the web series slowly became pornographic making me think all of these young black gay men were living their best Prep-popping lives while I was paranoid and closeted at that age. Then I remembered that I really like me and the life I've achieved by choosing to not go that route.

So I say all that to say I've never really had sex for the wrong reasons and I have no regrets.

Actually there was ONE TIME that I let a guy give me head when I really wasn't attracted to him or feeling him in that way. The short version is it was about 10 years ago, he was a new gay friend from NJ, heavyset dude, tons of tattoos, missing a couple back teeth, kind of a roughneck type and he had tons more "experience" than me when it came to dudes and dating. But he was a good hang and cool to talk to. I went over his crib one night to talk, ended up spilling my guts about some bullshit dude I was dealing with...He patiently listened to me and added his own advice, then said, "look imma be real with you, you at my spot, its late, we been talking about dude all night...but I wanna give you some head." Weirdly, I felt obligated to do so because he had just spent hours talking to me about my dating woes with nothing in return, LOL. Suffice it to say, it was the sloppiest, smelliest, worst blow job I've had before or since then. I couldn't even stay hard. That was the last time we saw each other, though we did text a few times after.

 

Some dudes really come up on hard times - I'm so very thankful to have never been in that situation.

I try not to judge but if you in mad flicks cus you just like to buss it open, I"m side-eying lol

 

Dude....we have been talking about racially ambiguous Latino Asian Duck Lips NGC in our group chat off and on for weeks.

I combed through his IG page when I first stumbled upon him to see his early photos and he didn't always post shoots like that nor have lips at that volume. I have half a mind to think he's gotten some enhancements all around...lips, dick, and ass. You can tell when he started to go viral on IG because of the amount of 'likes' he was getting changed around the time that this pic was posted IIRC. I don't feel like going back through his page to see again.




After this one, he started taking off so the speak. All of his photos before were pretty average stuff.

Anyway, I can't hate his abilities and he definitely hits a lot of points for attractiveness as far as the build of guys that I like, but his lips are really over the top for me.

Meanwhile in my own life.... at the branch of LA Fitness that I now currently frequent the most, there is a 50 something year old white man, about 6 feet tall with glasses who goes there in the am on weekdays. He always wears these black shorts and it is obvious that he does not wear any underwear and has a larger than average peen. Now, I can tell when you're just free balling or if you just have bulge in some underwear but this dude.... his shit is always on chub. I think he wears a cock ring because he's clearly semi erect. His dick is clearly bobbing around in his shorts. Seeing him in the gym frequently, I can tell he wants people to notice. However, he usually holds his sweat towel in front of him as he walks ever so carefully so it isn't too obvious but it's clearly obvious.

Well one day I'm sitting on a flat bench in front of the mirror with the free weights. He's sitting behind me on a preacher curl bench. I'm in the middle of a set of some exercise and I catch him at the bench with one of his shorts legs rolled up and his dick out. I look up and we make eye contact for half a second, I shake my head and roll my eyes and continue with my set and kept it moving. Now, this is a branch that has a significant number of gay men but there are women who attend this gym as well obviously. I am just surprised that Helen and Susan haven't said anything to staff but maybe they have? I recently found out that LA Fitness keeps track of all reports of incidents like this so the next time, because I'm sure there will be one, I see his dick whipped out on the gym floor, I'm going to get up from my set, go to the front desk and inform them.

Here is the thing with me.... If you have a big dick, nice body, and or nice ass, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH HOOPS FOR PEOPLE TO NOTICE! Those of us who want to check you out will see and take notes. People say I have a nice butt and nice chest. I can't do much to hide my chest. I can minimize my butt to a degree. But there's no way for me to appear like two bricks on a wall no matter what I do... I'm always going to have a squat butt.

Next, these guys out here doing these public solo sex acts are going to eventually escalate themselves into jail time and a record. Trying to outdo themselves and or each other, getting more and more outlandish. I can see the thrill of getting caught as a thing but is it really worth the 'likes' for that? Then it is recorded so you've' got evidence of yourself in these spaces where they can go back and charge you with public indecency in the previous locations.

You do not need social media to validate you.

 

Dude...Im so fkn over all of it. Crazy sht is I decided to hop on Grindr a few months back, and notice that Im getting hit up by some pretty fly azz dudes but, I have NO interest in hookin up (for a myriad of reasons). Not to knock anyone that does, by all means, do you, Im just at a age and mindset where I got no time for that sht anymore. LOL

 

''...thug style scenarios, low end apartments etc...''

shade!

 

We are familiar or have heard the term “gay for pay.” This is when straight male porn actors are paid to perform in scenes with another male. The other male could be straight or self-identified as gay. In keeping with the fluidity of sexuality there have been a few self-identified straight male actors that crossed that line in having scenes with trans-women. Similarly, there have been self-identified straight and gay porn actors having scenes with trans-men.

It’s been a common theme in straight porn to see the female lead with multiple principle male actors (two, three, four or more). Seeing a woman get every orifice filled shows dominance and there’s an added fantasy fulfillment element of “being taken completely”. In most scenes, the contact between the male actors is extremely close. There is some homo-eroticism, visually, seeing the men that close to one another. For example, during dual penetration on the female, both men are fully engaged and erect. One male actor may feel the firm grip of the other male actor while the second male actor mounts from the rear or maintains for balance or experiencing the light touch of the other actor’s ball sack against their dick while in coitus.

There are a few male actors that are dead ass against any other direct performances with another male actor. On December 5, 2018, female adult star August Ames, posted on Twitter a ‘heads up’ or warning to another female actress about her upcoming scene with another male porn actor who performs with men. Twitterdom reigned down on her calling her homophobic. The adult film industry has mandatory testing and if there was ever something in the test results that is inconclusive they wouldn’t film at all. So, her comments were based on personal opinion and not doing a job she’s paid to do. She admits that, “That is just how it is with me. I’m not putting my body at risk. I don’t know what they do in their private lives.” She later tweeted that she loved the gay community and none of her intentions were malicious following the huge backlash and comments on her feed. The next day, she later committed suicide (by hanging). Her husband said it was due to cyberbullying others think an earlier film shoot may have been instrumental as well. Fellow adult star Rico Strong responded by stating:


As previously hinted, there is a stigma associated with doing gay and straight scenes. Some male crossover actors can get blacklisted from working with women with several of the agencies and production companies in the genre. The male performers are unfairly deemed HIV risks. I am certain that there are guys that work in straight porn that would do something sexual with a man for money. One performer I admire is Quinton Hillocks aka Kevin Stallion. He’s been in scenes with some variety from interracial, black, and plus-sized women. I ponder if the price is right could we ever see him in a scene with another man. On second thought, not a chance on film, but perhaps as an escort, one can only imagine. There has been a long standing rumor of Brian Pumper working with trans-woman TS Madison. Nothing has been realized with that collabo and possibly may never get realized especially after Sarge had an episode with TS Madison.

Here’s a short list of a few adult male performers who has “crossed-over”:

Robert Axel. Orientation: Bisexual. Male, female & trans-women scenes


Ace Rockwood. Orientation: Unknown. Male & female scenes


Andre Temple. Orientation: Bisexual. Solo, male & female scenes


Bam. Orientation: Unknown. Solo, male, & female scenes


Rocco Reed. Orientation: Unknown. Male & female scenes


Ramon. Orientation: Straight identified. Female & trans-women scenes


Sarge. Orientation: Bisexual. Male, female, trans-women scenes


Wolf Hudson. Orientation: Straight identified. Male & female scenes


Mickey Mod. Orientation: Straight identified. Male, female, & bisexual scenes


Criss Strokes. Orientation: Straight identified. Solo & female scenes


Jahan X. Orientation: Unknown. Solo & male scenes


Castro Supreme. Orientation: Unknown. Solo, male, female, trans-women scenes


Michael Hoffman. Orientation: Straight identified. Solo & female scenes


Michael Mann. Orientation: Unknown. Solo, male & female scenes


Marc Anthony. Orientation: Straight identified. Female & trans-women scenes


It’s about selling the fantasy to appease the consumer. If the consumer wants to see two masculine, attractive guys have foreplay with each other before bringing the attention to the female in the mix then why not? There is a segment that would consume and support. However, this would be considered too small of a niche market so not much of a maximum return. The porn industry is a $13 billion dollar industry and the gay market is estimated to be 5-10% of the overall market. One psych study report published that 1/3 of people watching porn are women. Pornhub’s annual review revealed that over ¼ of their users were women and 37% of the viewers of gay male porn on the site were female. What’s even more interesting is that their research revealed that over half of the women watching gay porn also imagine themselves as a man while masturbating describing this an “empowering”. Whether the performer’s incentive is money or us obtaining the visual in seeing see two attractive men titillating and taboo there is power in the peen. Whether the fantasy gets realized on film or even in our own imagination it’s there for us to use.

 

I was thinking back to this encounter I had a few months ago with a guy I really wasn't attracted to or interested in at all. I kept asking myself, "Why am I here? Why did I show up? Why don't I just go home?", and ended up leaving with a little bit of regret.

The answer to those questions being that I got caught up in body counts, sewing wild oats, being young, and this and that. Basically, I was trying to keep up with the Joneses through sex, and that didn't sit right with me.

Have any of you ever had moments where you had or used sex for reasons other than the fun and pleasure of it? Have you ever used it for the "wrong" reasons?

 

Gold Star Gay. I've always, and still do find women attractive. Growing up, I've always fantasized about having a wife and 2 kids. I dated my first GF when I was a freshman(02-03) in HS. She wanted to have sex, but I was not ready at that particular set and time. It could have been a dude, and I still would have felt the same way. All for nothing but a week later she broke up with me. At that time I have heavily in school work, and any form of music/band had my full attention,so my mind was galaxies away from the thought of having sex let alone with a guy. It wasnt till my junior in HS when I found myself in my 2nd relationship. This time it was a dude, but even after a year I still was not ready for sex. I still had those childhood fantasies lingering around that may have played a part, or simply because I wasn't comfortable who I really was- Gold Star Gay lmao. I have a habit of feeling that I have to explain more than I should than give a simple answer. Lol forgive my lengthy post.

 

Yeah, my daps are for putting it out there but not necessarily an endorsement but it takes some big and hairies for sure.

 

I just want to pop my head back in here and just say that this thread is awesome! I am surprised to see or read that guys on here that are open to alternatives in a relationship. I didn't know their were guys "open minded" like this. Especially, my bruthas.

Also, I am almost done listening to the Bottoms podcast and it is a eye opener. I am so glad that I found this site. I really don't have any close gay friends. Besides my ex and two other dudes that's about it. The two guys, I don't associate with much because our lifestyles are too different. I don't really talk to my ex because the breakup is still fresh for me (even though it's been a year).

I don't really like gay men based on past situations. I feel sometimes that the only thing that I have in common with most is that we are sexually attracted to the same sex. I have felt that most gays are shallow, messy, and only focused on celebrities. I don't have tolerance for that. So, it's good to be able to come on here and this fulfill a need in me. It also is dispelling those stereotypes, that I have attached to the men in our community.

I will venture out slowly and try to meet other gay men (black men particularly) for friendships. Sorry everybody for the essay I just wrote, a brutha should have majored in English. I had to get this shyt off my chest. Alright, I am going to step back out.

Thanks guys.

 

So if i pursue a fem dude, im not fem?! Fuk outta here! I fux w masc men, i like men. W balls n hair. If u can wrestle w me, u start w 10 points

 

Somebody please feed these chirren. For the price of a cup of coffee....

 

Well. I statred this. So. It's my turn.

1. Underwear. Sexy jock straps and sexy boxer shorts.
2. Voyeurism. I like to watch others in the act. Specifically live and in person. I like to be watched as well.
3. A big round juicy derrière. I love a boy with cakes. Makes me want to put my icing all over it.

 

I think what a lot of folks are missing is that a lot of these IG thirst trap models, and maybe to some extent, porn stars, might have narcissistic personality disorder. Do y'all really want to deal with that in a relationship? I'll pass.

 

Yup. I need some sort of signal that you're alive and I'm not sleeping with a corpse. Make manly moans, curse, scrunch your face up, announce shit. Just make sure that it's natural and not forced. If it sounds like you're trying to be a fake porn star, shit's a turn off.

 

I have some fetishes. >_> <_<

 

Lol I lowkey really want a guy to give me a hickey lol does that count as one??

I don't think I have fetishes (yet) but the physically bigger slightly older thing that @Sean metioned is the ultimate one for me..except I would like them to be the dominate, somewhat aggressive one...*thinks back to the Will Demps post on NFL thirst trap*

Oh and nipples...I love Pecs!

 

Yeah. There is a difference between guys that know that bottoming is just a sexual option and "lifestyle bottoms" that characterize themselves with exaggerated mannerisms and characteristics. You see lifestyle bottoms posting weird comments on Myvidster about the lack of "true tops" or how they're disappointed or even disgusted upon seeing a presumed top bottom, like the porn star mentioned in a CA post who apologized to his fans after filming a bottom scene. Lifestyle bottoms seem like they're adopting the mindset of stereotypical "strong, independent" reality stars or the more visible feminine gays and taking the attitude up a notch. I occasionally see lifestyle tops commenting that bottoms shouldn't be touching their dicks at all during sex or that the bottom is there only to serve their needs and should expect no reciprocation besides getting topped.

The notion that a sexual position should define you leaves a lot of people feeling lost and confused in their early lives, or emulating the behavior that has been ingrained in their minds as gay behavior. Nothing wrong with a bottom who happens to be a loud, proud fem guy, but behave that way because it comes naturally to you, not because of societal pressure. Of course, there are bottoms who do enjoy having submissive personalities or roles, and tops that have more dominating personalities that can accommodate them, but people should acknowledge that roles are not universal and approach people as individuals rather than basing assumptions on a sexual position.

 

Oooooh. Yall gon get in trouble when ocky n nick get home...

 

Creampie in GA? YUCK.

I pretty much view 95% black gay porn and the other 5% is the occasional Latin or White. I love my ni@@as! lol

 

Complete trolling BS...

1. I suspect he's only into white dudes.
2. I've encountered countless masculine vers-bottoms....but I'm over 40.
3. No masculine man is gonna refer to himself as a bitch.
4. Um a large portion of porn I view has masculine vers-bottoms. Sorry but I don't see them as unicorns.

 

Not only that, but the average Joe aint just jumpin' willy nilly on no dk and takin it like a champ. That sht does NOT work like that LMAO

 

I wanted to see what everyone's comments were first...but like no one is saying much..... No Shame from me though.

Despite me seeming like a quiet small person..I'm kinda freaky/kinky.

I have a role play fetish for one. Student teacher, bounty hunter & bail jumper.Mafia Boss & the man that need to pay his dues.

Umm, let's see I also like slight prostate play...no extremes though, like fisting.

My weirdest fetish is butt naked men in socks and open toe Nike sandles..Pretty weird for some reason and I don't know when I started to like it since I'm not a fan of shoes or socks. Its just that one day I saw a guyvin a beater, bball shorts, Nike sandles and white socks & I was like I wonder what he looks like with just footwear on and after that most guys I see I wonder the same.

I have another fetishi as well..but I'll leave it at that.

 

I dont know why, they dont wash they a$$es

 

Embrace FOMO...it will never leave you. Young and old people alike have the fear of missing out in regards to a variety of things. Be it sex, traveling, career decisions, even just going to an event or concert, that feeling will always come up.

There's an old saying, "If you focus on women you'll always lose money, but if you focus on money you'll never lose women." I would say apply that to your life as well. Even here on the site you seem more genuinely interested in your career and the fraternal aspects of Cypher Avenue than the sex talk and thirst trap lusting. I'd say continue to gravitate towards what interests you and in doing so you may meet men who not only share those interests, but may also want to lick you up and down till you say stop...