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  1. SB3

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    White dudes 'decide' to do pron, because...'why not...im hot...and im white...sooo....privilege'.

    Black dudes 'end up' in pron....
     
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    So I just watched another one of his old videos "for research" where a FINE black guy has his hands tied up to the bed and has the blacked out goggles on and IS GETTING FUCKED by the cross dresser, Bryan Deneumostier.

    At one point they stop and, while he clearly enjoys getting fucked, the "straight" dude says, "I think I'm done with the strap on...can we do something else?" And the cross dresser talks back to him in a sexy latina voice, "Okay we change positions? You get on your back now?"

    "She" unties his hands, he gets on his back, "she" ties him up again and goes down on him, even eating out his asshole....then eventually starts fucking him again.

    I mean....its "POSSIBLE" that he had no idea that he was being filmed, but I don't know how you can assume that a "woman" is using a strap on a craigslist hookup where you are tied up and blindfolded.
     
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    Mmmm...I think it's sort of like one of those look but don't touch things...I like porn as much as the next man but to consider seriously dating one...
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    I know they're people like the rest of us and all that shit but they're not really like the rest of us lol...I don't even post half naked selfies on social media so I can't imagine dating somebody who has videos out there of them having sex with a billion people...no thanks
     
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    I dont think enjoying jackin off more than sex is odd at all. Especially with the HOT as hell porn they have these days or if you have a great imagination. Sometimes having sex with someone can be tedious, hard work, and even uneventful. I had sex with someone and it was so bland and routine that he got off, I said "dont worry about me, Im good"... Then I went home and jacked off and had an amazing time.
     
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    I think the main point everyone is missing here is that most of these pornstars aren't looking to get rich from porn. My belief is that they are using porn to obtain the necessary notoriety to parlay into club appearances and escorting. I'm sure a "famous" escort can charge substantially more from the average joe blow down the block. Also, well known strippers and pornstars get top dollar for club appearances. Porn is becoming the jumping off point.
     
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    It's easy:
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    2. Log into Jack'd and realize how pathetic it is
    3. Uninstall Jack'd
     
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    I could not date a current porn star since it would be an open relationship and im not into that. Maybe a past one who did non penetrative work and only did a few scenes. I still would feel uncomfortable with his nude clips being out there and meeting random fans in public. Maybe one of these:
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    I've been with my fair share of women (I was a bit promiscuous in HS)and I guess I identify as gay, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't have sex with a woman again. I'm a firm believer in the Kinsey Scale, so I see sexuality as more fluid than rigid. While I don't see myself being in a relationship with a woman at this point, my attraction to them has never gone away, but simply ebbs and flow, just like my attraction to men.
     
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    I actually HATE when guys start laughing after they nut in porn. I mean, I know a part of it is my hangup because they ARE the sex life when watching, but at least stay in character if yall wana claim it's 'work'.
     
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    Disclaimer - Aight, so Im a GROWN ASS - SEX POSITIVE - MAN, so off the rip I'm bringing the heat! Dont expect me to talk about porn DAMN stars and show pictures of them being fully clothed smiling and shit.

    The Fuck? :what:

    I know this site is more so an "intellectual" above the "gay cliches" space to share thoughts, opinions, etc. But damn bro, you mean to tell me that most of y'all dudes are really that vanilla that you can't even share the countless nude photos of porn stars you would consider on the list? AND THE TOPIC ITSELF IS AN ACTUAL POST ABOUT PORN STARS? DAMN.... (props to you @Nick Delmacy for including a lil bit of flesh/nude in your pics)

    So for me its the following,

    TOP - Antonio Biaggi

    Hands down, the best top that has ever existed in gay porn.

    A bonafide Porn STAR when many men just DO porn. He has never bottomed or did vers, has had intimate videos looking into bottoms eyes as well as rough play, NO ONE either black, white, or otherwise has worked with as many Studios as he has and then started his own, Doesn't discriminate with sex partners, has worked with every race with equal engagement, and most importantly HUGE dick that always stays hard.


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    Bottoms - 1) Remy Mars - I mean he's just legendary for perfectly filmed bottom ass
    2) Armond Rizzo - Also legendary and can take any size dick with perfection
    3) Andy Star - The most popular bottom on a grand scale for many years, take dick like no other
    and also has a very attractive face.

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    VERS - Carlito

    I think he is the only porn star that I have seen that is talented at both bottoming and topping while doing it with conviction and natural movement that comes across as him being completely 100% Vers.

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    To follow up on that, I think there are also a number of self-proclaimed gay men who would actually be straight but society pushed them into the gay box because they messed with a guy early in life or they had feminine tendencies. It's been reinforced that only gay men do those things so they must be gay, right?
     
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    In addition (to answer the thread question). Of course that money isn't worth doing porn. Raw or safe.

    But for the young, black, tatted porn guys with big dicks and good ass, if they are smart they would do what the European porn men do.

    The money isn't in the porn itself, its in ESCORTING.

    Unless you develop your own company like Tim Kruger, you need to use the porn as a marketing tool. Sort of a display on your fuck game, how big your dick is and what you are capable of doing with said dick. Once thats established you sale yourself and charge the lonely men who dream of fucking you every night $500 - $1000 for an experience. You can charge that amount because not only do you have the goods, they also look at you as a celebrity because you are a "Porn Star". Other escorts that dont do porn cant charge that.

    So think about it, if you had just two clients a week, that'll be around $2000 for a week of "work". And then you would probably have another studio film in the works and other clients booking for future private "dates".

    I would imagine the young, black porn dudes think way too small. Your reputation and image is pretty much done after you start taking cum up your butt or putting it in someone else. So if your gonna be a sex worker, be a sex GOD with the money and business model to match.
     
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    Well at least you guys get hit on by someone lol, even if they are women. I never really had that problem or I just gave off too much of an 'aloof' vibe. When it did happen I was always surprised and just 'huh' incredulous-I have been mostly 'out' so long I just kind of sometimes feel that people(anyone including any random stranger) 'knows' too-which is not the case apparently as I occasionally have been reminded. Plus besides highschool friends I have had very few if any female friends or even acquaintances and do not mix well with females really so besides being friendly as in 'work friendly' I think I give off a 'don't bother me/I am not interested in talking to you'/'I don't give a shit'/I am not gonna respond to you so don't do it' vibe to women. I grew up around men and I am more comfortable in person with men-preferably other gay(but not flaming) men. I also have never had the looks of an 'SB3'(damn him lol) so I have not had the getting hit on thing like that. And I guess race does play a part in that-white women maybe are not that 'forward' and I think probably have more options? Once you get to a certain age anyway it seems most are married or in relationships around here so there are fewer of them checking for men really.

    Intimacy with a partner was great because if the sex did not go so well or things did not go as planned it was ok...it was just a part of a larger thing and not a big deal. Not the same without the trust and intimacy. Also except for a few times in the last 15 years(not including the last five that have been celibate) I had to be drinking to even be interested in sex with someone-even the few people I dated-no wonder things did not last long. I was in no shape to even be dating. I was too caught up in the grief from my partner's death. I sought out company by well, being a slut(I was also a slut when I first came out, kid in a candy store thing), but this second hoedom was really sad and sinister and destructive-having sex for all the wrong reasons.

    All that ended up doing was further damaging me. I won't go back to having sex until I can have it for the right reasons-which means I may be permanently celibate-I am ok with that. Nobody can take care of 'me' better than 'me' (why I love that 'Sensual Masturbation parody video I posted way back). I would rather have friendship and then maybe intimacy and some trust and then the sex...or even without the sex would be ok. I have had enough for a lifetime(or three) so I would be all right.

    *Of course this all needs to be taken in consideration of factors like my age, when I became sexually active, etc. and the fact that at least now I do not have a very high sex drive. And the fact that anyone around me age seems to only be interested in sex, or nothing at all( meaning way younger guys *sigh*).
     
  16. Nick Delmacy

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    Man this video was old as hell...I've had it on my hard drive for almost a year (don't judge me, high sex drive :sadcam:)

    Poor dude...he thought no one he knew would ever see this and it eventually made it into one of his DL friend's fap session rotations.

    He was paid $4,500 in cash though...I always wondered what the rate was for these things...and DP is one of the lower tier porn companies.
     
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    Ooooo - what you wanna know? lol

    But nah, I typically go about a week and half without fapping (or maybe once in that whole time) then I'll go ham for like 2-3 days straight at least 2 times each day. If it's a weekend and I'm in the crib, I'll reach 3 but that's my max cus shit start getting sore lmao.

    I'm not doing 90 days. Periodt.

    Bwoaayy, it's something about that post-work out energy that makes you wanna fck suummnnn. Especially if it was fine mthfckers in the gym. I saw this fine dude when I walked in today. I went to go change in the locker room and he walked into about to take a shower. Lord Jesus. I had to give him a small round of applause as I was walking out to the floor.

    And then I as I was pulling out the parking lot, I saw my other crush jogging down the street shirtless. I had half a mind to hunk the horn smh

    LMAO this gif personifies what I was thinking
     
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    This whole thread is so adorable. Listen squad, the vast majority of us on here are responsible, educated, and professional gay men who may be conservative in are general views of sex-etc, but play with a bit of our rachet side on the weekends or with a special date. Im sure many of us have options in a variety of other industries and/or just general respect for our bodies and our morality to not take unnecessary risk.

    Do you guys honestly think these porn actors (esp the black ones) give 2 fucks about HIV status?

    That whole Breed It Raw company for example, all that disclaimer shit is just paperwork. They have ways around all that shit. These are grown men who I'm pretty sure fuck raw on the weekends after the club anyway.

    They probably figure, "Shit, I fuck every day raw and twice on the weekend, why not get a few bucks doing it"?

    Porn is fun and we all enjoy it, but the LAST thing I think about when I see any of these male porn actors is someone who thinks responsibly, long term, and cares about their reputation or health well being.

    In fact, I assume they are all positive off the jump. And if their not, they will be in a short minute. I mean come on lets be real.

    These men fuck the way they want, as often as they want, get the little money they can for doing something they love, and go to the clinic later to get their medication and REPEAT.
     
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    There is definitely a stigma that comes with being a bottom or even a vers-bottom. Being gay is bad enough. You're gonna have your manhood questioned and lampooned by the straights. But being a bottom on top of being gay is even worse. You're viewed as lowest of the low. Even other gay men will insult your masculinity no matter how masculine you present yourself. It took me a long time to get to a point where I could accept the fact rarely ever want to top and not really get defensive about it. My therapist reminds about the dangers of making value judgements and to not give excessive weight to the value judgements of others. When it comes to my sexual role I like what I like and that isn't good or bad it just is. I'm now fine with that. However I'm still very much aware that the wider culture doesn't see it that way. There is not much I can do to change it just like any of my other characteristics people don't like or is viewed as negative by society. For me the best way to deal with this is not to allow the opinions of others to impact me emotionally. I can't control others opinions but I can control my response to them so choose not to allow myself to have a negative emotional response.
     
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    I agree.

    I really don't like the term 'hetero-normative', but that is what this top/bottom stuff is. I agree that human sexuality(and expressions of that sexuality) are so much more than f@cking.

    Role play, a lil bondage/S&M, toys, using food, massage, mutual masturbation, uniforms, frottage, voyeurism/exhibitionism, all kinds of fetishes, licking, sucking, the list just goes on and on. F@cking can be in there too, but to many it is the be all/end all thing and nothing else matters. We really have just been brainwashed in a way by growing up in a straight world.
     
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    I mean I am all about go big or go home but my lawd!!!
     
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    I think anyone in porn has to be brave or not thinking through. In today's world of social media and the fact that nowadays companies can google you before they hire you, you could be putting any chance of having a certain profession thrown out the window. Trust me, I am not judging. I just think if you have aspirations outside of porn such as being in the corporate world or political aspirations, you really have to think about this before you do it. Cause once its out there, its out there and you can't take it back.
     
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    It's a symptom of internalized homophobia. There is a logic behind it.
     
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    I really don't understand this. I do believe that their probably are more bottoms than tops. Having said that, number wise that would mean plenty of bottoms will "be alone" if they don't get over this. There are so many other things to do sexually. If this is how you're determining who you should be with it seems a little ass backwards.
     
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    A LOT of straight men aren't that progressive, especially not openly. A homeboy of mine commented on the interview and said it was gay, I asked "How could it be gay if a woman was doing it?" His reply 'IMO the act itself is gay." To which I responded "How can an act be gay lol, if you stick your meat in a chicks butt, is that also gay?" To which he replied "I think that's gay too." I was shocked lol
     
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    For me, it's at less once ever two days.
    And speaking of jackin off, is it odd that I enjoy jackin off, more than sex. I mean I want sex and wish that I enjoyed myself, but its rare that i enjoy myself. After i beat off, im kind of upset that i wasn't with someone. When im toppin, they either are mostly not tight enough and so i will lose interest. Or if im bottoming, im ready for them to stop, soon as they enter. Im odd
    Side note, ive never been in a relationship. (im 25)
     
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    Boi this is a crazy thread. And even crazier because much of it is indeed true. At least based on my experience.

    Im a very serious believer in thoughts creating things, karma, law of attraction, etc. And by the way, if there were ever any doubt that thoughts create things, just literally look around you right now. Everything you are seeing right now began with a thought. The bed you're on, clothes on your back, the light in the room, this computer we are writing on, but I digress. Be careful what you think and even more careful what you speak.

    But about the dick.

    I have a solid maybe 10 porn stars that are my favorite, I watch all the time, and would love to expierience. After viewing these men consistently, thinking about them casually, and maybe even having a dream or two about them throughout the years, I have met and had sex with 4 of the 10. Ran into all 4 just randomly by way of just same time and place with no pre-plans of meeting them. Conversation, I could tell they were interested, done and done. And I never mentioned they were on my list. Not to mention I saw porn star number 5 speaking with someone on the street, but I just walked pass.

    Sharing my thot tales just to say or agree with you that, YES, I do think that a person can think about or even obsess about a specific person so much that the universe would put them in your path in some way, shape, or form. Up to you if you're ready to shoot your shot.
     
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    This depends on the connection you have with the person thus far and how important his participation in your freaky stuff is. Sometimes bring up front as soon as possible is appropriate. I had a dude tell me that being open to threesomes is a requirement because one dude in the bedroom bores him. That was good to know up front as I was able to keep it moving before any sexual encounters and it didn't have to be an issue where either he wasn't getting what he wanted or I was pressured to do something I had not desire to do. Again, depending on how important the freaky thing is to you should be a factor in when you come clean about it. Also, the level of freakiness should be considered too. If you know that what you desire is kind of out there (it involves deer, or nails through body parts, etc. LOL) you may want to factor that in too. If you have a light freaky desire that is generally accepted, probably not a big deal...and your man might appreciate you for bringing it up. If you are a black belt from the Fifty Shades of Grey...umm, you may want to feel the person out a bit before sharing and be willing to accept that they may not be from that same school of thought.
     
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    I'm pretty much the same.

    I guess I am that black unicorn/dinosaur or just part of that particular generation of gays men, and this could also be regional, who it was so difficult to actually find a black, gay, male, in your age group, who also found you attractive, that you actually tried to have a relationship instead of just hooking up. So, I also booed up with the first dude I messed around with. I wasn't sprung. I'm also a realist so I knew that it was highly likely this wasn't going to be forever, but I rode the wave for as long as it lasted.

    I think for me, in the mid 90s in a smaller metro area in the south, you just didn't know when you'd find another man who'd you be half way compatible with so you did try to make things 'work'. I know for a fact I put in a LOT more effort then than I do now trying to give a dude a chance.

    All that to say that mostly, my sexual activities were with dudes I was dating. Hookups happened but were few and far between. I have GOT to cosign on that after you'd been with the same person for a while, it's hard to really put yourself in that vulnerable position again with some dude you don't even know like that. I think about my performance, my body, does he like this, will he do that, if I do this will this make him uncomfortable..... all kinds of anxiety come up. I can separate myself from the activity and go to auto pilot but mentally I'm thinking about so much I can barely enjoy myself. I'd have to have a really animalistic attraction to really get into it with a new person. This happens rarely but I just *know* it when me and a dude are on the same page and when we are.... yes indeed!

    So... I'm okay with Palmetta and Handy Jay taking care of things physically and MyVidster and Tumblr on visuals. I don't think it's enough to make it so that I don't WANT the intimacy and physical closeness of another man. I think it's healthy if you are dating/in a relationship to still master your domain. Better that than being tempted to cheat. Again, I'm simple. I just like to orgasm with out the drama. But I also get that hooking up gives you a form of intimacy... touching, kissing, being touched... even if it's not going to last beyond that session and you never see the dude again ever in your life, there's benefits to it emotionally but it isn't for everyone.

    I may have fiftyleum Gym Crushes, but honestly, I wouldn't have sex with ALL of them even if opportunity presented itself.
     
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    Straight men aren't that progressive and eatin booty is still taboo for some. I know a woman who has never had her ass eaten until she met me.
     
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    Masculinity is far more fragile and the slightest variation of it calls you into question and judgement. From both men and women gay or straight so most SGL loving men period never come out and bisexual men also have to deal with their sexuality being questioned mostly by other SGL people saying it's really the base before the gay homerun which is terrible and forces more silence. I believe as long as a people is silent they will always be marginalized. I also second @LeMignon @Ishmal! You have to be one or the other for many there's no inbeteween so it invalidates our existence.
     
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    This poll isn't intended to be scientific or taken that seriously.

    The basic question is... "Have you had any parts of the ¶u$$¥?"
     
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