Mixing Groups of Friends

I don't believe that it's just gay men that roll like that, amongst my straight/gay single AND married up friends, if they see someone they're attracted to, they're going for it...maybe I just attract hoishness!

I do like to stay as far out of it as possible and let it be known that I'm not involved in any way precisely because I've never experienced situations where it has worked out.

 

I use to be part of a group of gay men and a few lesbians who use to meet up a couple time a month. The group was a mix of couples and singletons and everything was groovy until some new people came in and some of the group members caught feelings, and a couple split up and that was the end of our monthly gatherings. I have a couple close friends who always seem to be infatuated with every gay they meet and is now known for being a DM queen. What is surprising is that he usually gets the guys he goes after so, he must be doing something right.

 

This is tricky because I get how we can feel a sense of ownership with our friends, especially with the gay friends...but they are grown individuals...If I introduce two separate friends to one another and they hit it off, why should it bother me if they communicate separately from me?

I have seen situations get messy too, but that's life. Even friends who meet organically can become messy and disastrous over time.

Also, as HARD as it is to find compatible dating partners, you would think our friends would be better to date each other. If I think Friend A is a really good dude and Friend B, who's also cool, is interested in him, isn't it a no-brainer to help them connect? These are my friends, I want them to be happy. But nope, a lot of times we selfishly don't want mutual friends to date because we're concerned how it will affect OURSELVES in the situation.

 

You're talking about @African King, right?

 

I think as long as people are mature it's fine for your friends to date.

If A and B met through me, and they hit it off I'd try to stay as far away from providing opinions on either side however.

I'd be happy for them but before offering any advice, I'd have to hear both sides, call out the bull across the board and hope for the best them. I just don't want to be caught up in the middle.

 

I sometimes can be that kind of guy to get infatuated with people when I meet them, but I try to let them approach me. Like many, I am shy. It typically depends on my level of "courage" influenced or not.

 

When you're the kind of "promiscuous" friend the OP is talking about...

 

And I got called out for trolling you...and just look at the way you treat this upstanding and successful young man! disgraceful and sooo hypocritical. *trying hard not to laugh*

And as to the OP, just get some really unattractive friends along with some more friends with impossibly high standards(not hard at all to find among the gays..not mentioning any names of course..)

 

SHADE.

 

Yes. Shade.


Just Sayin'.

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*I think he even used that 'shade' pic once. lol.

Speaking of shade..



It will be here for him before he knows it

*and 'this' is only real trolling if a person has had a complete and total Senseofhumorectomy.


*this is my last time with this Nick...I know you are gonna be glad when I am back to work full time Monday and too tired to be fooling with this stuff. lol

 

LOL nah not even, you know I got love for you lil homie

 

FUNNY...

I just gay clicks are like gangs and you can't get in unless they read you or size you up...etc etc. We are grown and gays can't be slavemaster over dudes (gay or straight). "Why he talking to him" my response is Bitch I'm grown