Same-Sex Wedding Photos are Gay

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  1. acessential

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    So my dude and I were talking about marriage. For the longest, neither of us was interested in having a wedding. But the more the we think about it, we do think it would be nice to have a little something to commemorate the day. So when the day comes, we're thinking about renting some nice tuxes and hiring an amateur photographer to take a few photos.

    The problem is, we both think wedding photos look kinda "gay." When I envision it in my head and even when I see some photos, the poses and the expressions look kinda effeminate. And if it's not completely feminine, it's heteronormative. What I mean is, one of the guys poses like the groom and the other guy poses like the bride.

    I'm not sure if any of this makes sense. Maybe it's just all in my head. It just looks weird to me. What I'm trying to say is, can two men take these photos without it falling into the weird tropes that I outlined above?
     
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    I think a lot of gays copy the heteronormative version of a wedding cause that's all they knew. The wonderful thing about having same sex marriage is that there are no rules. We don't have to deal w/ the traditional customs and can make it what ever we want to do.

    If I ever got married I would like a low key luxe wedding. Probably an elopement w/ a photographer; still would like it to be a lil fancy and some place far away exoctic. maybe like Spain or Puerto Rico(only caribbean country that allow gay marriage lol)

    Even Though non of these of are actually couples excpetkerrynBraylon lol I see me an my future bea posing like this for our wedding.

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    Just keep the poses chill and like two friends taking pictures. Doesn't have to be all lovey dovey.
     
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    Thanks for the insight folk. I admit, this post sounds exactly like what those Jezebel articles refer to when they say "masculinity so fragile," but I legit had to pause for a second and envision what a wedding would look between two men that isn't influenced by heteronormative traditions or the bride-centric wedding industry. I guess that's what Google is for.
     
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    I remember the day my husband and I walked into the Clerk's office to get our marriage license. It was a six months after marriage equality became legal in Florida and just two months after the SCOTUS made marriage equality the law of the land. For some reason, I was nervous about the entire thing, even though we had done everything that was asked including taking the 4-hour premarital course. The clerk while processing our application kept printing the marriage license with one of us listed as a bride...she did this three times to the point I started getting upset. I was like Look, Ma'am, there is no Bride. In her defense she was really trying to fix the problem, we were her first same-sex couple and she didn't know how to complete the forms to say spouse instead of husband and wife. She managed to fix our license and she wishes us well and told me to mail the license back to her to be registered after our wedding. I looked at her and said, I will bring it in personally. I don't trust the mail.

    I wrote all of that to say this...same-sex couples who are getting married and defining the institution how we see fit and are engaging in new traditions including taking pictures. When I see two men getting married I don't think of one of them as a bride because there is no woman in the picture, regardless of if one or both men are dressing effeminate or feminine. When I got married none of the men in our wedding including the grooms wore white because brides wear white but to honor that tradition all of the women in our wedding party and our wedding official wore white dresses. Remember that we are remaking the institution of marriage and putting our own normal spin on it.
     
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    Well hats off to both @acessential and @BlackguyExecutive Its hard to be a pioneer and long life and years together for you both and your (one soon to be) spouses.
     
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