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  1. SB3

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    Let's cut the shyt! Many gay men (not JUST gays...I remember Dangelo talking about the pressure he felt w everyone expecting him to be a real life 'How Does it Feel' video) are obsessed w body image. Thats not inherently a bad thing. But it CAN be. I have a friend who literally places his entire value as a person on his body. It gets him the attention he wants, and he's pretty much a slave to it now.

    I myself, am no stranger to the realities of this shyt. As a stage kid, I remember the first time I heard 'snatched', and how many ppl I knew who were constantly on fad diets, soaking cotton balls in orange juice to fill and feel full, chain smoking to avoid eating, and full on bulimia.

    With the gays tho, it's gotten to a point where grown men, who happen to be built like prepubescent boys, are celebrating themselves FOR that fact. Not, celebrating the eventual bodies they were born into, but celebrating the lack of body fat (AND any hint of muscle, smh).

    We all like to see the body boys on IG, but the obsession with, and unhealthy pressure to be a body boy is really serious out here in these gay streets.

    What say you, @Nick Delmacy @Ockydub @ControlledXaos @DreG @African King @OhSheit @Omega Level @acessential @Rico @ColumbusGuy @Champagne_Papi @Jaa @Infinite_loop @Cyrus-Brooks @itsumoconfused @Jai @Juan-Carlos @NikR @RolandG ?
     
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    The gay world thrives on muscled bodies. It's so bad that you have grown men getting ass shots, pectoral implants and everything else. You even have older men who are going bald (which can be sexy) getting wave weave. Lol. But back to the bodies. The majority of Instagram is about transformations these days and everyone and they daddy is a certified fitness instructor/personal trainer. If I go on right now I'm sure I'll be bombarded with images of what gay men are supposed to look like. Now I'm guilty of gawkin at them toned bodies but I'm not obsessed with them by a long shot. I'm kinda slim minus a few places here and there but I've really had no desire to be a body boy "anymore". Considering most of them are hollow anyway and will have a connectapal or Onlyfans in a month or so.

    I'd say the only fella I rave over (& I'm not ashamed to say) is Khalil Wells. That body of his is too die for..Y'all don't understand, I would have him for breakfast, lunch and dinner. *Slaps self and looks in the mirror* okay I said I'm not obsessed but I have my moments. Seriously tho, being a body boy is not all that.. Folks will pretty much just look at you like a shell and once you're old news you're discarded like last week's leftovers. They don't care about anything else other than the D & A.

    When I was in school. I always felt like I needed to lose my belly (which was not a lot, I just didn't have abs) but I did want to be a body boy...so I actually started starving myself and started working out more and I firmly remember one day leaving the school gym after a session and straight up collapsing in the hallway. My legs went numb and I fell against the wall and and slide down to the floor, slurred speech, finger clenching, watery eyes and I couldn't tell the on duty coaches or paramedics anything for a while until the slurred speech subsided...It was pretty trippy. Anywho, Don't be a body boy boys. We are destined for greatness in the integrity of manhood. :) As a whole, I think we as a society are more narrcasitic than ever. I even saw an ad for an app where you can modify your body to have abs, chest, toned arms, body tats, facial hair. It was insane...lol
     
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    Damn. Glad that episode was only a short one. And smh at an intentional catfish app.
     
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    Couple of things...

    I once knew this dude who got a tummy tuck specifically so he could go to gay pride...I shit you not.

    I've embraced the fact that I'm an anomalous gay dude. My attraction to masculinity is primary so it allows me to be attracted to a wide variety of male body types...except those who look like they haven't hit puberty.

    Even though I don't mind fat or chubbiness I do mind softness or dough'ness on the male body.

    In a nutshell the muscled bodies are nice but I would prefer a thick, chubby dude with some muscle tone.

    I do have mad respect for those men who are disciplined enough to eat healthy and work out to achieve those chiseled physiques. This reminds me of a question @RolandG made on the profile post between being handsome and phine. These muscle dudes phine but I would prefer handsome.

    Our culture is obsessed with body image and I wish we could focus more on male body issues. Even when we do the focus seems to be on gay dudes so it seems like the subject gets pushed to the side because for the most part many straight dudes think they be looking sexy as hell with their cloths off.

    talk'nbout..

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    but yet I find Kanye sexy...

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    Well said young man.

    On another note tho, are those pics of Steve Harvey real or photoshopped? Lmao
     
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    Oh they hella real. He did a photo shoot and errthang. I remember after he released them, Jamie Foxx joked that Steve Harvey fired his personal trainer way too soon. LOL
     
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    I'm not participating or adding anything of value to this post considering @SB3 never tags me in all them names of people he wants to participate so screw him and this whack ass post.
     
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    And yet...you still here
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    you didn't use to troll your fans back in the day. LOL
     
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    Lol. My bad. I forget someone EVERY time I do the multi tag smh.
     
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    Yea, I have to admit I'm definitely one of the gay dudes or just men in general that you describe. Well maybe not the obsession part of body image, but I have bouts of picking up my gym routine from 3 days a week to 5 at times. And now I do heavy cardio and try to stick to a decent meal plan.

    Once I started seeing my thighs get bigger and ass get huge, I tried to bring my meal intake down to 1 meal a day and small snacks instead of 3 meals a day. Just to do some weight loss and shredding.

    I understand it can be superficial as shit. Im ok with that. I feel good looking a certain way and how my clothes fit on the body I like.

    For the men I am interested in, its a little looser. I don't mind the "dad bod" thing at all. Current Kanye would get it from me as well as I have dated men in the past that were closer to that body type than all out "phine". The only body types I can't do are extremes. Overly muscular, completely obese, or super skinny.

    But for my personal body I always want to be sure to try to keep it tight.
     
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    I've noticed straight men tend to be concerned about their body image when they are younger and or in their prime especially those straight men who are athletes, military, or in entertainment(tho most probably won't admit to it). Most average straight dudes seem to let themselves go as they start marrying or accumulating baby's mamas.

    Gay men seem to go the extra mile which is understandable since many of us want to portray a hard, masculine image since homosexual men tend to be emasculated in popular media and culture. In "gay culture there is extra emphasis placed on looking a certain way. Also it seems gay men tend to stay single longer than straight men so you gotta stay at your fighting weight longer in order to attract a mate. We have to be honest, many of us fetishize masculinity. Gay porn and homoerotic images are rife with almost cartoonlike images of manhood from police men, military men, fire fighters, construction workers, leather daddies, bears, muscle worship, street thugs, etc.

    Full disclosure when I was younger(mid teens to early 20s) I was very insecure about my body. I was very skinny and frail looking. Combined with the fact that was insecure about my sexuality. It added to my anxiety not being "man enough" and not being attractive. It wasn't until I was in armed forces and on a deployment I decided to hit the gym hard. Before my 1st deployment I saw one of my straight co-workers transform from an average looking 150lb dude to a buff 190lbs. I was impressed and a bit jealous so I took his advice and started going to the gym. I became a gym rat. I went from being a 130 lb wimp to a strong and chiseled 170lbs. Once I got out of the service I met someone got into a relationship got complacent stopped working out. There was no longer the pressure to keep in tip top shape. Briefly when I was 35 I had a part time gig at UPS for loading trucks. After doing that for 6 months I was cut up. It looked like I'd just got of prison. Once I left that job I got lazy again started eating lots of junk food and drinking soda. The funny thing about getting older is the pounds come real easy but don't go away as easily. At age 36 I was getting pudgy which motivated me to get back in gym. This time getting in shape was motivated by trying to get healthy and stay healthy, not out of trying to live up to an image of what I thought a man should look like. At 40 years old in better shape now than when I was 20.
     
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    This is also why a lot of dude don't date Black men...Not that White gays aren't superficial and/or ageist, but I do get the impression that there is less shade and judgement coming from them when it comes to dating.

    I didn't start REALLY being concerned about my body until I started immersing myself into Black gay culture. Sure, I was self aware of being skinny and lanky (back in college), but I never really cared about it until I started being around gay men.

    Now that social media exists, being conscious of self image is exacerbated even more.

    Also, I tend to see more average and heavy set Black gay men wearing clothing (shirts, sweaters, etc) that's too tight than White gay men. Not sure what that means but its something I've observed.
     
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    Idk why I found this so funny. Most of them be secure with they weigh. Though I've only seen it on (Butch Queens) I think that's the right thing, not sure I'm talking about the right thing tho. White boys don't care about the bodies but they shole be concept about BBC...lol! Seriously, tho. Blacks in general can be very judgmental of their own about A LOT of stuff... especially the "cause the Bible said" ones.
     
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    I grew up a very skinny kid. I hated it. But I've actually gained a lot of weight over the past few years. Especially in the last year. I'm only 5'6" but my weight fluctuates between 165 and 170. It's not very noticeable though. Only around my gut. The weird thing is, I'd rather be a little on the chubby side than skinny because I remember how much I hated being small when I was younger.

    In any case, I used to be way more obsessed with body image when I was younger. I stopped caring though. I still have a desire to remain healthy, but I try not to compare myself to body types that I would never achieve no matter how hard I worked out or how well I ate. I also avoid instagram models for that same reason as well.
     
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    There is a pressure out there but I am just happy that I lost more than 30 pounds since February of this year and I notice it and all the ATL men notice it too ;-)
    I just wanted to be at a point where I am happy and comfortable because being 220 lb and 5'11" is a recipe for disaster! I was at a point where I was unhappy and dealing with so much that life brought my way but I decided to take control.
    I think the most important thing is to be happy with you and appreciate you. Then others who you call friends and significant others will appreciate you as well.
     
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    A lot of people never let go of what they're told (through various mediums) looks good vs what actually looks good to them,or on the next guy.A guy who looks like ALL he does is live in the gym and is built outta bricks turns me off as much as one who probably eats one salad a day max.Both just look unnatural.And then a lot of the ones who look like the "ideal" body feel like if they achieved a certain look,everyone else should too,without thinking about how practical that is.

    Size and weight are always going to fluctuate like everything else in life.NOTHING in the world stays "perfect" or in any consistent state.
     
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    A lot of these dudes out here with perfect bodies are the ones that stay single because they're so caught up in ideals and lists that it will never be a real thing for them. If the person for them has more than maybe 4% to 8% body fat then it is a WRAP! lol
     
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    In my experience the dudes with the perfect bodies actually either date a lot or are always in relationships. But that doesn't mean that those relationships are the healthiest or last the longest. So (I surmise) having a "perfect" body is not the end-all be-all to having a "perfect relationship. One explanation could be that the "perfect" body attracts the not so "perfect" boyfriends. I dunno.

    But back to the original topic, its weird hearing brothas in this thread saying being super skinny was bad when I always was super attracted to the "small" dudes. Its def all subjective. As much as I joke and complain about my current appearance (average build), I know there are tons of dudes who would love to be my size (no pun intended).
     
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    I am an admitted "late bloomer" so I was "just me" beforehand.

    However, I was never an athlete. But I would get a few comments that I looked a little built when I was in college. I never saw it though. My arms were always too skinny. My chest was not 'thick'. At least in my mind, there was nothing memorable about my body.

    Once I started being around more gay guys, I got more and more self conscious and aware of my looks. before then, I was happy go lucky. But being compared to X and figuring out what I was attracted too started to cause me to be very self critical and to this day, at 41 years old, I still have problems accepting the few compliments I get.

    I have been up and down the scale. Right now, I'm 'thick' i have some muscle. I have some fat. I could stand to, and want to, lose about 25 pounds but that's for ME. Not for 'da bois'. I want to beable to wear the type of clothes I like and not feel like StaPuft.

    As far as being attacted to Body Boys.... yeah. they are hot. Let's call a thing a thing. But at the same time, EVERYONE...well mostly everyone thinks the same thing. I can appreacte these guys but at my age, and with what I'm trying to do with life, even if I WANTED to look like that, I don't have the time. So what the hell are these dudes doing to pay the bills that they have hours to spend in the gym and what are they eating to maintain it? I like a dude who can appreciate some gym time but at the same time, won't turn his nose up at some deep dish Chicago style or some fettuccine Alfredo because they can only eat chicken both braised carrots and radishes. I'm NOT finna do that and that's not fun. I have a lot of different interests and while I'm trying to get into shape, I also want free time to do other things. If all you do is party and gym, we are not going to be a match. But, your body is hot tho.

    Now, like @Ockydub , I like masculine builds. Give me a dude with some nice arms, shoulders, and chest and I'm good. I don't need to wash my clothes on your stomach. I like the firmness of muscles and I like the softness of fat. I like males who look like men. I don't like things exaggerated. So guys who are killing themselves in the gym with squats to get super huge assess are not attractive to me. A nice non flat butt is really all it takes for me. As a balding man who shaves his head, I like a shaved head. I like hair. As a man of a certain age, I like salt and pepper too. I'm not mad at guys who want to get weaves, just be open about it. Let me know you're really balding underneath at least. If someone has enhanced themselves, at least make it look natural and not obvious that you have had some work done.

    There is, to me, something sexy about man who can accept himself as he is and doesn't feel like he has to go through extreme measures to make himself look good. Not all of us have symmetrical faces, big dicks, bubble butts, light colored eyes, soft hair, smooth skin, big calves, etc. So if a dude can own his flaws, I can appreciate that a lot more than someone who is trying to fit in to an image that they think people want or think that's the only way they are attractive.

    I do think that straight men have it easier and straight women just accept that the body is going to change. Especially if they have had children. Everyone can't bounce back like celebrities do. A straight man can have a gut and no one will bat an eye. You may as well have leprosy with some gay dudes with a gut. Unless you're into the bear movement and I think some of that is guys who just want to make excuses for being fat but that's another thread.
     
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    Agree with all of this. I was always kinda self conscious growing up because I was teased relentlessly throughout school, but it didn't give me body image insecurities or make me feel like I was "ugly". It wasn't until I got introduced to the Gay Life (via AOL 2.0 and eventually the Ballroom Scene) that I realized I wasn't desirable to most dudes. My straight army buddies at the time (circa '97), treated me just like anybody else, but the Gays I met online....smfh. I would love to see... A. How many of them catty bitches are even still around, and B. What they look like now. I was never a IG Model, but I had a nice ass body for a good minute when I was in the Army and for some time afterwards (however unhealthy my methods of obtaining it were), and even 16yrs later I'm not that far off, can definitely use some work, but I'm not at all unrecognizable. And yes...another point I agree with, white dudes (as well as Asian, Latino, etc) can be just as superficial but, I see plenty of white gay couples and they as a whole seem to be faaaaaaaaaaaar less selective when it comes to a partner.
    F#$ked up as it sounds, Social Media has implanted the idea in my head that I might as well just throw in the towel. I'm already settlin' into the probable realization that my last and final relationship was 10yrs ago and I most likely will leave this plane with nothin more to my future than arguin' with my cat and j/o to Pornhub. smh LOL
     
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    I don't know from what I've observed white gay dudes seem to have plenty of issues when it comes who's considered attractive and who is not. Often times it's the "body boy," alpha male, twinks, and bears that seem to be in. Everyone else is out. Although I do think you're right they seem less ageist then most black gay men. "Daddies" seems to be a big thing with younger twink white gays.

    Also I think the reason why you see thick or heavy set black gay guys wearing tight clothes because tight and fitted clothing has come back in style. We all know most bruthas like to be stylish because black culture emphasizes being in style. Tight clothing however is really geared toward slimmer frame people and isn't really meant to be flattering for larger body types.
     
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    Oddly enough my insecurity about my body didn't start with "gay culture." It started when this chick in my 10th grade Spanish class cracked jokes on how skinny my arms were. Before that I never really paid much attention to my physique. That's when I really started noticing my body in relationship to my peers. As the years went on I start observing how some rappers went shirtless for pix like Tupac or DMX. Then Tyson Beckford started appearing every where. You couldn't open a magazine and not seem him. I didn't look anything like that I was still bony like a 13 year old well into my 20s.
     
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    No disagreements here, men in general are particular about young, tight, in-shape physiques...but I still feel like the judging is less apparent. Like a fat Black gay man will ironically "drag" you for even being just a little out of shape before a fat White gay man will...
     
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    Lol right.

    Guys built similar to me I have experienced will flat out curve me. Like mofo you gotta belly too! GTFOH
     
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    I get where you're coming from BUT I do think that yes they go out on a lot of dates and they may get a lot of numbers but as far as the relationship part, what I've seen is that they have a lot of "situationships" and not a lot of actual solid relationships. They share space and time with someone but both parties are not really invested. I was really surprised seeing men out in Dallas during Black Pride earlier this month that I spoke to that had BAAAWWWWDDDYYYY and I was surprised when they told me about their dating experiences. Guys will get their number and do nothing with it and they have not been in relationships for a while. Not like that sample of men I spoke to is representative of all black gay men but I was still surprised nonetheless.
     
    SB3 dapped this.
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