Travel Is Not An Achievement

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  1. Infinite_loop

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    Note: I find this blog post to be highly cynical, but she makes some valid points.

    My main takeaway was the *most highlighted* sentence: “People who love their lives don’t leave.”

    Here is the thing: that quote sounds too negative. Dissatisfaction with the status quo usually breeds curiosity, which is not necessarily a bad thing. To me, her statement is only half true.



    It’s not the life-defining experience we make it out to be

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    I’ve been traveling since before I was old enough to understand the concept. I started flying alone to see Grandma as soon as I met the airlines’ age minimum, me and my little five-year-old carry-on bag proudly striding down the jet bridge like I owned the place.

    I studied abroad. I backpacked alone through Europe. I visited 20-some odd countries by the time I was in my mid-20s. I later worked as a consultant and was on a plane several times a week, racking up miles and spending vacation days in other countries. I am well-acquainted with the world of air travel.

    And at some point along the way, probably when I sat down and thought about what I wanted and still saw “30 countries by 30” on the list, I realized that I didn’t really get that much out of traveling. It conflicted with a lot of other more important goals on my list — saving, building a business, etc. — and didn’t, even in its own right, provide much value. It shouldn’t be a top goal.

    Because travel is, in and of itself, a bit meaningless.

    Travel is not an accomplishment
    It’s embarrassing when grown-ass adults talk about travel like there’s some kind of “I got on a plane” accolade. Participation awards for “I went there too.”


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    “I been LOTS of places.”
    Guys, travel is not an achievement.

    It’s not even that hard. The highest barrier is probably cost, and the most effort that really involves is like, saving. There’s no application process. There’s no “failure” rate. It doesn’t even really take any meaningful work. Compared to so many other things in life, “travel” is a damn cakewalk.

    You decide you want to go somewhere. You pick a place. Maybe do a lil research; consult a guidebook (optional.) Then ya book it. And then you go.

    And yeah, for some of us, some of those steps are scary. They are work. So sure, we should travel enough that we realize this isn’t the tough stuff in life.

    But then we should move on to real things.

    Probably this very low barrier to entry and very low bar for effort is precisely why so many people glorify it — it’s just enough of a break in routine to feel like something, but not enough to be too strenuous. Enough to feel like we did something, without ever actually doing something.

    But that doesn’t actually make it an accomplishment.

    Travel is little more than a running tally
    — Countries are not ours to “collect”
    Having that literal stamp collection — all tidily organized in a neato little book to tote around — makes us feel good. And safe. All warm and tingly inside.

    But because travel isn’t an accomplishment, those messy stamps and mental checklists are nothing better than boxed memorabilia. It may make us feel nice and cozy, but it’s totally meaningless in the grand scheme of things.

    When we tally up travel, we’re pretty much as “cool” as Steve Carell’s character in 40 Year Old Virgin. Or that weird great aunt with her Precious Moments figurines.


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    Travel does not automatically expand you as a human being
    Unless what you needed help “expanding” with was getting the fuck out of your own car, or neighborhood, or routine.

    But:

    1. Most people could try more without traveling.
    2. Most people don’t try enough while traveling.
    For most of us, our idea of “travel” is that it has to be English-speaking countries or countries where there’s a strong English-speaking tourist economy. Then we need to put ourselves up in a comfy hotel and eat foods well within our comfort zone — or justenough outside of it that we “tried.” Not enough to actually change who we are or improve us as human beings, living among other people on the planet. Just enough that we can look at them a little.

    But hey, we were technically there. (One more for the tally!)

    Travel is just expensive escapism
    Almost as expensive as functional alcoholism.

    Penelope Trunk wrote a fantastic post about this back in 2009, in which she pointed out,

    “People who love their lives don’t leave.”
    If you were deeply engaged in your life, had meaning and excitement and value in your everyday, “Would you want to leave all that behind for two weeks? What would be the point?”

    “If you are excited about your life, you do your life. If you are not excited about your life, you travel to get away from it.”
    She concludes,

    “The things you are aiming to accomplish while you travel are generally things you could accomplish on a deeper level if you stayed home and made changes to your life instead of running away.”
    Travel is just consumerism
    Other countries and cultures are not ours to consume. The world is not our personal petting zoo.

    Often people travel because they just need a way to spend their money.They work these jobs they don’t like to afford themselves things they might want, but they don’t necessarily spend a lot of time thinking about what that might be. They travel because they hear other people travel and they don’t have any other, better ideas, so they do too.

    How to travel
    Because we still will.

    The key, really, is to travel either mindfully or with honesty — though, ideally, it’s with both.

    If nothing else, perhaps we can at least travel honestly — and recognize travel for the low-risk, low-reward entertainment that it often is, and not pretend it’s anything more.

    Above that, maybe we travel with mindfulness— to go somewhere with a real reason other than “it’s so cheap we can live like kings!” or “I hear it’s amazing” or “I’ve always wanted to!” To at least indulge in the local culture with something more than the arms-length distancing of a purveyor. To approach other people as people, and to engage.
     
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    My opinion of this article is coming from a place of privilege and elitism. What about ppl who didn't grow up w/ much or didn't to travel abroad in college. Ppl who prob didnt start making money until their 30s travel is a huge accomplishment. Just to see what else is out there.

    Look that truth of the mater is most ppl aint happy with their lives. Unless your a billionaire or have magic wand ur going to have to deal with the mundane rat race and proletariat struggle journey

    It sounds more like a person who's traveled so much that it's become boring to her. She cant compare her experience w/ everyone else's.

    Look sometime working class ppl need cheap vacations just to get away. I dont see nothing wrong with that. 100dap:yeshrug:
     
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    Title should have been...

    "I'm Privileged!, Therefore if you do things I've been doing for years, you're lame."

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    I don't agree with the general tone of the article, but I can understand some of her point.

    In hindsight, I always roll my eyes when I see many of us a black people posting our PASSPORT on Facebook like its an accomplishment. Almost like its a diploma. Really?

    Im glad you are ready to travel and the world is an amazing place. But dude, you just filled out an application, paid, and went to the post office. Its not a ceremony we need to dress up and attend because you finally have the paperwork to go to Spain. :ravetho:
     
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    Slightly disagree. It wasn’t uncommon for folks to dress up for travel in the next ast, even locally. A lot of older black folk have told me it was considered déclassé in the 1930s, 1940s, 1950s to wear anything than Sunday best when going downtown in Chicago back in the day. And until the 1980s, most people dressed UP to go on air flights. I didn’t realize this until my boss, who is actually younger than me showing me pictures of his grandparents and him flying to “the old country” when he was a kid in the early 80s.

    Considering how long black folks movement has been restricted I’m glad to see bros and sis happy over getting the hell outta dodge. Travel does broaden one’s scope. i’ve known a lot of bros who escaped the inner city through military service and prospered once they realize America is NOT the whole world.
     
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    Yikes.

    For starters, most people die within 50 miles of where they were born. For me, that seems like a horrifically sad set of circumstances giving how vast the world is. 70% of Americans do not have a passport or any other type of travel document, therefore the vast majority of Americans are not equipped to leave even if they had the resources to do so.

    Travelling advances culture and enhances the human experience. That proposition is the same for domestic and international travel. The tone of this article is so cynical that it is almost idiotic.

    On the superficial level, this blog posting reads like entitled white women on a quest to save everyone from themselves. On a deeper level, this could be an attempt to discredit cosmopolitism and globalization which is a fundamental tenant of ultra-right movements springing up around the world.

    Final point, Travelling can truly change one's understanding of self and space in the world. Ask anyone what they remember about being someplace other than the relative comforts of America? Or better yet, ask people from rural America what they thought about traveling to a place like Vegas or Orlando. Travelling from your sleepy community to somewhere else can be rewarding and open opportunities that were not previously thought about.
     
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    I think you mis-understood what I was saying. I was using the analogy of "its not a ceremony we need to dress up and attend'' meaning that when people show their passport, just their passport, on Facebook its as if their showing a diploma. Like when we dress up and go to someones graduation to celebrate their achievement. As as if they want us to celebrate them getting a passport.

    I wasn't talking about dressing up to travel.

    But now that I think about it, I can understand someones excitement by showing their passport. It absolutely isn't anything wrong with being excited to travel. Traveling is an amazing experience. And maybe they were in a position where they never thought they would be able to go to another country. If that is the case, the author of this article is an idiot, because for many it absolutely is an achievement.
     
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    i feel you bruh. I’m trying to get back to my college motto (title of a Smokey Robinson song) “ Be Kind to the Growing Mind.” Sometime people don’t express things the way we might but it’s good to see the light go on in their heads.
     
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    Eventho she clearly benefited from pivileges that many others lacked, I do feel like it has become a 'thing' amongst the most pretentious out there to wear passport stamps like scout badges. Hell, at this point, since 'everyone' has been to DR and Mexico, you have ppl claiming how visiting those places isn't 'real' traveling. Now you have ppl acting like they're in the travel olympics going for gold because they've been to ______.
     
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    Iraq Combat Zone? If someone tried to be snooty to others like that and putting them down, I’d guess I’d pull out my photos of charred bodies and severed limbs in Al Anbar streets and say “top dat travelogue, beeyotch.”
     
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    Umm...

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    Puts DR and Mexico back in play. Disneyworld too!

    All in all, a trip to Iceland is cheap and peaceful. I’ve been told to stay away from the fermented shark, though, by an acquaintance from there.
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    I can't keep up w you!!

    But I'm all about DR n Mexico! It's mofos who feel special because they've been to fukn Prague who look down.

    Do I look like I give a fuk about ever goin to Prague?!

    I'm always down for a DR All-inclusive where I might find me a bae.
     
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    I’m sorry, but this dish looks like something Gordon Ramsay dismisses a contestant for, on “Master Chef”...
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    I don't think the distant or the amount it cost matters. Traveling is great and should be exciting, especially if you come from a place where people don't leave their neighborhood let alone their block. The person who wrote this is probably one of those people who hate when something becomes popular that they been doing. Achievements are subjective by person and to me traveling is a awesome achievement!
     
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