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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    I was informed that a known Cypher Avenue Squad Member broke the Gay Bro Code. A member that most of you all know.

    It was awhile ago but he shared personal (private) info about one (or more) member to who knows how many others. Might be happening more than we know with other members.

    Our goal was to create a dope place online for many discreet gay/bi masc men to converse and feel at home. Your privacy (and ours) is important to us. If you choose to reveal certain information about yourself to others, it should be YOUR choice. When members knowingly take that choice away from you, that's a violation. I think Ocky and I have built enough respect with the members to know we would never break that trust.

    However, we can't control what happens when ppl converse off-site. Y'all be careful what you do & say to ppl online or in meet-ups, especially those you barely know.

    And remember that dudes gossip just as much as women.

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    Yeah...this is disappointing

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    Is he still here? Was the info revealed something that was posted here, or was it something that was said between the members off site?

    This is an unfortunate downside of the site being a way for guys to meet and get to know one another and network off the site(not that I am or would be a part of that) but it is a good thing.

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    As far as I know, it wasn't anything unlawful like credit card information or social security numbers, but still seems like a violation nonetheless.

    We're still debating internally what the consequences of these type of issues should be (ie: banned from the site).

    In the meantime, take precautions guys.
     
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    Well what does the offended party think about this? This sucks. :(
     
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    The bright side is, at least Columbus Guy used a fitting and entertaining gif for once.
     
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    Welp, there goes any chance of me ever attending a Cypher Avenue meetup. SMH
     
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    I mean, is it possible dude slipped up and revealed something by mistake? Dude probably feels guilty about it. Would hate for him to be banned for a mistake but if he was being messy on purpose, ban his ass just to make a point.
     
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    I am shocked. This sounds like a bad situation. I can only imagine what kind of information has been shared about people.

    I think that the good part of this site being present is that there is a chance for people to be able to connect. It should be that way. I am not cool with people being messy though. I have really enjoyed meeting people and a few of us will be getting together again for New Year's in the A. I will always exercise decorum and respect amongst my Cypher Avenue family.
     
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    Yeah don't let what happened here discourage you man. You can still be open to meeting us. I have no clue who that individual is but there a group of us on here who really enjoy each other's company and are not messy.
     
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    I'm just wondering who the heck it is so I can stay away from him! Or should I say HER lol
     
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    Me at the 1st Cypher Ave meet up in year 2022
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    You are evil. Oh and happy birthday and all...it is/was this week right?
     
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    Makes me wonder who it is and if I should keep fonting lol. I don't even even know what happened but it don't sound nice...
     
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    YO, PUT THAT NEGRO ON BLAST SON !!!! (joking)

    Nah for real tho, hmmmm, thats quite uncomfortable to hear.

    If its something you feel is really foul maybe you guys should alert the parties the member told private info about in a private message to them. Especially if you say its still someone currently on the site. So they can know how to interact with this individual going forward or to NOT interact with them. The power of choice.

    I know I wouldn't want to be smiling and laughing with someone while sharing info and they have a note pad and go running back telling the world.

    This is a site I continue to enjoy where I trust the creators as well as the community because it seems pretty tight knit.

    But now, I'm looking at y'all dudes side eyed! :wtb: LOL.....
     
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    So can we talk about that code of conduct now?
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    Every [online] community out to have one honestly. It sounds rigid and unnecessary, until it makes sense.
     
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    I don't want to over-exaggerate the issue, no real harm was done. Just gay hair salon gossip. But it is unfortunate and the parties involved were guys who I thought would be the last people to engage in this kind of behavior.

    I only posted to inform the Squad that the possibility exists. If you are not really worried about this kind of thing in general offline, you shouldn't have any issues here.
     
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    I also feel (or felt) this community was chill & pretty much safe place to font, and post pics...(even though Ocky is always fussing). I know this ain't like no BGC, or Grindr or Jackd or Whackd or whatever.

    Makes me nervous that things would be said on here...but I mean I don't know anyone or have been to any of the Cypher Get Togethers. Everybody talking, Ocky cussing every 5 minutes. It's like one big reunion. Lol oh and I just thought about food.
     
  21. Nick Delmacy

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    I know some closed groups and communities online have consequences to infractions like banning and removal for lurking or inactivity. I'm not against that.

    Many of our forum features, like viewing profiles, uploaded photos and profile posts, are already disabled for lurkers and site visitors without an account (they can't see them) and the Locker Room is only accessible to the very active members who meet certain criteria (post count, daps count, etc).
     
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    I hear ya. Well maybe they should just get off with a warning.

    "Adhere to the bro code of conduct or .....

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    LMFAO you really had to use that GoT gif
     
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    Wow.

    This person just ruined a lot of things. It's very hard for us to give trust to others and I guess a lot of us felt some stuff goes without saying when it comes to discretion.
     
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    Have you thought about reaching out to said member(s) and let them know that you don't want CA to be a place for that? In one breath, you say its 'hair salon gossip', but I have a hard time thinking you'd address it so specifically with this thread if it wasn't kind of serious.
     
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    Wow! If it was intentional, I wonder what the motive was.
     
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    What was the person's response? Did they apologize, say they made a mistake and that it won't happen again? Was it just something where someone was talking with someone else and they just 'let things slip away from them without thinking' and all...or was it more conscious and directly intentional?
     
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    To be honest, @ControlledXaos is probably the only person I would trust to meet up and hang out with in person. I could be wrong but he just seems like the least messy and gossipy of the entire Squad.

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    And by this post you have shown that you yourself are one of the 'messy' ones -just stirring up trouble with posts like this.-causing dissension amongst the members with this divide and conquer stuff lol. I am not so sure he should trust you though...

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    *and look at your edges...smh.
     
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    Call it what you want but we def need some order around these parts... Like @Infinite_loop said we should have had rules of conduct in place from the start if we're calling this a "Squad."

    And based on this comment, an old saying, "A hit dog will holler" applies...
     
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    And yeah I agree with that-which is a nice deflection since my post was not about that at all but about you playing favorites among the members(even for fun) with choosing @ControlledXaos and all as your 'pet' for this thread. And this is a pattern too...so maybe we can say for you 'Can't teach an old dog new tricks"?

    :troll: (just having some fun...although don't you even accuse ME of spreading gossip and violating rules....not that you are ...

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    ...and all.


    BTW aren't there rules of conduct regarding confidentiality in place? I guess I thought there were already?
    I don't have to worry about this shit anyway since nobody on here likes my ass anyway and probably half the board has me on ignore lol. Nobody gonna confide anything to my ass lol.

    *ok seriously now, I did look and there are no rules for the Boards. I just assumed there were. I agree there need to be some rules and some consequences listed for not following them.

    *Also I can't spar with Ocky as he is drunk on a boat apparently and someone apparently drove @Rico off for now so you. are. it. lol.
     
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    TRUE! I'm you're only defender here yet you continue to troll me.

    No, besides "no shade" we never really had to tell dudes not to Out or share other member's info before. I thought it was an unspoken gentleman's agreement, but clearly that is not the case for some people.
     
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    I am not trolling you lol. I only spar with people I like and feel comfortable with. Meh, I am used to being the outsider anyway-though why I am on this board of 'island of black 'gay-culture hating' misfits' is a strange thing even for me to wrap my head around.:sass2::bronbad:

    I guess there are just good people here maybe?-even the messy one whomever they are.


    *sorry you did say 'no shade' and I guess I have been 'shading' a bit. Will simmer down here lol. I have been at the ER and hospital alot lately(not for me)and I hate those places because they are full of sick people and germs and naturally I caught something and am sick as hell once again so I am bored and I guess I will go find something to create a new thread about.
     
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