Things a dude says/texts that reveal he's just not that into you.

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  1. RolandG

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    So a about three weeks ago, a friend gave me the number of a friend of a friend that he thought I should meet. I've never done a blind date but figured it wouldn't hurt to talk to dude and see what he was up to. Of course, I texted "Will" first instead of cold-calling just to give him a heads up and let him know that I had received his number from a friend of mine. It took him the entire day to respond but no biggie. He doesn't know me and I don't know him. We texted back and forth for a couple of days before I asked him when he would be free to talk. He said he would be free that night and that I should give him a call, which I did. We chatted for maybe 20 minutes. The entire time, he seemed to be occupied with other things. I think I heard him doing laundry and then tinkering with some gadget. His attention definitely wasn't on the conversation so I made up some excuse to end the conversation. I'm thinking that dude just wasn't interested so I'm prepared to move on.

    Next morning, dude sends me a text stating he enjoyed the conversation and that I sounded like a nice dude and that he's interested in getting to know me. Strange, I thought, considering he couldn't take 20 minutes out of his evening to talk to me uninterrupted. But I know how "quirky" guys can be here so I chalked it up to him being the average gay black male. We proceeded to text each other, sporadically, over the next couple of weeks. My texts were certainly more exploratory. I was asking questions to try and get to know him more and his texts usually consisted of some variation of: Ha, LOL, wyd, I'm sleepy, headed to gym, or one of those annoying emojis. No matter how I tried to elicit a more engaging response from him, he stayed very vague. Of course, If I slowed down on texting, i would get a text asking why I've been so quiet.

    Keep in mind, I've been asking him his availability during this past couple weeks so that we could plan a meet up. Should be pretty simple right? I mean unless every single minute of your week is planned out already, YOU HAVE TIME. Whenever I would ask him to meet up, even for a quick drink or bite to eat, he would give me these vague responses such as:

    1. Why you rushing to meet? We just started talking a couple weeks ago?
    2. I'm not sure what my schedule's gonna be. Let's play it by ear
    3. Just hit me on(pick a date) and we'll see if we can make it work.
    4. Let me get back to you cause i think my homie got something going on that day.
    Needless to say, I'm not about to chase no nigga like he got the magic booty. After a couple weeks of texting, with him seemingly never available to talk for any significant length of time, I simply stopped responding to his texts. I even blocked him so I wouldn't be tempted to engage anymore. Today, I got a text from the friend, who gave me his number, asking why I ghosted him. I explained that dude was a serial texter and wasn't showing any interest in ever meeting up and explained why I felt that way. Dude was talking as if he had every intention of meeting up but I've gotten too old to partake in those games.

    What are some things guys say to you that tells you they have no intentions of pursuing anything beyond texting?
     
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    Wow - I'm actually going through the exact same thing. Like the same thing.

    Vague, short ass replies; you move on and they try to reel you back in. Sometimes I wonder if it's an attention thing? I've gone back and forth with letting it all go vs trying to maintain - really only bc there's nothing else interesting in my area and it look like he got good booty from the pics I've seen.

    I've recently gotten dude to open up a bit more but meh, who knows...I got someone else flying in this weekend anyways (ie. life goes on)
     
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    did you ask the friend why he recommended dude? i'd question his recommendations moving forward.
     
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    Anytime he starts saying "we'll see" he ain't into you.
     
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    Social media is to blame for this inadequate type of communication that lacks personality. Conversation starters do not consists of the "wyd" and "wya" . These texts will get you on the fuccboy list or blocked all together.
     
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    I've had a similar yet somewhat different experience with Textationships. I get the guys who LOVE texting more than talking, they'll send whole pages of slow-texts rather than dial my number or answer my calls.

    Then things get similar to what you discussed, once I start asking to meet up, they get quiet or vague. Usually when I say I'm not looking for a pen pal, they do finally agree to meet but its never anything concrete. It's always, "what you doing this weekend?" Then after I respond within 10-15 mins, they take hours. By the time we get to, "Let's do something on Sunday" days have already gone by. And of course once Sunday comes around I either don't hear from them at all or by that evening I get a "WYD" text as if we had never planned to meet up that day. Or they say, "I was asleep" or "I forgot I had to do something for my friend today." Mind you, I'm busy as fuck so opening up my schedule to meet up w a dude is an ordeal, albeit a welcome one. So when I get stood up by the texter, it def pisses me off.

    I used to think it was just happening to me but apparently this is a thing many of us (straight and gay) have to deal with.

    I don't mind not getting an immediate response to a text (especially if he is a working man), but if you tell me "I prefer texting over talking on the phone" and you suck at it, the mind can't help but have the imagination run wild about their behavior.

    One dude I was talking to earlier this year, kept his phone so close to his hip that he was texting other ppl while at my crib sitting next to me on my couch. So I know he def sees my texts but chooses not to respond to them quickly.

    I do wonder how dating was back in the 80s and 90s before texting...I know beepers and pagers were a thing but the immediacy to texting changed the game since you can go back-and-forth all day w/o dialing a phone. So I wonder how things were better or worse back then.
     
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    That and it wasn't feasible to be tied to a landline all day so you had to meet if you wanted to really talk to someone.
     
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    Uh yes! I hate those wyd texted every 10 mins nshit, like you ain't got nothing going on in your head to have a conversation? Or shit hit me up with some plans...let's go out
     
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