I've been reading this site called DL Confessions & I would have never thought so many married men have sex on the low. This guy said men in there 40's & 50's. Still blows my mind how a guy will be like a girl is his Queen and then...
I've kind of come to realize maybe many men actually have a bi-sex appetite when it comes to sex. And of course they never admit it. Its actually mind boggling the amount of men that live life as presumably 100% straight that have a fetish, kink, or appetite for men on men sex in some form. But of course they can't explore that without the label as gay being placed on them right away. When you look at many "DL" scenarios of all races, many men just really like sex and may want or like the experience of sex with a man. That doesn't make them gay, they just had homosexual sex. They may have no desire to live life with and love a man full time. The whole thing can get very complicated if you ask me.
For me its not that hard to figure out. I personally like everyone falls a lil on the pan-sexual spectrum. Sometimes its not about just sex its just u vibe/connect w/ something on a current level and boom sex just comes with it lol. marriage doesn't stop ppl from being attracted to sexy men (male or female).
ONLY women can get a pass. A woman can eat 1545 coochies with no care. A man cannot do that sucking even 1 dingaling lol. The way our social construct is set up and the heteronormative, a man is gay if he does anything sexual not with a female. It will have to be dismantled in order to change. Religion and the way society views sexuality ain't helping the effort of doing so.
We need to recognize that sex, sexuality, and love are all completely separate things. A man can love a woman or another man and still have some wet wet or good wood from someone else with zero feelings involved and be committed emotionally to their wife/husband.
Didn't even know this got migrated but umm..I agree with everyone but I feel some kind a waay about a person loving someone and having sex with someone else while still going with that person. If my bf ever did that I would drop him. No way you "love" but you getting shacked up with someone else. I know you're not saying they should get a pass. I think you either like a man, woman or both or none of the above. I've never really believed in all these different percentages & other stuff they use to confuse people. I'm the type that is pretty sensitive so it only takes one time for you to cheat on me. I'm less ignorant to some of the things now adays but I also feel like some of this stuff is being made up on the go to excuse folks for their thotish ways. Yes, I'm still dumb enough to think sometimes that if a dude worships his girl that he shouldn't be messing with dudes on the side. I don't feel like that's love. That to me is some form of betrayal. A dude tried to talk to me while he had a girlfriend and I told him was rude & selfish and stop talking to him immediately. As I just posted (before I knew the post became a thread) I was reading another site...an old one this one was like anonymous confessions thing and I lost it already..I need to do a history check or something. I forgot it exactly but it was DL Confessions but it was like some weird stuff but I'm learning a lot more about all this stuff that goes on behind closed door... One guy posted that another dude was blackmailing him and making him suck his penis or he would release all the vids to his family and expose him as a gay man and he was asking someone to help him on the site cause he doesn't want to do this anymore but he doesn't want to turn to his family or whatever. Another post was a dude that had sex with dudes everytime his girlfriend left and went ro work and he said he couldn't stop it and he ended the post saying he loved her. Some of these stories are disturbing but after reading the DL Confessions site linked here I really like it. Maybe because it's older men sharing their experiences that makes it so interesting. My lack of experience with some of this makes it much more entertaining to read. He also posts pics and stuff which are a bit...umm graphic but add to the story. I actually like listening to old guys talk about their sex lives or what they did in the past...sometimes it's always interesting to find out somethings really never change. I think I posted that I like the fact that he is 50+ and still having sex..I really felt somewayy about the 70 year DL man though...
It’s actually a great site and I’ve had email convo with the author on occasion. The blog has been around for quite a while (way before CA was Discreet City) and initially chronicled his own struggle with being married and realizing he was not straight, thus the blog title. Now, he’s fully out and he and his partner have an open relationship, this the continuing stories which cover the gamut of gay behavior through his encounters. He also lists Cypher Avenue as one of the links he recommended to his readers. Except for the married part, his own trajectory was a lot like my own. It’s a great read not just for his own sexual exploits —-and I appreciate the fact that, now that he’s older, readers realize sex doesn’t end at 40, as much as some younger dudes think life after 35 is equivalent to death—-but also the insights he gives on why people do what they do. Basically, he is an example of why being out is healthy and DL is not. I still laugh at gays who act like anyone over 30 should be in a nursing home. It’s not just a black thing. I remember when the B-52s (all of whom except one are gay and the oldest is in her 70s) released their last album, their most sex oriented one, all the stupid comments from young white queens and twinks clutching their pearls about “old people having sex is icky”, lol. So, I’m forever grateful for DL Confessions and other older gay blogs like ReNude Pride.
So, by you stating the dude said he loved her at the end of his DL confession post, are you implying he's full of shit because of the sex or the decent? Because, I believe he does indeed love her. I could be madly in love with my partner and have sex with another person easily. However the difference between what I am saying and what he is doing is the decent. IMO I believe deceiving a person you say you love is bigger than having sex with another person outside of the person you love. She doesn't know he is having sex with another person period. To me that's not good if thats not what she signed up for. Be it a man or a woman. I would be open with my partner and would want him to be as well with me. (this is a topic that can get really deep and long, but the jest of what I am saying is many of these men can be very much in love with their wife/girlfriend and also love having sex with men or sex in general with another person.)
Its becoming weird as fuck to me that those young gays that think that even still exist. With Generation X, the first hip hop generation, many of the men is their 40's are looking better than any generation before them at that age. And I personally can say I NEVER had better sex in my 20's than I do right now as a 40 year old man. (side note) When desirability comes into question many men my age will only go 5 years younger at best with men they date. They couldn't fathom dating any 20ish something millennial gay dudes, particular because their generation is getting such a bad reputation. Not to mention even many millennial gay dudes don't want to date their generation. I have turned down more than several 20ish year old gay dudes simply because I knew not only did we have very little in common, but I was much more experienced than they are in many many ways.
The blog writer and his partner are very much into open relationships (the numerous postings on his site attest to it lol). Yeah, it’s a TLDR subject, but as many have said here before it’s what the people agree to in a relationship. And by agree, I mean you’re really into open relationships not doing it just to keep the other person. Whether we choose exclusive or open relationships, we need to as gay/bi men stop bring heteronormative white Christian shit into our minds and relationships. Polyamory was the norm of many human societies before Dee Great Civilized Deists started ruining the human mind with their psychopathology and hang ups...
What y'all old men up here talking bout now?? Lol. Just kidding.... Oh, Omega Level you just a freak... Lol Ya know. I had a college professor that was maybe late 50's or maybe 60's trying to get in my briefs...I felt very uncomfortable around him. He had a wife too. I hate even thinking about him.. Listen to you guys talk about sex makes me feel like I'm tuning in to one of those late night sex talk programs on HBO. Old people having sex is icky probably cause they thinking asbout they parents. My future sex life will be plentiful & hot. After years and years of celibacy I can get buck wild...but I just don't do the stranger stuff. Most folks think once you reach late 20s or 30s...the sex drive goes down or whatever... A 20 year old is going to smash you like his life depends on it. The white twinks probably things older people have slow dusty sex or something or that old men caan stay hard.
To follow up on that, I think there are also a number of self-proclaimed gay men who would actually be straight but society pushed them into the gay box because they messed with a guy early in life or they had feminine tendencies. It's been reinforced that only gay men do those things so they must be gay, right?
Rest assured that 30 is quickly becoming the new 25/26 but with a comparatively better sense of self haha. I think there's a shift in how us 20 somethings are beginning to process age and it's being passed down.
I must be in a rush when I be typing. I be going back and reading and seeing typos and I be like..Ughhh. Anyways, that thread with the fine dark skinned muscle butt man. I think the more I think about it the more exciting it seems. I wanna retire with my boyfriend on same damn island and kick and have sex all the time. We used to always joke coming up talking bout old folks be some freaks and it's true. When I was much younger I was working at a retirement home and them old folks was something else.... Have you thanking they body parts don't get hard but from reading that DL Confessions site...70 year old man got that peen on lock. There is this movie I saw one time where it was about this really young guy and he was in love with or had a fetish for elderly folks. It's a real fetish so I was just like...mind blown.. Here to more sex as the years progress!!
I think when you're older you tend to be less self conscious about stuff and allow yourself to explore different sides of your sexulaity. This current generation rnb songs by 20 year Olds make me laugh because they swear they doing something. Chick/negro, Y'all only been having sex for 5 years GTFOH LOL They are just happy to get a nutt but may not know everything that can get them said nutt. But we all have our path to beat. Older sex becomes more creative and high leveled. More than just simple dick in ass/pussy. You learn your kinks and explore more. It becomes deeper so to speak.
Everything you said. In addition I think the thing with being young, besides it being shaped in our culture that younger is supposedly more desirable, is that young guys "generally" look better as far as body, great face/skin, full head of hair, etc. But to me I have always said the golden ticket is the older guy who still have the looks and sex appeal of the young guy! His sex game is on point because that shit is seasoned and he also knows how to fuck you mentally because again, life experience. Not to mention maturity, open communication, etc. Not shittin on young dudes, they have their good attributes as well. I just think gay culture is finally (not all the way) re-thinking and realizing that "over the hill" age thing as bullshit.
Yo listen, these married men are out here FUCKING, you hear me!! Ever since I’ve “jumped off the porch” ( 3years ago) I’ve ran into a few of them! It’s crazy bc, at one point, it seemed like that’s all who would come at me. I thought it had something to do with my preference, you know being into Older, Lowkey, masculine guys... not it at all! Lol I’ve had to let a few of them know that I’m not into that shit. To me, cheating is mad selfish regardless of the the sex. Why get married when you know damn well u still want to do a little venturing? C’mon son...
I read this blog from the first post to the most current, took me about 3 days lol, and I was at first put off by his use of derogatory words towards Gay dudes. However, the following post just showed that homeboy was just fighting his own internal demons and would soon accept his sexuality. It just goes to show that some folks eventually get there, while for others its a life time or even till death struggle. Kudos to him.
