Naked in the Men’s Locker Room

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    I recently read a two articles on the subject of nudity in men’s locker rooms. The NY Times posting talked about how architects’ designs are changing to fit needs for privacy in male locker rooms. The reaction post from Slate was critical of adult men being afraid of their bodies based upon insecurities. Both articles related this to a millennial complex due to after gym shower time in school locker rooms becoming non-existent in the 1990s. I personally feel it’s healthy from a stand point of curious natural (non-sexual) sexuality for men to want to or be able to view other men nude. Even though I felt the title of the Slate article was horse shit (If You Are Not Comfortable Being Naked Around Other People, You Are Not an Adult), I wasn’t in complete disagreement with its sentiments. Nonetheless I thought about my own past experiences and found two elephants in the room that weren’t examined in either.

    Years ago at my local Bally’s gym when I had a nice muscular body (as folks from the hood would say, I was a straight up “dime piece”), I was completely nude at my locker having just gotten out of the shower. Out of no-where a co-worker pops up to discuss working out. We chatted as I went about my business of getting dressed. That Monday at work, mysteriously it seemed like many of my gay subordinates needed extra attention doing their jobs. At the end of the day, my gay manager told me “So-n-so said he seen you in the gym this weekend. He said you have a beautiful body.” Sigh…these are some of the hazards of living in a “gay mecca” like Atlanta, GA and working in a large call center. While I appreciated the nod to my hard work in the gym…what about my privacy that was now erased and of all places, at my place of employment?

    Fast forward a couple of years while interjecting my continuous love affair with porn; there are thousands of amateur porn clips on the web featuring “hidden” or “spy” videos of unsuspecting men in locker rooms and saunas. I get real nervous when I see an unattended large gym bag particularly positioned on a locker room bench or counter. I feel like in this technologically advanced age, I would be a fool not to be suspicious of a possible video recording device located in a strategically placed in a gym.

    I wholeheartedly understand the observation of millennial shame and insecurity as it relates to personal nudity; even though I don’t fall into that generation, I’m still a product of my own men’s locker room experiences. So if the day returns and I decide to shower in a gym locker room, I will dance the dance of keeping my towel on while shimmying and pulling up my underwear underneath.

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    I think millennial shame and insecurity around body image and locker room nudity is a sign of how wimpy and sissified many young men have become. Having had to use a community shower in college and then the armed forces I quickly got over any hang ups about being around naked men or being naked in presence of other men. We all have the same physical arrangement it's not a big deal.
     
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    I don't have a problem with brief communal nudity. I don't really get extended nudity. Like, shaving at the locker room buck ass naked comes off as you want people to see you. Wrapped in a towel from the shower stall and walking to your locker and hanging up the towel to put on underwear is understandable. We're talking just a few seconds of nudity here. I usually start putting my underwear on while the towel is wrapped around but I'm not going to be doing a shimmy trying to keep the towel wrapped to avoid someone seeing my butt for a split second. It's not that serious for me.

    I can understand after that experience at the work place would make me uneas
    @ockydub . I have half a mind to think your coworker was waiting for you to get out to see what you were working with and couldn't wait to report back.

    The technology issue is a concern. HD cams are going to get smaller and smaller any considering that a lot of the lockeroom footage I have seen was done on video tape you can imagine that it's a lot easier now that we are on solid state.
     
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    I think Paul Cadmus had the first word here and the final one as well.
     
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    Those illustrations are hilarious especially the last one LOL!
     
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    It always be the ones that don't need to be naked at my gym. Old flabby folks.
     
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    I don't understand why any of it matters. If you're cool with being naked, wonderful, if you're not, that's cool too. I don't necessarily believe it has to exclusively deal with self-esteem either. I am an only child raised by a single mother, so always had to be clothed and didn't have much privacy growing up. I'm not necessarily ashamed of my by body, but I don't even walk around my own house naked or barefoot. Being naked for prolonged periods of time just feels weird to me. I can't even sleep naked, but that's more because I sleep wildly lol.
     
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    Your make a good point about how people are raised differently and have different attitudes about nudity or at least being undressed. I was raised by a single mother with a sister so my home environment was mostly female. I was expected to be dressed when not asleep and wore pajamas to bed. Once I got out of that environment, in a college dorm I was around people who wasn't raised that way. But quickly adapted to my surroundings. That's why there were no issues at all being in a barracks with 29 other dudes who were naked or in various states of undress. You could easily tell who either played sports, lived in a dorm, and we're comfortable with nudity and who wasn't. In basic training we would often air dry so we didn't have to refold our towls which would increase the chances of failing a locker inspection. Deployments were the similar since there was reduced privacy and community showers. When living alone in I often sat around the house in my underwear. Now that I live with another man I rarely get full dressed unless I have to.
     
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    Yea, and even in college, when I lived in the dorms my dorm was town-home style and each floor, with 4 rooms per floor, shared a bathroom. There was only one shower, I still didn't have to shower around other dudes. I'm not uncomfortable with someone else's nudity, like in a locker room or something, I'm just not gonna be fully naked for very long. I'll walk around in my drawls any and all the time though lol.
     
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    I think that it's ok to be nude in a setting like a locker room or community bathroom, as long as you are respectful of other people's space and being, regardless of your level of comfortability. If your being violated, then there's a problem. However, if you are so insecure to the point that if someone stares at you even with a quick glance, a setting where nudity comes with the territory, do not enter. You can't go into a locker room and a community bathroom and not expect to be nude or see someone being nude.
     
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    I think this unfairly targets millennials and connects issues of body image to something that is really non-existent. I am a millennial and growing up we had showers in the locker room but the experience was private. You showered in a stall and went to your locker to change. It wasn't until I joined the military that I actually experienced being naked and showering with other men in a non-sexual context. Even the community showers in my college was partitioned. People saw you naked and moved on, I don't necessarily think we need to be having a full conversations about our weekend while I am standing there dripping wet. I don't think the lack of nudity is because people are shameful or worried about being naked or have body image issues but more about the sense that people covet privacy these days.
     
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    Ever since a huge 6' 3"+ man followed me to the showers and peeked inside my stall I have not gotten naked. As SOON as I walked out he was standing there with a full hard-on. Don't get me wrong! I love a nice naked body and appreciate a man's mini, but not at the gym. I LOVE my body and the progression I have made over the years, but some things I just won't expose anymore. Plus, I like to tease. Stare at me all you want. Glare at my silhouette. Come hold a convo, I don't care. But I won't be getting nude.
     
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    I grew up a single kid with a single mom. I was TERRIFIED that I was gonna have to shower in high school, wouldn't take my shirt off to get in the pool, etc etc. But I think a combination of military and being on my own kinda got me out of that space. Nowadays (for the most part) I have no problem what-so-ever being nude around other dudes. My level of overall comfort fluctuates depending on my body status, but thats a totally personal thing because the truth of the matter is the average dude in a locker room is not paying any attention to any other dudes. Now, I am very cautious because of technology and how muhf@#kaz LOVE to record sh!t and post it online, but I dont really let it bother me too much. If I get recorded then oh well, I'll just be another set of d@#k and balls floppin' around on PornHub. smh
     
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    The only issues I have with nudity is either I don't want others to see me because my body isn't really at the level I would like it to be. Secondly when I see a good looking dude even half way naked I have thoughts. Thoughts I can not control, and I don't want to accidentally say damn or you sexy thang you out loud! LOL
     
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    Haha this is so true. I remember a few years back when I worked for a summer camp we went to a local pool and I had to wrangle 10-12 little boys (on my own) through the process of changing and showering for the pool. So after running around getting them all in line, in strolls in this ooold wrinkly white dude with a towel around his waist and I'm in my head thinking "Oh God please no! Please wait til I at least get these kids out of here..." Nope. Just whips the towel off right in front of them with absolutely zero fukks given about who see what. I quickly ushered the kids out of the locker room trying desperately to distract them, the youngest ones being about 5 or so. I don't really care about nudity in places where its appropriate but...nobody is trying to see all of that...growing up I had alot of anxiety about changing for gym because of the body image thing, but main because of what Desh92 said about seeing guys undress and raging hormones, urges and whatnot. lol
     
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    The bit question is what are we afraid of. So, we all have different body types... different looks.. and different things we're insecure about.. I'm working to get over my insecurities regardless of the state of my body. I'm not in a locker room to give a show.. just shower change, and be out. We also have to stop slamming folks who don't have six packs.. folks who have bellies or rolls with comments like " they don't need to be naked" or "flabby". Mindsets and comments like these are the ones that breed insecurities about our self image.
     
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    This was me when I was in college. I was seeing dudes naked on the regular for the first time and I had to avoid communal showers. Just the sight was too much for me to handle. I had to take quick showers or hurry up and finish if someone came in when I was showering. Insterections.


    Exactly. I think because people are quick to point out 'flaws' that many of us are insecure about things we shouldn't have to be.... Ass flat. Ass too big. Stomach too round. Doesn't have a V line. Has 4 packs instead of a 6 pack. Uncut. A lot of back hair. Less than average sized wang. Gynecomastia. Back curvature etc. If people are spending so much time looking for these things, they are in the locker room for the wrong reasons.

    Not everyone in the gym and therefore, locker room is a fitness model. Likely, if you are in the locker room you've done something outside of it to work on something you want to change. I'm not saying people need to be blatantly naked for extended periods of time, but I do think people need to be less ashamed. If one thinks that being nude is a disrespectful thing or they just don't want strangers to see them naked, that's reasonable but not being comfortable because someone is pointing fingers is a different.
     
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    I love looking at nude black men in my gym. I go just for that, the finest black men in the city go to my gym and it's just makes my day to see them dripping wet out the shower all fresh and sexy .... and my gym is frequented by Dallas Cowboy players and DI college athletes so you know big asses, dicks, and bodies everywhere. The only issue I have is trying to avoid the eye sores that are the unattractive white men who are rampant there.
     
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    :sucka::snoop:

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    Pretty much, bro. Got a muhf@ka over here like...
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    LMAO. At least he's being honest, if disturbing, I guess? I'm sure there are others out there who consider that a perk of going to the gym or pool, though they may not freely admit it to the world. Hopefully that's not the primary purpose of their memberships.
     
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    I don't think admitting it makes it any better.
     
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    Eh, in all honesty, there's nothing wrong with {briefly} admiring one's physique. It just gets creepy and off putting when that admiring glance becomes a full out, creepy, thirsty stare, and your membership to said gym becomes nothing more than a membership to a "bathhouse". I remember when I used to go to this Ballys gym here in the city, there were mad times I was coming out of the shower and getting dressed in front of my locker and this one dude I would see come in in his work clothes, strip down and go straight to the shower area. I kiiiiiinda gave him the benefit of the doubt because I many times shower before I go to the gym (I don't like to smell bad/ musty) but since I was going right after work in those days I didn't have to (I have a desk job and I shower before work). I just kinda figure tho, dude, you been doin this routine now for almost a year and you still got the same funny shaped body, so obviously he wasn't doin anything more than being a "Shower Troll". Anyways, bottom line is its kool to admire, just don't be a creep about it and don't let that be the ONLY reason you're at the gym. ESPECIALLY if you yourself are not of, or close to, the caliber of those that you're ogling. LOL
     
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    Exactly. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with liking to see nude men because... Duh! Lol

    Nudity is going to happen in changing areas and I think we all appreciate an occasional flash or quick glance at someone we think is attractive but I don't think the majority of people want to be ogled.

    If you are not working out and just like nudity, there's bathhouses for that.
     
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    I use to work at a gym and I would always see guys looking at others undress. At first I thought it was no big deal until the day I was having a conversation with a guy in the locker room. As he was leaving the locker room he saw me take off my pants then he came back into the locker room just to make small talk with me while I was changing.It felt kind of awkward but I dismissed it because he was a cool guy... I have many stories about this subject but I will share some stories some other time.
     
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    PERSONALLY, I PREFER A GOOD MUSCLEMAN FRIENDLY GYM {THEY ARE NOT JUST GAY GYMS EITHER }. THOSE STRONG GUYS WALK AROUND IN THE LOCKER/SHOWER AREA IN THE NUDE AND/OR DON'T CARE IF OTHER GUYS DO THE SAME. USUALLY IT'S STUPID STRAIGHT SNITCHES AND/OR SOME TRYING-TO-BE-IN-THE-CLOSET-GAY-GUY WHO THINKS HE IS BETTER BECAUSE HE HAS A NICE PASS-FOR-STRAIGHT-MUSCLE-BODY WHO THINKS SPEAKING AGAINST NUDITY IN THE LOCKER ROOM IS A GOOD THING. BELEIVE IT OR NOT STRAIGHT AND GAY MEN CAN AND DO GET STUPID IN THE LOCKER ROOM BY OVER REACTING TO NUDITY. - STRAIGHT MEN TEND TO OVER-REACT TO SISSY MEN IN THE LOCKER ROOM - SOME GAY MEN TEND TO LET THE WORST OF THEIR INTER-SISSY CAUSE THEM TO BECOME NON EXCEPTING OF THE WORD NO TO THEIR FORCEFUL ADVANCES. OVERALL I THINK IF YOU JUST RESPECT THE NEXT GUYS SPACE THEN WE ALL CAN GET ALONG. [ BUT THAT IS JUST ME ]
     
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