Bro...this is your life. You shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't value your life the way you do.
Getting tested should never be an argument.
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Getting tested for HIV and STDs should not be this difficult. It should be very important to a person. Any body that's reluctant to do it is mad suspect; huge red flag.
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If I was wearing my white coat, and you were sitting in the chair across from me as my patient, I would say, "I'm very concerned about you and this relationship. Firstly, you need to consider starting PrEP ASAP to protect yourself from HIV and get tested for all other STIs. After all, this is your health- you can take control of it. Also...this dude sounds like bad news. [insert very serious doctor side eye]"
But since you're not my patient, and this is the interwebs, imma say, "GET THE FUCK OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP!!!!!! RUN. DON'T WALK. RUN. RUN GOD-DAMMIT RUN."
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"I hadn’t been with anyone else, where as he made it clear that he had been with many individuals, but always had safe sex."
Please forgive curtness as I've been watching a lot of Judge Judy lately...but is he the only dick or ass left on the planet?
-It could be dude has had unprotected sex and is afraid to get tested because he is afraid of the results.
-Great, condoms protect you from HIV but you said you're paranoid about STI's so does that mean yall still do oral with no known test results for hepatitis, herpes, etc?
If somebody else created this thread, what would you tell them? You not having sex with him means nothing because you already know he is with other dudes, so his needs will get fulfilled.
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Another friend of mine was in a similar situation to your own and put a lot of trust in the partner. He did not trust his intuition and ended up HIV +. This is not to scare you but thank God your outcome was in your favor. I just want you to know @Desh92 that most new cases of HIV do arise from black gay/bi men in relationships.
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It's very concerning that if he's not getting his way on this issue (which is a very important issue) then how is he going to treat you in the long-term?
I understand it from both sides but I don't play about my health. I'd rather be single for the rest of my days than to be with someone who isn't taking my life seriously - more fish in the sea, etc
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