Just seems like to me that the other guy is showing what type of person he is and what his needs are from the start. Especially his level of excitement. It appears that the feelings and personality types aren't mutual.
Being self employed, I literally work everyday, but if I met a dude who I was really digging and was digging me so much that he wanted hang out every evening or call/text me...That would be cool with me. The key thing is, if I were digging him too.
If I was busy one evening, I would say that. If I wanted a night to chill to myself, I would say that. Not really sure what the problem here is unless the other guy is stalking him or showing up at his door unannounced on a daily basis.
Maybe I've dated so many guys who were on the far opposite end of clingy (getting them to meet up in person or return a text is like pulling teeth) that now I welcome a person showing extreme interest, LOL.
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Update: I pretty much ended it yesterday. It was starting to be waay too much. It ended with him asking what can he do to make it work in a way that I need. Honestly, I just need complete space. Great guy and would be amazing if I was in that head space but I have way too much going on in my life at the moment.
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If you like the dude, I think you need to be straight up with him. There's nothing wrong with setting up expectations. It's okay telling him straight up that you have things to do during the day, so at most, he can probably get a 30 minute phone call at the end of the day. And if not that, maybe every other day. If he's mature enough, he'll understand and roll with it. But if he doesn't like the setup, then you're probably better off without him.
Now, if you're really not feeling the clinginess and don't want to be with dude, you gotta be honest about that too. Dude has all the butterflies right now and he'll think everything's perfect unless you tell him otherwise.Caliblk, lilreddude, Sean and 1 other person dapped this.