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  1. callie_bear_3

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    I got my brother when I was 10. Now that I'm 20 honestly he's my first born. No offense to my mom she's my angel but she's single parent and I've only ever known her to work or be sick, so a lot was left on me. I don't know how she even raised me by herself. Albeit I was a morning-afternoon care then latch-key kid. But fuck I've had to cover house expenses for months at a time between financial aid and my job, and then figure out how to synchronize drop off pick up for my brother at the same time with my work and school schedule--that shits a bitch. Now my brother's almost in middle school and I'm trying to figure out how to help pay for his sports league fees and tutoring to get him ready for high school. It's a lot, even with 1.5 incomes in the house (mine is obviously the half). And I don't know how my mom managed all of those things for me as a kid. So it just makes me want to ensure he gets the same opportunities I did. Makes me want to wait until he's in college for me to take any more attention away from him. And definitely makes me apprehensive about raising a kid. So I already understand the logistical anxieties towards children and the worry if your partner might become overwhelmed or resentful. Yet I am a little relieved having a child is a choice per say for me and not a risk.
     
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    Everyone's talking about how their good just being the gay uncle and as an only child I'm over here like:

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    "W-what about me? Hm? W-who's kids am I going to slick raise?!"
     
  3. acessential

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    Definitely want kids. I have the paternal gene. I sometimes imagine what my future children will be like. My little daddy's girl, my little man, or some combination. I would like biological children, but I don't mind adoption and would love them all the same. I'm still young, so I'm not in a rush. Raising kids with a partner would be nice, but it's not required. I wouldn't mind being a single dad if I could handle it.
     
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    There's a enough kids in my life,and I like having a disposable income.
     
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    Both my brother and sister have kids so I try to be the cool uncle...it def takes pressure off with the parents and rest of the extended family.
     
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am on the border when it comes to kids. I think I like the idea of kids but at the same time I like the idea of not having kids. This continues to be a source of conversation for me and my husband. I have been in the solidly no category and he has been in the solidly yes category. It also doesn't help that he is a social worker by profession. In many ways we are blessed with 5 nieces and nephews that bring us much joy and at the end of the day we can send them packing to their perspective parents.

    If we ever did decide to become parents I think we would definitely go the adoption route...other alternative methods are increasingly expensive, and even adoption is expensive. But there is always time. Right now at age 29 (me) and 32 (my husband) we are perfectly fine with our German Shepherd and hanging out from time to time with our nieces and nephews. But I don't know what the future may hold, as of right now, the thought of a kid/kids is not registering on my radar.



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  7. Cyrus-Brooks

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    From everything I've read about gay men who become parents they actually tend to be good fathers. Which makes sense because if you are a homosexual man you have to consciously make effort to become dad unlike heterosexual men who can become fathers "by accident." All it takes for them is to have sex with a woman raw or to have a wardrobe malfunction with the condom.

    Sometimes I do think about what it would be like to have kids I just can't see myself as a dad. Once I accepted being gay the whole notion of wife, kids, and living in a nuclear family was dead and buried. I'm content to be the cool uncle for my nephew.
     
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    No. After spending brief amounts of time watching younger relatives. I don't think I'm cut out for it. They're cute in small doses, sometimes. Like @SB3, I once imagined having kids when I had the American Dream of a beautiful wife, a couple of rugrats, and a lovely suburban house, but that dream died a long time ago when I realized I didn't particularly like the ideas of marriage, children, or the suburbs. The only way I'd likely have a child would be if I were extremely financially stable and felt that I could positively change an older child's life by taking them in, but it would still be a tough decision.
     
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    Yeah I'm good on the kids. Whenever one of my sisters has kids, then I think I'll be happy with nieces and nephews. Or maybe I'll just get a dog. tumblr_inline_nefsiyRBZ51qehyjr.gif
     
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