Are You a "Gold Star" Gay?

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  1. No.

  2. Yes, but only oral. I identify as gay.

  3. Yes, full vaginal intercourse. I identify as gay.

  4. Yes, full vaginal and anal intercourse. I identify as gay.

  5. I'm bisexual.

  6. Yes. I identify as straight.

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  1. Dante

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    Then saying you are gay makes no sense, especially if you "don't get into labels" (hence saying you are gay). You shouldn't even say you are gay (or identify being gay) if you are sexually/physically attracted to the opposite gender. It defeats the purpose. Forgot a Kinsey scale, you just need to be honest, because not being honest, especially with defining yourself and not getting into labels can cause confusion. And forget about the "physical act" of having sex with anybody (male or female). Nobody has time for that. And it's not going to stop or make you exempt from the phobia against anyone who is sexually and physically attracted to the same gender. At the end of the day, adjectives exist and some of them (like sexuality) defines us. Don't act like that they don't exist or use them to justify the agenda of their being no sexuality.
     
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    Well they are all complicated with different components and stuff.I imagine you need a schematic to get anything done with them.
     
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    Hold up, who doesnt know what this quote refers to???? Lmao.

    I was not describing my own experience

    @ControlledXaos n @@DreG @JNH412 we were just talkin about this the other night!!! Smh
     
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    Yes @SB3 There should have been way more recognition for that one. Lol

    Interesting discuss guys. I honestly wasn't expecting the poll results to be as even as they are but that's good.

    While I always felt attracted to men, the scientists in me had to do controls so... I have had paaaaarts before. But ticking the box over to same sex and I haven't looked back.

    Side note.... As @Nick Delmacy kinda mentioned, tiddies are interesting.
     
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    Oh aight, cus I was abt to be like, was I imagining this? Lol
     
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    Hmmm, well, with sexuality, for example, I see the labels gay straight and bisexual (or just asexual) are terms that define varying levels of sexuality.

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    So, this is the Kinsey Scale. Some individuals see themselves fixed on a single category. Others feel that their sexuality is dynamic... and shifted throughout their lived. This is not an indication of how in individual lives their life. There are plenty of individuals who define themselves as gay who still find women attractive, just like there are plenty of men who define themselves as straight who still find men attractive. For example there are men who are actually gay, but are married, have never been with a man, and may never be with a man.

    This is how I believe most people live.. the pick a label at either end and commit to it...at least publicly, either by choice or because of external pressures.
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    In a sense, I feel like society makes you label yourself. When I tell people I'm bisexual, they go the whole "you are confused" route. It's almost to the point where I'm just going to start telling people in gay, because it skips all the bs. If I was a female, or maybe a white guy, my sexuality wouldn't be the defining factor of how society sees me.
     
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    True. People still can't understand that a person can be sexually/physically attracted to the same gender. It's even more crazy for people to understand that you can be sexually/physically attracted to both gender. I say, be confident and honest about being bisexual to any man and woman you deal with. Don't try to fake it or come up with a way to camoflauge it. There are some straight women and gay men (along with bisexual men and women) that have no issues with it. If that man or woman can't accept it, just say "Thank you" and keep it moving.
     
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    I get it. I wasn't trying to be in attack mode with the other responses. I do apologize. I understand the Kinsey Scale and what it represents. My thing is that if you are sexually/physically attracted to both genders, even in the 1-2-4-5 area, you may not be 3, but indeed you are indeed bisexual by a respectful percentage.

    From experience, I just come from an angle of being honest directly. I've seen guys along the spectrum of 1-2-4-5 play relational games with both straight women and gay men at any given time, even with me and it not just being the DL men who are living heterosexual lives and are choosing to suppress and not act on being gay or bisexual. For me, just tell me that you are attracted to men and women, if you are indeed so. I can even respect not identifying with the term bisexual. But nonetheless, just be honest. IJS

    I got you though. LUV
     
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    No offense what so ever. Just putting informaton out there.. not just for the purpose of our conversation, but for others to see also. This is a great dialog, bruh!
     
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    Welcome to A'murrica!
     
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    Nah Fam, I ain't with that hetero stuff. Fuck outta here! Why would you ask me some type of shit like that, are you crazy? :childplease:

    *Probably sucked a titty or two*
     
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    Being apart of a Frat in college, it's a prerequisite to "f*ck dem hoes".... LOL (not trying to disrespect women, just using the ignorant terminology used in college).

    So I did, and to be honest, it was hot as hell. Sex in general is hot to me. It can be great with a woman and amazing with a man. No sex trumps the other in a hot hook up. IMO. What it boils down to for me is not only whom you have great sex with, but who would you like to be with. I can still to this day get it up for a woman and f*ck the sh!t outta her. I dont. But I wouldnt have no trouble doing it. I like sex.

    I always knew I was gay, so I like to say "I experimented in college". I my experimenting was Hetero-sexually. But once I started having sex with men, I stopped with women. Too much drama and not fair to either person IMO.

    But yeah, I guess No Gold star here. (wipes tears then makes a sandmawich)
     
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    Great story. Yup. You proved that the "physical act" of having sex and your sexuality are two different things.
     
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    I guess I would classify myself as a "GOLD STAR GAY" being that I've never had sex with a female but I wouldn't say it makes me any better than a gay man who has.
     
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    I'm not a goldstar gay but I wish I was because having sex with females did absolutely nothing for me.
     
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    I had sex with a woman one time. It wasn't bad either. Before I had sex with her I thought I was a strict bottom, but that experience changed my perspective and I tried topping some after that. Needless to say, now I am fully versatile. To me sex is sex and when I want something, I'll go after it...
     
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    No, Ive never had sex with a woman. I fight with swords.

    Im attracted to women, just not vaginas.
     
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    ATTENTION - all the Gold Star Gs...

    Diamond and Silk just received another Trump check and wants you to know there's a meeting in their bedroom - don't be late!

    [​IMG]

    The drinks are complimentary ;)
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    Here is a handy tool I learnt to avoid any confusion: your sexual preference is what you like...this is your inner most desires...it's not scripted, it's the real you. The other two you can disguise. They are your sexual behaviour and sexual identity. Sexual behaviour is sexual history and sexual identity is how YOU choose to identify yourself. Again the first one is the real deal. But maybe if it's too taboo or depending on your circumstances you might never realize it sexually. For example you might be exclusively into guys but have an exclusively female body count and identify as straight even though that's not what you are really into.
     
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    Gold Star Gay. I've always, and still do find women attractive. Growing up, I've always fantasized about having a wife and 2 kids. I dated my first GF when I was a freshman(02-03) in HS. She wanted to have sex, but I was not ready at that particular set and time. It could have been a dude, and I still would have felt the same way. All for nothing but a week later she broke up with me. At that time I have heavily in school work, and any form of music/band had my full attention,so my mind was galaxies away from the thought of having sex let alone with a guy. It wasnt till my junior in HS when I found myself in my 2nd relationship. This time it was a dude, but even after a year I still was not ready for sex. I still had those childhood fantasies lingering around that may have played a part, or simply because I wasn't comfortable who I really was- Gold Star Gay lmao. I have a habit of feeling that I have to explain more than I should than give a simple answer. Lol forgive my lengthy post.
     
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    Your response was hot lmao
     
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    You can label me with a scarlet V, I'm definitely damaged "Gold Star" goods.

    I was straight as an arrow, married, dutifully fucked the wife every night. I was also repressed with self denial at that time in my life ...I guess it sounds crazy now but I kept my gay locked and pinned down like a terrible childhood memory. Finally. something inside just broke and I just couldn't do it her or me anymore, so we got a divorce. About six months later, but it like it was yesterday, I lost my friends in Mardi Gras Bourbon Street crowds, and slipped into a gay bar....just to see..... well I finally really saw...and I have never looked back.
     
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    Infactuation or Sexual Attraction?

    Regardless of gender, you can find someone good looking or attractive. It doesn't mean that it is sexual.
     
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    Really, I've never heard "gold star gay." In my experience, particularly with masculine gay men they seem to think they're better than gays who've never had sex with female. Bisexual dudes in my experience tend to look down their nose at gay men. That said I got a blow job from a girl when I was 18. But I only did it because back then I felt like I had something to prove. Wasn't really into it. Haven't been with a female sexually since then. I'm 41 now. Women just don't do it for me. That's something I've known ever since I was but, it took me to my mid 20s to come to terms with that.
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