Black Gays Just Won't Let This Man Live, Will They?

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    1. Let this man live. Derrick Gordon came Out while playing basketball in the NCAA over 2 years ago. Since then, he's been ghost. Just been settled in San Francisco living his best life with his older White boyfriend. Yet he still has randoms asking him about dating men of color.

    2. He's already in a relationship, dummy. Why would he entertain questions about dating other men (of any race) when he's seemingly happy with the dude he has now? Why do Black women and Gay Black Men seem so pressed about who someone else is fucking? In every office I've worked in, the Black women and gay Black men are the biggest office-gossips on this subject. Is it because they are lonely themselves and wish the (distant) object of their affection was with someone who kinda looks like them so they will feel they have a slim shot? Even if he only dated Black men, that doesn't mean he would be into you.

    3. He might not be the catch you think he is. Just because Derrick is young, cute, intelligent and has a nice body, that doesn't mean he's perfect. None of us know if, behind closed doors, Derrick is a handful of personality quirks that make dating him difficult. I've had my fair share of head shaking moments while dating men nearly 10 years younger than me, so I can just imagine what his BF may be dealing with. Just speculation, but the point is, we don't know Derrick Gordon on that level. For all we know, him dating white men could be saving brothas a lot of headaches.

    4. Just be happy for him. As much as gay men complain about the dating game, everyone should be happy for anyone successfully throwing up points on the board. If you like Black men, go get yourself one. There are plenty available in Atlanta, D.C., NYC and Dallas/Houston. There are Black gay men all over the place, actually. No need to give a guy dating a non-Black man grief because you can't find what he's already found ages ago.
     
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    I say if that man is happy with his Silver White Daddy of America let him have it.
     
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    I think it takes a certain level of maturity to not give a fk about whom someone else is fkn. To be totally honest, I had forgotten all about this dude until this post LOL! I agree with @Nick Delmacy in his assertion that a lot of the times when black women and black, (mainly) effeminate gay men always seem to be concerned with any and every OTHER black person's love life, its due to the lack of having their OWN love life (or the existence of an unhappy one). Also agree that most times mufkaz is in they feelins because they want to think that if said person will fk wit someone that "looks like" them, that either THAT person OR other folk will possibly fk wit them too. Not all the time is it the person that's out of reach. Sometimes its a needed validation that ANYONE would be interested in them, just that that low self esteem and lack of anyone in their life causes a projection and subsequent bitterness. I know this very well 'cause I spent many years in that dirty well 'til I pulled my self out of it, shook myself the fk off, and moved on wit my life.
     
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    I think one of the main problems here is narcissism. A lot of dudes are so inflated that they think just because the white guy is old and white they can get them as well. These are men that do everything based off looks anyways.

    I honestly forgot about this kid anyway. This would have never been a problem if he was an older and not so attractive in shape black man.

    I don't be checking for no white men...You know how I like my meat...and ice cream... Chocolate...but I've seen some cute white guys before.

    Anyways, I mean people are going to ask regardless either way ago because they are nosy and full of drama.

    Speaking of nosy...there sex life is probably weird..haha
     
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    I think what it is is that there aren't enough black men for the black women/gay black men. And the ones that are sound tend to prefer the ones who are lighter. Not gonna lie but I do feel at times if you'd out a black and white woman or gay man who have a similar easy going, umproblematic, bubbly personality, I still feel as if they may go for the lighter complexion. I've noticed a lot of black women/gay black men who don't fit the stereotypical gossiping, nagging, problematic types are still single but yet you'd think they deserve a love they could call their own which is a black men. This maybe controversial, but I believe in colorism.
     
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    People need to spend more time being focused on their own relationships, or the lack thereof. If the silver Caucasian fox does it for him, then good for him!
     
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