I agree with @Ockydub , this text dating needs to come to an end real soon. What would happen if there was no dating sites, hookup apps etc. for 6 months. How would black gay men date or interact without any digital assistance? If I were honest, I would say black gay men are lazy daters. You have the homebodys who won't get out of the house to meet anybody and then you have the "only hosting" guys who won't even leave their house for a hookup much less an actual date. We just plain ole fashioned lazy as hell and unwilling to put forth any effort to get to know anyone. Throw on top of that the whole bottom, verse and top dynamic and it's easy to see why so many of us can't find a man.