Dating During A Pandemic

Dating, for me, is not a high priority at this time. I am managing work and other personal responsibilities are taking the lead in my life. I think physically going out dating, especially now, is socially irresponsible and selfish. I am not a stick in the mud and encourage getting to know someone virtually if it's worth your time and most importantly boredom shouldn't be the motivation. There are other options to make productive use of your time like organizing projects around the house, learn a new skill or language, and reading more books. If I had the time like that I would.

 

I'm not worried about dating...I'd like some consistent dick though...wait, I mean...I would like to travel and go see different cities as a tourist and enjoy nature. I am frankly sick and tired of COVID-19 doing the most. You can't do anything, everyone online is automatically a medical doctor with years of experience, and they are padding people up like lab rats ready to be injected with some vaccine that will most likely make those who take it turn into hybrids right out of I Am Legend.

In any case, I've just been chilling..Flights all cancelled, speedos and flip flops dry, but I was never that social to begin with and all the more distant, especially if you ain't talking about nothing intellectual.

However, I've been seeing references that the hoes are out and about...like never before as soon as they got confirmation the social distancing would be lifted...

My idea if a good date is a movie at home, or what not. Though, I've never been the one to go on dates because to me it's just like hanging out....I mean I like nature type stuff so going to the movies and what not bores me. I like being on the stars and speculating or having convos about why some humans are dumber than animals.

 

I momentarily ghosted this guy for like a week and half. Finally hit him back yesterday. He felt it was weird how I told him I needed space from people. He said that now is probably the perfect time to get to know someone...

...while that might seem true on paper, the reality is that we are actually more connected than ever both through personal calls/text messaging/video chat and social media. Because the vast majority of people aren't super busy anymore, you're either on the side of being very bored and wanting to talk to anyone OR you're trying to hide from everyone because your social meter has run low.

I oscillate between both and I think my social battery has recharged lol.

Also, it's just not that much to talk about right now. After you've gotten over the initial excitement of telling each other about yourselves, it becomes, "so what you got going on today" lol.

It's a strange paradox and I'd be interested to see if anyone else's experience has been much different.

 

Dude...I love this response. Personally, all this Social Distancing madness is par for the course for me. I haven't "dated" anyone in years, and havent had the interest in meeting anyone for a hot fkn minute. Im taking this extra time I have while on furlough and working on art projects, home aesthetic projects, and just taking a well deserved rest and bankin' money. LOL. It's amusing to me tho, to see people that are self proclaimed "introverts" and "dont care what people think" and "always role alone" losin they fkn minds because they cant go out, doin' the most in SM for attention, and goin' thru it 'cause they ain't fkn. LMAO

 

^^ They could be ambiverts like myself, though I tend to have a good balance with my off and on switch depending on the situation.

 

Isn't this just being a "regular" person, tho? Extro/ Introvert by definition indicates being at the extreme of social/anti-social behavior/tendencies. "Ambivert" would indicate being in the middle of or swinging between the two, in other words...normal. LOL

 

I've been dating myself during this time.

 

Omniverts then possibly? Or maybe they just are just bipolar, ortor maybe the clout chasers or Narcs disguised as introverts. I have a friend who is into the introvert/extrovert thing (heahe ain't no professional)who makes it seem as if Ambs are not as common as folks think. I'm guessing he read about it somewhere or something.

 

i actually go into work more now than pre-Rona because i enjoy being there alone. my work schedule is about the same. sometimes more, sometimes less than normal.

i def plan to fuck much when things open up. no pun. so i'm app chattin' and thangs and cultivating situationships lol but i'd hardly call any of it dating.

i'm also getting a lot done: learning a new language, researching for ideas and decorators to make over my entire apt, and organizing/ deep spring cleaning. i'm really enjoying this down time.

 

I met this amazing guy on an app. Art curator, insane vocabulary, masc., and after two weeks of chatting it was clear that he wanted to meet up in person, but I thought it was risky. Then he texts me about hating Atlanta because he got stood up on all of these sex dates he planned. I haven't replied since. I'm really praying that they create robots that I could then boyfriend up. A #Robotbae would fix everything.

 

I think that in trying to get to know someone is brave. You are trusting the try . In his sharing his disdain for getting stood up for hookups is very telling or he hadn't thought his interactions fully through with you. Sounds like his being what @Nick Delmacy calls a timefiller. Maybe you got what you needed with that guy.