Dating White in 2018

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  1. JodyBell87

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    This past weekend, I had my first date ever with a white man. It honestly happened out of nowhere:
    Pride weekend in NYC, I was at a party when I walked to the bar with friends to get a drink. A white man turned around at the bar and immediately began striking a convo with me and asked to buy me a drink. After a while we exchanged numbers which led to our eventual first date.
    The guy is nice, very accomplished, humorous, and aware of his white privilege. All of his friends are black and he seems to have a strong sense of what's going on in this county as far as the divide.
    For me, I'm torn. Great guy with all the qualities I look for in a man......except one: MELANIN!
    I love my black men. Always have, always will. I've always been pro-black. However, am I missing out on something great because I choose to stick with my race? I've often voiced and complained about how when black men get successful, they go and marry a white man. I feel like I'm being hypocritical simply by entertaining this man.

    Has anyone ever had this dilemma?
     
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    I say hold off on wedding plans, and live in the moment. See where it goes.
     
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    Stop over thinking it and enjoy his company.

    If Y'all get along and the convo is cool, and there's mutual attraction, just go with it.

    You
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    I think I agree with the others. I’ve also held that blacks for blacks mindset lol. But when you find someone that you vibe with so well and they seem like a genuinely good person, I’m all for exploring that.
     
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    I've never had that dilemma because I don't find white men attractive. I'm suspicious of white dudes as a general rule. From my observation most of them have some level of latent or overt racism no matter how nice or progressive they may appear on the surface. Gay white men are just as bad if not worse than straight white men. They seem to fall into 2 categories they're looking to fulfill their BBC fantasy or they wanna fulfill their plantation slave master fantasy. They just give me the heebie-jeebies. Don't be surprised if the N-word comes outta his mouth at some point.
     
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    I refuse to lay up with the white devil....
     
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    While I generally agree with @takeyourmeds91 and @Cyrus-Brooks i know a couple of bros married to white dudes who don’t forget their roots. That’s my personal preference as I hate being ‘the other’ when family etc are brought in to the mix.

    If you actually get along, don’t overthink it. Just don’t become one of those overcompensating negroes like Johnathan Capehart who becomes super black because they themselves are secretly ill at ease.
     
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    With this, I just wanna see one time, ONE.TIME. where the white person is the 'prize' in the scenario.
     
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    I accept the challenge lol
    Nick Denton & Derrence Washington

    Of course after the Hulk Hogan lawsuit won and subsequent bankruptcy, said script was flipped...
     
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    Lol. You know what I meant...
     
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    :umad:see i knew u was one of them elijah muhammad students after all lol haaa:franko1:
     
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    Just do what feels right. It's hard enough finding someone you click with. If he just happens to be white, don't let that stop you.

    But, be prepared for all the things that having a white partner entails. They may be cool with you, but have you met their friends and family? Do they do super white things? Do they just not "get" certain things. I personally don't go out of my way to date white men. Never actually dated one. Don't want to be another one of those sad white boy chasers. But, I wouldn't 100% close myself off. More like 98%. lol.
     
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    Well, okay. I'll be honest. I don't find White Americans attractive. I think quite a few of them are sneaky, and the women are even sneakier, while the non racist gay ones just fetisize Black men.

    I live Black men..and not just Black American men. I like dark Blatinos, Blasians of a darker shade as well, Native Indians and much more.

    Now I didn't say I found white people ugly or anything (I've seen some good looking ones too) but them MF's are crafty & deserve a close watching..(just like they watch you and your kind in an expensive store.) Not saying their aren't some sneaky blacks either...The white ones just have a documented track record
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    I'm just into chocolate. Seeing a chocolate man makes my mouth water. DeAngelo Jackson, Idris, Omar Epps Taye Diggs of black men..Lawd, give it to me good...I mean..

    Yeah, I like my chocolate menz.

    I do always wonder why the black athletes are usually attached to white parties.
     
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    Of course! Marriage is not even in the mindset for this situation yet. lol

     
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    I get it! I had that mentality for a while too. But I'm seeing something new from him.

    And the "N" word will never leave his mouth around me unless he wants some teeth to join that word as well.

     
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    That just made my mouth water too.

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    I'm just into chocolate. Seeing a chocolate man makes my mouth water. DeAngelo Jackson, Idris, Omar Epps Taye Diggs of black men..Lawd, give it to me good...I mean..
     
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    Yes, I can go down the list of chocolate men who make me fall to my knees & faint.

    Kofi Siriboe
    Jay Ellis
    Thomas Dominique
    Chadwick Boseman
    Mike Merrill
    Mahershala Ali
    Trevante Rhodes
    Nick Cannon
    Jay Ellis
    Venom (the ex pornstar, who still black and fine to this day)

    Pheonix Felling to (another chocolate pornstar who I've seen before with a gorgeous body.)

    Landon (pornstar for Sean Cody who does the white men. His body is up there with DeAngelo Jackson as being tight and compact.)

    I SWEAR Landon chocolate self is sooooo damn fine. That body is is a work of art. Sad he doesn't dive into black porn but either way he is so chocolate and so yummy and interesting to watch...I have to sit under the cool air when I see his picture... He has that this is my neighborhood or college boyfriend look that plays some kind of sport look. Cropped for Cypher safety...
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    and there are many more!!

    I could fill this post straight down. I've imagined any number of these men naked (or have seen their naked scenes) and constructed a plan to lick them & worship them like kings.

    I'm not completely against anything interracial and what not though, I just know where my eyes be drifting to personally. If there is a cute chocolate man in the large sea of people, 9 times out of 10 I've already spotted him and analyzed his stats up and down.

    Brad Pitt, Johnny Depp, Channing Tatum and several others are nice looking fair skinned men but when pitted against those others, my meal plan is chocolate all day, everyday in every single way.
     
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    Of course - they ain't never did shit for me but think they did something for me....
     
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    All right now bro Nuri. I bet u got a side part and all haah :Dlol
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    Dem niggas still around? Lol, this NEVER gets old
     
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    lmao this is immediately what I thought of when @mojoreece responded to me
     
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    In my opinion, just go with the flow and enjoy it. He stepped up to you, so he must have seen something in you that he likes. He meets all your requirements and standards, and I understand melanin is an important factor for you however no melaninated dude is knocking on your door now. A bird in hand, is worth two in the bush.
    Lets not forget as much as we want a black dude to love,
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    BLAAAAACK MEN A'INT SHIIIIIIIIIT!!!!!
     
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    For the rec I have never dated anyone white. If one is not attracted to white people or any other race than their own that's fine. But if you can have sex with someone of a different race then dating them shouldn't be a stretch.

    A lot of black people get caught up on their ideals but got cold beds. If you can pick and choose from a bunch of black guys then great but if no one else is knocking on your door ...
     
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    Lol damn that was a condemnation if ever there was one.

    To show I’m not “racist” here are three that always appealed to me

    Michael Stipe of REM circa 1982 - 1998 (except now he looks like the white version of my dad before he died)
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    Damn some of y'all sound just as bad as white ppl when they are describing their views on us. Not saying some of them don't fit or deserve the shade either. Me personally I wouldn't, if I was single, have hold ups about dating a particular race anymore, especially after realizing that there is a lot of things I'm interested in that a lot of black men aren't. I also feel like if I was to date someone outside my race I would prefer them to be at least aware of our cultural differences. Like I say with most things in life don't limit yourself because you might miss out on what your looking for.

    ps I tired of the "every famous black man ends up with a white counterpart" stuff. Its really old, I see black couples all over. I think CA even had a post celebrating black gay couples. The gag is (keke voice) half of the people complaining can't keep a black relationship, in other words be the change you want to see.
     
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    That's a false equivalency. I have no sympathy for white people. Culturally and on the world stage, they are considered the epitome of beauty. If a couple of black folks say they don't want to worship white dick and cooch, there will be plenty of other white folk worshippers of all ethnicities to pick up the slack.
     
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    I think @Jai hit the nail on the head most white people are sneaky and two faced. Not to say black people are never like that but white people are on some next level shit with that. I don't trust them. @Jai also made a valid point about whites and fetishization of black men str8 white women and especially gay white men are the fucking worst. When I was teenager one my uncles used to often say, "white boys are such scumbags." Back then I didn't really get it. The older I get the more I see he was right. From my view very few of them are actually righteous. When I was younger and more naive interracial relationships didn't really bother me. But now I view them with suspicion. I just believe it's impossible for a black person and white person to truly love each other. The power imbalance that favors whites in this country and worldwide gives them the upper hand in the relationship. Their whiteness trumps(pun intended) anything you do or say and they know but they won't admit it. Which is why they pull out that N-word when you piss them off or when they get too comfortable. It's the white boy's go to insult to remind you of "your place." Even tho you may kick his ass he still knows he has that advantage. My verdict, it's only a matter of time before he shows his true colors.
     
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    Yessir!

    Addressing the convo:

    I was being overly facetious in a way but it was rooted in some truth. My distrust doesn't stem from what they look like. It stems from how they have treated others as a group worldwide. They're the reason why people of color have historically had a low self-worth world-wide going as far as to bleach their skin and deny their heritage. They're the reason why minority groups feel there is a tier system among each other with Black folks always being at the bottom of the totem pole and whiteness the standard. Even more simply, they're reason why a white supremacist is in office. The list is endless.

    If you found love in a white man or woman, I'm not going to take that from you and would genuinely be happy for "love." It's just not my cup of unsweetened tea.


    @Lancer And emphatically saying "black men ain't shit" only further perpetuates our lack of love for the black man.
     
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    I wasn't trying to equate anything. I'm black, I'm very aware of the differences we face. I was more so coming from the Obama stance "They go low we go high" lol. Dont mistake maturity for sympathy, I don't have to insult other people to express my dislike or non attraction to them.
     
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