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  1. OckyDub

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    From the opinion piece "Top Privilege"

    Personally, I've never had an issue or been offended when on the receiving end of painting. I do blame most of this on the ideals of bottom / anal "pristine'ness" from gay porn.

    I hope the purists take notes...

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    Paint shaming
    Lastly, I’d like to speak on a topic that I believe isn’t given enough attention within our community, and that’s paint shaming.

    For those of you who don’t know what ‘painting’ in this context is, it’s a slang term to describe when a bottom isn’t fully cleaned out and a little something is left on the top’s penis.

    Now, I personally think bottoms are made to upheld completely ridiculous standards, not only dietary wise but also supplementary! I’ve seen threads upon threads of tweets and Facebook statuses about what bottoms can do to make sure they have pristine anuses for their tops.

    Some people go to certain extremes as taking six fiber pills a day, using multiple Fleet enemas, and not eating for hours prior to a hookup. And while this humble top is no nutritionist, I can’t imagine that’s healthy.

    ‘Collateral damage’
    I understand that most bottoms do this to feel less worried, more prepared, and cleaner, but as tops we have to stop demanding such perfection from bottoms.

    We must be more understanding if something goes wrong, and recognize how much labor and time bottoms put into their bodies (specifically their buttholes).

    They may say they do it for themselves, but we tops reap the fruits of their efforts either way, and we do not appreciate it enough.

    I have heard stories of tops kicking bottoms out after being painted, making a big deal about it, and causing further embarrassment to the bottom. It’s just not right. Tops should know what they sign up for, and if we can’t handle a little collateral damage we shouldn’t be playing the game to begin with.

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    #1 OckyDub, Jan 11, 2019
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  2. SB3

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    I don't know what to say or how to feel after that, but tell em why you mad bro...
     
  3. OckyDub

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    You are correct. I think it should be clear (obvious) we're talking about within reason, not fecophilia. Not no 2-girls-1-cup type shit.

    The first thing that ALWAYS comes to my mind if/when it happens is, "that is what soap and water is for". I'm not saying continue to completion....nope, get up, clean off and then jack off and keep it moving.

    There was one kat I was with in my early early twenties who was beginning to paint and I told him dont worry, not to move, went to the bathroom, cleaned myself off, got tissue, cleaned him off and then wiped his butt with a warm cloth (rinse and repeat) and still had a great session afterwards...just with no butt play.

    I'm thankful that years later when I did it to somebody they were just as patient with me and didn't make it a big deal.

    Everyone is different....its just not an "end or the world" crisis for me.
     
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