Question - Do you like an "Ejaculation Proclamation" when having sex? meaning = announcing when you are cumming at the moment you are cumming. I for one DEFINITELY do. (Background) Im a verbal guy. I find being verbal hot and I prefer to be verbal and have it returned to me while doing the do. I think it makes the act even hotter. Especially when it's done right. The key words being DONE RIGHT. Because there is indeed an art to verbal sex. Anyone who likes verbal sex knows what their trigger words are. As well as knows their "un-trigger" words that may make it shit wack or turn them off. Now communication in any other dating or relationship area is key, but NOT when it comes to verbal sex in my opinion. This is an area where you CANNOT communicate your trigger or un-trigger words before having sex. It spoils the fun. You have to go in hot and just go for it. Start talking mad shit and see what sticks. And its not just the words you say, its the tone you say them, the facial expression, moves, it all plays in concert. (Now back to the thread topic) I feel that an announcement of cumming is soooo fuckin hot. That "OH Face", the shakes, calling on god, etc. That can actually make me blast off as well if its done and said right. One sex partner I had the past always laughed hysterically when he came. Like every time. Very weird. That wasn't a turn on. As well as a white sex partner I use to deal with would always say, "oh yeah, thats the spot", and picture the most white man voice you can possibly imagine. That too wasn't a turn on. But I will say I would take both of those over a dude that remained completely silent with just a small grunt, if even that. Maybe something in me needs the validation. Who knows. So what say you squad. Am I alone on this? (by past conversations I wouldn't be surprised if I am. I kinda noticed Im one of the only squad members that is sex positive. Or at least one of the only that admits it. )
If I'm on bottom, I'm a little more vocal and expressive. If that spot is getting hit, I'm a lot more verbal. If I'm on top I'm usually more quiet because I'm thinking about and analyzing my performance. However no matter what, when I'm about to nutt, it's about to be some names called cuss words said vibrating rotating gyrating contourting trembling seizing going on. Just don't say pussy or boi pussy or derivative and I'm good. It's ass. Now I'm no longer loving "this pussy" and I don't have a pussy for you to eat So why are you asking me if you can eat mine?
Blah, if you're a silent man, I can't deal with you. If I don't see your face dislocate or eyes cross and hear a moan or a groan moan I won't be too pleased. I feed off of his energy and if he's visibly in ecstasy then I will enjoy it much better and I will perform better. If I go down on my boyfriend and he is quiet standing there like a zombie, I'll be very dry with it, but if he's verbal and expressing visible signs of ectasy, I will suck him for dear life, look at him with submissive eyes and really get him in the mood. The more into he is, the kinkier I may be. Same thing with penetration, I'm not gonna let you enter me like you're going through a library, act like you're at a party. I'm not a power bottom or anything but I'd prefer for my bf to fxxk the hell outta me like he has a point to prove to assert his authority and focus his frustrations. I don't want you to kill me or destroy my inner soul but a little more assertiveness is what I like, else I'll become bored with your sex game quickly and not want it...and trust me when I say I can without sex for a long strides. He'll be in one hand land he keep on...
I fucks with you. (maybe literally) Nah, but seriously. I agree with ya. What I have realized in recent years is that I have become to love a dudes "Ohh Face". That moment right at orgasm. When you think about it, it really is some deep shit. Because I feel at that moment, we are totally & completely vulnerable. So maybe Im getting off on the power. Like this scene in GONE GIRL. Ughhh, scratch that..... Maybe not exactly like that.... (I need to control this dark side on mine. lol )
Exactly. Like I have zero shame at that moment. If my eyes twitch or I'm feeling self conscious about my body all that goes out of the window then. I'm also one who stays hard a good while after I nutt so if you have me in a position where I can't stop you from still stimulating my junk, I'm squirming. Totally vulnerable. I ran up on something on porn hub where this guy has guys who volunteer come to get jacked off but tied up and he's still going at it afterwards they cum but they are begging for him to stop. I think they have to say "please stop master Thank you " or something.I think that's must be what it's like for those people who experience orgasms 24/7.
You're not the only 'sex positive' one bro. But you ARE one of the VOCAL members who is fit, attractive and seemingly lacking years and years of baggage just for being gay. Those all help w being comfortable in your sex life and not being a head case in your sex life. Ijs...
Definitely depends on the person. Verbal can be a turn on but it can for sure be a turn off. I was having sex with this super attractive guy. I was thinking in my head like hell yeah this shit is about to be FIRE. Then he started talking and it got awkward and I couldn’t stop laughing. I think I killed his confidence so we turned music on and carried on.
That's why I always say ppl forget how mental sex is for some people. I DEF want verbal, but nasty, in the moment verbal. Not a character or anything. But silence is deadly...for me and sb3 jr
It's an intimate act, which has the intimacy stripped sometimes, depending on whos involved, and how they treat sex. Be in the moment, for me. Not a fan of lunch break, 5,6,7,8 w a stranger sex.
Me n ol' boi (now good homies) were reminiscing ystrd bout how he'd bust out laughing after he bust. It wasn't too long ago (500+one day at a time since last time l laid up with a dude, however, ain't nothing like hearing him say my name.
I actually HATE when guys start laughing after they nut in porn. I mean, I know a part of it is my hangup because they ARE the sex life when watching, but at least stay in character if yall wana claim it's 'work'.
Its not just in porn. Back in the day I've been guilty of this, and to this day I have no clue why I did it.
I can't stand a quiet partner. That may be the reason I lost interest in the dude I kinda broke my celibacy spell wit back in March. But...that was my fault because he made it clear that he wasnt a "moaner" 5yrs ago when I first met him. LOL I like noise...not so much verbal, but moanin, breathing, ,expression, etc. But again, Im a weirdo, so if I feel that shit is goin too far in the direction of 'theatrics' then its a wrap for me and Im totally out of the mood. I dont care if a dude announces their nut or not. The only reason for it would be for me to pick up the pace/force to bring the shit to an end and move on with my day/ go the fk to sleep. LOL
Ok. Never thought about it that way. I just really appreciate sex talk with grown adult people with zero hangups and little to no judgement. Maybe I should try a different platform where members have extensive experience and like to share those experiences in open (sometimes graphic) dialogue. Similar to the podcast, WHORABLE DECISIONS. It would be interesting to hear black gay men talk in a similar way about sexual topics. But like you state, too many black gay men with baggage seems to prevent that.
Its funny you say that. I do something very similar. Being comfortable with my body and pretty experienced I have certain "techniques" when I wanna bring that shit to a close. Doing those along with some verbal shit or specific moans has worked for me well over 90% of the time with any sex partner I have had, top or bottom. I encourage dudes to become comfortable with their body and sex and figure out what works for them. Once you realize the spot or stroke you do that tends to drive dudes crazy, you can manage the fuck out of the sex hook up by potentially prolonging it or quickly bringing it home.
Yup. I need some sort of signal that you're alive and I'm not sleeping with a corpse. Make manly moans, curse, scrunch your face up, announce shit. Just make sure that it's natural and not forced. If it sounds like you're trying to be a fake porn star, shit's a turn off.
Yea, its not to say that ppl don't like sex around here. These nigas is gay!! But, speaking for myself, eventho Im very erotic and thottish in the moment, I have major hangups because I'm not in the dancer shape I used to be in. That's when sex becomes more mental...
The times when I shot further than I anticipated were a little funny. Especially the time I hit myself in the eye. Lol (Also not recommended. That ish makes your eye sore and you looks like you got the good weed. It goes away after a few hours. ) Orly? Yeah I'm definitely a try it and see type when it comes to sex as an act but will talk about it even if I'm not the first to bring it up as conversation. I think it's healthy to discuss it as a topic where it's not pretense to sex with each other.
And its not even abt being an issue in the moment. If we goin, we goin. But, it def encourages my indifference in seeking it. I'm always like, 'well, I guess I'll just rub one out until I look like _____' lol. The crazy part is that I'm not even in 'bad' shape, for all intents and purposes. Hence, the mental..
Yea.. good stuff...l myself am no longer the swingn' from the chandelier spring chicken, however can't honestly say I "made love".. .I got a lotta empty / drunk body get downs. I wanna know whats good with the sensual/mental/even spiritual exchange when we.... he can say my name with passion... I wanna know what it do when l nutt his name intimately/sensually/masculinely.