Fair Game or Shady AF?

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    QUESTION: Let's say you and a friend are at a gay party, club or packed bar...

    Your friend runs over raving about a very handsome eligible bachelor and you respond by saying you had noticed him as well. But your friend comments that the man is "everything" for him, just his type.

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    But he doesn't make a move on him...at all...all night...even when you encourage him to do so.

    Later in the night, when your friend is mingling elsewhere, you have an opportunity to meet the guy, conversation sparks, you actually get the number and go to his crib the next day. :shock:

    Is this fair game since your friend didn't make a move? Or is this shady AF since your friend "called dibs" on the guy first and may want to approach him another time?

    Would you brag to your friend that you got his number (and even hung out with the dude the next day)? Or would you keep it a secret?
     
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    It's fair game. Especially if you encouraged them to step up.

    Squeaky wheels get the lube.
     
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    Called dibs? Who does that? It's whoever makes the first move in my opinion. Now some dudes aren't trying to get married so they may be down for a group session with their friend. LOL It just depends. I wouldn't talk to any dude if a friend has already made contact with them in any form other than just eye contact.
     
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    This. The whole dibs thing sounds like some “Facts of Life” high school girl shit...
     
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    A friend of mine is interested in a man and told me to link them up. I gave the dude my friend info and the dude said that my friend is a big boy and can reach out himself. Not sure if my friend reached out yet BUT I've already seen the guy my friend is interested in around and I've always thought he was attractive. We just so happened to match on Tinder today so let's see where things go. My bro told me that if my friend has not reached out that it is none of my business and that I should engage the dude. Let's see what happens.
     
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    Now that EVERYONE has stated that water is wet, did you get the drawz?!
     
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    damn i'm glad some of yall not my friends lol

    i'm the type of friend who, in the middle of the conversation with old boy, would say, you gone be here for a minute? i'm enjoying the convo, just gotta run to the bathroom.

    then go tell my boy. yo are you serious about dude? cause i just met him and if you aint trying to holler right now, then im snagging him.

    this ain't necessarily a right/wrong issue for me. i just want my friends to win. now i wouldn't be considerate to one of my hoe friends, but if we talking about a homie that really wants substance and all that, then i'd do what i described above.
     
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    Aint nobody got time to be Suzie Matchmaker for a friend who did not ask for a wingman. The answer to the question is fair game. What is really between two people....nothing but space and opportunity.

     
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    I hear where you're coming from, but if dude sat in the corner avoiding his 'everything' all night...you snooze you lose. Especially if there's no 'I was trying to catch him at a party I was at last week, but couldn't get a chance...', or some other kind of backstory. You can't just be hoarding all of the cuties and leave me w my avatars!
     
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    Soooooooo what about this here:

    Y'all go out. Once or twice or Y'all hook up or not but regardless, you realize that Y'all are just not clicking and you both go your separate ways.

    Is your shy friend now able to step up to them or nah?
     
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    i forgot to mention that i would've also asked my boy to let me introduce them. now if after that he still acting shy, then i can't make any promises.

    i get where you and everyone's coming from and dont think yall are wrong. i'm just saying what i'd do for my friend and hopefully what my close friends-- not acquaintances-- would do for me.

     
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    just make sure your friend doesn't react like...
     
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    To paraphrase one of SB3's frequent turns of phrase, not that this is the point of this thread: I just want to say that those are definitely Hot Cheetos. For whatever reason, Hot Cheetos always make me smile because the folks I picture eating them are represented in this GIF ^^^ (She actually needs brightly colored, ridiculously long talons, but it still works for me.).
     
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    Of course he can, IMO. If I went out with a dude on a date and if we even hooked up but realized it wasn't a match, if any of my friends were interested I wouldn't act like he's off limits. Go for it.

    We are fuckin adults bro. I didn't marry that nicca. If fact he might not be right for me, but perfect for you.
     
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    Of course. Anything short of a committed relationship, and you can have him. And hell, the way yall gays stay sukn on dem diks out here, that would rule out 2 out of every 3 potential dudes out here in the streets!
     
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    Fair game. And I wouldn't be offended if a friend did it to me either, I just personally wouldn't do it.
     
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    This was both a real and hypothetical scenario. I left out some details to see what the responses would be.

    One main omitted detail was, once the friend mentioned the dude was his "everything" and was encouraged to go talk to him he responded with "Nah, I'm good. Young pretty boy with a body full of tattoos, he would just be for play, nothing serious. I'm sure his social media is full of thirst-trapping." I agreed and both decided to pass.

    I came to find out, through conversation with the dude in his 1-bdrm apartment, that he's actually in his mid-30s, doesn't even have ANY social media accounts at all and he mostly just works since recently getting out of an 8+ year relationship. :shock:

    Def taught me (once again) about judging a book by its' cover. The dude appeared as "everything," but he was a regular ass dude based on what I observed (admittedly a little self centered though). The friend could have been pleasantly surprised. Instead, dude ended up being my first pull of 2019.

     
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    See... Now the real question is, whatchudoin in mofos 'partments all ready, mr. 'whatever happened to dating in public'?!?!
     
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    Yeah one of my resolutions was to be less uptight about ish. The gay lifestyle will be what it is, no matter how many blogs I write to the contrary.

    I had to revisit this scene from The Wire:

     
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    Good look. A lil self centered can be ok in doses. As long as bro knows how to curb it enough to not be a total douche.

    Side note - That GIF is EVERYTHING......
     
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    Personally, I wouldn't go near homeboy. If we did end up talking, I would let him know that my friend likes him and would even take him to said friend to be introduced and then look for my own fish to fry. Some Gay dudes are very territorial even if the dude is paying them no mind, they have this rule that none of their friends can go near said guy ever. It sounds very high school, but that's what you get from a group of gay guys when they out hunting.
     
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    *deletes comment* ....Well damn, Nick dun gave the resolution lol
     
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