Gay Guys React To Racist Grindr Profiles!

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  1. OckyDub

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    I have so much to say, maybe a post at some other time based on the totalities. Let me say this in this context why are BLACK men so concerned about WHITE MEN NOT WANTING or REJECTING them sexually? It seems like this comes up because people of color are being rejected by white men and PC White liberal gays want to prove how they are not racist.
     
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    ...and this is not to say some of these profiles are in fact racist.:nopekid:
     
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    Hmmm. I've noticed that it seems acceptable for black men to "stick to their own kind", but let someone mention they don't like black men all hell breaks loose. I do understand that people have preferences, but if you are completely shutting out an entire race then that isn't a preference. It's a standard that you adhere to and in that case it might not be racist, but something suspect is going on. In my opinion anyway
     
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    I think it's because some of these black guys are caught up in the "self-hatred" thing as well, like the one Asian guy that didn't want Asians. I've been on OKCupid a couple of times and on a few profiles there were guys that were attractive and had great summarys but would always start/finish things off with "oh and btw, not into black guys!" One guy that was bisexual literally said "I'm mostly into while girls (sorry everyone else lol)."

    I'm not going to lie it made me feel some kind of way but it's mostly akin to the same fustration I get from liking a straight person but slightly worse because I know you like men, just not any of your own race?

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    That's super limiting and does affect self esteem alittle but ultimately I know I don't want anybody that don't want me! lol I think the thought that there's racism even amoung such a small persecuted group of people is hard for some to wrap there heads around.

    And yeah listening to some of the white guys in the video I did briefly wonder how many of them would actually date a brother lol. Idk what some peoples motives are especially in the beginning, but if you're around someone long enough the truth will come out..
     
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    I block more Asians than the Great wall of China. :banderas:
     
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    Very interesting.

    If a guy was to say to me that "they don't date blacks" and he is not black, it would definitely make me feel that he is racist. I would inquire as to why that is to confirm it; however, racist would be on the table. However, I know some gay and bisexual guys that are black that have said they "they don't date other black men". I think one person I know simply likes big white men (since that's all he has dated and been with). The other guy has had some bad dating and relationship issues in the past with other Black men and because of those experiences, he has chosen not to date or even hook up with someone of his own race.

    If you look at it, it can be obvious through questioning the person outside of a profile or just asking the question "What kind of guys do you date", etc. if that is indeed a racist. However, for some people, it could either be a personal preference or a choice not to date because of past experience.
     
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    I have always said that I have no problem with dating guys who are not black but I just don't think that they are checking for black guys, that's been my experience and since I give priority to black guys, this hasn't been something that kept me from socializing or dating.

    The white and white passing people in this clip know good and gawt damnned well if most black dudes approached them, they would reject them. If it were another sample of white men, I'd probably believe they would be fine with dating (not just sex but actually building a relationship with a non white male) but just not this set. I just did not get that these guys would be interested in learn about non white culture as that's going to be a part of dating someone with a different racial make up.

    Now let's be real here. 80 percent of guys on hook up sites are looking for sex, not dates and relationships so if you only want to have sex, I'm OK with you eliminating early on. As was said by Urkel in the clip, he likes big d!x so let him have his preference. It's sex. Just because two people are horny at the same time doesn't mean one of them should be forced to have sex with the other when they are not even into or attracted to them.

    Things like this highlight to me how affluent white gays are always about inclusion and acceptance but draw the line at race when it comes to them being in relationships and sex. I have said it before and I'll do it again, non people of color have the burden of showing that they are not into dating people of color because of a fantasy or fetishism. No POC wants to be a pet project to prove someone is "down with the people."
     
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    Umm yeah... gay people are hurt so they hurt others. I am in school now and I see men that are black, white, indian, latino and I think they are all fine. I have become much more open. While I do prefer the darker hue, I still find men from all races attractive.
     
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    And, of course, Todrick Hall lays it down straight!
     
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    I don't want anybody who doesn't want me either. In my experience, white gay guys don't like black men, so I usually don't even bother hitting them up first. I would date a white guy if we were compatible, but I'm not going to "chase" them like so many men of color do. They aspire to be with a white guy and I think that's sad.

    It's racist if you completely exclude an entire group of people based on race. Think about why they're excluding them. It's because in their mind, there's a character or physical trait that they dislike about the group and immediately apply it to everyone in the group without giving attention to how everyone is different. That's one of the classical definitions of racism.
     
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    I think the larger message here is that there is considerable hypocrisy in these hookup profiles. A lot of these racist profiles are the same people I would call the Equality Queens out there fighting for "rights" during the day and in that same vain are shockingly and outrageously racists. I don't think you can have it both ways.

    Quite frankly, I think it is good that these racist d bags have profile that signal what kind of person they are...I mean I don't have any dating apps and haven't for quite sometime but I when I did and I saw any kind of racism one someone's profile, white or black or whatever I would immediately be like nope....what do they say these days swipe LEFT.

    I mean there really isn't a reason to be butt hurt over someone else's moronic profile and no one should be chasing someone that has no interests in them....seem like a total waste.

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    I must agree that racism in the gay community (I hate that world gay community) is very rampant. The oppressed ones then turning to oppress others. We can not help who we are attracted to however when it gets to exclusion based on skin color or race THEN we have a problem. Black's are also guilty of this with ''blacks only'' or ''only well done meat'. We both have to own up to our contribution to this issue. We also have to consider the exclusion of minorities from the mainstream. I saw this video on this topic by this guy:
     
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    I wonder the same thing why are black gay men so concerned about what white gays think? Why are black gay men so desperate for sexual validation from white men? Just because a white man won't date you or f**k you doesn't make him a racist I couldn't care less if white men find me attractive. I happen to find white men to be repulsive. Does that mean I hate white people? No, I just don't want to date them or have sex with them. Finally gay white men are still white men so you shouldn't be surprised if they are racist. They've been indoctrinated to believe in their own superiority just like straight white men so why would even want to be with someone like that. Black men need to love themselves first and stop caring what white men think.
     
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    Here is an example of what i am saying. You happen to find WHITE MEN REPULSIVE. You are creating an exclusion based on skin color. When addressing racism no one is looking for validation from white people. Do we address the current race issue with the KKK, white supremacy groups, GOP, Racist Cops, and many other because we as blacks are looking for validation from white america??? I do believe you are speaking from a place of personal bias towards white gay men. I do agree that black men do need to love themselves more, however black people face higher amount of racism from their own kind than any other race, i mean look at the boxer that just came out. I am sure he knew he will get more hate from his fellow black people and TRUST black people and black gays did not fail at doing so. Speaking from my own personal experience, growing up in Nigeria then leaving, the most hate i have gotten for my sexuality have been from black people. So why would i want to dwell in a community that is so hateful despite my skin color?
     
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    We have to be united as black gay people. If black gays that date white guys say they are experiencing racism over there even if i could not relate to what they are going through, i would not say '' oh well you definitely hate yourself and you should stick to your kind'' but i would look for a away to help fight racism in whatever form it may rear its head. A black guy can say whites are disgusting and those that date them have some internal hatred and he is praised and given 'dabs' but let a white guy say it and he is crucified. Let us heal each other and love each other and then maybe these guys WILL want to date within their black race. I could go on and on but I know it would be pointless, i do not expect to change any ones mind and i am not getting paid per word. So you do WHATEVER you want to do cos in the end no one cares!
     
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    I find it telling you conveniently left out the sentences after the one you quoted in which I said, "does that mean I hate white people? No, I just don't want to have sex with them or date them." There are plenty of white gay men who feel the same about us. I see no reason why we should badger them into wanting to go to bed with us or date us. I also don't see how that will solve the problems of racism and white supremacy. Also I'm well aware of how viciously anti-gay the black community is in Africa, the Caribbean, and America. I live it everyday just like you do, brother. I see it everytime I read the comments section on black oriented websites and on social media. However that is a problem we black gay men have to fight ourselves. Running away to hide amongst white gay men (many of whom don't want us either) will not fix the problem of homophobia among black people.
     
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    I do agree that black gay people need to be united. We just disagree on what united means and how to get there. That doesn't come from a place of hatred we just have different view points and perspectives. From my vantage point, if black gay people are to be united we must ask ourselves why so many of us want to accepted and loved by people who don't love us so badly, whether that is white gays, the church or mosque, or black straight people? With white gay men I just don't see the point in trying to get them to love us. They are still white people and like many (not all white people) they were raised to think they're better than us so trying to get them to date us is not going to break down the system that tells them they are "superior." We should endeavor to love ourselves, value ourselves, value our beauty first, and not beg the white man to take pity on us. We've been doing that for centuries as black people and where has it gotten us? We as a group need to take pride in who we are, respect ourselves first, demand the respect we deserve, and not worry bout what white men think.
     
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    Those Grindr profiles are hilarious. LOL I'm so done with this topic, my dude. The older I get, the less of a half a f$%k I give. a few years ago, this used to bother me to no end, not because I was getting rejected by white guys (I never went after them) but because the whole racist undertone bothered me. But now, at 38yo, Im just like dude, get over it. Muhf#$kaz are ALWAYS going to be racist and/or have {racist} "preferences" on all sides of the spectrum. It makes for good, entertaining convo, but for this to be an issue (in the words of Funky Dineva)..."Chlye Cheese". Its too many beautiful men of ALL ethnicities out there to be sweatin' a handful of douches.
     
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    Good video. I like a lot of the stuff this guy has to say.
     
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    i totally agree with you they are repulsive and are still white men at the end of the day so of course they have their own supremacy instilled in their minds, they gross and ridiculous anyways who needs em!
     
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    not that i'm making an excuse for our people but you do know where the hatred comes from right? it was ingrained in our ancestors who then passed it down from generation to generation and so on to the point where we are here today still dealing with self hatred and hate from within our own community because of our image and self esteem being torn down and broken by the slave owners and their generations of racist families, leaving us to rebuild them up, only to have them torn down and broken all over again multiple times. i wouldn't say he's excluding white gay men based off their color, it could be because of how they act and behave due to their white supremacy that's been indoctrinated into them. cause they are white men at the end of the day.
     
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