How Do You Flirt?!

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  1. African King

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    Hey gents,

    I been putting myself out there more in ATL going to different events whenever I have time and I am just curious to know what is it that you do to make a good first impression within the first few minutes of meeting somebody. I think I am doing pretty well giving compliments to and sharing laughs with guys I am meeting at different black gay events/socials. But I want to know, how do YOU flirt?!
     
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    Grab 'em by the dick.
     
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    Depends on how many drinks I've had.
     
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    loads of eye contact and smiles. Occasional tangential commentary about their admirable qualities.
     
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    Yo, u need therapy bro!
     
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    Def eye contact. If you consciously pay visual attention to me, especially after the mutal head nod of acknowledgement, I'll slide in for light convo. And one thing I'm really good at is dropping statements that COULD be interpreted as flirting, low key ego strokes, or as observational compliments during general convo.
     
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    Negro don't stop there. Give us an example... :nerd:
     
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    Don't threaten me with a good time. :steviej:
     
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    Lol. Cut it out negro. You don't have a problem in this area.
     
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    This is me flirty....I am quite forward and direct but I think it comes off like this....
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    The gent I am flirting with usually responds like this....
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    But for real. The best kind of flirty is when you are acting like yourself. Making eye contact, talking confidently, asking probing but nonaggressive questions, keeping it light and fairly clean.
     
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    Well according to my friend when we were running the skreets yesterday, I'm a creep around women and come off really strong bawhahaha. I actually give about zero effs when I go out and have been drankin so unsure of how flirty I can be. However, I am pretty good at being helpless especially when I'm talking not in English and put on my puppy face due to my small stature.
     
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    I agree.
     
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    It works. Esp when side by side. You lean in. He leads in. Aaaaaand you're off to the races.
     
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    You'll have my undivided attention, and the world will melt around you. I'll look interested. I'll definitely lean in. I can be pretty gregarious, so I'll smile and laugh. And at the end of it, I might just mock the absurdity of the situation we find ourselves in.
     
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    All relative to the sitch @African King . Flirting at a gay bar, a room full of presumed str8s, or at _______ are all different.
     
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    I think touching is fine in the appropriate settings of course. I think PDA is sexy but certainly has its limits. Although, I think about of gay men in particular have a hard time being affectionate in public spaces or even at gay spaces...
     
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    Grab em by the boy pussy
     
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    Okay so here's how I do it. When a guy asks me how I'm doing I do the usual you know "better now that I'm talking to you" response. And then the rest of the charm leads off from how they respond to that. Sometimes they'll say stuff like "oh your quite the charmer huh"? And I'll be like "if you call appreciating a fine specimen like yourself make me a charmer, then I guess I'm a charmer then" lol this might sound cheesy but it gets guys interested plus it's different than the usual approach of like "sup" and you'll know when a guys interested from the jump when they smile at you their whole whole face smiles at you they kind of light up even if subtlety you can detect it
     
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    Ok went to some LGBTQ meet up for a Pride org and.... some dude is like feeling me but my ass was acting coy. Why is he trying to holler when I'm trying to roll out. I had work in the morning.
     
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    Lol @ "fine specimen" haha
     
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    So I'm really horrible at this...

    As I'm reading in the replies, eye contact seems to be the key. Maybe I'll start trying this more often. But honestly, guys don't seem to pay me any mind for the most part (lol) and if I'm in a gay environment (gay bar...etc), I typically never see anyone I'm interested in.

    As far as groping, I was groped pretty hardcore once at a concert lol. I thought it was my imagination, but it turns out that he was hitting on me and we exchanged info afterwards and hung out. I don't think I would suggest groping though for most situations lol. It depends on what kind of message you're trying to give off.

    Small touches do send signals to the other person that you're interested so I would suggest light touches during conversation. You know how you grab someone on their shoulder or something similar when you're trying to make a point. Shit like that...lol

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    So Im not that good at flirting really. But if I see someone I like I may give them a certain"look", smile, gentle touch or I may laugh and blush lol


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    I believe they called this the Trump move. Lol.
     
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    In a presumably straight setting, this is my favorite go-to. A quick grab on the shoulder when it's appropriate with a beaming smile (but not too big) never hurt. Although it always seems to turn out that the chicks know I'm flirting with him but he doesn't =/

    In a gay setting, not much of a toucher. Just by my smiling, level of engagement, and slight forwardness, you'll know I'm interested.
     
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    I rarely ever flirt but I think I may be obvious. Once, at school I was handing out scantrons and bluebooks to other students. This one guy I saw before a long time ago came in asking for advice. I thought he was cute back in the day & now being that I had lost my virginity...I immediately added him to my menu... He asked to speak with someone in back and I was extra nice and slowly walked away so he could see my ass..I glance back and saw him taking a peak...I was told that he needed to go to financial aid for assistance...My hawt tail left my post and walked him over to the financial aid office all up in front him. I let him go on his way though...If I ever saw him again...

    As you can tell, I'm a terrible flirt but it's painfully obvious when I like a guy because I will "go out my way", which is something I rarely ever do. Wet up
     
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