How Often Do You Hook Up?

Discussion in 'Sex and Adult' started by ControlledXaos, Sep 18, 2018.

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  1. I never hookup.

  2. I hook up about 3 times a year. It's rare but it happens.

  3. I have at least 1 monthly hook up.

  4. I'm getting it in 2-3 times a month.

  5. I'm getting it at least once a week.

  6. I'm hooking up multiple times per week.

  7. I'm in a relationship but just wanted to click on something so I can participate.

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  1. ControlledXaos

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    Hook up in this thread means a casual sexual encounter that was initiated by any means, including dating apps, cruising, club met up, sex parties, etc. This sex includes any sexual activity such as penetration, felatio, masturbation, frottage etc.

    I'm curious to see where the squad falls on sexual frequency as it relates to casual sex. I guess I'm on the verge of getting back out there but at the times, I REALLY want to have a sexual interaction with an other male human, at other times I'm good with going to MyPornsterHub beating off and keeping it moving.

    I know I'm not looking for anything that would be serious. I just feel like my body's constantly humming the Almond Joy /Mounds jingle.
     
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    Dude...Im so fkn over all of it. Crazy sht is I decided to hop on Grindr a few months back, and notice that Im getting hit up by some pretty fly azz dudes but, I have NO interest in hookin up (for a myriad of reasons). Not to knock anyone that does, by all means, do you, Im just at a age and mindset where I got no time for that sht anymore. LOL
     
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    I wanna know who's getting it in once per week? Is this the same person?
     
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    In my youth, I did the hookup thing maybe about 2-4 times a year...just to purge the monster outta my system...Then I would go back to blending in with my hetero homies who were getting casual sex left and right.

    One of my straight roommates had new girls doing the Walk of Shame every weekend.

    I was unnecessarily paranoid back then too...which is ironic because nowadays you’re much more likely to be “exposed” than back then since camera phones, text screenshots and all that were not as common.

    As for now, I don’t want randoms coming into my space and seeing all my belongings...and I don’t want to go to stranger’s homes either.

    I’m okay with casual sex if it comes after a first date or doing something in public...but the whole meeting someone (possibly a catfish) on an app and going to their home (to get robbed or worse) for a random nut isn’t my thing.

    Props to those of all ages that go above and beyond to bust one with another person though. I have my own pleasures that I will jump through hoops to get as well (ie: sense of accomplishment in finally finding a torrent after searching for months instead of just paying the .99 cents from the beginning :tears:)
     
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    Yeah... I probably should stipulate that a fuck buddy doesn't count. If you have a regular buddy but there's random people sprinkled in, the encounters with the buddy don't count towards the total. A buddy is a relationship in this case.
     
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    Ive had very few stranger hookups in my entire life. Ive just never liked the awkwardness. I voted 3x a year just because it's not like I haven't had them. I do feel like Im missing out and letting paranoia get the best of me sometimes, but Ive accepted that my fear of catching EVERYTHING from touching a man's thigh isn't going anywhere anytime soon.

    It's actually kinda crazy when you think about how much more comfortable a little bit of convo can make you, since a mofo could obviously still be feeding you a bunch of lies.
     
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    Now if he can feed you a bunch of believable lies without flinching then he's a sociopath and in that case, there's nothing you could have done anyway lol. On the other end of the spectrum, you could be with someone for years and still have been told lies/mislead. People have to draw the line somewhere; a little bit of convo seems a reasonable place lol.
     
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    There are a whole list of STI that prevent me from sticking my eggplant into random holes. This means it's excruciatingly rare for me to have random hookup sex.
     
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    I have NEVER hooked up.

    There are just too many STIs out there that are becoming super-strains and then HIV is a real threat.
     
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    Bruh, l so feel u, ur not by yaself. I'm at the been there done that chapter, my wiln' out days done. ( Me) After we get it n... now what?..Call me mushy/soft, l like doin' too much, n not just no anybody will do. I wanna know the full mental/sensual/intimate exchange
     
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    I find myself looking up a lot...l smie lookn' up to God, and the heavens above....a lot
     
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    I really never got off to the hookup thing. I have always been more of a FWB kind of a person. I like guarantees and knowing what I am getting into. I've always like predictability sex.
     
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    Except for the torrent thrill, I had a very similar experience. I'm still occasionally blending in. Back then, I was smashing chicks but took periodic breaks to "purge the monster". BTW yo, I'm going to co-op that phrase since it accurately captures that dreaded compulsion I felt at the time before I fully came to grips with the fact I had an attraction to bruhs. I was mad paranoid as well. Back then not only did we not have the same tech, people just wanted to bust not rob and rubbers were required. If I had had to deal with todays risks, I probably wouldnt have ever opened pandora's box and would be on my second wife and 8th kid by now.

    Also, for me randoms just ain't interesting. The thrill these days is (1) the uncertainty of whether your crush is even interested in men; (2) the anticipation around figuring out whether this fly ass n*gga is low key hitting on me; (3) knowing some basic information about the mf I'm thinking about licking (i.e. hygiene, habits, interests); (4) the realization that you always get a text back immediately. Granted this path to a mutual nut takes longer but speaking as a more mature brother, it's infinitely more gratifying. That's the space I'm in now.
     
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    The story of my life. You hit these 4 points on the head. I have a few more of my own to add based on my own experiences.

    (5) After putting hella effort into unsuccessfully trying to crack that dude's code, you finally resign to the fact that he's straight and settle for being just friends instead.

    (6) After repeating steps 1 through 5 several times, you realize that you've now accumulated a handful of new straight friends who all just happen to be some fine ass brothas who are all actually pretty cool to hang out with.

    (7) The stars have all aligned and your "new friends" are all hanging out together with you as their "mutual friend".

    (8) Fast forward 2 years, one of your "new friends" is getting married and asks you to be his best man with two of the other "new friends" as his groomsmen.

    (9) Fast forward 8 years and the four of us are still best friends. I can't wait to tell them someday in the future that I'm into dudes and that I hooked up with one of their brothers.
     
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    Facts.
     
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    Playing devils advocate, if you are single, its between consenting adults, and protection is used, what is the issue with hook ups?
     
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    Why can't you use condoms?
     
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    May want to hold out on that part after they digest the first part for a while.

    FWIW, coming out is something you end up doing multiple times in different situations and groups. Only you know your bros so likely they'll be OK with it but be ready for some weirdness and a mountain of questions.

    And don't be surprised if you get hit with the "oh brother we already knew."
     
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    Nothing. I have found myself to be more sex positive the older I get even if I'm not having a lot of sex myself. There's nothing wrong with adults experimenting with consent....condoms, bare back, groups ... Whatever. If you're not hurting anyone outside of that circle of consent, there's nothing really to fault.

    Most of us know what consequences we may have to deal with when engaging in riskier behaviors but I don't think I should come down on or restrict other people from doing things that I'm not interested in.
     
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    Xaos, you made some really good points about how they would react when I do tell them. I do anticipate some level of weirdness afterwards.

    I'm confident that our friendship is strong enough to withstand the difference in our sexual preferences. However, I'm also fully prepared for an onslaught of tasteless frat boy style gay jokes from all three of them.

    Whenever the moment comes for me to bare my soul to them, I'll fully embrace it and try to rip the Band-Aid off as quickly as possible. (Bro, I like penis, pass me a beer.)
     
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    Back in them ole days...

    It was once a week for me. I remember writing a list of names on a brown paper bag I used to get my comics in and was shocked that I had over 60 names. Keep in mind for me "hooking up" doesn't always mean having penetrative sex. It was mostly mutual masturbation or hump to climax sessions.

    I did get crabs twice from humpin though

    [​IMG]
     
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    Aaaaaannnnnnnnnddddd that is why I'm buzzed ... "down there."

    Well not really THE reason but I'm glad I keep things trimmed in that region. Lol
     
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    My nikka...

    The last time I caught crabs, me and dude was humping, still had on our pants but was shirtless. When I got home to take a shower I had a very proud mature stoic crab that was clinging to my stomach hairs right below my navel. At that time I was already an expert at crab removal ( I lived in a military town with lots of horny closeted dudes) so I just went to the bathroom, shaved and got my RID on.
     
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    Wait, so y'all wasn't doing a pelvic examination back then before hunchin?
     
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    Condoms don't stop everything. Skin contact also spreads STI and condoms don't cover the entire pelvis.
     
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