I don't generally get jealous but my husband thinks I should...

I don't see a point in getting jealous. I think if you have a system and he was bothered and uncomfortable, be should have hailed it.



I think if your relationship is good, secure, and stable, there is no problem with entertaining harmless flirting. People still like compliments and to feel attractive to others. A relationship/marriage doesn't automatically make you ugly or blind.

 

Im w u! As long as theres no history of drama, lets not bother drumming any up.

 

Flirt, but:

 

LOL! I know that's right!

Awwwww...I think that's so cute to be in a relationship and have mini, non-violent disagreements and stuff.

 

IDK if jealous is the right term, more, territorial. Some people like to feel...claimed at times. I get it, kinda. If he was viably uncomfortable and gave y'alls singal, then I get it, may he did and you missed it. If not, it's a bit sensitive, but just maybe be more conscientious and appease him sometimes.

*Sidenote* It's very commonplace and customary for two me to bisous each other, if they're family or close friends. I've seen men bisous like 6 times. The more you do it, the more you care about the person. Don't see too many men do it to someone they've just met though.

 

Big ups for Bon Qui Qui gif!

 

lol hey, we all have out moments. French culture is definitely...unique! Living there it was really hard to tell who was gay sometimes because they are really in touch with their emotions, fashion and are unafraid to show affection toward one another. Also, there sense of time and laissez faire attitude about life is both endearing, and frustrating lol.

 

I've always been of the old school British mindset of non emoting, keeping a stiff upper lip and handling everything with sarcasm.
For me, the only way to properly display jealousy to a partner would be in private, while engaged in sexual congress.
I think a little safe flirting is healthy for both individuals involved in the relationship.
It sends the signal that you're attractive in some way, whether it's physically, mentally or spiritually to others or that you've got a good catch and one or all of those qualities are seen by others.

 

Jealousy stems from insecurity so it's natural that you wouldn't get jealous since you two have a healthy relationship. But like tigerbreaux said, some people like that feeling of knowing their partner has marked their territory so to speak. I'm glad it didn't turn into anything more than a funny story for you guys.

 

You are a diplomat. By definition, you kinda always gotta keep your cool about shit, and I imagine that you are in diplomacy in the first place because that's the type of person you are. You can keep your head, when everyone else is losing theirs. When you see there's harm and you need to go to war, you handle it. Otherwise, you take a moderate approach to things. So with your husband, I can see you not getting too worked up all the time because that may not be who you are.

HOWEVER, the question is, is your husband uncomfortable with having to play the flirt game--all the time? As you put it, you enjoy seeing him do that. But does he? All the time? And if he's a looker, I can really see how he'd get tired of advances because he probably gets it all the time. But here's the other thing, your husband is the spouse of public official...and not just any. He's a diplomat's spouse. I work in govt and politics and know for a fact that being a spouse can wear on an individual. Spouses want to be supportive and they sometimes don't let in on how stressed, anxious or tired they may be. I'm not necessarily saying that's the case with your husband, but I wonder if him questioning why you don't get jealous enough was more of, why don't you keep this from happening ALL the time. It probably gets old and that was his way saying, can you step in sometimes and give me a break? This is your job. He kinda has no choice but to play along, so you are the only one who can really intervene during any of those moments. And you shouldn't necessarily have to wait until he gives you the signal.