If We're In a Relationship; Your Clothes are My Clothes

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  1. OckyDub

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    I remember many years ago listening to comedian Jerry Seinfeld in which he humorously mentions what he thinks is one of the greatest benefits of being a gay man in a relationship with another man. He stated that if he and the other man were about the same size in stature; he would be elated because his wardrobe would instantly double. He stated he would have access to new shirts, shoes, pants, etc. and save a fortune.

    Years later, I’ve seen countless memes and social media postings from straight men complaining about their girlfriends wearing or taking their sweat shirts and hoodies. I can’t recall hearing these type of complaints from non-heterosexual dudes and I wondered what could be the reason/s behind this.

    Could one reason be because many gay dudes are perpetually single and serial daters? Granted, we’ve all seen photos and know of plenty of happily married gays or dudes in long term relationships. Nonetheless; it’s also known that many men don’t make it past the first date, a hookup or a one month time span. So understandably no shirts nor house keys will be shared.

    On a personal level, my partner is bigger than myself but I have from time to time found myself (out of necessity) wearing his dress shirts, pants, dress shoes underwear and socks. Long term relationships are possible, so if it’s something you’re seeking, could you one day see yourself sharing cloths with your partner?

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    I doubt i'll ever date or be in a relationship with someone of my height and stature so this will never be an issue for me i guess.
     
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    There's a grey area here in my opinion. With me, if there is a need or necessity like if you spent the night and didn't bring a change of clothes then yes but we are not playing Ken and his special friend with the interchangeable wardrobe by Mattell. Nah, gotta draw lines. I get tight when my brother tries to boost one of my Ts when he visits. Circumstance versus entitlement are two different things when it comes to anything from my closet.
     
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    I mean if we were around the size I guess. But I would still ask my partner if I could wear something 1st and have it properly cleaned afterwards.

    Being honest, I just wouldn't not feel comfortable wearing my partners clothes. I would be to scared I would get a unremovable stain on it and have them mad at me.
     
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    No way. If my boyfriend is my size, which he most likely won't be..(most guys that seem to watch me are 5'8 and up.)then maybe.

    Now as far as clothes, I may wear one of his night shirts if it's bigger or what not but I wouldn't wear his clothes...

    I'll help him take them off, I may even iron them, fold them, but I probably wouldn't wear them unless like a regular t-shirt or pajamas. Not wearing underwear though...
     
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    As someone his in a LTR I can say this is true in my case. I wear my partner's clothes and shoes sometimes. Less so these days because as the years have past he's gained more weight than I have. Any of his older stuff that is still in style I snatch it before he gives it away. I save alot of $$$$ on buying clothes and sneakers.
     
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    I don't have a boyfriend. I don't know if I would want to share his clothes. I mean that sounds interesting.

    I mean I wouldn't mind wearing my boyfriends clothes like for a romantic aspect. Like what's mine is yours.

    Ugh I hate fucking threads like these.

    I hate being black and gay and single. :(
     
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    I think straight dudes don't like their girls wearing their clothes, because it's not an even exchange. A straight dude is not gonna throw on his girl's clothes in exchange.

    As for me, my dude and I are relatively the same size, but don't have the exact same style. We have definitely exchanged and shared clothes, but there's still a little bit of a separation. We don't have a problem with it. Sometimes if one of us is clothes shopping and we see something that we may only sorta like to wear occasionally, but know that the other is more likely to wear it, we'll be it anyway, cuz it'll be worn regardless.
     
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    ^^me watching said dude try on my blue suit, like it belongs to him

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    ^^me watching the fool grumble about how the seat of my dress pants are tailored to only fit my plump ass, and not some concave ass

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    ^^me watching the dumbass spill coffee all over my favorite tie, and then say dumb shit like, "if we're in a relationship, your clothes are my clothes."

    Nah we not sharing!

    I take care of my clothes and shoes- that's why they last. The moment I no longer can do this is the moment I become a sullen shell of myself. If the dude wants pointers, I'll give 'em to him. I'll even take him to Target, DTLR, J Crew, Banana Republic, H&M, Macy's, Sak's off 5th, hit up indie/unique T-makers on red bubble, show him the ropes at Lovely Lapels and expound on the quality of soles at Steve Madden. But we ain't sharing jack shit. I already have a roomie who likes "borrowing" my one-of-a-kind Boondocks t-shirts, cuz we're the same size. It drives me insane. So Imma extrapolate and say nah. Naaaahhh!!!
     
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    Laughing at some of these responses. Dudes really not into their man wearing their clothes huh? LOL.

    I treat it as just clothes so its a no brainer for me. Of course he can wear my clothes and hopefully he shares the same sentiment. I would like to think I chose someone who is respectful and wouldn't just ruin clothes or shoes. But if a spill or rip happens, no big deal, we'll just get it cleaned or repaired.

    In fact I have two past/ex partners where still to this day I have a pair of Polo boots that use to be one partners and a coat that formerly belong to the other. They never asked for it back and Im pretty positive they have an item or two of mine that they now incorporated in their wardrobe.

    No big woop. Not an issue for me at all.
     
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    Nah. I'm too possessive to let my man share my clothes. Just imagine if he spilled something on them, ripped them, etc. At least if I damage the attire, it is my fault. If he does, it will begin as a conversation about him not respecting my stuff, and ending with World War III and me being back on the market.
     
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    In all of my past relationships, I've definitely worn my partners clothes lol. Sweats, T-Shirts, Draws, Socks, Whatever... I've never dated someone who's worn my same shoe size (Somehow, I've never dated a dude who's worn a 12 or bigger lol) but I'll definitely grab a couple of random items of clothes from time to time.
     
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    My second bf and I were the same size pretty much. We didn't have the same style but we would wear some things of each other's like shirts and drawz. Really wasn't a big deal. *shrug*
     
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    like @RolandG I probably won't be in a relationship with someone of the similar stature. I'm short, so the dude will most likely be taller and probably wouldn't wear the same size. I wouldn't have a problem sharing clothes. I did sometimes wear a few of my ex's t-shirts. I would say just ask first if it was nicer clothes.
     
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    The answer is yes. Although we don't share clothes because my husband is smaller than I am. However, we do wear the same size in shoes and when we first moved in we had to reduce our nearly 100 pairs of shoes down to about 75 pairs. We definitely have plenty of options. As we gotten older he is bumped up to size medium and I have bumped up to size large, so he always gets a windfall in the clothes department.
     
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    *In my SZA voice* his draws are my draws too, our draws is our draws!

    Sike, nigga. leave my shit alone. It's cool every once in a while but you shouldn't be wearing the seams out my shit.
     
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    My partner and I don't swap underwear :franko1: but everything else is fair game including socks, hats, gloves, and coats. If we were still the same waist size is I probably would take his underwear too on laundry day.
     
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    Its definitely a added bonus of being in a same sex relationship, especially if y'all have similar styles and it fits. Me and my dude aren't the same size but we do wear some of each others stuff sometimes.
     
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    I have dated two men seriously in Atlanta and I have never worn their clothes and they have never worn mine.

    But I think if the man was responsible with his, there is no reason he would not be responsible with my own. It just depends how the man is.
     
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