NO BOTTOMS!!!! EVEN "ONE-DROP RULE" BOTTOMS!!! EWW GROSS!!!

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    Can you guys help me understand this? Why would someone, who I presume is a bottom, not want to even entertain anyone who may be Versatile or even Versatile Top or even Curious and Sexually Adventurous?

    I can (kinda) understand why a Bottom wouldn't want to hookup or date another Bottom. But why this aversion to anyone who may even be slightly interested in Bottoming as well?

    Do they think its like the "one-drop rule" where if a man Bottoms, even just once, that makes him a Total Bottom as well?

    In the past when I've seen this talk in the BGCLive forums, the Bottoms got DISGUSTED at the idea of a Top being fucked...as if being fucked was the WORST thing in the world. But they were Bottoms!!!!

    I don't get it...Is this self hate? Help me out...

    Would def like to hear from our Bottom bros on this topic...

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    Most time the guys with this mentality are ├╝ber fems and carry a similar mentality as that of a woman being courted by a bisexual man would have. Other times (I dealt with a guy like this, in the military) it could be a semi masc (if even masc on occasion) guy that feels a vers guy is "tainted" and feels that he'd be allowing someone "less than" to run up in him, despite the fact that he himself gets run up in. Either way, it boils down to hetero-normative, feminine ways of thinking.

    I personally don't understand it and have never understood it. To me a d!ck is a d!ck. If I like a dude and I'm feelin him enough to let him run up in me, I don't give a f@#k what has run up in him.
     
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    All about mentality. This guy must feel that dudes who are not total tops are "confused".
     
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    Another aspect of this is the fact that people judge others to a totally different standards then they do themselves. I mean people for instance would say no fats and then they themselves are on the pudgy side. Well in this case it seems this person has a negative connotation to one who is verse that he doesnt put to himself
     
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    I think bottoms do most of the "Verse Shaming" o read a comment on myvidster saying that verse guys were the reason why STDS are spread.

    I can only think he's equating masculinity with total topism. Which doesn't make sense but whatevs. I'd reply to him just to troll his ass.
     
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    I hope people scroll past his profile.

    I honestly don't get it. Although, during my military days, I did hook up with a guy in the Airforce a few times who was a total bottom and he was sorta like that. He asked if I ever had been a bottom because he thought differently of men who had bottomed. He turned out to be cray cray.

     
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    Its Possible That:

    *He has the mindset of a straight Black woman. Meaning if anything has been near a dude's round eye besides toilet paper and soap...he is gay / not a real man.

    *He is the type of dude who likes a dude to call his doughnut hole, pussy or man-gina or boy-pussy, etc.

    *Its simple and actually makes sense. If a masc dude is versatile or a versatile top and he is a total bottom, that means he feels he would not be able to satisfy his man sexually and thinks the guy he may fall in love with may actually cheat on him due to not being completely sexually fulfilled or satisfied. Relating back to the first point. For women they feel like well, if its another woman, I can deal with that, but how could I compete if he is cheating with another man?

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    I never understood it. It's like they get disgusted by the act of bottoming as if they aren't bottoms themselves.

    Anyone that tells me their position off the bat gets ignored, I can't do anything for either party anyway.
     
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    I've always wondered why some guys mentally limit themselves from topping... Like completely will not/can't do it...
     
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    I'm going to take the initiative to start an argument with one of these types of dudes just to see what type of bottom shaming insults they're gonna spew, meanwhile on their quest for raw daddy dick. :troll:
     
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    It's a symptom of internalized homophobia. There is a logic behind it.
     
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    I completely forgot about this aspect. You're right
     
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    I wonder if the thinking also works the other way too...If the guy is Verse or Verse Top, the Bottom may think the other guy may not be able to perform fully as a Top. Like he might not stay hard the whole time because he's not "a real Top."
     
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    No need to wonder. I believe many men, regardless of sexual orientation wonder about their performance and have insecurities about their bodies.
     
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    Foremost those arent even his photos so clearly he has his own insecurity issues. When dissecting this bullshit I am keeping that in mind! Secondly though I think gay men, ESPECIALLY gay black men are the biggest proponents of hypermasculinity. They seem to want you to be everything thats stereotypically masculine x10 but still like being a strict bootyhunter and I always thought that was ridiculous. Even more so when you try to insert sexual positions and link them to ones personality traits things get sticky. I'm sure he thinks that anyone that has taken dick or considers it is somehow less of a man or more effeminate, Seeing as though he is a bottom its some sort of internalized hatred of his own behaviors that hes projecting on others that might enjoy the same every now and again. As a top im not insecure at all in what I do and how I do it with someone I am choosing to engage with, I dont care if they were a top before me it doesnt even play into my thinking because it ultimately depends on what we as adults decide works best for the relationship WE are engaging in. Besides there are plenty feminine tops so what if he gets that then it would be the person is too feminine. Its like our community wants the impossible with these ridiculous list and disqualifiers and thats why so many can get a wet ass before they can get a real date. DONE! LOL
     
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    I really don't think a person can fully understand why a person thinks this way.(pardon the split infinitive in that sentence). Why will some men only have sex with you if you are willing to do raw? Why will some men only have sex with you if you wearing "thuggish" clothes? Why will some men only look your way if you are light-skin with tribal chest tattoos? Why does one of my brothers only date women who are 300lbs plus while the other only dates women who look like fitness models? Sometimes, sexual desires and attractions can't be explained.
     
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    Question. all these assumptions we are placing on this individual . could it be said that We are doing the same as he, making preconceived notions of what the "other " is
     
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    I don't think us merely discussing the motivations behind this type of behavior is in any way the same as actually displaying said behavior.
     
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    you gotta tell me how that goes
     
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