Question for Tops

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  1. JodyBell87

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    Bottoms are often made to feel like they are promiscuous or "loose" if a top cannot feel his walls.
    Guys will have sex with a bottom and then spread that he has no walls if he feels he didn't hit it right.

    I have a "fair" amount of sex. Nothing crazy, maybe even less than most people honestly, but I always find it interesting when I'm with a guy who just doesn't seem to be able to hit what he should be hitting.

    Why do tops often place the blame on the bottom when he doesn't "Size up"? It's rare to hear a top say "I'm just not big enough for you". Instead, he'll either get soft because he's inadequate, or he'll make an excuse saying the bottom is loose.

    Are there any tops out there that can admit that sometimes, they just don't "fit the puzzle?"
     
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    I'm just thinking that the average size is 5-6 inches. That's average. If a top can't feel anything even with 5 inches, then something is extremely loose. Considering the ass wasn't made for penetration and lots of people can't even do it, if you are that loose then no it's not the Top not fitting the puzzle. That's my opinion
     
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    It stands to reason that at some point, you may not have much snap back or things just won't snap back the way they used to when you were young.

    I think it's fair to say that we all have relatively the same 'tightness' of anal cavity from the jump. Putting things of a certain size in there frequently enough is going to make things spread and after awhile, you just 'open' and there's no recovery or you just have to get off the dick for while. Give that ass a rest, literally.

    I am thinking that the spread is why there are those women and men who only want dicks of 8x6 or more. They just can't feel anything smaller. Or maybe just just like the feeling of 'fullness' with sex. I mean the clit is in the front and the prostate isn't that deep in. However, I don't think you can get mad at/shame/dismiss an average guy who doesn't 'measure up' because you've spread your ish out beyond the boundaries.

    But at the end of the day, there's someone who thinks that the guy you says that guy A doesn't have walls guy B loves having sex with. We're all different in our preferences and anatomy.
     
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    Not to derail the convo but this sentence stood out to me

    "Guys will have sex with a bottom and then spread that he has no walls if he feels he didn't hit it right."

    How old are these "guys" and why would one even entertain being intimate with them? I can understand guys having sex talk but usually mature kats I know keep names to themselves.
     
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    I can't agree with that. Most GOOD bottoms "train" so that they know how to loosen their muscles so that intercourse can even happen. Some bottoms can relax so well, that if a guy is "BIG", he won't get frustrated trying to get it in. If he's small, he'll just fall right on in. I think tops get even more upset when they can't even get it in.

     
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    I'm going to need all the lessons I can get.
     
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    Im not sure if I can answer your question. But I just want to add my two cents on the general topic.

    If a bottom feels like they are either "loose" or know they can take large dick with mad ease, its nothing wrong with trying to only fuck with dudes that are packing. Yes, it may be a bit complicated if your not the type to check out size before you get into a sexual situation with them. I.e pics, talk, etc. But its ideal to know what your starting with before you start fucking. Especially if you know you got that good that can take Mandingo. Big dick dudes never complain about being able to go hard in an open bttm. Just my opinion.
     
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    .... can someone get in contact with Armond Rizzo for the answer?
     
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