The "Missed Connections" Thread

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  1. Nick Delmacy

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    Last weekend I met a dude around my age (possibly a bit older, black don't crack) at a small gay gathering. Handsome, laid back, non-flashy, smart and kinda boring (in a good way).

    We were off to the side and had an interesting convo about BBC nature docs, body language and other aspects of human behavior. Of course I held my own as well. That kind of convo has never happened for me before at a gay party. Usually it's about superficial shit and pop culture. This was dope.

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    But then other people jumped into our convo and our space (clearly to try to make their own moves on us individually) so we didn’t get to finish the convo or exchange numbers. As the night went on and more people arrived, we both conversed with others. However, I did notice him checking me out throughout the night as the other guys were talking to him, and vice versa.

    He said he doesn’t go out much so odds of randomly seeing him again are low (but not impossible in Atlanta). He also said he only knew a few ppl there, one of which was the host of the gathering. But even then he said he didn’t know him very well.

    Don’t know why I didn’t just get the number, I wanted to and he looked like he wanted me to ask for it (but then again, maybe not...he didn't ask for mine either). We dapped each other goodbye and there was the awkward momentary pause after where it could have happened.

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    In the moment, I remember thinking, "Get his number. Get his number. Get his number." But nope. Maybe my ego was waiting for him to ask first. Idk.

    The old me would just say "fuck it, if it was meant to be it would have happened"…but 2019 me can’t help but think it was a missed opportunity. Especially when I know I should put more energy into better quality dudes, not the tatted young buck that I'm currently texting (he basically took my phone and forced me his number when we first met).

    Anyway, dude is not on Facebook or social media as far as I can see...at least not under the name he gave me. But he seems like the type that wouldn’t be on any social media anyway. So no dice.

    The host of the gathering may be able to give my number to him, but the host has made his own moves on me several times. He's a great guy, just doesn't seem like my type. We're just friends, well, more so associates. But you know how possessive gays can be. I may reach out to him, but probably not.


    It could be that I get dude’s number, we link up and I realize that the instinct to not ask for the number was correct. Or I could have asked and been rejected, at least then there would be closure. But that could just be me making myself feel better for dropping the ball.

    Do you have any Missed Connection stories as well? Any guys that you saw or met in public and wished you had gotten their number?
     
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    I see the same dudes in the gym every day going on for years now. I can tell they are gay. I'm sure they can sense I am too. At this point neither of us have made a move it's not happening. Especially since a few of them I've seen out. Gym guys always have their noses in the air it seems anyway. Though a goal is to become more social, gay men make it seem like you're beneath them to ask a simple platonic question if you're not their type.

    I never really go out and don't know anyone or in the house party loop to get invited to such affairs. So I don't have any missed connections. I'd go to one just to see if I can find other like minded guys but my interests are so specific and not really main stream gay that I really only am out in places gay people tend not to be.... Sumo matches, video arcades, axe throwing ...
     
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    I used to go to a locally gay owned cafe/deli shop. Sometimes I would see this one dude there, very handsome. He would usually be on his laptop. My guess he was a college student. This was awhile ago so I was a recent college grad myself. Only said what up in passing a few times. He always seemed so busy on his computer. I guess I didn't want to interrupt. I told myself a few times that I should try to talk to him, but never did. The cafe closed very shortly afterwards and haven't seen him since. I definitely wish that I would have talked to him to see what was up.

    I try to be more outgoing now, and I'm a little better at starting conversations and asking for numbers.
     
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    Why the drama? Just ask the host for the number! I swear Nick, I think you like being a martyr...

     
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    Why did this thread make me sad....

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    I actually already asked him for the connect but he didn't give it to me, as suspected in the post.

    But apparently I just like being a martyr

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    Alright, point taken, reading is fundamental...
     
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