The Slutty Resurgence of New York's Underground Gay Sex Parties

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    People forget HIV isn't the only disease out there there is also HPV, herpes, and now drug resistant syphilis......very scary.
     
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    I remember being in a discussion with black gay men 2 years ago about this. Most of them were in their late 40s and beyond and they spoke about the good ole days at these functions lol
     
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    Fascinating.

    I am still reading but had to stop and post this :

    “I’m at this place in my life where I’m not sure if I’ll ever have a long-term, solid boyfriend or whatever. I get so much love from my fuck buddies and friends that I feel like I can have just as meaningful an experience hooking up with someone in my room that I just met as I can with somebody that I’m dating.”

    I really feel like more men 40+ are at this stage than not and don't admit it or speak it publicly.
     
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    I think its a really good read to something that has been done since probably ancient Greece and beyond. I can appreciate people that own their sexuality and can be true to themselves if they want to be a "whore/slut".

    My personal opinion about an actual sex party as described in the article is that its a little to busy for my blood. I mean 90+ guys walking around with hard dicks, putting them in whatever moves? Even being in the dark just putting a random dick in your mouth? Well alrighty than. LOL. That just seems way too intense, however I guess thats what they like about it.

    I can be honest in saying that I have experienced group sex when I dated someone and another very attractive couple hit of us while clubbing one night. A total of 4 of us. It was very hot and actually kind of perfect.

    Anything over 4 would be a pass for me. But I can appreciate the freakiness of those sex party dudes. If its your thing, go for it. :sass2:
     
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    My takeaways....

    Men have been having orgies with each other since forever. That's nothing new. But I do think that managed HIV, pRep use, and "It's not a death sentence." has enabled the Play button to go from Pause or Slow Mo on this activity from AIDS of the 80s.

    The fact that there's a broad range of types and walks of life as far as age, race, and body type shows how attractive these parties are across different lives.

    It's pretty efficient when you think about it. Straight to the point and no bs when you compare it to the Apps way off hooking up. No song and dance of who's going to unlock first. Plus depending on the crowd I'm guessing that no matter what hang up you have about your self, someone probably will be into you. I don't know think people go to sex parties with the intention of not busting one.

    I do think it's interesting how some gays seem to be really bent on making sure they are not hetero normative at what seems like all costs. On one hand I think it could be just them rebelling against a social system that has punished gays for so long that being against or heavily disliking marriage is their way of fighting back.

    Not surprised about the black guys' experience. That is how it is on apps. But again if the stank dudes don't want you, why fret? Find some one people who do.

    Again I'm thinking that most older men who are single just don't give a damn and have given up on the relationship thing. While I'm sure a good bit of them are celibate, there's got to be a significant number of them who are hooking up with wild abandon at these parties.
     
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    Yeah, I get emails every weekend about an orgy that's exclusive to black men in New York . The guy's who run it make bank, They throw the parties every Friday, Saturday and Sunday. At least 90 to 150 guy's show up each night. It gets boring after a while, not saying that I've been that much lol. But I've met some cool people at these functions. But the host are shallow, but I guess that's how they keep their clientele. They provide plenty of protection, some people use it, but there is a lot guy's don't care and they won't even acknowledged you if you suggest using condoms. I know people are swapping diseases. The guy's who run it walks away with no less 5,000 each weekend.
     
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    The latest CDC report released yesterday shows an increase in 2016 in cases of syphilis, gonorrhea and chlamydia. A Google search shows similar articles in 2016, 2015 and 2014.
     
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    And that idea is scary to me. I need someone to share my life with that goes deeper than fuck buddies and friends because when they start finding their one and only, you're stuck over there looking like Boo-Boo the fool. But then again, some people may be very well content with those somewhat surface level interactions and I can respect that.

    I'm all here for folks owning their sexuality and to be honest, I'm slightly envious because I don't do a better job of that myself but the health risks are just too great for me. Chronic disease is emotionally and physically exhausting, not to mention very expensive.
     
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    I'm both surprised and not surprised to read this. As a participant in the 1970/1980s New York bathhouse scene this article brings back a lot of memories - some good, some bad. The Bijou, mentioned in the article, was often an early evening stop on the rounds of bars, theaters, in good weather the piers, that wound up at a bathhouse of choice - and there were a lot to choose from.

    There were no apps, but there were the classifieds. And there were bars and cruising spots. But the argument for the bathhouse was about the same as for the sex party - you did not have to spend a lot of time hanging around a bar drinking warm lite beer in the hope that you would strike it rich - if you wanted a quick hit, bathhouses were more efficient. With cruising spots there was always the element of danger and while that could be exciting, it came with possibility of injury or arrest. Neither of those were factors at the bathhouse for the most part. As New Yorkers we all accepted as an article of faith that the bathhouses were owned by the mob, thus protected from the police.

    Once the epidemic started, men rarely talked about it at the bathhouse. If you were too worried you were not there in the first place. But outside the bathhouse scene the conversation was of little else - was it poppers, were there telltale signs? Did condoms work? In my experience it took a while for people at the bathhouses to talk about it - often because you might notice that you had not seen one of the Saturday night regulars for a while. But for the most part, you checked your worries with your clothes when you got your locker.
     
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    mmh I am intrigued...Adds article to Pocket.

    Looks like a long read(including comments in this thread lol ) so I'll come back with some things later
     
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    Wow. I can't imagine participating in gay culture during the 70's/80's New York. Despite of course the huge epidemic that came about, that time always seemed so decadent to me. I bet you have so many stories. Glad you didn't get too caught up in it and are still around to share.

    Seems like many around during those days have since gone. Much respect for you. :umad:
     
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    I was one of the lucky ones - there are too few of us.
     
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    I need to get in on hosting these if that's the case! You couldn't pay me to swap DNA w anyone, but I'd gladly swap a few dollars for holding a bowl of condoms. Matter of fact, I need to find out if they need a bartender..
     
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    If I ever know a spot that would be good to host 50 plus people, I already got it planned out in my head. I would host these parties in a heart beat.
     
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    Now that I think about it, I'll stick to bartending it, and being a voyeur. It would kill me to have to get someone to clean that space up. And I'm just waaay too judgemental when it comes to sex to host something like this. I'd have the worst reviews ever and no one would EVER come back.
     
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    I like to think that I am sex positive and not that judgmental about what consenting adults do and sex parties have always been part of our culture. I do however think this is a bit generational in that I find older gentlemen engaging in sex parties than younger gays who are more open and outwardly expressing their sexuality, i.e., having a public boyfriend. A lot of these men are doing things they couldn't do when they were younger and coming of age so they resort back to a youthfulness that was lost and I find that to be quite sad.
     
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    You know what? Your shenanigans need to stop. Damn worst reviews. LMAO..... :deadmanny:

    So what you saying, your sex party gonna have reviews on Yelp and shit?

    REVIEW #12 "It was ok. I got my dick sucked, fingered a handful of butts and all was well until the host judgmental ass gave me the stank look because he saw me bent over in the corner getting dug out. He sucks. 2 stars" :sabu:
     
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    Lol! I'd be tryna control everything. 'Not over there', 'stay on the mat', 'get from round there', 'you him let HIM climb yo back?!'.

    See, this is why y'all just leave my tip on the way in before disrobing into sin, n I'll just keep yall good n liquored up.
     
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