Inquiring minds want to know - I had a conversation recently about time and change. And when should the past be of no consequence with who the person is today. Let me paint the picture, You meet someone who you really like and is fine as hell. Everything is good, however later you find out 10 years ago they were one of 3 things, The TOP voguer in the ballroom scene and father or mother of the house of _____ A VERY popular stripper everyone still knows and remember. A porn super star you can still google. (keep in mind that it was 10 years ago when they were this person) Background - The dialogue I had with friends expressed some good points. A friend of mine stated that people do indeed change and said think about who you were 10 years ago. He also used the example (although a bit extreme) that at 10 years old you played with toys and at 20 you are playing with other stuff. So its like someone saying, "nah, I'm good, you was playing with toys and shit years ago. fvck that". I know thats a reach from childhood to adult hood, but I get his jest. When many gay men are in their early 20's, it can often be like childhood where they are trying to find themselves. Therefore some may dibble in vogueing, stripping, or even porn. So lets say 22 was the age they participated in one of the 3 things listed above. Than at 32, they are corporate, very masculine, and have grown out of that gay young "don't give a fvck" phase. They are your ideal type of person you would consider datable or a catch. Before you know of their past. But the imagery is still out there. So the questions are- Do you believe once a voguer, stripper, porn star, always that? And therefore you wouldn't date them? and/or Is there something that, no matter how much time has passed, you could never be with someone who use to do ______?