Toxic Relationships: Everytime He Wants to Leave Something Keeps Pulling Him Back

I have a gay friend that I am getting cool with and he talks to me and his other friends about his relationship all the time. I will spend several minutes on the phone with him and every time he says that he feels like he is ready to leave the relationship, he will still continue going back. This has been happening for the past couple of months. I know my friend says it is hard to cut things off because they have been living together for the past few months and he is scared to put him out because his apartment contract states that if someone else has been living there for more than 14 non consecutive days in a month that they are technically considered a resident. He says he can get evicted if his apartment finds out that his BF has been living there.

I will ask myself if I am wasting my time giving my advice since he likes my perspective on things so much. The boyfriend desires to have a relationship with me and his other close friends too. I don't really feel like budging because for the past few months, all I hear is more bad than good. My friend still keeps taking him back. All the disrespect, lies, and all but he will still take that dude back. The boyfriend has not cheated on my friend but there is just so much other sh*t he does that gets on my last nerve. My friend has a good job, pays all the bills (including car insurance for his boyfriend), and does all this other stuff. My friend is a good guy and can do SOOOOOOO much better. I don't care for his boyfriend at all but my friend is saying that no one is perfect and that we all deserve a chance. He says it is important to him that I form a relationship with his boyfriend.

How do you guys approach giving relationship/dating advice to any of your gay male friends in relationships? Do you take more of a passive approach? Do you give options about what your friend in the toxic relationship could do?

Do you take a more assertive approach where you speak about what you would do if you were in their shoes?