Best Posts in Thread: What Are Your Thoughts on Dating “Busy” Men?

  1. Nick Delmacy

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    I agree with a lot that has already been stated, both in the video and in the comments.

    I just feel like a lot of people act like dating is no different than a hobby or playing a new video game: "I'll get around to it when I have time." Building a relationship with another human being takes time and work. So many people say, "You don't really know the person until after 6 or more months, sometimes longer." Yeah, of course it will take a long time to "know" a person if you spend more time/energy LOOKING for the date than you do actually DATING that person.

    I don't think that means spending every waking moment texting, talking and being with the other person...but if a man's desire is to do all of the things with his free time that he did when he was single, he should just stay single.

    As an entrepreneur and self employed freelancer, my livelihood depends on spending time in to get rewards out. I view dating as the same. If I want to build something with a guy so that he becomes my best friend, my closest confidant and my trusted monogamous sexual partner...At the least, that requires prioritizing him over my PS4 time.

    But what do I know, I'm currently single.
     
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    Yeah, I don't waste time on dudes who are "too busy" anymore. Why are you even online or a dating app if you know you don't have time to actually date? If you're working three jobs just to make ends meet then you should have self awareness and understand you shouldn't be out in the dating market wasting people's time. The first time a dude tells me he's too busy to simply respond to a text, I delete and move on.
     
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