You Can Only Pick Two...What Are Your Choices?

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    You can only choose two...What are your choices?
     
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    Intelligence and emotionally stable. Looks can be operated on by a doctor.
     
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    Emotionally stable is non negotiatiable.

    The other two depend on my level of horniness at the moment.

    Intelligence is definitely sexy in a way that physical beauty can't match but, on an animalistic level, intelligence just doesn't come up when it's all about the sexy time. Plus I can see how attractive you are instantly, I won't know your intelligence until after we have a conversation.
     
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    I don't know....I have the intelligence so he could have the emotional stability and good looks so we would be the 'total package' together. My looks have gone to seed and emotional stability..well..let's just say I am very much a Cancer and moody as hell and leave it at that.
    :yeshrug:

    But seriously, intelligence and emotional stability. Looks are very subjective and I have always found a wide variety of ages, body types, ethnicities, and 'looks' to be attractive in various ways. Plus I would need someone to balance out my Cancer moody qualities. 'Good looking' can mean a hell of a lot of different things to different people.

    One 'look' I cannot get into is the very young twinkish look-especially the blue eyed blond white boy who is 22 but looks 15 in the face and 12 in the body! Never could get into that type at all. *shudders* :iverson2:
     
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    Intelligence and emotionally stable!
     
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    Intelligence and emotionally stable. Looks are in the eye of the beholder. Also if we're going to be together we got to be able to have substantive conversations about academic stuff, art, books, sports and life.
     
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    Of course what is lacking the most in available gay men? intelligence and emotional stability!!!



    The world is filled with good looking guys..until they open their mouths and they have no original or interesting thoughts or ideas at all and seem to have a brain the size of a walnut, or they have the 'attitude' and seem to be on drugs or need to be on drugs. Or both.

    And all the intelligent and emotionally stable ones(especially the ones who are also good looking) are married or straight dammit!!!!


    :mjcry1::sadbron::sass2:
     
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    Emotional Stability is number 1
    Others looks are indeed overrated.
    Intelligence would be number 2 but I'm cool with him just knowing all the 'numbers' of the alphabet
     
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    Intelligent and Good looking. F@#k this PC BS "uuughhhllll omgggg...looks are overrateddddd, it's whats in the heaaaaart, omgggggg". I don't need dude to be a super model, but my d#$k gotta get hard at the very least. I'm emotional unstable (Libra) so we'de just be two psycho a$$ muhf@#kaz, but at least we'de both be smart enough to be able to effectively communicate to one another what we're feelin' and why the table is turned over, dishes broken, and each other's clothes are all on the front lawn. LOL
     
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    Emotionally stable and Good Looking.

    1) Don't care if you intelligent but you bi-polar AF
    2) If you smart as a whip and emotionally on point, but I roll over in bed and you look like you got the ZIKA virus. Fvck outta here....
     
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    Intelligent and Emotionally Stable... Right now I think I am only operating with 10% of each lol
     
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    Intelligence is a must for me. I'm a sapiosexual. But the other two are optional. Given that I'm a natural caregiver and helper, I don't mind handling a lil crazy, so I can take a smart, good-looking, emotionally unstable guy like this:
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    LMAO. Damn, kudos on the example. His character is the perfect example of your description. Sexy AF and smart, but you might wake up with him staring at you and cutting his arm. Don't think I could deal with that, but looking at the pic, HMMMM I might. :franko1:
     
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    One thing we are all missing in this is the premise (or what we have done with the premise) is fucked up and binary. We are assuming the opposites without that necessarily being the case.

    If we do not pick one, it does not necessarily mean we are stuck with the dumbest person on the planet, someone who is ugly, or someone who is crazy as a shithouse rat. Someone can be 'not so good looking' but still not ugly or even homely. Someone can be 'not good looking' but real close to it...just a thing or two off. It depends on how you define terms, and if we are defining them as goodlooking and everything else as ugly, we are leaving most men out. Looks to me are a continuum like a bell curve, and if you have half as good looking and the other half as not good looking, there are still going to be a hell of alot of guys who are really close to being on the good looking side.

    When presented with things like this, we assume the extremes which were never part of the question in the first place. Life is generally not like that-great looking or ugly. More like shades of gray. If someone is a little emotionally unstable, that does make them not fall in to the 'emotionally stable' category, but does not mean they are ready for the asylum either. 'Not good looking' does not mean 'ugly as hell', and 'Not intelligent' does not mean stupid. If 100 is the average IQ, and you are dealing with 'Intelligent' vs 'Not intelligent', 105 is intelligent, and 95 is not intelligent. Think about it.

    Basically Nick tricked us and set us up. lol

    I therefore change mine to good looking as in my idea of physical perfection, ever so slightly on the emotionally unstable side, and smarter than Einstein(meaning smart enough to use his extreme intelligence to have acquired great wealth also.)
     
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    Intelligent and emotionally stable. Looks fade. And there have been plenty of dudes who I didn't immediately find attractive, but developed attraction over time through conversations and getting to know them. An attraction that's a lot stronger than traditionally physically attractive dudes. An attractive dude is like a nice picture. Nice to look at, but doesn't have much value outside of that. I need to have someone I can bounce ideas off of and doesn't run away when I discuss intelligent topics.
     
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    Don't mean to pick your opinion apart (well I guess I am.. Ha) but, isn't saying "attractive dude, nice to look at but doesn't have much value'' a total generalization and frankly kinda ignorant?

    Just because a person may be attractive, hell even drop dead gorgeous, you immediately think "they don't have value outside of that''? I worked with models in the past mostly male and yes, some were total idiots, but those actually were very few. Many of them were VERY smart through conversations I had with them. And not only that, many had substance and were even entrepreneurs using their looks and the cash made by it to invest in business ventures and education.

    I just think maybe you forgot the CAN. As in "An attractive dude CAN be like a nice picture."

    When you say,
    Who's to say an attractive dude could not be bad as fvck look wise, but also capable of this?
     
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    Really tho?! I will take a stable Flavor Flav over a fine ass nutjob! Anyone becomes more attractive to you once you actually care about them.
     
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    This question is kinda like something that would be passed around in a note in an all white high school in 1984 in a John Hughes movie. * And NO I am not 'trolling Nick' just saying. lol
     
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    Well, seeing as how the questions says you can ONLY pick two, if I don't pick intelligence, then that assumes I'm picking someone who was stupid. Of course attractive people can be intelligent, there's no denying that, but in this context, if I choose someone who is intelligent and attractive, they wouldn't be emotionally stable, which is not someone I would willingly put up with. Ideally I would pick all three, but that's not what the question is asking.
     
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    LMAO @SB3 ! C'mon..Flavor Flav?! I can only imagine that he is charming AF- I'm no model, but boy he's funny looking! And yet he still found some women who wanted dem babies! So there's hope for us merely average dudes.

    Intelligence and emotional stability for me. Luckily enough, I met a dude who is all 3. Damn.
     
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    "I think beauty's overrated
    Cause that's something anyone can be
    Attraction now that's something different, ah-huh
    And thankfully you're both to me"

    -Robert Glasper's Ah Yeah ft Musiq Soulchild and Chrisette Michele
     
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    Some of y'all took the fun out. Looks fade on some, but a lotta black don't crack if you take care of yourself. And who said emotional instability couldn't be stabilized with meds? Lol.

    But back to looks fading, I think some folks look better as they age.
     
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    I just noticed something...there are gonna be a whole lotta good looking people who are gonna get picked over cuz everyone being all politically correct about beauty and looks.

    Good looking people...I don't discriminate. Y'all come holla at me.
     
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    They didnt want them babies, they wanted that child support check! Congrats on finding all 3 in 1 tho!

    My point tho, was that as much as I appreciate a good looking man (and Im too damn old and aware to pretend that I don't know that I am one) but I'm waaay more interested in a masculine, good dude. YES! Masc isn't negotiable. For ME!
     
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    True. True.

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    But yo, as I said, I like me a good looking dude. If a goofy-looking flava flav came round to holla at me with a silver tongue and big brain...the only question I'd ask is if he was a billionaire. Ain't nobody got time for that mess! Dude would not find himself anywhere near my bed. Dude he has a grill- a grill!- at 50! And he looked just as broke-down when he was 30. Smh.

    If I had to pick a dude who was very above average for 2 of the 3, I'd go for smarts and emotional intelligence.
     
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    I'm so slow...I thought this was asking what would I choose for MYSELF! AHA!! My bad....

    Emotionally stable and intelligent are a must!
     
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    Intelligent and Emotionally Stable

    I like to have challenging conversations and learn new things. I have too many emotionally unstable friends that I couldn't dare see me dealing with on a more personal level. As far as looks I would like to at least for him to be decent, don't have to be the sexiest.
     
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    Emotionally stable and good looking. I don't think I can handle someone unstable, and a clever unstable person might easily wreak havoc upon my life. It doesn't matter if they're not smart as long as they have a cool personality, especially if intelligent mainly refers to book smarts and not other less apparent forms of aptitude.
     
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    Emotionally Stable and Good-Looking. I'll be smart for us both.
     
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