Your take on: Gay men grinding at the clubs

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  1. OhSheit

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    I've only been to straight parties and obviously I know that Straight/Bi dudes have anxiety when it comes to dancing and approaching the ladies in general...I'm sure some of you were that guy or pretended to be that guy. But since everyone's into hardcore grinding, daggering and perreo (for the papis out there) I was wondering how does that even work when it comes to gay clubs and masculine men (preferably Black/Latino)?

    Let's say we're past that anxiety of approaching a dude just for conversation or sex, your favorite song "Partition" comes on (@ockydub) and awww sheit, now you want to dance with "Odell". But how would you dance with him?

    Would you be comfortable enough to grind with a guy? Or be comfortable enough to be around couples that do it?

    Is it too heteronormative or too gay/fem for you?

    Does your position in grinding or the way you dance in general, tells a person about your sexual position?

    Just based on what I see in media I feel like white gays and more feminine gays might be more comfortable to have fun and let loose in that manner. It was even difficult to find the image that I have above that shows black men that are more "masculine looking" (would prefer if they had their shirts on). So I wanted to know what CA thought about this.

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    Ain't nothing wrong or grinding on another dude in the club. That don't make you feminine or less of a man than having sex with with another man. I used to grind on dudes in the club back in the day.
     
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    It's so funny how I JUST made a bump and grind reference before reading this lol!

    But what the hey I'll do it again!

    .....thanks Kelly.

    Yeah I don't think it's too heteronormative depending on how you do it..I guess if you perform extremely compromising positions and movements it will look silly but that's just me. Would I personally be comfortable to do that with a guy if I went to a club? (Highly unlikely anyway) I probably wouldn't to be honest because I'm not used to doing things like that and being all up on strangers (I enjoy my personal space)...but if a guy was attractive and didn't come at me completely sideways( i.e. Just went for it and randomly starts grinding on me) I think I would have a good time!

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    As far as one gay man will go with another, this ain't making you any more or less masculine/feminine than you are in bed. That being said, I'm fine with it. Daggering, on the other hand, they can keep that. Not an issue with masculinity, but rather spine/pelvis/hip alignment.
     
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    :sabu::sabu::sabu:I may be in love with you for this
     
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    Had to look it up lol seen it but never knew the name(Y'all know I live under a rock right?)


    Yeah this is what I'm talking about...won't catch me becoming a pack mule..
     
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    See! In less than 2 minutes, she was a pack mule, a ladder, a tree branch, and a tilt a whirl ride. While everyone watched, too!
     
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    I don't know how the bruthas are doing it now but when I was in my 20s bruthas was grinding on each other shirtless in the club. I only went to black gay clubs. Many of the dudes in there didn't even look like they were gay. Once it got to a certain point in the night when the club was packed people really cut loose.
     
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    LOL her spine must be stronger than most..
     
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    I commend her because she took it like a champ, and actually seemed to enjoy it lol
     
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    Been there, done that, will do it again. Would have no problem grinding on Odell "social media whore" Beckham.
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    No problem with men grinding on each other, as long as it's not extra. I just hate seeing people grind to the point it looks like they are fucking. I see it all the time in straight clubs. I hate it. They is a grinding code of conduct.

    As for me, I'm an ass man, so I like to be grinded on not doing the grinding (on the dance floor of course). Odell can back that ass up on me anytime.
     
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    I have been at the Club Opera in ATL on a 3rd Saturday. I almost had it happen to me but I chickened out lol. But yeah dudes stay grinding on each other in the club. I wouldn't mind having it done to me or doing it to some other guy now.
     
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    Y'all are some Hot Boys, lol.

    No lie though, I know it's all for fun and in the moment, but as a laid-back discreet masculine dude, whenever I saw a guy I had been eyeing all night eventually get out like that grinding w randoms on the dance floor in a club, especially shirtless, it was a HUGE turnoff.

    Had me in the gay club looking at y'all like:

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    I was one of those guys who said I would never grind with a dude because I thought that shit looked gay. lol. But that changed this summer at the club. Me and this dude started grinding. I've grinded with girls before, but this was way different. It was an interesting "sensation." lol. Honestly, it depends on how you do it. If a dude is pop, locking, and dropping it, that's probably a turn-off. But if he's more smooth, I can get with it.
     
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    True true. If the dude starts twerking like he is in that Fly Young Red video then NOOO:whut:. I have always been more comfortable dancing with a dude on the slower jams... when those big dance hall club hits come on i just cant keep up. Will have to stand in the corner
     
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    I gotta ask tho... how do you guys feel about friends dancing on friends? One thing I've noticed about gay clubs the few times I've gone is that it is VERY CLIQUE-ISH. I will see people that are not together dancing on one another.
     
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    I'm not really the grinding type...guys have tried to grind on me and I'm usually like..

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    It's just such an awkward thing for me lol
     
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    LOL I know I don't mind. Skrippers in the strip club can grind on me all damn day hahaha
     
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    Brotha from Anotha...

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    Lol don't even get me started on strippers dude
     
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    Swinging Richards is EVERYTHING and more out in ATL. I went to the one they had out in Pompano Beach, FL in January last year while interviewing for the graduate school program I'm in now but it has since closed down. That sucks because I would be WILDIN' out if it was still open hahaha
     
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    I remember running from a stripper at the club...the ones that be picking ppl from the audience and grinding on them...
     
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    No dude I've only been to a male strip club once and I probably won't ever go again... I literally ran from a stripper like...LOL
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    LOL I would be running TOWARD the skripper :p
     
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    Did they have mostly white strippers or was there any chocolate?? I just want to know for...science...
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    Fridays and Saturdays there is more chocolate. :)

    But the dudes I got a private lap dances from weren't even black. One was Dominican and the other was another type of Latino. They were TOO fine. Lol.

    My twin got a dance from this FINE black dude though. He beat me to him hahaha.
     
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    Lol more power to you man
     
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    Although I haven't been to a gay club yet I feel like my experience won't be any different from a straight club, I'll be on the wall just lurking... but this time probably covering my piece. It would have to take a lot for me to be comfortable enough to be that close in public. Maybe if it got REALLY packed like Cyrus said and I'm the only loser just standing there I'd say fuck it.

    It's nice to see that some of you don't give a F though. Kind of expect more "not my style", "too gay".
     
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    Hmmm I'll keep that in mind...
     
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    we're going next time I come to ATL haha (but seriously)
     
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    Lol never been to a strip club! Idk if I'll be like you and run towards them or be like @bpaisle and run away lol would be interesting to find out!
     
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    Don't be scurred of the peen and bootay lol. I remember after going to Swinging Richards in August last year after my first semester ended, I told some guys from Cypher Avenue I had dinner with in ATL at Fox Bros BBQ that I touched my first you know W-H-A-T and smacked on my first you know W-H-A-T lol they were laughing and they were proud of me hahaha

    I didn't care. I worked my first semester and I knew it was time to turn the F up when I touched down in ATL.
     
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    Lol just run dude...it's cool to watch but when they try to involve you... image.gif
     
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    LOL...interestingly some of these anti-grinding comments remind me of some of the anti-homosexual Odell Beckham comments that follow his dancing videos by straight people."Eww he dancing with another dude." "Eww them dudes grinding."
    Aint nothing wrong with getting your grind on...
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