Uh, okay this one is tricky because many gay men are attractive with nice bodies. They even go as far as to literally shave the hair from their bodies. Its only because men are very visual, superficial creatures and we realize to get an in-shape man you have to be in-shape yourself. This is also the reason you find a higher percentage of gay men over straight men working out in the gym. However, the majority of masculine gay men out there are pretty average, below average or just plain disgusting. Unfortunately, the muscled model dudes are the coveted ones and get the most attention, even from non-gays, so they tend to stand out and tend to “represent” the rest of us. It’s gotten so bad that even when I see a heterosexual man that seems overly “pretty and attractive” I automatically assume he gets down in some form or fashion.
Okay, this is mostly true. Many gay relationships don’t last, plain and simple. There are many guys who have had a two-week “relationship” and considered that “long-term”. Gay guys are too picky, too distracted, have too high expectations and move too fast. I’ll even go on record and say that I’ve never been in a relationship with another dude. But believe it or not, some men actually do stick it out for the long haul. Take Deondray Gossett and Quincy LeNear, creators of the awesome yet short lived series “The D.L. Chronicles”, possibly the only “celebrity” masculine, openly gay couple we have. They’ve been in a committed relationship for going on 17 years.
While many feminine gay men are heavily into fashion, the masculine gays are still playing catch up in this area. Don’t get me wrong, we like to look good, but we don’t spend as much time on doing so as the stereotypes suggest. This may be due to the negative stigma placed on men that are into fashion. Regardless, many masculine gay men would not be winning any awards or be featured in magazine spreads when it comes to what they wear on a daily basis (myself included). Club and/or party nights on the other hand, we know how to clean up very well.
You wouldn’t believe how many Gay grease-monkeys are out there. Even I am quick to get under the hood or jack up my whip on occasion to check on a strange noise, install new brakes or change a flat tire. Masculine Gay men are not entirely adverse to getting a little dirty.
Contrary to what black books, movies and gossip websites would have you think, being masculine and gay is not a dastardly pretend-act to infect men and women with the HIV virus. Statistically, when a person has multiple sexual partners, they increase the risk of not only contracting a sexually transmitted disease like HIV but also infecting their multiple partners as well. So homosexuality is not to blame, promiscuity is the culprit.
– Nick D
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Gotta love the first 1! Its like, ‘do u see me???….ok, now go look at urself!’
Number #1 typically gets me heated. The same funky face fat f*cks who get IGNORED by women everyday will think a Gay dude wants them and their sh!t stained draws. It would be funny if it weren’t so frustrating.
Sometimes they think we wanna be women too
Im with u on #3 tho about my sexuality not being your business.im like,we won’t be together so why are you worried about it
You got me on all points but #1 to me is the most assumed misconceptions. Personally I do not believe they really mean what they say when they say that gay men are all ‘looking’ and preying on them and they are concerned as they all shower together- the NFL & NBA assholes are the main culprits here. It tears me up..And I just want to tell them ..nigga be glad someone is looking at your ass..you probably getting off on the thought…
They assume this only to spread and confirm what they THINK they know of being gay. Its immature assumptions- I’m left handed therefore I use my left hand all the time…You are gay so therefore you look at all men all the time…Oh how pathetic…I would tell them to challenge their assumptions..they are the windows to anyone’s world..scrub them off to let some light shine through asshole!
okay,
the one you really are wrong about is why black gay men are not in committed relationships…the reason is that most black gay men have to deal with the “shame” of who they are…hint, i am not out, i don’t want to be “clockable” when we go out, you can’t be seen with effeminate gay men…
why? because you are ashamed of this and you can’t take what ST8’s will say about you…if gay men really want to be in a committed relationship, they need to be “out” and feeling good about who they are and feeling great about the man you love…most gay man cannot even say, i am in love with this “man”..why, shame…
as long as you hide, you will never be proud and accepting of who you are..hint, you bring baggage and drama to a relationship which will cause the relationship to most definitely end…can you take your boyfriend to meet your Mom..nope, damn why man…because i would be ashamed you our relationship and what she will think of me..that i am less of a person/man…shame
as gay man who has dealt with the issue of shame all of my life, i will not “tolerate” anyone disrespecting me for what and who i am..if i like myself, i don’t have to hide it or worry about what haters will think…to hide who are is to condone that everything you are is wrong according to the naysayers (st8’s and even other gay men who will tell you “well, i know its wrong because the Bible tells me so”) what is that, it’s shame…
just like i would never allow anyone to disrespect me because i am black or because i am a man…i am not ashamed (anymore) of who i love…i need to be happy and am entitled to a loving supportive relationship too..i want to be able to do anything with my “partner” just like my brother does with his wife…peace