Second verse, same as the first. The term Queen takes the descriptor “girl” and/or “ladies” to its pinnacle level. When I hear a gay man call another man a Queen, I usually take that to mean he’s the very most effeminate and most Gay that a person can possibly get. Especially if its a successful gay man who happens to have a few effeminate characteristics.
Again, why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we publicly do the work for the people that hate us?
We once had a black gay man who disagreed with our views write a blog post about us on The Huffington Post. No big deal. We are very critical of others so why should we be upset when others are critical of us?
No, what caught our eye was the fact that the writer referred to himself as a “Snap Queen” in the TITLE of the article! Wait…a what? From what I remember, snapping Queens was the disparaging running joke about black gay men on In Living Color. Is that what we’re doing now? We’re telling the world to take us seriously as intelligent black gay men (on The Huffington Post) by describing ourselves as characters that were jokes on a sketch comedy show?
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that the use of these terms are in many ways a self defense mechanism for effeminate men in response to decades of being the brunt of homophobic jokes and homophobic physical attacks. A good offense is the best defense, they say.
My question is, “Is this really the best defense possible? Is it really working when these words still hurt if used by heterosexuals and/or closeted masculine gay men?”
If any man (straight or gay) calls me a Nigger or a Faggot, we’re gonna have some words and I promise you they won’t be followed by jolly laughs and giggles. Conversely, I would NEVER call someone I consider my friend or brother a “Nigger” or a “Faggot.” Same applies to Queen, Girl or Sissy. My friend Ocky Williams has never heard me call him “girl” or say to him, “you the biggest Queen I know” or “Hey Cunt, what you do this weekend?” or “Bitch, stop lying.”
Reason: Because I respect him as a man…a man who happens to be gay, but still a man…
Whether masculine or feminine, we are all men…not 16 year old high school Mean Girls.
Let’s all start to respect ourselves more in how we speak to one another as men. Especially those of us men who are Black and Gay…because don’t we already face enough abuse in the world?
What the fuck does this even mean? Seriously! Is it meant to be used as a verb? A noun? I mean, what the fuck?!
From what I understand this is the one word on the list that is supposed to specifically refer to desirable masculine men (whether straight or gay). It is primarily used by effeminate men, for what reason, I do not know.
“Oh girl, look at Trade over there!” he said as he pointed to the UPS man delivering packages.
Sigh.
Is the origin of this term related to the slave “Trade” of desireable Mandingo Men, lusted after by the dainty Caucasian lady of the plantation? Because that’s what it sounds like! Are we THAT damaged as a people that we’re still using multiple American Slavery terms to each other nearly 500 years later?!
Let it go! No gay man likes to be called Trade. I promise you this.
This one is the most mind boggling of them all. Mainly because the Gay Powers That Be include the word in official acronyms that are supposed to represent us as a whole. Let’s take a look at what the dictionary defines as “Queer”:
queer [kweer]
1. Strange or odd from a conventional viewpoint; unusually different; singular: a queer notion of justice.
2. Of a questionable nature or character; suspicious; shady: Something queer about the language of the prospectus kept investors away.
3. Not feeling physically right or well; giddy, faint, or qualmish: to feel queer.
4. Mentally unbalanced or deranged.
5. Slang: Disparaging and Offensive.
Wait, what? This is what people choose to refer to themselves as? Queer? How can we argue that there’s nothing wrong with being gay and we’re no different than heterosexuals when we call ourselves “Strange”, “Odd”, “Different” and “Mentally unbalanced” from the gate?
To make matters worse, as Ocky Williams often points out, there are actually College and University courses DEDICATED to “Queer Studies!”
This is the equivalent of a college class on Hispanic culture being called “Wetback History 101.”
Why would we officially claim a word that has historically and perpetually been used as a disparaging epithet? Even to this day! If a drunk straight man in a bar yelled out to a group of homosexuals “fuckin’ Queers!” would that group of ‘Queers’ say to themselves, “Yup that’s us! We’re really popular in here, guys. Everyone knows our name!”
STOP WITH THE QUEER SHIT! STOP WITH THE LGBTQ SHIT!
You are not “Queer”! You are just as normal as everyone else! Calling yourself “Queer” admits defeat before your argument for acceptance even begins.
There are MANY more words to add to this list but these are five I think should be abolished ASAP. Self Respect and Self-Esteem begins from within. The solution of the attacks of a bully is not to bully ourselves first and pretend to like it. Yes, non-gay people continue to make it difficult for acceptance, but how can expect anything different when we continue to show them that we don’t respect each other amongst ourselves?
I want to hear your thoughts. Is using these words no big deal or are we perpetuating our own self-hatred?
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every gay I know that uses Girl and Queen(myself included) is only meant in humor. I call it making the best out of a situation. We have it so hard in most cases and if we can’t poke fun at ourselves every now and again we would just be miserable.
So you basicly saying if you can’t beat them join them huh? I understand people tryingt to put humor to something negative But like Nick said you may think you taking the power away by using those terms jokingly, but as soon as the WRONG person says those words it cuts deep. Then that vioce gets deeper that testosterone and adrenaline starts pumping and you ready to show who ever how manly you really are.
I feel the men who should be called women, and girl, are the male->female transgender dudes who actually want to be women and want to be recognized and identified as women.
No. I’m saying that some of us just see it as funny and we make light of it. We know we’re not girls and the humor is in the fact that we are not. Hmph. The conspiracy theorist in me almost believes this is a roundabout attack on fem men again since those are the ones that use the terms except for sissy. The difference between NIgger and the words you’ve highlighted here is that Nigger has an historical usage that was intended to be hurtful and demeaning. Queen/Girl/Trade do not have this historical baggage. Words like FAG and PUNK do and I never hear my gay friends use that term unless they are intentionally meaning to be offensive but that’s a different story. I can see Sissy fitting into the N word character, but once again thats only something I ever hear straight men or masculine men use to demean fem men. Queer…well I never hear anyone use that casually so I don’t know.
Lol dude read the article agian…. He actually says the every gay person need to stop using those terms..fem inbetween and masculine gay dudes.
I have heard white gay guys use the word queer @hannibal
Maybe you should take a minute and do some basic research. Seems that a number of posters here seem to have a ill informed skewed view of gay language.
I hear that: if a gay dude calls me “girl,” I mean, I figure it’s meant to be funny and I’m over it – although it can add up after a while.
But if a STRAIGHT dude calls me “girl”…yeah I get kinda pissed…
@Nick I have to agree with you about those words.
I never use the words but I do notice them if I happen to be around gay people at work or just being out and about. I think that the best way for African-Americans and Gay people to take their power back is to not use the words. If you really want to empower yourself, use words like strong, independent, brave, courageous, etc. Don’t empower yourself (or someone else) by saying that you (or they) are an “independent b!tch/ni99a”, “snap queen”, desirable “trade”, a “butch fa99ot/sissy” and so on.
I think that we as a people (gays and African-Americans) have to really think about what we are doing to ourselves. It goes back as far as 1712 with the William Lynch speech/letter (see more here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Lynch_speech). White people influenced African-Americans to have an inferiority complex where we always feel that we are less than good enough. As time continued on, the Caucasian population did not have to do the work anymore to make Blacks feel like we are less than. We as African-Americans continue to keep doing that to ourselves.
The same goes for heterosexuals making homosexuals feel like they had a mental disorder back in the day and that we were doing the wrong thing for feeling the way we do.
It has become so second nature for African-Americans and Gay Men to say those derogatory terms as a way to empower themselves when they’ve forgotten the true origin and reason for…
Willie Lynch definitely applies, thanks for adding that @africanking
You’re welcome @nick!
Okay, okaaay, Mr. Nick Buzzkillington. I’ve been having my fun with Donnie McClurkin. “She” “Gospel Sissy” etc. Message received. Sheesh.
Im not aware of this issue ever being raised before
I often say homo(s) because I identify with the term homsexual.does anyone find that word offensive since straight guys are known to use it negatively
I never been called girl in person, but online is a different story. If someone called me girl in person I would chin check that punk. I have been known to refer to the stereotypical gays as “the girls” though. I be like the girls are gonna get you lmao
Okay Bishop Nick, I’m somewhat perplexed about your ‘outrage’ here. It goes without saying that I’m in agreement with you as it relates to the use of these terms. But why are you giving rappers and the hip hop genre a total pass when it comes to homophobic lyrics, yet take exception with the ‘kids’? You can demand that your gay brethren behave in a certain manner, yet give your blessings to the likes of J. Cole by referring to his destructive lyrics as “ART”???
Color me confused as f*ck
@blackpegasus I never gave J Cole or Hip Hip a pass on anything. I wrote an entire essay the other day about the homophobia in Hip Hop that we need to acknowledge more.
In this article I mentioned repeatedly that we have to get our own house in order first before was can expect any straight homophobes to tolerate us. Their offensive language about us, we use it on each other daily, yet we expect them not to. How can we expect to get respect when we don’t even respect ourselves amongst each other?
I hear you. When I said to my best friend (straight) that using “gay” as an insult on a TV sitcom is damaging for gays (and American culture, at large), he disagreed: “anti-gay language adds ‘color’ to dialogue in a TV comedy,” he told me.
What?! I was disappointed in him.
But to your point: when is it “art” (a pass) and when is it not “art”?
Can I even argue with my friend, if he perceives this comedy as “art”? It would get a pass!
I can understand the writers frustration and point of view. As a gay black man who also think internalized homophobia is one of our community’s most pressing issue I think it’s great to see this discussion happen. However, I’d just like to point out that perhaps we need to start looking a little deeper at some other issues, like gender bias, for instance. Why is it that men are so offended by being called, in any form, a girl? Is being likened to a female really so awful? Maybe if we reject biases based on gender being called a “Queen” could take a different spin. Also, although I think labels can be damaging they can also be empowering. Although you, or someone else may reject the term “Queer”, for many it’s self-affirming. There’s an argument to be made that there’s a long history of taking power from those who oppress by adopting their language and re-defining it to make it our own. Many years ago it would have been offensive to be called “Black” but now many of us use that term with pride, as I do. Language can be transitionary and fluid and meaning can evolve. A definition in a dictionary is very limited in scope and should not be the go to reference when understanding the complexity of certain words/labels. The intention of the writer is clear and I could not agree with that more but there are certainly other things to consider when having this discourse.
Thanks for your feedback. I would counter your questions with a question of my own: What’s really so wrong with being a man and being labeled as such amongst each other? Its not about being offended by an association with women. Again, we can’t get offended when homophobes say we’re not men if we don’t even recognize ourselves as men amongst each other.
I mentioned repeatedly in the article that I get the theory of taking power away from words but its clearly not working. These words are still offensive if used by the right people in the wrong ways. So how is this self-affirming?
I merely listed the dictionary definition of queer to show the word has no positive context in everyday society whatsoever. It also is STILL used as an negative epithet. What sense does it make to have that be the official label for a group of people? Why not start with a universally POSITIVE word than adopting a negative word that is still currently used against us?
This is like a kid being called an offensive nickname “Butt Ugly Larry” and his response as an adult is to change it to his Legal name.
Your welcome for the feed-back and I’m glad to contribute to the discussion. What I offered wasn’t not a criticism to your opinion piece but just food for thought.
Never did I suggest that there is something wrong with being called a man or recognized as such. I simply asked why is it that being associated with a woman is so offensive and I would argue that it’s gender bias based on Colonial/Puritanical ideology that deems women as less than, weak, inferior, etc. I could offer a myriad of examples, “you throw like a girl” “stop crying like a little girl” “man-up”. I would be no more inclined to be offended if someone were to look at me and say I was the color red than I would be if someone insinuated I was acting like a girl. Neither would be true but the difference here is that “red” has no negatives attached to it like “woman-like” does and I find that more offensive to my sisters/mothers than I anything.
I also suggested that language evolves. If you look in the dictionary for the word gay 20 years prior to today it would have a totally different meaning. Fag was a cigarette. Black was negatively used by our oppressors before the late 60’s/70’s when “we” reclaimed it to make it a label of pride. People can use plenty of derogatory, hurtful words and I’m not saying there should be a movement for every one of them to redefine them. But if Butt Ugly Larry wanted to start a campaign I would at least validate his feelings to do so.
This website is all about discussion so never feel out of place for offering a different point of view.
As for our comment, you make some valid points but many of them have nothing to do with this article. When modern gay men call Tyler Perry a “Closet Queen” or Donnie McClurkin a “Gossip Sissy”, I seriously doubt they are doing so to make a statement against “Colonial/Puritanical Ideological Gender Bias.”
Lasty, attempts to redefine negative words seems to be a trick that only African Americans and homosexuals try to pull off. Why not focus on POSITIVE words instead? The word GAY started off positive, why not adopt more words like that again instead of a word like “Queer” that universally means strange and is STILL used in verbal attacks by homophobes? If they tell us, “You guys are different” why is our response, “No we’re not, we’re Queer!”
HUH?!?! lol Anyway, thanks for adding to the discussion.
I can see this debate going on and on, which is cool and I think healthy as long as it’s respectful that we acknowledge these are just our individual points of view.
I do believe the comments I made speak directly to your article in that I just suggested we take look at the issue you raised using a broader lens, to expand upon what you started. In my initial post I stated that I understood your viewpoint and there was no disagreement with the important topic you raised.
Any words or language could be used as harmful. So yes, I totally agree, if someone calls out T. Perry or Donny in that manner, with the sole intent to cause pain or denigrate him then there’s an issue….no matter what term is used. I only suggested we look closer at why the feminizing someone seems like the ultimate offense. Is in not possible that there are deeper issues here to ponder?
And I don’t think reclaiming language is a trick, rather I see it as empowering, but again, that’s just my point of view which I dare to say other might share.
Lastly, I don’t see why we can’t embrace and honor our differences. In fact, I don’t want to assimilate into a culture or with those who continue to perpetuate hate, violence, and homophobic views. So sorry, I reject the assumption that my goal is to “be the same”. Different is not synonymous with lesser than or better than. Again, that’s a European/Colonial construct that we’ve been “tricked” into thinking is good.
@nick Donnie McClurkin and his kind have called us way worse than “gospel sissy,” so let’s not get dramatic. I won’t say it on this site anymore but let’s be clear:
When I mock the closeted ex-gay christians, who statistically fail at their “rebirth” in laughable numbers while increasing the suicide rates of our gay boys; I’m participating in a bit of well earned schadenfreude for the hypocrites who had it coming.
No, I’m not saying as a statement for gender bias and I’m not saying it based on the loose logic that I must hate myself. Rather, I enjoy saying it to fuck with people who hate me enough to want me gone.
No, take no offense man…I know you were just joking. I used that example in my response because it was fresh on my brain. However I do think we need to be mindful of the language we use, even if we are directing it towards homophobes themselves. I’m guilty of this myself so its an ever evolving process.
I agree with the concept of the article and the information in it so let’s break it down line by line shall we:
1. The word “Sissy” has more meaning to it than to belittle someone who’s homosexual but use of the word is primarily used to insult gays so I agree with you on this Nick!
2. Girl. Well, I don’t like for a homosexual to refer to me as “Girl” for the simple fact that I’m not in fact a girl. Granted, it’s the most popular term in the gay slang dictionary and some don’t find harm in it but my preference is to not have it used towards me since I don’t use it towards others.
3. Queen. I totally get your point on this Nick! Why use such a strong word as “Queen” to describe another gay man but when a hetero uses it towards you, you find it offensive? I’ve used the word before but I’m trying to slowly work it out my vocabulary.
4. Trade. I HATE THIS FUCKING WORD PERIOD!
5. Queer. The gay community would argue they’ve reclaimed power of this word by removing negative connotations from it. It all depends on who you ask because some gays don’t have a problem being called queer. Also, to some, the “Q” in LGBTQ stands for Questioning but I get the point you’re making.
All in all, this article has some truth to it but what I also noticed after reading this article is that as much as some of us claim we’re different from the heteros, we’re actually just like them with the exception of who sleeps next to us at night.
Overall, good job on…
When I was doing my undergrad I had a sociology teacher (female) who not only hated the use of the word “girl” for gay guys, but for grown women as well! It’s a discussion that never gets old.
I agree. Totally. This us so true of black male homosexuals here in the south if Africa. Africans are such sponges for western culture. So quick to absorb errthing that comes from yonder.
I think from a personal standpoint, a lot of the issue is with ppl thinking its okay to call me any of these terms, because Im gay. For some girl who has a super fem friend who says these words all of the time, to think it’s no big deal as long as the dude is gay. Its about the fight for gay men to not be seen as a monolith, just like blk folks are always jumping up about every time madea goes to jail, the fam reunion, or the damn grocery store!
It’s no secret that being seen as a blk, gay ‘miss girl’ stereotype is a big reason why many of us stay closeted.
I love this post!! I have been saying for a while that using the words you said above is self-hatred. Why would a man think is OK to call themselves a girl when they are not? A man come in with different mannerisms and personalities…but they are still a man. The word “queer” is the worst one. There has to be a better word than that to use.
I’m involved in higher education and a lot of the classes and programs that cater to lgbt issues use the word “Queer”. I never really thought about the dictionary meaning of the word until I read it in the article. Why would you want to call yourself “Queer” after reading that definition? It sounds like something that people use to describe gay men when mainstream society didn’t understand what being gay was. The world is evolving; the gay community needs to do the same.
I wish we could just erase these words but it’s not the simple. These words are a part of the whole gay culture, not just the black gay culture. Unless visible gay leaders make it an issue to stop the self-hatred slang, these words will continue to be used by the oppressed and the oppressors.
I would argue that it’s more self hatred to dislike that some gays find humor and irony in referring to each other as “girl” or whatever what have you.
I have seen a lot of LBGTQ websites change the Q from queer to Questioning
@nick I totally agree with you bruh. I stopped being close to two really cool dudes because I don’t want to be referred to as “girl” or “bitch”. To me, its an insult to my manhood. At this stage in my life, I can only be close to people who reflect certain values any reference to the terms you mentioned will undermine those values. I refuse to accept that I am somehow a lesser version of what it means to be a man. I had to ask myself, does being same gender loving negate my manhood? I know it does not!
I often wonder why we as same gender loving men do not take the time to create the narrative about us rather instead of mirroring heterosexual social/sexual roles and norms or those created by the white gay community. We are in the unique position to present ourselves as self-affirming and whole MEN who can be found in all cross sections of life.
Amen!! Hallelujah!! Holla!! Code Ten!!
I was just thinking about this because a Facebook buddy posted a message about how much he enjoyed being at a gay outing because his “friends” were being so “shady,” doing “reads,” and “spilling the tea.” Because this guy is an attractive male and seen as being desirable, he’s a part of the in circle where those things may seem entertaining because it’s not directed toward him, but for many of us, it’s hurtful and unnecessary. It’s interesting that the things some of us don’t like about the community are the very things that other people love about it.
I don’t use any of the terms referred to in the article and that’s my preference, but I hope that one day, especially for those that want better for our community, we’ll break away from and grow out of some of the negativity that has come to be expected and welcomed from some of our members. Otherwise, we’ll just have to stay fragmented and let those that feel comfortable with that sort of thing do it amongst themselves while those that aren’t cool with it connect somewhere else.
I was picked on terribly as a child. And though I’m typically not the target of “tea” and “reads” I feel for those that are. The teasing and name calling from “friends” sounds and feels a lot like the teasing and name calling from our enemies.
Yeah I don’t really get it. I’m a male so in no way do I want to be referred to as girl or bitch. It’s just like black people saying n***a. Saying the word jokingly makes it okay but if somebody used it in a negative way against you then it’s time to fight. Using these words in everyday language doesn’t take power away from them. The black community and the gay community are so backwards. I think it’s really ridiculous to turn words that are used to demean us and turn them into terms of endearment that we use everyday without a second thought. We definitely have a long way to go.
@Bpaisle @nick Fellas, I’m with you. I refuse to engage in psychological warfare with myself! I know for a lot of people its all about perspective;however, someone among us has to MAN up and see the bigger picture. Too many sheeple! LOL
Yeah @bpaisle, @thinker, @mikeyllo, @quietsoul, @exhibitrey and @sb3000, I don’t have ANY friends in my circle who use these words and others like it. When gay dudes around me say offensive ish like girl, sissy and Queen I be like:
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If I tell dudes I have a problem with those words and why, they usually either watch themselves when they speak or they find me frequently absent when they’re around.
I believe these words aren’t “negative” exactly, but based on your own history with these words and depending on the way these words are used, they can be. I’ve only ever heard NIGGA be used as “What’s up ma nigga..” or “Nigga please..” and this makes these terms acceptable to me when they are said because they’re not used disrespectfully, they’re used if anything as slang and a twisted sort of “term of endearment” if you will. I accept that these 5 words that MAY indicate some sort of self-hatred may make sense to the bloggers on this site that have been called these words out of hatred at some point, however, don’t penalize anyone who uses these words in a NON negative sense and then justify your opinion by saying “If you use these words, you’re going against the gay grain”
-BWS
For me what is going against the “gay grain” is the gay men who chose not to use these words in reference to themselves and other gays unlike the majority of Out gays. I respect and take pride in my manhood and maleness to verbally ignore my gender.
I have never heard of “Trade” that is brand new to me. There are always a lot of guys using the word “Girl”. My ex and some of his friends always call each other girl. I myself do not like being called that at all. I am a man. not a girl
Nick, I don’t think “trade” is usually used in the context you’ve suggested, or at least it wasn’t in its origin. I think it has more to do with the “trade” involved in prostitution at its worst and quasi-prostitution or symbiotic relationships/encounters otherwise. For example, an otherwise straight dude might prostitute himself to a homosexual man, or a good-looking and more importantly, ‘masculine,’ mostly straight guy (bi guy if you prefer) will let himself be serviced or perhaps take a dominant sexual role, or submit to love making with a guy less masculine or less attractive or in some way in a league beneath him in desirability in exchange for money, pleasure, advancement, shelter, affection, status or whatever he needs. Some homosexual men learn to spot men willing to do this, and refer to the guys as ‘trade.’ Sometimes, especially if it’s a habitual role, the ‘trade’ will refer to the act itself as ‘trade.’ It as at times nearly contractual. The term ‘rough trade’ has a similar meaning, but usually is between partners of vastly different social backgrounds who are getting some thrill from interacting with a person of opposite position in society or a more mainstream homosexual guy sexually interacting with a more masculine guy (thug, street, and more curious than gay) in rough play (sometimes to the point of dom/sub or abuse.) Basically there is a trade of something or another between a usually receptive man who gets the thrill of sex with a…
Thanks for the history lesson; however what does the term “trade” mean today? Fem men refer to masc men as trade. When the term DL/Down Low first came on the scene it has nothing to do with gay men…but now it does. Whats your point here?
I definitely learned something from this blog! I think about that occasionally, it’s why gay communities are divided
I get you, and I do agree to a large extent.
But, what do you do with the gay men who feel they are ‘women’ in their identity? I don’t mean transgendered men who feel they are in the wrong body, I mean, they just don’t identify themselves as men, even though they are comfortable with their bodies. Should we discourage them from feeling that way, and urge them to use masculine terms for themselves?
I have never, at multiple parties, parades, and other such events, ever heard a single gay person refer to any other gay person or themselves as a ‘sissy’, a ‘girl’, or a ‘trade’. Not even once. Nor have I heard any non-gay people use those words in reference to a gay person.
I’ve heard a transexual called a girl, but that is sort of the point of being a transexual; they want to be referred to as the other gender now. On top of that, transexuals don’t necessarily have anything to do with being gay or straight. I myself know one who is completely asexual.
Upon thinking about it, I can’t really remember anyone not on TV using the word queer to refer to gay people either. It’s one of those things I’ve only ever seen on TV, and I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but the media doesn’t treat any culture in a completely accurate fashion..
Even ‘queen’ I’ve only heard used rarely in the context of an on-stage cross-dressing performer, who also, as a stage performer, doesn’t have to be gay any more than a female stripper at a men’s strip joint has to be straight. I mean even a lot of men that act in gay porn are only ‘gay for pay’, as they say.
So is the gay culture in my area just extremely dignified or something? I have a hard time believing that we’re that different.
I have to comment.. how I feel about this is that a person should be themselves no matter what the next person thinks or feels about it. That should be the beauty of living in America freedom of expression. I feel no matter what we do are say as gay black men the str8s will never understand or see us even as men because of the gay sex.lol so why not be yourself? As for the self hate. That takes time. I am 29 years old now and still dealing with my own homophobia in my own self. Depression and addictions. It takes time getting over these demons. That’s with anybody though. But what we can do as a gay black community is start to be more empathetic toward each other and less Judgmental and harsh more understanding and loving. All it take is one person to start the ripple effect of love. This is how I feel about this. If only we can see how beautifully unique we are. True self love comes when we can look at the ugliest and shityous parts of ourselves and accept that that’s ok for now. I am learning changing and evolving. Taking things day by day and sometimes making healthy hard decisions in our life. No matter where we are in life and no matter where we decide to go in life I believe greatly that Jesus loves us and will never stop Pursuing us. The end:)
This article was whack seven years ago, and it most certainly has not aged well today. How Black people reclaiming “nigger/nigga” makes logical sense, but queer Black men referring to each other as faggot, sissy, punk, etc. doesn’t? LOLOL.