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Naw, this is good topic.

The fact that I don't like anal sex and the thought of STD's keep me from hoeing. School and work keeps me busy.

 

There's been a few good times in the upstairs landing and downstairs hallway too.

 

Like with most things in life, everything isn't for everybody. If you don't like marriage, find something that works for you. The only way to do that is be open and explore. Sometimes if your life is mundane and boring, so are your relationships.

 

Props to this dude here...he ran with it.
Robins Dorvil - Men's Physique Athlete
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This is exactly why so-claimed "organic movements" like Black Lives Matter and Occupy could certainly benefit from real organization and accountable leadership.

I am definitely not surprised that at the end of the day it all boils down to dollars and cents. MONEY is the center of the universe.

 

Not to sound like all simplistic but all these can be easy fixes.

-Whack sex (head game weak, kissing game weak). Talk with him about what you don't like and get to practicing. Maybe he hasn't had that much experience or maybe he has and others did not tell him his head game is wack? You may discover he may not like certain things you do either and you both can work on them together.

-Bad body (soft like a marshmallow and hips like my fourth grade art teacher. This nikka jiggles like he never did a push up in his life). How is your body? I'm sure most if not the majority of black men can benefit from a gym membership. Again this can be discussed and maybe the both of you can come up with a meal / fitness plan together. You don't have to work out together but just issue a fitness challenge that both of you will follow.

-Not confident in himself or his abilities. That's because ni@@as saying his head game it weak. Naw but for real, maybe start suggesting counseling. Does he have medical benefits? I just feel as a man and as a black man, you should be attempting to build the next man up.

-He is cynical towards blacks peoples plights and conditions. He hates them. (he is black himself and from the hood... like the hood, hood. See above. People can change however his sentiments come from somewhere.

-He does not take care of himself (grooming or clothing... he looks like he gets his clothes from the thrift store... hygiene is not an issue) So does Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg...AND? On the real suggest going with him to pick out new clothes at a budget friendly spot like a Marshalls or TJ Maxx then hit up the clearance rack at Macys.

Sounds like everything is fine and you need to step your communication game up.

 

My_Nigga by @DreG posted Aug 21, 2015 at 2:42 PM

 

I’m of the mind that you’re at work to work. Conversations that fuck with your money and income are unnecessary, including questions about your social life. You don’t have an obligation to disclose shit about yourself to anyone, regardless of subject. If being in or out is a necessary conversation between you and the person who signs or authorizes your checks, have at it. Otherwise, let your coworkers get their gossip fill from TMZ reruns, not your work life.

 

LMFAO - get the fuck outta here. Ain't nobody concerned with that nigga. Art is meant to be critiqued and not everybody is going to like your shit. That's not synonymous with them keeping your name in their mouth. The real shade is that he's not even mentioned that much on the site like he's trying to make it seem.

 

Am I being pranked? Is this a prank thread?

 

Maybe Im a lil confused or dont understand fashion. I thought "rompers" or what ever you call it were just a hipster term for coveralls or male onesies/jumpsuits that men have been wearing since the 70s including mechanics, and airforce air pilot suits....and wait wouldn't farmer overalls be roomers too?

For me I have no problem with the "hispter rompers". its just that the current ones I have seen ain't for my body type. If I was trying to be fashionable instead of "rompers" I would just wear classic overalls. I could something like these :

 

Im actually glad he said what he said because It brings to light some of the pc statements people give in public verse how they really feel about us behind close doors.

Like

" im cool with gay people........ (behind close doors) but just keep them away from me......and I gosh dont even allow them around the kids."

At this point in my life, I prefer people just to be real and honest with me so I know who am dealing with. While lgbt ppl were fight for rights they messed up trying to show heterosexuals "we're just like them" and aim to be "accepted" by them. Sorry but some straight ppl will never accept us.

 

There are very few strict tops in my experience.

 

C'mon Nick...you started it so YOU GO FIRST!!!!

 

I personally think, in photos, my stoic face looks better than my smiley face. Even in photos where it's natural and not forced, sometimes my smile looks off to me.

But for others, I agree with @DreG that they may be going for a cool/laidback look, one that portrays strength rather than fun.

 

Eventho this post isnt reflective of me personally, I had to chime in this once. If u stopped to remove the gay equation, then it might just be for all of the same reasons as our str8 counterparts.

I think many of us, especially those of us who dont wear gay on our sleeves 24/7, just may get to witness some of the great perks we see among the str8s in our lives, who happen to be in relationships.

N these are my peers, who are many years strong. N while I may be more selective about the settings in which I socialize w them these days, the reasoning is def not that i want a mate because Im the only one who doesnt have one. It's because I respect all of the love n care displayed when Im around them, n I want that too.

Thankfully for me, I dont have all of the stories of messy/inconsistent/always looking for a chance to bail at any hurdle/social media photo opp/_____ gay couples to leave a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to whats possible in a relationship.

 

I do not advocate criticizing or shaming anyone for being feminine. However I do think many feminine men want to make it seems like a Masculine guy wanting another Masculine guy is somehow wrong and I just fundamentally disagree with that. I am still trying to figure out what is wrong with a man who is attracted to other men, expect them to walk, talk and act like a man. To me, it is perfectly normal for a man that is attracted to another man to find his masculinity as part of the attraction.

 

Side note: I HATE it when folks say 'Oh, it happens when you not looking for it' and then one decides not to look for it and then its 'You not putting yourself out there, how do you expect to find it?'
BITCH WHAT!?!

 

I stopped watching Empire a looong time ago. Props to Jussie Smollet though. I was surprised to see him with a black dude when it came across my Tumblr timeline. I knew from the beginning that Lee Daniels Euro loving self would try to pair him with a white dude.

 

I wish them much happiness, strength, and longevity because I need something to believe in.

This lifestyle can be very discouraging. It's like even when you do see a couple who have been together for years or even married, they're trying to convince everyone else of their happiness.

 

DUDE I AM FUCKIIIIIIIING FATIGUED!!!

WHY do Minority Gay ALWAYS seek White Gay Acceptance!?!

I am tired of this Shit! If they do not want you or are racist towards you FUCK THEM! I do not get this begging for acceptance from them. We are giving them too much power. We are NOT a community, everyone is by themselves do not be fooled by the illusion of inclusion. In my personal life, I love those who love we no matter skin color or ethnicity, and I advice others to do the same, your life would be SOO much better!

 

I felt like this trailer should come on right behind the below commercial...

 

Std rates are so high in the 'urban' community because mofos around the way just lay up n fuk. As non-contributing members of society, they don't have shyt else to do.

You can't be unsure of who ur baby daddy is, and then blame a 'dl' man for ur itching.

 

Most time the guys with this mentality are über fems and carry a similar mentality as that of a woman being courted by a bisexual man would have. Other times (I dealt with a guy like this, in the military) it could be a semi masc (if even masc on occasion) guy that feels a vers guy is "tainted" and feels that he'd be allowing someone "less than" to run up in him, despite the fact that he himself gets run up in. Either way, it boils down to hetero-normative, feminine ways of thinking.

I personally don't understand it and have never understood it. To me a d!ck is a d!ck. If I like a dude and I'm feelin him enough to let him run up in me, I don't give a f@#k what has run up in him.

 

Well we'd be rioting in the streets if Ebony was a fried chicken drumstick or watermelon wedge so I can see being upset.

 

You tryna start something in here.

 

Awkward, unpopular, tormented on a daily basis, nerd (with bad grades, what an oxymoron smh), artist, nature geek, ugly as hell, absolutely 0 self esteem. I don't miss it and you couldn't pay me to go back.

 

Yaaassss!

 

Ain't nothing wrong or grinding on another dude in the club. That don't make you feminine or less of a man than having sex with with another man. I used to grind on dudes in the club back in the day.

 

I know that I want to be in a relationship eventually because I think that it is fundamental to the human experience. No man is an island. I am typically a loner but I am personable. I have been single for 26 years and I don't have a problem with that however, I do want to enter a new chapter in my life by exploring relationships and dating. This has NOTHING to do with the fact that 2016 is around the corner.

I do know (of) couples, str8 or gay/bi/queer, that talk about how relationships are WORK. But just because something is work and both people love one another doesn't mean it is something that should not be pursued. You know the saying, "it is better to have loved, than to have never loved at all"? I believe in that. In life whether we are discussing relationships with a significant other, business deals, family/friend relationships, and so on there are highs and lows. There is joy and there is also pain. Just because there are the bad parts does not mean we should not pursue relationships.

As for the media depictions of relationships, it is unfortunate that on a broad spectrum that it is mostly NEGATIVE. I can only speak for myself in saying that I have met several (masculine) black gay married (or committed) couples that have been together anywhere from 3 years to over 30 years while out here in South Florida. I have many positive representations of what a (black and gay) relationship should look like. I am not worried. Seeing them and learning all the valuable lessons I have gathered from them let's me know that it is possible for not only myself, but for everyone who participates on Cypher Avenue on the regular.

I know I want to be in a relationship because I want a companion that is my best friend, lover and confidant. I want to understand all of the feelings that I've been hearing about in my favorite genre of music for the past 26 years ----- Rhythm & Blues (R&B). I don't want anything to do with social media and all that. I just want that old school love like Lupe Fiasco and Ed Sheeran talked about on that song. You know what I'm sayin'? I want that love that feels like 90s R&B. Can you feel what I'm saying here tho?!

 

Invest and save your money...as much as you possibly can. Also set up a separate vacation fund.

 

Your boy Nick Delmacy finally printed his 25 chapter novel called “The Season: Awakenings” that I wrote as a young man for a black gay website featuring amateur-author submitted stories.

Frustrated by the lack of outside-the-box creativity by the writers, I decided to pen my own story to break the mold, one told from the point of view of a fictional confident, cocky, masculine bisexual man.



The first thing that came to my mind while brainstorming was, “What if a bisexual college athlete discovered that not only were his attractive basketball teammates gay and/or bisexual, but they were also part of a secret vampire cult going back generations? And they wanted him to join them…”



As ridiculous as sounds on the surface, once I began writing and fleshing out the characters, I realized that there was actually something great there. A whole world emerged, one in which the sexuality of the characters was secondary to the overall story, yet it also served as the backbone to it all.



What emerged was a sexy, funny, thrilling, action-packed murder mystery that readers seemed to really respond to based on their feedback. Now, many years later, I finally printed the story into a book that I can hold in my hands. I gotta admit, this makes me want to write another one.