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This is why I think we should stop using "top" and "bottom" as nouns instead of verbs. It's not who you are, it's what you do. You bottom, you're not A bottom. You top, you're not A top. By using them as nouns, they become identity markers and that's why people so easily assign character traits. And then you have conversations like this. It's bullshit.

And the thing that gets me about these critiques of masculine dudes who like other masculine dudes is that it often comes from feminine dudes who also prefer masculine dudes. Even dude in the video said, "He can't be more feminine than me." What? I've heard this same logic from a lot of self-identified feminine bottoms. So basically, they would prefer that the gay community align the same way as heterosexuals where masculine gay men exclusively date feminine gay men. That's some heteronormative bullshit.

 

I was 21 in college, several months before graduation I met this guy that I just developed a platonic friendship with. He was like my at work brother or in class friend but we barely if ever hung out outside of those scenarios. So he low key checked me about how if we are boys why do we only hang out at work or in class. For some reason I felt convicted by that so that day at work I took him to lunch at Ruby Tuesday's which was across the street paid and everything and let him know it wasn't any embarrassed to be seen with him shit or anything, he wasn't noticeably SGL but was very much so out, the next day he took me to lunch and the following I took him etc after a while that just became our routine.

To my ignorance before I knew it we were going out on dates and I never put it together that that's exactly what they were. So we were getting to know one another deeper and deeper and I developed these feelings of attachment and felt the need to protect him and all of that.

Again he took the first step and shot me a text essentially saying he needed me to pick him up from his second job and that he had something for me, I get up get dressed go pick him up and he hands me this 6 page letter and asked that I don't read it til I get home. I'm like uhhh ok nigga....

The letter expressed some deep feelings that resonated with me and concluded with him saying he can't be my platonic friend anymore because he loves me and you know what for the first time I felt OK saying I romantically loved another man as well. I drive back to his crib walking in with a mug and he's looking nervous I guess not knowing what I was going to do and I snap like yo you're going to break up our bond via a letter? He starts to explain and I just went ahead and kissed him.

I told him I don't know how this shit works but if I was ever going to try to find out it would be with him and for the next 2 years we were together everyday he was my inspiration to come out as bisexual to my parents, friends etc and although ultimately that relationship did end I swear I have no regrets because it let me know I can love a man the same way I naturally loved a woman and that was just as natural and just as valuable and essential to who I am.

 

So the most amazing and scariest thing happened a few hours ago. My nephew was having car trouble so my sister asked me to come pick him up since her and his dad were on the other side of town. When I picked him up, my phone ranged and it is connected to my car and Dame answers saying “What’s up bae....?” Not knowing I had my nephew Corey in the car. I knew then I needed to tell him what was up. We are close and I treat him like the brother I never had, than a nephew since we are 9 years apart. He comes to me for advice from time to time about relationship, sex, drugs and I was always honest with him.

So I just told him that I’m seeing a guy and I’m into guys. I told him don’t tell his mom and even told him I’ll understand if he doesn’t want to talk with me anymore. But I was shocked when he responded and said he was too. It’s like damn bro you too lol. So I texted his mom and told her we are going out for dinner because I wanted to know more. Over the course of dinner I found out he’s been with 2 guys. He told me about how he was on Grindr and Tinder and the things he did. I did tell him to be careful and try not to entertain guys 20 years old and older until he get to that age. It’s just amazing how we both going on this journey together. I really want to protect him though. I know he’s going to college in the fall but some of these guys out here are no good and straight up predators. He even let me know that my sister and his dad knows. We both assured each other that we want discussed our conversation with no one else in our family until we are ready. He even said that he had suspicions about me since I never seemed interested in the girls I was with. It made me wonder who else saw that if he at a young age can pick that up. At least I feel kinda comfortable telling my sister of my latest shenanigans lol.

 

I'm a lil suspect about this "mentor" you keep mentioning and what he's filling your head with. So your virgin booty hole is somehow more valuable than a person who's only been with a handful of dudes? That's heteronormative at best and slut-shaming at worse.




But regarding your question, TO ME, being a virgin is not really a commodity.

If you're a Top (or even versatile), the Bottoms I've met prefer dudes with experience. But even as a guy who has primarily Topped in my life, the wackest sex I've had has been with the inexperienced. They just kinda laid there, not knowing what to do or where to put their legs.

The BEST sex I've EVER had though, was with a Bottom....a Bottom who (as I would later find out) had LOTS of experience. Had a nikka sweating from the mutual workout...on top of that the Head game was immaculate! Had me like:



I didn't even tell the dude I let penetrate me that he was my first to until AFTER we did it. Sex has never been this rare gemstone to me, it was something other people were doing that I hadn't yet experienced, so I had to change that ASAP. Once I met the dude who fit the requirements and was willing and able, we did it. He wasn't Mr Right, but he was a Damn fine Mr Right Now. We did it and I moved on (I was the one that dumped him). I discovered that I didn't love it so I didn't do it again for another 5 years.

Again, the squad may disagree but just as not every dating situation has to lead to marriage, not every sexual experience has to be this magical thing.

BOTTOMS HAVE NOTCHES IN THEIR BELTS TOO! I've been used for dick by many a dude so tell your "mentor" to fuck off with trying to make you think men who get penetrated are lesser than.

Do what works for you, though. I'm done, lol.

 

This is interesting and true in many ways. I think you'll be surprised to find many 40-year-old men who are full of shit too. I say that to say, its all subjective. There are tons of men in their late 20s and 30s who are dope, the problem is actually meeting at the right time. Like I'm considered a "good dude" but at sporadic moments in my life I purposely take myself off the market...or when I am down to meet dudes, I don't make a serious effort or I'm not in a position to meet other guys. Jack'd, Apps, Clubs, Parties, etc many "good guys" are not doing these things or if they are, they're not doing them at the same time as the other "good guys" so they can meet each other.

Its a conundrum but I promise that I hear the same from a lot of straight ppl, they have a (somewhat) hard time meeting compatible ppl too.

 

I've noticed that a lot of gay men are complete and utter bourgeois snobs. I would never knock someone who could be a potential date or mate if he's making an honest living as long as he's doing the best he can. Also there are a lot of blue collar jobs that pay good money like electricians, plumbers, welders, truck drivers, transit workers etc. I'd rather deal with guys like that than these pretentious queens who like to brag about their degree, but can't change a flat tire.

 

I recently got married (October 17, 2015) after five years of being together. I was the one that proposed on July 4, 2014 almost 7 months before it became legal in my state of residence, Florida. Because both my husband and I were from Florida, we made a choice not to get married until it was legal in our state. We decided to get married for a range of reasons, first, it seemed to be the natural progression of our relationship, secondly, it was increasing importantly in my line of work to get married so that my spouse of have the same protections as me when traveling abroad (my husband enjoys traveling on a diplomatic passport and all the rights that come with it). Thirdly, I never thought that I would get married before I turned 30 years old and despite all of that doubt, I enjoyed a wedding filled with family friends from all over the country and world. We actually have a travel themed wedding. As far as our name, we had it hyphenated because it was important for us to share the same name and if we decide on children in the future, they should share our name. Right now, neither one of us are particularly interested in kids. But we have talked about what our kids would call us, I think my husband would be dad or daddy and I would be pop or pop-o. I think that for me, marriage has brought us closer as a couple both literally and figuratively and it was something that we took seriously.

 

Hey guys,

I'm a longtime lurker and this is my first post! The podcasts and the site have been invaluable to me since the old Discreet City days. Thank you to @ockydub and @Nick Delmacy for creating this space for us.

Anyway, I accepted my myself as a black gay man much later than expected and only had my first real boyfriend at 42 (6 months ago). He was the sales guy at a men's clothing store who helped my while I was shopping and then slipped me his card with his number. We dated for almost 6 months and a lot of it was great. Finally being in a relationship with a man (I was in an opposite sex marriage for more than a decade) was eye opening. Being with a man felt right and it was what I had been missing all those years. But our age difference (he's 26 and I'm 42) and being in such different places in our lives (career, financially, etc) proved to be a huge challenge.
This first relationship really helped confirm what I want in a relationship: a fellow masculine black man, intellectual, 30+, financially independent with an established career.

 

Clear red flag. This is not okay. This is a serious beech of privacy and trust. Period.

 

Open relationships only work if both partners actually want it. If one partner feels coerced into this kind of setup, it's probably not going to work. Nothing wrong with open relationships in themselves, just make sure it's based on a mutual decision. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I'm too lazy to find someone else to sleep with, casual sex gets boring after a while, and I would get jealous if I knew my dude was out there fucking around.

 

Perhaps I misunderstand the purpose of dating apps. Are online and real life not supposed to overlap?

 

This should not be surprising to any gay guy who's ever read online dating profiles. Dudes can be real nasty about this. What I find odd is most of the guys online claim to be negative but the infection statistics tell a different story......hmmmm.

 

I actually enjoyed this. Been feelin Tripp since that reality show. 100% my type of dude.

Brodney is actually really handsome, but sounds like a 12 yr old girl. Sorry, not sorry.

I like the juan n gee dynamic and the fact that theyre using their years long relationship as a platform to come up. Visibility matters. However, Im personlly not feeling them dedicating their ball to the ballroom community this year. Everything gay doesnt have to be for EVERY gay under the lgbtrnsgdkfneianzn___ umbrella. U can't just be an accountant, doctor, mailman, hairstylist OR bartender who HAPPENS to be gay and uninterested in super stereotypical gay shyt, and still get to kick back.

I also feel like, while not a couple, but esp w the roundtable approach, @Nick Delmacy n @Ockydub could have ran this lane for years, esp as legit masc dudes. I understand the disinterest in universal visibility, but I also get that this many years in, wer'e STILL talking about the lack of diversity/masc men being willing to rep.

 

Making the jump from dating to starting a new relationship is exciting. It’s also a big deal. Not just a big deal because you’re taking your relationship to the next level, but because things are about to get serious, and seriousness involves having a talk about specifics.

Although there are definitely things that you should know about someone before you date them, since you’re not perfect, there are things you need to share as well. Fair is fair after all. And, more importantly and perhaps even more obvious, is the fact that being up front and honest in the beginning is better than surprising your partner later on in the relationship.

While I strongly feel that you don’t have to share your sexual past or anything else that’s definitely not your partner’s business, there are still some things that they deserve to know. Just like you deserve to know some specifics about them. So before you cozy into a new relationship, take a moment to think about addressing these

Here are 11 things you should tell someone before you get into a relationship.

1. Your Political Views
Considering 47 percent of Millennials wouldn't date someone who doesn't share their politics, if you haven’t covered this yet, then it’s a must. You don’t want to get into a relationship with someone then realize, after the fact, that they’re anti-choice, anti-same-sex marriage, and think that “making America great again” via Donald Trump is a good idea — unless you’re on the same page with all this. If you’re not, then there could be problems.

2. Your Relationships With Your Exes
First of all, you’re under no obligation to maintain relationships with any of your exes. In fact, many people don't stay friends with exes, so it’s not likely that your new partner will judge you for it. But let’s say it ended badly and resulted in restraining orders or other legal issues, then it might be something you want to share — just as much as you want to share the fact that you’re besties with all your exes. Because that’s something your new partner deserves to have a heads up about, too.

3. Your Relationship With Money
Even if you’re not getting married or moving in together, your soon-to-be partner should know your thoughts on money. Money is a sensitive subject. People who spend a lot have a hard time understanding people who are frugal and vice versa. This isn’t to suggest it’s a dealbreaker, but it’s important to be aware how you both feel about money. If it does evolve into living together, it would be nice to already have that out of the way.

4. Your Plans For The Future
I’m not talking long-term here, but you should definitely share your short-term plans. If you have every intention of joining the Peace Corps in the next six months, this is definitely something you tell someone before you get into a relationship with them. It’s unfair to you both if you start something, it’s great, you’re both in love, then you’re being shipped off for a two-year stint in a country a world away.

5. Your Employment Status
If you’re currently unemployed or even between jobs, this is something you should definitely share. There’s nothing wrong with being unemployed, but if this person you’re about to be in a relationship with is going to be paying for the bulk of things until you find employment again, they need to know.

6. Your Relationship With Your Family
No family is without its drama. But if you have one of those families where things are always crazy and you’re getting sucked into it while picking the pieces of a sibling’s most recent escapades, then you should consider letting your partner know. If there’s a part of your life that can occasionally interfere with your relationship, you can’t keep it to yourself. Think of Sarah in Love Actually — the fact that she has to answer her brother’s phone calls 100 times a day is something that one should share before getting into a relationship.

7. Your Expectations
I feel like when we make the jump for “just dating” to “relationship official,” we often leave out what our expectations are for the relationship and our partner. As someone who has made this mistake, I have two words for you: Bad idea. You can’t go blindly into a relationship, hoping for the best, without letting your partner know what you want for yourself, for them, and for the relationship as a whole. To not cover this, will just lead to disappointment.

8. Your Need (Or Not) For Alone Time
While there are those who need ample alone time, there are those who simply don't. Whether you value independence or togetherness is something to discuss, if they don't already know. That's not to say that independent people and dependent people can't succeed in a relationship — but it may be something you need to work out.

9. Your Level Of Jealousy
Although a bit of jealousy is OK, because hey, you’re only human. Obsessive jealousy, on the other hand, is not and it leads to a whole slew of arguments. While you may be in denial about just how jealous you can get, you need to dig deep and try to come up with the truth. If you’re going to get jealous every time your partner goes out with their friends, or anyone else for that matter, they need to know.

10. Your Need For Privacy
Some people when they get into relationships suddenly hand over their password to their email, Twitter, Facebook, phone — you name it. While others enjoy keeping things very private and wouldn’t have it any other way. Just because you’re in a relationship with someone, it doesn’t mean your need for privacy goes out the window. So this is something to make clear.

11. Your Views On Monogamy
If you think your partner liking an ex's Facebook photo is cheating — and some people do — and your partner doesn’t see the harm, then arguments are bound to happen. Just like what constitutes cheating can vary from person to person, so can how you view relationships. Are you monogamous? Non-monogamous? If you're in an open relationship, what types of sexual behaviors are permissible? What aren't? There are a ton of possibilities when it comes to relationship styles. Cover this topic before you get into a relationship so you know you're on the same page with what's cool and what isn't.

11 Things You Should Tell Someone Before You Get Into A Relationship With Them

 

I think that you are idolizing and over valuing virginity in to market that couldn't care less. It's like getting a fresh 20 out of the ATM. It's cool to see but it still spends no more or any less than the older cash you already have.

However, it is important to YOU. So hold on to the value that you have given it. I can tell you that it is likely your first time won't be magical from either a top or bottom position. As a bottom you will probably have to take a while adjust and dilate or you may not be as.... Prepared... As you think you were and some... leavings may still be back there and as a top, unless you are a good dancer and have been practicing, stroke game could be awkward and it's highly possible you'll bust quick. Those are probably the worst physical things that commonly occur but are expected, all things considered.

Emotionally, you may feel different when you reflect on the event. But this is going to depend on the guy. The likelihood you'll find another Virgin in your age range is low but you could also find someone who just isn't that experienced. Not all non virgins are hoes or have high body counts.

So for you it'll be emotional but once you process the event, you'll be fine.

As far as who to toot up to first... Maybe you should not worry about that so much. It's likely your first sexual experience may not even involve full on penetration anyway. I would like to think that you'd not want the whole enchilada the first time you get nekkid with a guy. But if you do, hey, ain't nothing wrong. There's levels to this too if you like. So don't feel you have to hit every sexual bullet point the first time.

 

Becus a lot of fem dudes havent gotten the memo that they have diks n testosterone! They misconstrue bottoming w being a woman, which is how they wana be treated. Look at that damn utube screen cap... NO!

 

Some of them shop for groceries in the gym.

 

Am I the only one who doesn't want Odell to be gay? It's better for all of us if he isn't. It lets people know that there isn't a specific way a straight dude or a gay dude should act like. I want him to be a straight dude who is comfortable enough with himself to challenge gender norms and fuck with people. I hate how folks automatically assume he's gay because he steps outside the norm of what a straight dude should be. Gtfoh!

 

Yes very true! Its a meat market, if there is one flaw about someone, you know that in a couple of more swipes you can have something better. Intimacy, getting to know someone, etc. is more shallow than ever. We're living in the instant generation, everything is a touch away. I too contribute to this but I 'm trying not to.

 

Calling @African King in this because Nick just started a war lol:
I'll only answer from an African perspective.
Re: Homophobic upbringing/home country - that's just the hand we were dealt with. If you knew that the worst case scenario about being "exposed" as gay/bisexual is a tortuous death and the best case scenario is being disowned by your family, friends, and your community you would be paranoid too. It's a whole thing: I am sure you've seen videos/articles about people being exposed in Jamaica, Cameroon, Uganda etc and what happens to them?... It is also mostly psychological(especially for those living in the West) , sometimes I wonder if it would be as bad as I make it if I ever came out to my family or friends, but we'll never know now will we? Speaking from personal experience, it has been an uphill battle... Everyone just assumes I am straight, so I learned to play the game and go with the flow. I can't say it hasn't been exhausting. It is a full-time job being an actor, after all...and I can't do that DL shit...I just can't. So, I've handling this the best way I can: First, I stopped worrying too much about "coming out". I realized it wasn't that important to me.

I am naturally an introvert, not big on public speaking or big-ass weddings; I mostly fly under the radar. So, I'll continue being myself. Second, I stopped worrying too much about what everybody else thinks about the way I live my life. Yes, I won't give my mom some fantasy daughter-in-law or some superman grandkids, so I'll learn to live with that and she'll do the same. It'll probably take me a while to get to the point where I volunteer telling folks that I am gay/bi, but if I am caught slipping, I won't deny the charges.

I just wish dudes would stop asking me what I think about this girl they saw on Instagram and what that ass look like or what have you: someday I am just going to be like "forget the girl, did you peep dude's ass tho? bubbly amiright?"

Re - Fem Africans - Oh they out there . I know a few lol the difference is that they aren't usually that conspicuous. They are usually pretty chill and easy going(contrary to the "fem" stereotype) Just folks like us trying to get through the work week unnoticed.

 

I mean, I get it. I do. But I dislike how discussions on racism in the gay community always revolve around sex and attraction. It always involves men of color wanting to be desired by blonde hair, blue eyed Billy and Bobby. Like who cares? Why do we feel like we need to be desirable to white boys? Let's talk about real racism in the LGBT community. Like how a lot of resources for HIV/AIDS research amongst LGBT organizations dwindled once gay white men were no longer the largest victims of the epidemic. Despite the fact that gay black men are still infected at increasingly high rates. Or how the majority of hate crimes amongst LGBT people are people of color especially trans women of color. And yet organizations don't necesssarily reflect that. Those are real discussions of race and racism I want to have. Not whether or not Bobby likes black guys. Wanting to be desired by white men, in my opinion, just feeds into white supremacy.

 

I want to be in one "eventually" because I want the partnership, union of love that I can't from get from family and friends.I believe that just because relationships fail doesn't make them less valued. I won't get the same bond that will come from a "relationship." Why can't we see 2 masculine men flourishing together without beating each other physically. No competition, wiling to be wrong and submit to each other.
If no one takes that risk? 30 years from now we will be in the same space asking the same old tired questions. I will admit now that my attitude is gone.I didn't know that the young fraternity couple were not together. It would not have been posted.

But, that won't be every gay couples reality. Just because those are not highlighted doesn't mean they don't exist. Every one argues whether you are in a sexual relationship are not. That is part of our human make up. We cry when we get are ass whopped, by parents, someone dies, or losing a job. We can't let that be a reason to block ourselves from one of the highest and intimate love possible.

 

That's a sign to stop dating anyone. Regardless of age.

 

Bro...this is your life. You shouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't value your life the way you do.

Getting tested should never be an argument.

 

Intelligence and emotionally stable. Looks can be operated on by a doctor.

 

I was 15. He was 17. High School. Being in a relationship as a teenager is one of the whackiest, craziest, hormonal feelings ever. When we first became intimate, I realized how inaccurate and unrealistic porn really was. I remember after the first time, I felt like I did something wrong and just sat there without saying anything. That had more to do with internalized homophobia than anything else.

I learned that gossip spreads fast in high school. People can be messy. I was outed soon after. But I also learned that most people didn't really care.

I learned that I would never have the same feelings for a girl as I did with a guy. When I dated girls, everything felt robotic. I didn't know when I was supposed to kiss her or what I should do to her. With a guy, there was still a learning curve, but everything felt more natural.

I also learned that it's normal to really reflect what's going on. I found myself thinking things like, "Wow, I'm actually kissing a dude. He has a mustache." lol.

Basically, it's a unique and interesting learning experience.

 

How to Make Friends as a Grown-Up | Nerd Fitness

This is not a pity post or a cry for attention.


I have been in Atlanta for almost 5 years. I feel like I have only actually made acquaintances. I have not been able to make a new friend that I did not know in some form prior to moving here. By friend I mean a person who I talk to, visit, hang out with, and do activities with on occasion who shares mutual interests with me on a platonic level.


Honestly it's been very lonely at times here and I have felt isolated and closed off despite what any photos I have posted may have one to think.


"So often we let little connections lapse and fizzle out because each person assumes that the other would reach out if they wanted to… so then neither one does… and then the other doesn’t, either."


While I have met people here things just kind of faded away or we've drifted apart for whatever reasons. The above statement has definitely been me. Now I wonder if all of my disconnections were in fact this. As person who has felt they've put in efforts to connect, my analytical side keeps track and notices when the ratio of me making the first contact is higher than that of the other person's. It's tiring feeling like you're the only one reaching out. I decode that to mean "you're not interested in hanging out with me and that's fine at least you're not ignoring me, I have not been impressing upon you that you'd think of taking initiative with communication with me first. Noted."


I have been told I'm a "great guy" "hilarious" "smart" often but it gets hard to see that for myself when others get invited to places or always have people to hang out with and talk to. So then I constantly wonder what is wrong with me if all of those adjectives are true. I mean how could they be if my phone hardly rings or text alert hardly goes off? I have questioned for a while if I'm just not likeable as those adjectives are not mutually exclusive to likeabliity. Again I'm told I am likeable but don't give off that I'm actually approachable. So I'm working on body language going forward.


This posting showed up in my inbox today and gave me some independent, objective advice I had not really considered and ways to work around them. Maybe I have been too black and white and robotic when meeting people or engaging in Conversations? I don't consider myself charming or that interesting. But I can say I've been skeptical and cynical. My best friend suggested to not use past bad experiences as the expectation. I am definitely taking that into consideration.


Maybe people are actually trying to talk to

/with me instead of my perception of them talking just at me?


We will see.

 

I need ya'll to know this is a real thing.


So,being up all nite with nothing to do,I browsed profiles...meaning I signed up for the site.

50% American



Turns out I'm not the only black man on the site.




The best though...the real mvp ...

...@iluvwhitepeople

 

To each his own. I understand why people would be hesitant about it though. You don't want to shit where you eat. But this is a virtual setting, so you can easily scroll past their posts if need be. Even then, I think everyone is adult enough to operate in the same setting if things went south. We're not teenage girls. You meet people where you spend a lot of time. And many of us spend a lot of time here. It happens.

 

Im a lil surprised abt the fact that ur mentor was so dismissive of him. U been talkin to this dude for like, 2 weeks. Dont be 'gay' n treat that like 2 months! Just keep getting to know the guy if u like what youve seen so far.

As for the virginity, Ima join the choir n say that I dont think its a big deal in 2016. I rly dont think most grown men are running around pressed to bed a virgin. Point tho, is that ur virginity matters to u, so it is what it is.

Like I always tell u tho, dont sit around waiting for everything to be 'perfect' before u get out n live life.

 

Im sorry, but I call BS on all this..."you get what you put out" shit. If that was the case then more than half the nikkaz on this site alone would be in phenomenal relationships, because this site is FULL of good looking, intelligent, level headed dudes that Im sure are well aware of what it is they want in another person. We say this "oh...you have to put that energy out there and it'll come to you Huney" (I dont know why I did that in a gay voice LOL) nonsense because it sounds good and it's reassuring, but the reality is the better majority of muh'fukaz str8 and gay (and women too) ain't shit. The culture promotes "Ain't Shit-ness". Any genuinely good dude with half a common sense that can spot bullshit from a mile away will most likely be single because out of 10 dudes (or chicks), 7 ain't shit, 1 is in a relationship, and one is over the bullshit and don't bother anymore. That just leaves the needle in the haystack. LOL.

And @SB3 You an't shit fo keep putting me in basket weaving activities. Ain't been on here in fi'ty 'leven years and now you wanna jump back in and "shade" me. Chyle, Cheese LMAO

 

As much as I hear people complain about not finding a good man, I would think that no squad member would want to shut the door on a potential great man that they may meet here. Besides that, it could be me, but I kinda thought this site attracted a caliber of individuals that wouldn't denigrate themselves or others in a public forum. Nevertheless, we are human, so I can't put evil past anyone. Lol. But I'd rather date guys here than Jack'd or any of those other sites.

 

I think everyone has their physical preferences but the older I get where I used to love on things solely based off of attraction I need that mental stimulation or I become annoyed quickly.