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    It’s a travesty how European colonialism in conjunction with Christian missionaries, have destroyed traditional beliefs and religions of indigenous native peoples around the world. One major blow pertains to gender and sexuality. Presenting written archeological and verbal (by way of spoken word or oral traditions passed down from elders) factual evidence can cause a level of cognitive dissonance in the minds of today’s religious believers or followers. For many in today’s society, it’s as if there is a retardation that prevents wonder or natural curiosity surrounding ancestral beliefs or customs outside of the Christian faith. Not only is it possible but irrefutable that 400 years ago, people not of European decent held and practiced beliefs and religions far removed from Christianity. Global Colonialism changed all of this.

    I state all this because all my life I’ve heard same gender sexuality is a White man’s disease and practice. Even at a young age this seemed a fallacy for me. Nonetheless, over time, I believe millions of same gender sexual men of color have been indoctrinated with this belief. This has caused confusion and dysfunction in many. Same gender sexuality has always existed not only in the animal kingdom and natural world but also in the human species. As part of our platform, Cypher Avenue has presented this information before but admittedly not with enough frequency. As then, some of the information was / is of disbelief but I encourage individual research to draw your own conclusions. My personal goal has always been to say to same gender sexual individuals…“Please walk tall because there is nothing unnatural about you.” Attempt to look outside of today’s prisms and study world and ancient histories. Everything shouldn't be wrapped up in a White Jesus, the US Flag and Queen Elizabeth.
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    Homosexuality in Sub-Saharan Africa: Pre-Independence
    By: Stephen O. Murray

    The myth of exclusive heterosexuality in indigenous black/sub-Saharan Africa was widely diffused by the 94th chapter of Edward Gibbon’s Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire (1781). Referring to homosexual behavior, Gibbon wrote, “I believe and hope that the negroes in their own country were exempt from this moral pestilence.” Gibbon’s fond hope was based on neither travel to Africa nor on inquiry of any kind.

    A century later, Sir Richard Burton, who unlike Gibbon did know something of Africa, reinforced the myth of African sexual exceptionalism by drawing the boundaries of his “sotadic Zone,” where homosexuality was supposedly widely practiced and accepted, in such a way as to exclude sub-Saharan Africa.

    Especially where Western influences (notably Christian and Marxist) have been pervasive, there is now a belief that homosexuality is a decadent, bourgeois Western innovation forced upon colonial Africa by white men, or, alternately, by Islamic slave-traders. The belief of many Africans that homosexuality is exogenous to the history of their people is a belief with real social consequences–in particular, the stigmatization of those of their people who engage in homosexual behavior or who are grappling with glbtq identities. These beliefs are not, however, based on serious inquiry, historical or otherwise.

    There are no analyses of the social structures of African societies written by indigenous people prior to alien contact. What is inscribed of “traditional” African cultures was written by some of the Northerners who disrupted African cultures, first travelers, then missionaries, colonial officials, and anthropologists. In many cases the observers inscribing “traditional” African culture did not understand that their presence as observers was itself a product of history and domination.

    Nevertheless, the observing Europeans are the only source of data on homosexuality in Africa until the most recent few decades. Most of what can be learned about traditional African societies was inscribed in the last decade of the nineteenth century or later, when the continent had been colonized by European states. To keep down the costs of colonial government, European (and especially English) colonial regimes used “indirect rule,” endeavoring to maintain customary laws, though attempting to ban some customary practices, particularly sexual ones.

    The travel, colonial, and anthropological literature include reports of native conceptions and native practices of male homosexuality in many societies across every region of the continent. Documentation of female homosexuality is less abundant, but exists for many cultures. The contact and colonial era reports are critically reviewed in Murray and Roscoe’s Boy-Wives and Female Husbands. Here, only a few examples of each of the main social organizations of homosexuality will be mentioned.

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    “Boy Wives”: Age-differentiated Homosexuality
    In the central African Zande culture, before European conquest, it was regarded “as very sensible for a man to sleep with boys when women are not available or are taboo.” English anthropologist E. E. Evans-Pritchard was told that in addition to times when women were not available for sex, some Azande men had sex with boys “just because they like them.”

    The adult males paid the families of boy wives, just as they paid for female brides. The two slept together at night, “the husband satisfying his desires between the boy’s thighs. When the boy grew up he joined the company and took a boy-wife in his turn. It was the duty of the husband to give his boy-wife a spear and a shield when he became a warrior. He then took a new boy-wife.”

    One commander, Ganga, told Evans-Pritchard that there were some men who, although they had female wives, still married boys. “When a war broke out, they took their boys with them. . . . If another man had relations with his boy, the husband could sue the interloper in court for adultery.”

    The South African Thonga provide another particularly well-documented instance of a boy-wife role. A number of southern and western African societies also had female husbands, though whether these husbands had sexual relations with their wives is unclear in what has been written. (It seems that anthropologists studying the phenomenon did not ask that question.)

    Gender-differentiated Homosexual Relations
    Gender-crossing homosexuality has been discussed as common in the (Nigerian) Hausa bori cult (and in Afro-Brazilian offshoots of west African spirit-possession religion).

    Among the Maale of southern Ethiopia, some males crossed over to feminine roles. Called ashtime, these (biological) males dressed as women, performed female tasks, cared for their own houses, and apparently had sexual relations with men, according to Donald Donham. One gave Donham a clear statement of the “third gender” conception: “The Divinity created me wobo, crooked. If I had been a man, I could have taken a wife and begotten children. If I had been a woman, I could have married and borne children. But I am wobo; I can do neither.”

    Among Swahili-speakers on the Kenya coast, particularly in the port of Mombasa, mashoga are transgendered prostitutes who have all the liberties of men and are also welcome in many contexts in which men are prohibited. The paid partner usually takes the receptive role during intercourse, but it is likely that his inferiority derives from the fact that he is paid to provide what is asked for, rather than from his undertaking a particular sexual role. The one who pays is called the basha (derived from “pasha,” a high-ranking official and the local term for the king in packs of playing cards).

    Among the Fon, the predominant people in Dahomey (now Benin), Melville Herskovits in the 1930s reported that, after the age at which boys and girls may play together, “the sex drive finds satisfaction in close friendship between boys in the same group . . . . A boy may take the other ‘as a woman,’ this being called gaglgo, homosexuality. Sometimes an affair of this sort persists during the entire life of the pair” (though he earlier referred to homosexual relations as a “phase” through which adolescents pass).

    Egalitarian Homosexual Relations
    Most of the reports of homosexual relations not involving differences in age or gender status involved young, unmarried men’s sexual relationships with each other. Kurt Falk wrote about an especially intimate bond of association, soregus, among the southeastern African Naman that included sex both between men and between women (with mutual masturbation the most common form of sex, but also males taking turns at anal penetrations and females using dildoes on each other).

    An “exceptionally reliable” Nykakyusa (a people living around what is now the Tanzania/Zambia border) reported to Monica Wilson in the early 1930s that male friends, who live in villages of age-mates when not out herding cattle, generally sleep together. The Nykakyusa accepted that male friends who danced together would have sexual relations. “Even if people see them in flagrante delicto, they say it is adolescence (lukulilo), all children are like that: they say that sleeping together and dancing is also adolescence,” according to Wilson’s elder. He reported that interfemoral intercourse is “what boys mostly do” and also reported anal and oral sex, (“some, during intercourse, work[ing] in the mouth of their friend, and hav[ing] an orgasm”).

    Conclusion
    With reports from hundreds of sub-Saharan African locales of male-male sexual relations and from about fifty of female-female sexual relations, it is clear that same-sex sexual relations existed in traditional African societies, though varying in forms and in the degree of public acceptance. Much of this same-sex activity was situational or premarital, though there were long-term relationships, too. The special Christian animus toward homosexuality was carried to Africa by Europeans and stimulated denials that “the sin not named among Christians” existed among “unspoiled” Africans.

    About the Author:
    Stephen O. Murray earned a Ph.D. in sociology from the University of Toronto. Since completing a postdoctoral stint in anthropology at the University of California, Berkeley, he has worked in public health. His books include American Gay, Boy-Wives and Female Husbands, and Homosexualities.
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    Note: Within ancient societal customs or traditions; it was common for young girls and young boys to marry their peers or be promised to older Men based on tribal stability, financial and survival reasons. In many countries these practices still exist. As women fight for their (and children’s) rights and freedoms, these practices are being abolished or altered but unfortunately in many countries these traditions prevail.





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    I have heard and seen Don Lemon called, coon, house nigga, sell-out, wanna-be white, etc. There are plenty of things he has said over the years that I absolutely disagree with; however this type of name calling, I never did. In all my years of being more “aware” of the world around me and watching cable news, I have never seen an anchor (Black or White) take the time to pay tribute to same gender loving Black men on national television. Don Lemon highlighted their academic accomplishments in addition to Esu’s partner and children. Give props when they are do!
     
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    This is all I could think about when I first saw his mugshot:

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    I've gotten disappointment from heterosexual women and loss of friendships (non-serious) from a very small number of hetero men when they find out about me.

    From the women, it's always, "damn, you too cute" or "But why??" Like, miss, I don't know, it just happens to be what I like. Nobody asks you the reason behind your preference.

    From the men, they just become distant.

    Again, while I do understand they face their own challenges, I sometimes envy the more obvious gay men bc at least everyone already knows what to expect straight out the gate. It's an upfront, "either you fuck with me or you don't" type of situation.
     
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    Stop chasing white men and your life will be 10x better.
     
  6. OckyDub

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    Maybe I need to read this again because this was confusing.
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    "Good evening, I want to greatly thank Nick Delmacy and Octavius Williams for the creating such an incredible venue for black gay men who are proud of their masculinity and don't conform to stereotypes. Recently, I've been enjoying Inside The Mind of Octavius Williams video clips, which has personally resonated with me because, as a homosexual black male who grew up in one of the most repressive states of the US South (Alabama), I can surely relate to the yearning for belonging to one's own black male peers which had been elusive for me. I now reside in Florida.

    I was never sexually molested and had both a mother and a father in my life married and living together, contrary to common views/misconceptions about homosexuality. I was naive to the fact that my peers made it clear that I was different and ostracized me, although I wasn't behaving effeminately yet I stood out to them. I even tried to fit in with the local LGBT community during my college years, yet I stood out like fish out of water. I had so-called gay peers to call me stuck-up just because I wasn't down for whatever or gave in to their sexual demands. Hell, I even had gay white peers to say I was 'acting white' just because I didn't match what they saw from a damn hip hop/rap music video. I, too, have found myself being more of a loner because of past bullshit and drama from so-called friends/peers. And to add insult to injury, I grew up having to deal with the emotional loneliness and the fact that not even my relatives (and parents) truly understood me because of their own personal hang-ups about homosexuality.

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    This is a really sad story. Domestic violence is serious and I don't think we talk about it enough in the LGBT community. If you have a gun in the home, you are ten times as likely to be killed by that gun at the hands of a significant other than by an intruder. I wonder what the fight was about that someone is now dead because of it...

    @OckyDub I think a lot of this is social ordering. A Ph.D. represents a certain status, Columbia is an Ivy League school, this also is elements of the rags to riches story, it is also a story that includes the trope of the Elite Gay Man....This story wouldn't receive the same kind of coverage if this was a domestic incident between Jamal (McDonald's workers and community college student) and his boyfriend Dante from Jackson, ms.
     
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    Gay men want to be included in everything. Sometimes, straight men want to dance for and entertain straight women. They may not want gay men there stuffing dollar bills in their G-Strings. It's ok.
     
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    I stopped watching Empire a looong time ago. Props to Jussie Smollet though. I was surprised to see him with a black dude when it came across my Tumblr timeline. I knew from the beginning that Lee Daniels Euro loving self would try to pair him with a white dude.
     
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    Justice Smith, the actor best known for roles in The Get Down, Detective Pikachu and Jurassic World, has come out as queer in a beautiful Instagram post dedicated to Black queer and trans folks.

    “We chanted ‘Black Trans Lives Matter,’ ‘Black Queer Lives Matter,’ ‘All Black Lives Matter’. As a black queer man myself, I was disappointed to see certain people eager to say Black Lives Matter, but hold their tongue when Trans/Queer was added,” he wrote.

    Smith then revealed that he's in a relationship with Queen Sugar star Nicholas Ashe, writing, “You’ve been my rock and guiding light through all of this and I love you so much. I know that on the other side of this is change, though the fight is far from over.”

    Smith continued. “If your revolution does not include Black Queer voices, it is anti-black. If your revolution is okay with letting black trans people like #TonyMcDade slip through the cracks in order to solely liberate black cishet men, it is anti-black.”

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    Dear White Gay Men,

    Well what a wild couple days you’ve had. When recently-elected Alabama Senator Doug Jones was sworn in to the US Senate, you came across a photo of his openly gay son Carson Jones staring blankly at Mike Pence. And with a bar set lower than Precious’ self-esteem, thanks to you he’s now some sort of LGBT hero. By next week you’ll be saying that Carson Jones threw the first brick at Stonewall.

    It’s time for you to put down the poppers for a second and refocus.

    I’m not saying that photo isn’t amusing, I definitely chuckled but it wasn’t until you all took to social media calling the picture “everything,” “iconic,” and “an act of resistance” that I took issue. The most popular tweet about this photo calls it the “photo of the decade.”The “photo of the decade” is this photo of a white gay man looking at Mike Pence the exact same way gay men look at everyone? Honestly, it’s not even the photo of the week — trust me, I opened Scruff just this afternoon.

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    The HRC even said “We are all Carson Jones,” which makes sense since the HRC is pretty much just white gay men.

    Here’s the thing about white gay culture: you guys have this remarkable ability to make any man who happens to be white, gay, and alive a hero — and a lot of times he doesn’t even have to be gay * stares directly at Timothee Chalamet *!

    The photo is just a photo, but the reaction to it brings into focus more problematic issues. It highlights how little you are fighting for equality and how much you are fighting for your own privilege.

    As you all know, the LGBTQ+ community suffers oppression from majority culture in a variety of ways. A lot of these miscarriages of justice get overlooked and underreported. Trans women of color are dying at alarming rates so you can have wedding cakes, so it seems a little strange to spend time giving praise to this white gay man for a blank stare. To call staring aggressively at a homophobic Vice President an “act of resistance” is a slap in the face to those who have fought and continue to fight on behalf of all of us. The most obvious problem with this is that blank stares are typically the extent your activism.

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    It’s no secret that QPOC have contributed a lot to LGBTQ+ culture, from voguing to ball culture to all the terms you’ve stolen and still use incorrectly. Alvin Ailey revolutionized modern dance. James Baldwin wrote queer criticism that has inspired generations of gay men while also being a leader during the Civil Rights Movement. And yet, in spite of all the hard work QPOC have put in and sacrificed, we rarely, if ever, receive our due. Well, the bill is here and it’s time you pay up.

    For the LGBTQ+ movement to make strides in addressing its own demons and fully liberate our community as a whole, this near-canonizing amongst you of other white gay men for merely existing needs to be curbed. To have lived and died fighting in the name of queer liberation is the only option for many QPOC, as our intersectionality forces us to be vigilant in our battle against oppression both within the LGBTQ+ community and outside of it. Outside of the LGBTQ+ community we are n**ers, spcs etc. The problem is that inside of the LGBTQ+ community, we are also those things. We’re told we’re undesirable but it’s “just a preference” and then excluded from the narrative, while you whitewash our cultural contributions and present them as your own. Enough.

    Your complacency and apathy to the struggles above highlight much of the underlying issue, which is that your activism is firmly grounded in privilege. Your advocacy only extends as far what’s important to you, not the LGBTQ+ community as a whole. What you wanted was the right to marry to save on taxes and reap its benefits personally, not because it benefited the entire community. The entire gay rights movement has somehow posited this idea that if white gay men win, everyone wins. Nothing could be further from the truth, especially when you actively takes steps to make sure that QPOC lose.

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    You want your Pride parades uninterrupted and your wedding cakes bought with ease because, as white men in a society structured to benefit you, you’ve been taught that everything should be yours. Your homosexuality has provided an obstacle to that entitlement and you’ll do almost anything to get it back. Endlessly hyping up other white gay men like Carson Jones and praising narratives that represent you is the way to receive access to the level of white male privilege you so desperately desire, while those around you continue to suffer. You should expect more from yourself and QPOC should feel no problem demanding it from you. I certainly don’t.

    When it comes to Carson Jones, you should all take a beat from stalking his Instagram to remember that he’s still from Alabama. I wouldn’t put all my Truvada pills in that bottle just yet. We’ve still gotta make sure his Just A Preference rewards card isn’t activated, he’s not a misogynist, and that he doesn’t side with Jamie in The Last Five Years. That is, if you don’t see those dealbreakers as perks.

    Conditionally yours,
    Phillip Henry

    Phillip Henry is a writer, comedian, advocate, and performer in New York City. His writing can be seen in various publications including Teen Vogue and Mic. He hosts a weekly LGBTQ comedy variety show The Tea Party in the Hell's Kitchen neighborhood of Manhattan.

    Dear White Gay Men, Stop Turning Yourselves Into Heroes
     
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    I'm sure many have seen and shared the below meme via social media. I think it is a cool message.
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    All of this.

    At any rate, this isn't any different than hetero-black folks who are living ignorantly blissful lives in white spaces.

    SB3 hit the nail on the head though, masculine sgl black men who live black-cultured lives do not have a place of refuge when they come out to the public. Our communities don't want us and neither do white folks.

    I truly think black gay men have it the hardest in this country.
     
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    Did the link give more insight or something, because based on what I read, I didn't get him being a dik at all. All I got was a trans woman being ridiculous.
     
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    Had to create an account just to comment on this. And it's not short :p
    Granted, I agree that it may be a little hard to relate to, or even stomach, as it's not the broadest depiction of gay people. Yet I think this video is a pretty accurate depiction of the gay culture our American media publicizes. To a greater extent, it's a facet of gay culture that our straight-controlled/heteronormative-minded world can say it's most familiarized with. I know first hand from visiting public-opinion councils for grant approved PrEP/sexual health clinics; they were more concerned with advertising their services to a specific "gayberhood" demographic in a general accepting urban center (already well serviced, mind) than making their campaign more discrete for the more disadvantaged gay population residing in the suburban, conservative rings of the city (of which they also claimed they wanted to serve). So while that Prep campaign might incite revulsion on this type of forum, I'm pretty sure marketing/outreach felt they hit their goals with regards to targeting their audience.
     
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    Pretty much.

    White men are not the benchmark. There are attractive men in every ethnicity. Why be worried about those people who are not into you in the first place. If you see "no X" and you're "X", block them and keep it moving. That way you don't have to see it.
     
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    All I see is another hookup app that upfront weeds out the "Thicks" and "Fats" from jump.
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    Angola has finally shed the divisive “vices against nature” provision in its law, widely interpreted to be a ban on homosexual conduct.

    Taking things one step further, the government has also prohibited discrimination against people on the basis of sexual orientation. And so anyone refusing to employ or provide services to individuals based on their sexual orientation may face up to two years in prison.

    The changes came on January 23 as Angola’s parliament adopted its first new penal code since it gained independence from Portugal in 1975 and removed the provision, inherited from its Portuguese colonizers.

    While there have been no known prosecutions under the law, provisions like this one curtail the rights and freedoms of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people, subjecting their intimate lives to unwarranted scrutiny.

    Colonial-era laws outlawing same-sex conduct give tacit state support to discrimination against gender and sexual minorities, contributing to a climate of impunity. Iris Angola, the country’s only gay rights lobby group, has often complained that its members face discrimination when accessing health care and education.

    Last year Angola gave legal status to Iris Angola, which was established in 2013 – a move that can now be seen as a forerunner for this latest step toward equality. The group called the decision an “historic moment” allowing the organization to defend the rights of sexual minorities in Angola. In contrast, Mozambique, another former Portuguese colony, decriminalized homosexuality in 2015, when it too adopted a new penal code, but declined to register the country’s biggest LGBT group, Lambda, leaving it to operate freely, but not legally.

    While countries such as India have been compelled by court rulings to strike anti-homosexuality laws from the books, others have done so through legislative reform. Recent examples include Sao Tome and Principe (2012) and Cape Verde (2004) – two other former Portuguese colonies – as well as Lesotho (2012) and Seychelles (2016) in Africa, and Palau (2014) and Nauru(2016) in Oceania.

    In casting aside this archaic and insidious relic of the colonial past, Angola has eschewed discrimination and embraced equality. The 69 other countries around the world that still criminalize consensual same-sex conduct should follow its lead.
     
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    I am not going to copy and paste the whole long article here, but I saw another site had a post about it and it does speak to everyone of us in some way.

    Why Didn't Gay Rights Cure Gay Loneliness?

    So much of this is true. Especially to me the way we are so hard on ourselves, and how we can be so cruel to eachtother, and ourselves.

    Anything to add about being a POC and a gay man/SGL man along with all of the rest?

    Will we ever learn?
     
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    11 Celebrities Who Love Their LGBT Family

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    Chris Evans and brother, Scott

    We may swoon for Chris Evans as Captain America, but the hunky actor has a gay brother who's just as swoon-worthy. Also an actor, Scott Evans has appeared in Looking, Go-Go Boy Interrupted, and One Life to Live. The two are the epitome of brotherly love.

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    Anne Hathaway and brother, Michael

    Other than her Oscar-bait of a career, there are plenty of reasons to love Anne Hathaway. She certainly loves us. She's long been a supporter of LGBT issues, having spoken fondly of her gay brother, Michael. In 2010, she said that their family left the Catholic church because of its treatment toward gay people.

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    Cher and son, Chaz Bono

    Cher may be an icon for gay men and drag queens around the world, but she's also a pretty awesome mom. After her son, Chaz Bono announced his decision to transition in 2009, she put her support behind him. Since then, Chaz has become a face of the trans community and Cher has become one its best allies.

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    Colin Farrell and brother, Eamon

    Colin Farrell has long been a heartthrob to gay men and straight women alike. His support for his gay brother, Eamon is just as timeless as his handsome Irish charm. In 2014, he penned an open letter pleading for Ireland to embrace marriage equality. Most recently, he served as Eamon's best man.

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    Magic Johnson and son, EJ

    Although Magic Johnson has long been an advocate for AIDS awareness, his parenting skills are something to be admired as well. When his son, EJ came out as gay in 2013, he showed total support.

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    Cyndi Lauper and sister, Elen

    Cyndi Lauper's "True Colors" still serves as an anthem for LGBT people. Her entire career has shed light on the issues our community faces, making her an ally. One reason for her support is her close relationship with her lesbian sister, Elen.

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    Ariana Grande and brother, Frankie

    Most female pop stars have a GBF, but Ariana Grande has a GBB (gay big brother). Frankie Grande recently made it on our list of 100 most eligible bachelors.

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    Lena Dunham and sister, Grace

    The Girls creator has always been a supporter of LGBT rights, vowing not to get married until marriage equality was a reality in the US. She also revealed that she was jealous of her sister, Grace who is a lesbian.

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    Adam Levine and brother, Michael Noah

    Adam Levine has developed quite the fanbase. When he's not showcasing his inability to keep his clothes on, he's being an awesome brother. Since revealing that his brother is gay, he's become an outspoken ally.

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    Susan Sarandon and son, Miles Robbins

    Although Tim Robbins deserves partial credit for this one, Susan Sarandon gets major props for rocking this eccentric outfit alongside her son's even more eccentric My Little Pony couture at the Zoolander 2premiere. She's a big fan of his refusal to conform to gender norms.

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    Sally Field and son, Sam Greisman

    She's played Spiderman's aunt and Julia Roberts' mom, but in real life she's the mom to a gay son, Sam Greisman. She has frequently spoken in support of her son and other LGBT people.
     
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    There was absolutely no reason to include 'homosexual' along with 'hyperviolent' and 'abandoners'. Just one step away from lumping homosexuality with pedophilia, rape, etc..
     
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    I think the major problem with his thinking is that for him his authentic self was queer and wanted to be a drag wearing, diva worshiping, smedium wearing out and flowing rainbow pride gay and that's cool but he now thinks and believes that that's the only gay that's real. It's not!

    I personally think the overidealized thought of over sharing every deep and personal thought and everybody being open to feeling and sharing those deep feelings is what's really toxic in society.

    You can be traditionally masculine and have deep sensitive feelings on the inside and that doesn't negate the masculinity in and of itself or make one more authentic over the other, it's just not necessary to wear them tighter than that smedium sweater.
     
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    Just think; if 50 Cent was on a show and talked about Vivica having an abortion, plastic surgeries, caked on make-up, or fake hair…black women and black queers would lose their minds with cries of misogyny while invoking some type of PC “shaming” allegations. Isn’t “booty snatcher” a "prison rape" derogatory term? Also, I thought gheys were against “outing”....Oh except if it’s a black male non-fem celebrity.
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    Not my problem, its a problem for White Gays.
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    On one hand, I agree. You and I know this is medical bullshit. I deployed to Iraq with people who were on regular meds for various ailments. So, from a strictly civil liberties viewpoint, yeah, they should fight it...

    On the other hand, I say to those HIV+ folk, use your GI Bill, any other benefits, and get the fuck out for your own personal development and safety. Let Trump and all his MAGAts die for any stupid wars his tiny dick gets semi-hard for (see y’all when that Iran invasion goes south, dumb asses! Lol)
     
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    Well to my understanding...porn is work. The actor/s are sometimes paid to have sex with persons they don't want to have sex with.

    Hell, I've had sex with males and a single female that I didn't want to have sex with for free.
     
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    This is a perfect example of why I think most straight black women are just as homophobic as most straight black men. The only difference is they're willing to tolerate the company of effeminate gay men when it suits them.
     
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    "Dutch authorities challenge NON-WHITE asylum-seekers to prove their sexuality"

    Fixed it.
     
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    This man really believes two male lions studied 2 human males have sex and said damn we missing out. Lets try it. Lol wow.
     
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    "And then we eye roll when we hear that someone is a bottom."
    The only people who do this are other bottoms
     
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    What they don't tell you about coming out is that you will have to continually do it over and over and over again. Especially if you are not overtly obviously homosexual.

    There are times that I still get nervous sometimes coming out to new people. Or correcting them when they refer to my wife. Coming out is not this one statement you make. It is the hundreds of little statements you make that make the difference. One day, I won't get those butterflies when having to correct someone and tell them I have a husband and not a wife. I think that is a good thing.
     
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    According to his website Preston Mitchum describes himself as a Black Queer Feminist.

    I'm starting to think that Black Queer Feminists are mentally delusional. Specifically the Black gay/queer male feminists who are being continuously taught how to be better women....seriously.

    This dude went into a nail salon full of women. Got uncomfortable stares, rude service, and bigoted cackles; ALL FROM WOMEN, then goes onto blame the poor behaviors of and by these women on TOXIC MASCULINITY AND PATRIARCHY.

    Even when bashed by women, feminists still can't resist blaming men for their problems.

    What kind of fresh hell is this? No really? This sh!t is caked on in layers all across the gay spaces online.
     
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