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There are so many levels of acceptance you have to go through being gay. As if FINALLY accepting your gay isn't enough, you have to then accept: sexual position, fem/masc/in-between, twinks/chubs/bears/muscle, dl/out/discreet, etc!

Until you realize none of that stuff matters, do what ever makes you happy and people will love you for being you.

 

I have an ass whooping fetish. Love being a bad boy.

 

I struggle with Black gay porn and rarely view it.

-The production value -just as with a lot of black gay web series- is lacking and leave much to be desired.

-Many of the models are 1 dimensional. They're typically thin / twinkish with multiple tatts which makes them look unclean or dirty.

-Most of the bottoms are super fem and lack variation unlike many white bottoms and especially compared to many Asian, Brazilian or Latin bottoms.

-There themes are lame...everyone is basically a thug or street trade in a hotel room. Again unlike other porn themes that range from business office atmospheres to mechanic garages.

-Think about that...other porn productions, their "actor" models have jobs or occupations or they're traveling the world exploring other countries and hooking up. With Black gay porn, niggas just in the hood. What does that say about how many Black gay men view themselves?

-The caveat is South American / Brazilian / Latin porn...they do run the gamut from street trade to professional types to lush scenery and back drops. And I like the fact that many of them look more natural regardless if they're thin, thick, or muscular and the naturalness of their uncircumcised penises is also a welcome distraction.

 

Yes. Especially if I was with the dude for a while. A relationship is about more that just that. Plus, you can be intimate in other ways.

 

Man, such bragging in this post. I, of course, am much more modest ...

 

I hope people scroll past his profile.

I honestly don't get it. Although, during my military days, I did hook up with a guy in the Airforce a few times who was a total bottom and he was sorta like that. He asked if I ever had been a bottom because he thought differently of men who had bottomed. He turned out to be cray cray.

 

It happened in the past with a long term friend and after it happened a few times it was never an issue or even brought up except mentally when they talk about their past exploits and claim strictly top status.

 

I remember reading in LL Cool Js book from the late 90s that he had a groupie eat his "starfish".

Well it's gotta be something going on with booty eating when all these adult booty wipes being sold. Mofos tryna stay fresh because you never know when that opportunity to get them groceries ate out will present itself.

 

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Don't mind me...just enjoying these answers

 

I had an experience being bottomed for the first time about a week ago. I am on break from that in a while. I could not be a bottom getting casually fucked by tops all the time. These Niggaz are not worth having no walls in the future. ijs

 

This is me.

 

Yeah, you're right. Sex is awkward, but I think it depends on what goal you have in mind. When I watch porn, it's just to bust a nut. When I have sex, it's about the experience. No concrete expectations. I just like the idea of being able to experience it with someone. Then again, I don't really hook up with folks all that much. I used to, but I got bored with it. I have to get to know you first and let it progress to that level. Let's talk, slowly move together, start touching on each other, start kissing, and then do the deed. If it's a legitimate hook up, I feel like dudes just wanna skip all of that and get straight to fucking which I'm not down with. Anyway, I'm rambling. With that said, I'm pretty sure PornHub and MyVidster are gonna be my boyfriends for the foreseeable future. I'm about to go through a dry spell cause I don't feel like sexing a dude unless we're gonna be more than a hook-up.

 

Don't get me wrong, I like an erection just like everyone else...even as just a non-verbal way to tell that a dude is feeling you. But if I was with a dude that I was into who "couldn't get it up" and he explained why to me, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker.

 

Commenting to say congratulations on your first thread but Nooo I don't think I'm up for the challenge...

Good luck though!

 

We need to recognize that sex, sexuality, and love are all completely separate things. A man can love a woman or another man and still have some wet wet or good wood from someone else with zero feelings involved and be committed emotionally to their wife/husband.

 

Absolutely! I know this could encourage some crazy behaviour but I'd speak from my own experience.

There's this person I had seen around and I kind of knew we were going to know each other at some point. Months go by, he shows up on my instagram explore; a few months after, we run into each other at a store, he says a genial, polite hello and I the same and we leave it at that, a couple of days later (literally) I see dude again at another store, I don't say hello as he seems to be having a serious discussion with some people and I really didn't want to interrupt (although I meant to say to him something like, if I run into you again in the next few days, perhaps the universe is trying to tell me something) - I did catch him stealing glances at me though. Many more months pass and I'm out for lunch, walk into dude again - actually I had planned to just get a drink but ordered food and sat at the table next to him whilst waiting for it; we didn't talk...ugh! I get up to leave and pay for my stuff and he heads to the till as well, the cashier makes an error and I had to speak up and then I just go, you look familiar and dude says, we've met and we chat a little. Funny thing is, I only ordered food to see if I could get the chance to talk to him, cos I had a dream that morning that I met the guy while out and we spoke (and I do not dream!)

Random meets out and about a few times afterwards (I had no intentions of sleeping with ol' dude)... cut this short, exactly a year from our meeting at the first store, I'm waking up from his bed.

Shit does happen!

 

Considering the divorce rate and the number of STRAIGHT people that fuck around on spouses and partners, everyone gay or straight should be mature enough to discuss/get tests, etc.

Once you hit 40, you’ll have a number of potential health issues you need to personally address even outside sexual orientation as a black man (prostate, hypertension, cholesterol, A1C, etc.), which naturally involves your SO. I think mature couples—-and I mean by psychology not age—-incorporate all matters of health discussion INTO the relationship not avoid it. Discussion and honesty makes it possible for relationships to last. It also makes it easier to date HIV+ dudes or be in a serodiscordant relationship as you know each other’s vitals (see Cookie Johnson or Bill T. Jones’s spouse). The boyfriend and I know each other’s medical ins and outs, which helps us to encourage each other with our personal health issues and makes the relationship stronger (i.e. he knows I’m on prep, my medical issues from military service, etc).

Last night at Target, there was a young Asian couple in line before me and my boyfriend. SHE was buying the condoms and I noticed that after the purchase she then forthrightly handed the box to HIM. That was a young lady that knows and confronts shit!

 

In my youth, I did the hookup thing maybe about 2-4 times a year...just to purge the monster outta my system...Then I would go back to blending in with my hetero homies who were getting casual sex left and right.

One of my straight roommates had new girls doing the Walk of Shame every weekend.

I was unnecessarily paranoid back then too...which is ironic because nowadays you’re much more likely to be “exposed” than back then since camera phones, text screenshots and all that were not as common.

As for now, I don’t want randoms coming into my space and seeing all my belongings...and I don’t want to go to stranger’s homes either.

I’m okay with casual sex if it comes after a first date or doing something in public...but the whole meeting someone (possibly a catfish) on an app and going to their home (to get robbed or worse) for a random nut isn’t my thing.

Props to those of all ages that go above and beyond to bust one with another person though. I have my own pleasures that I will jump through hoops to get as well (ie: sense of accomplishment in finally finding a torrent after searching for months instead of just paying the .99 cents from the beginning )

 

Not to derail the convo but this sentence stood out to me

"Guys will have sex with a bottom and then spread that he has no walls if he feels he didn't hit it right."

How old are these "guys" and why would one even entertain being intimate with them? I can understand guys having sex talk but usually mature kats I know keep names to themselves.

 

See what @ControlledXaos said.

Ask yourself the question, "what is right for me?" and try to avoid, "what do people expect of me?". You can't please everyone all the time. Don't get trapped trying to be someone you're not for others- that's an exquisite recipe for resentment. Be yourself, and if anyone gives you flack for it, offer them your two middle fingers. Vigorously.



So from one masc dude who isn't afraid of his ass to another- keep bottoming like a champ!

 

Body...a certain height def gets my attention when I first notice...

If I see the body is my type from across a room, I be like:



Don't need to be muscular or slim, but def height/weight proportionate at least and look fly in his clothes.

If then I see that the face is also on point I be like:

 

For me its not that hard to figure out. I personally like everyone falls a lil on the pan-sexual spectrum. Sometimes its not about just sex its just u vibe/connect w/ something on a current level and boom sex just comes with it lol. marriage doesn't stop ppl from being attracted to sexy men (male or female).

 

I have done the 'might as well, I'm here' screw. However, there's times where I got up and left or stopped the session after they came even though I didn't. I was just ready to leave. Sometimes, you're just not in sync. I have had sex with guys were the first time was bomb and subsequent times were just okay. It ebbs and flows.

I haven't regretted it later though. It was just an 'off' time with those guys. I've never done anything I didn't want to do nor have I ever been 'forced' against my will. For me, it was with guys I wasn't completely into or super turned on by but was like 'what the hell'. Every time you have sex, it isn't guaranteed to be magical. People will say that they 'had no complaints' but people usually are not bold enough to tell you it wasn't great to your face, unless it's after the fact and there's an argument. Honestly, you won't been sexually compatible/into it with every single person.

As far as body counts go, I wouldn't get too caught up with that. The more sex you have with different people, the more risk you take for STIs. This is a risk we all take but it's something to at least think about. It is an acceptable risk that most humans are okay with, otherwise, we'd die as a species.

One guy having sex with 50 dudes by age 24 isn't any better than the guy who has had sex with 4 dudes at age 30. For one, we all come to terms with our sexuality at different rates. If you're still questioning, then you just probably are not going to go all in as someone who knows they are gay/no hetero and going after what they want.

Also, opportunities are not the same across the board. If you are in Bumbledust, Alaska, you will not have the ability to meet other men to have sex with as the population is just not there compared to someone in Atlanta, Miami, NYC etc. Though, you can go to any gay mecca and catch up over the course of a weekend.

Older people may say to 'sew your oats' and etc but I take that as enjoy your life while you don't have as many responsibilities. If I could go back, I would have spent more time traveling than worrying about having sex when I was younger. Not that I can't now, but I think I would have enjoyed it more and it would have impacted me more had I taken an international trip by myself. I would remember that more than a 4 some that just felt weird or some random hookup with a guy whose name I can't even recall.

 

I'm a shooter but as far as the dude I'm with, it doesn't matter at all. It doesn't matter how it comes, just as long as he cums.

 

I do so my giving my Spirit, Soul and Body to the lord Jesus Christ. My personal lord and eternal savior. He only can quench that fiery beast, between my legs.

 

Is it too late? Fuck, I never get the invites.

 

"Do you really wanna do that with this dude?" LOL

 

It's all hypocritical BS. I believe in bisexuality. Maybe they lean towards one gender more than the other, but that doesn't change the fact that they are bi-sexual.

 

As a 40+ ho who thinks the only bad sex is no sex, I’m a need one of y’all other members to help our young talent here lol.

Seriously, the key, I think, is the body count issue you mention. Don’t get caught up in the “I’m twenty-something, I need to be fucking twice a day” mentality, or trying to keep up with mythical standard. If you take reasonable care of yourself, as some older squad will attest (@Nick Delmacy @OckyDub @Sean P ?), it’s not like your dick’s gonna fall off after 30. Quality, not quantity, is better at any age. The negative energy from regret affects everything else you’re trying to accomplish right now, so maybe concentrate on finding dudes your age with similar passion and goals first, then let the nutt happen when it happens?

 

eating ass is my favorite sexual activity. it's one of the primary reasons why i infrequently have sex. (it goes w/o saying, you shouldn't just bury your face in unfamiliar booty).

it's this thing i have about symmetry/contrast that turns me on: compared to women, men are angular in shape. so i appreciate features on a dude that break up the hard angles and, dare i say, soften him a bit: his eyes, smile and "the curvature". nothing like a masc, fit guy with a big butt and a smile. #poison. i also just like the bounce of it against my face.

anyway, it's been years since i had sex w/ someone i didn't know for several months, so this informs my answer to your question for sure, which is that i don't normally use a barrier. just feels odd.

 

Haven't watched the whole video just yet. But some initial thoughts. I understand the point of the prep campaign. It targets men who wouldn't normally use condoms anyway. It's actually pretty effective at reducing the spread of HIV. However, with the whole antibiotic resistant strains of gonorrhea popping up, I think this is a terrible idea for other STDs. I guess it's a cost/benefit analysis. At least you won't get HIV, but have fun with gonorrhea.