Looks

Yes at least to a point. (when I was dating)

But the good thing is that 'looks' are subjective. One man's trash is another man's treasure. I think it also depends on your definition of 'good looking' and how broad or narrow that personal definition is. Mine is fairly broad and I have always found a wide variety of guys to be 'good looking' or attractive.

 

You took the words right outta my head. I'm funny when it comes to "looks". They are very important to me but not in a "stereotypical homo" way. I personally have a WIIIIIIIIIIDE range of tastes when it comes to a person's {facial} appearance, and a lot of guys that my friends find ugly I find gorgeous, and vice versa. So yeah, any answer I would imagin is pretty much gonna be abstract, unless somebody come out wit some...
"Biiiiiiiiiitch YASS!! My man gots to look like DRAKE and Stephen Curry rolled in ONE hunty, Light & Pretty DAHLING, I don't DEW CHAW-KLET Dear" LMFAO!!!!

 

Initially, at least. Few people would immediately date someone who they found physically unattractive. But like @ColumbusGuy said, it's definitely subjective. Some people who others swear up and down are attractive, I'm kinda like....meh. Same thing for others' views of who I find attractive. And everyone has met someone who they thought was super attractive but once they started talking to them and learned about their personality, they became the ugliest person on earth. Likewise, we've all met someone who wasn't quite model looking but had a great personality and we clicked with on multiple levels and their attractiveness shot up. Essentially, looks may be what is going to spark a relationship, but it isn't going to maintain it. Once the honeymoon phase ends and the excitement dissipates, you're stuck with someone who you may not necessarily like. You were blinded by the looks. You fell in love with their outer shell and not who they are as a person. Successful long term relationships are built on compatiability, not looks. Looks fade easily. Ask yourself, if you were not physically attracted to your partner, would you still be their friend? Would you get along? Would this still be a person you would enjoy hanging out with? If you answered "no", then you're probably with the wrong person. Physical attraction matters, but mental compatiabiltiy is longer lasting.

 

Truthfully yes. Lately I've been trying to look past looks when I'm "talking" to someone. You'll be surprised sometimes a person's personality or mind set can over shadow their looks.

 

He merely has to be cute to me. However, if the grill is jacked, I would pause unless he was willing to consider some work in the future.

 

You know what pisses me off....those people who shame others who date people based on their physical appearance.

Not only does it condem conventionally attractive people, but it demonises folks for dating someone that they can stand to look at. :/

 

This happened to me and quite honestly, it was the "relationship" that had the most impact on me and taught me a lot about myself.

The trill was amazing....to go from having no attraction to being flooded with it and having butterflies in your stomach when you think of the person.

 

....ARE WE THE SAME PERSON?

 

Actually most of the people who I ended up caring about or liking the most-I did not find particularly attractive to begin with. In some cases, including my long relationship, I did not even like the person when I first met them. Circumstances kept me around them, and as I got to know them, things changed.

 

The women were passive-aggressive jerks and I would end a date with such blatant disinterest early, but it's messed up for the show to tell them they're wrong for not taking a chance when they lack physical attraction. You can call them out for being shallow and mean, but you can't really force attraction.

Looks matter to some extent. I like a fairly wide range of people and they sometimes become more attractive as I get to know them, but I doubt that the world's greatest personality would draw me to someone if they don't physically appeal to me at all. There have been times when someone I normally wouldn't give a second look goes from average to appealing, but I don't know if that can happen if they begin as unattractive. Maybe if I'm in a place in life where I'm craving affection or positive attention and someone comes along who can fulfill those needs.

 

lol

 

HOLD UP...
1: These twins are busted. They look fake and made up as hell. IMO dyed blond fake hair just doesn't look good on some black women.

2: Why are you asking a "date" where do they see themselves in five years? This is not an interview for a management position at a corporation...its a date dude.

3: If you're not initially attracted to someone. then what? I mean attraction is more than just looks.

4: How is being a condisending bitch sexy or cute? Women look at these reality shows and think this is how women are supposed to conduct themselves. These twins seem extra shallow. If they don't straighten up they're gonna be alone like Patty and Selma.

 

*wishingicollectedgifssoicouldpost1ofsum1closingadoor*

 

The audacity! Maaaan, when I tell yall that audaciousness is an epidemic...I just cant anymore. Both men were extremely attractive n better looking than the set of bopsy twins who thought blonde lace fronts made them dimes. Ppl play entirely too much!

 

I've always been more attracted to the inner workings of a person rather than the outer shell.
Can we laugh consistently for hours on end about anything, has always been a bigger compatibility draw to me than if I thought they were cute.

I've gotten this and similar questions on first dates.
That means too serious and rigid. if the stick up your butt is lodged that deep then I was not interested enough to try to get around it.

 

The plastic blonde hair threw me off, were they saying something?

 

I do not believe they should matter but it's disingenuous to say they don't. Unfortunately more people are concerned with the look of a relationship and not the health of it and that leads to these failed relationships. People tend to not learn and thus repeat the cycle over and over instead of looking at their approach and adjusting. Dudes are visual and mostly the optics are all they care about. I can see that from the start and as somone that is generally considered attractive I avoid those types because I don't want to be someone's nice dude to post up on Instagram with I want to have a life with the individual and that kind of relationship requires two people that are less surface centered and into the business of love.

 

I enjoyed this clip. I think that looks and personality go hand in hand.

I've been meeting more gay (possibly bi) guys at gay events now and I've been noticing that looks are not the only thing I am interested in. I am glad that I came across my mentors (aka gay dads lol) last year because they taught me the importance of personality and other intrinsic characteristics when it comes to dating/relationships. It is good to see the inside too.

 

Honestly haven't seen the clip but just going by the comments and breakdowns I have read I can tell these are some bourgeois wanna be housewife chicks.

Looks and money can only do so much. There's some dudes that I hate they looks so fine but I know them to be complete and total aššholes. Good looking doesn't make one a good person. But they probably don't even realize it because they have people constantly boosting them over their looks. Having 3000 ig followers doesn't make one all that. You probably just bought some from Russia or India anyways.

An "average" looking dude with the right personality is always a winner. And let's just be real, even a busted dude can makeup for an unfortunate face with the right body and personality.

 

Yeah, looks are important to me. Looks reel me in & then I see if I like his personality. Its funny though, a lot of guys I have thought were cute turned into ugmos real quick when they opened their mouth.

One guy who I thought was cute & wanted to unclothe turned me off when I talked to him on the phone.

He had the nerve to tell me how I should speak to him as if he was over me or he was some kind of a king....I clicked in his face so quick...attraction gone.

A guy has to be cute to me both physically & mentally. If a man is cute and intellectual I will fall to my knees & melt.

Id like to be intimate with someone I want and like to look at. Having a sexy body just doesnt do it for me..

 

I love them tho...

 

yeah looks are important. I mean you don't have to be a model but I have to find you sexually attractive other wise no matter how good of a personality they had they would just make a good friend.

 

Clearly looks matter, let's please not waste time playing that game where we pretend they don't, in 2016. The perk is that they're subjective, so lets let that be.

 

I think that looks are definitely important. They are the starting point. It's what attracts you initially. You can't just look at someone and say "Gee, I bet they have a great personality." It doesn't work like that at all. Looks are what attracts, personality is what keeps you...

 

I think Charlemagne is rly handsome, @Ockydub thinks Marshawn Lynch is cute (smh) n @Nick Delmacy disagrees w both of us. We can play 'looks' tennis all damn day

 

Where u been @bpaisle? !

 

Man school and work have been kicking my ass...

 

Get ur grind on bro. I'm abt to put on some music n knock out

 

Marshawn Lynch hasnt spent 1 dime of his $50 million NFL monies. That sh!t is sexy as hell.

 

I think Charlemagne is good looking as well. That episode I saw him on Catfish, I was like... Ok. I see it. @SB3

Marshawn isn't classically attractive but he looks around the way which I'm good with @Ockydub . I have seen worse. It does say a lot that he didn't go out and ball out of control with his money. I wonder if he's gonna use his money to open up some Popeye's or Pinkberry franchises or something? He's too young to just not do anything with his free time for the rest of his days.

 

Just look good to me is what I say...But I will say that when it comes to looks and dating I'm superficial, I can admit that now. I may not be the best looking thing to come off of the shelves but the dude I'm with gotta at least be somewhat handsome to me. If you look good, you get so many passes with me.

No matter how dope his personality is, I gotta think he's flyy and good looking, even if someone else doesn't, otherwise we won't even get a first date. Ugly dudes gotta work harder on selling themselves to me, just being real.

I was once "set up" with this ugly dude at a house party...he was African and had a crazy dope muscular body but he was seriously facially challenged. I downed my drink and said, "let me try something new..."

We had decent convo, exchanged numbers.... The next week or two was full of vague text messages returned at long intervals on his end, he was always "out with a buddy" when asked WYD...Normally I would be patient with this, but remembered his facial affliction and thought, dude you not even good looking enough for me to be chasing you, quit it...So I cut it loose. A year later saw him at another party and he said that I was the one that got away (or some shit like that). I was like:

 

#shade! But honest.

 

Bear with me a little bit here. I get the good looking..but what is your definition of 'flyy'