OPEN RELATIONSHIPS Yes Or No??

What are the problems? Because an open relationship may not be the answer to some "problems.

 

If I am in a long-term, not-just-about-sex relationship, the idea of open relationship would not be on the table. But if I'm in a fuck buddy, it's-only-about-sex type relationship, then an open relationship can be on a table.

Being in a fuck buddy, it's-only-about-sex type relationship, it would be a Yes, simply because that person and I really aren't in a relationship technically. We simply are just fucking around with no strings attached, so fucking around with other people (with some rules) wouldn't be an issue for me. For instance, as a verse top, if I'm in a fuck buddy, it's-only-about-sex type relationship with another verse top, I wouldn't have an issue with bringing a bottom into our sex life from time to time or on the regular. Or if I'm with a bisexual guy, I wouldn't have issues with him (in this situation only) bringing in a female to get his rocks off (of course I wouldn't be doing anything with her though/I would watch him and her go at it...lol).

As it pertains to a long-term relationship, the reason why turning the relationship into an open relationship would be a No is because for me, I would be selfish and I don't want to share that special someone with no one else. And in this situation, three can be a crowd and depending on other people brought into the equation, it can either make or break the relationship, especially if feelings changed or someone actually comes into the equation and the relationship goes down that dead end road. I value long-term relationships and the old-school value of it, so I would shut that decision with my boyfriend down immediately.

I think that it maybe clear that your boyfriend feels that there is something "lacking" in the relationship sexually. And he may have just brought up the idea of an open relationship, because of that being a option to deal with spicing up or adding to his sexual needs that he wants satisfied. You both need to communicate a lot more and be honest about any problems going on that's making him feel some type of way about the relationship as it stands. I would hate for him to cheat on you and then throw it in your face that he did and for why he did, because things weren't addressed with honesty and nipped in the bud at this point.

Good luck! #Communicate #BeDirectandHonest #FixTheProblems

 

i would say no if it was me not sure what problems you and your partner have but i dont get how a open relationship would fix it that just seems like it would bring more issue cause your relationship is not strong as is. i look at it like having a weakened immune system but instead of trying to build it up and make it stronger you let more harm come in. but like i said this is my point of view i don't know your issues or type of relationship you guys have and hope for the best for both of you guys.

 

Wait what? Personally me and my partner I had a "problem" this past Sunday. How does this now mean "open relationship" time? Work it out and stay together OR work it out and part ways. And what does the zombie bride in the pic have to do with anything? Is he wanting to be with woman?

 

Open relationships only work if both partners actually want it. If one partner feels coerced into this kind of setup, it's probably not going to work. Nothing wrong with open relationships in themselves, just make sure it's based on a mutual decision. Personally, I wouldn't do it. I'm too lazy to find someone else to sleep with, casual sex gets boring after a while, and I would get jealous if I knew my dude was out there fucking around.

 

I don't think that would solve the problem, if it's an issue of you guys not working out I don't understand why not just break up? Adding more people into the mix will complicate things further imo. But I don't know the whole story so only you can answer that for yourself. I would have a problem with that too, I want to be the only one in your life if we're in a LTR lol, but I hope things work out!

 

Work it out my African bro! Good luck!

 

No.

 

I've said in a previous topic that I'm in a open-long distance relationship. The long distance is the only thing preventing us from fulfilling our sexual desires and since we're so open with each other we planned the whole open-relationship thing out together and think of it as temporary. We want to be romantic and emotionally invested in each other but have fuck buddies (well, he can) until we link up again. It works and it's convenient at the moment but we'll see where it takes us when/if things get more long-term and no longer distant. I can only go by his word from what he tells or shows me and so far he's been upfront about what he does. But of course everything is always "to my knowledge" and that's probably the hardest part.

Don't do it unless you're both in agreement to it. If you were compatible before I don't see why people can't rekindle or end the relationship.

 

Is it me or is the rush to an open relationship the catch all solution? Now don't get me wrong, I think if that what you and your partner agree to and it works for you so be it. But I think for the vast majority of people it not a plausible solution. I think at least for the gay men, there isn't a long history of being able to live openly in a relationship so with the first sign of trouble we resort to quick fixes. Relationships are hard work, hard continuous work. Plain and simple. Also, there is a such thing as the fizzle out. People grow apart, that is part of life and it happens...sometimes the best thing you can do is embrace it and move forward.

 

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are you drunk? lol if so, too early

 

In Little Richard's voice, Shut up LOL

 

Personally, I don't think opening a committed relationship is a good idea for ANYONE, ESPECIALLY if there are problems. However, it does work for some ppl (ie. swingers). For me, no. I'm not that open sexually or emotionally to give it to more than one person.

 

In the early dating stages of a relationship...sure. And if thatbis how you choosebto define your relationship...sure. I have seen it work, HOWEVER, as a solution to a broken or breaking relationship, absolutely not. If you realy want to save or improve your relationship, keep other people out of your relationship, because every relationship is unique AND get professional help...real talk!

 

Yeah dude that's me too. I would not be able to be open to multiple people at a time like that. It's hard enough with one person.

 

It's all about communication. If you are not getting what you need out of sex you have to let your partner know. Usually these are things people are able to work out.... When they communicate. Want more? Want less? Want to do things with toys? All of that is better communicated when you are not in the course of having intercourse. So have the conversation after dinner or in the car back from the grocery store.

Squeaky wheels get the grease.

 

Depending on the problem I can see it working. I, myself am a jealous person ,but if my dude needs something that I am not willing to do or whatever then perhaps that's something that needs to be worked out if it's going to cause problems. Now there would be rules. Fuck and go. That's it. No hanging out. No staying over for pillow talk. Get your nut and leave them be. The problem is most won't do that because it makes them feel dirty.

 

Open relationships always leave the door open for someone to walk out and not come back.

Regardless of the rules that are set, we are human and there is always the likelihood that you could meet someone else who may make you want to shut it down, so to speak. Interestingly enough, my first and only relationship with a man evolved into an open one. I had never heard of such of thing, so one can imagine how much I wasn't going for it when it was proposed. Being foolish and naive, I caved in, and after a couple months of him nagging me about trying to find a "friend" (since he'd obviously had someone), I finally met someone that he quickly became jealous of--for good reason.

Dude I met was in the military and was being shipped away. Had he stayed, my relationship would have likely ended several weeks sooner than what it eventually did. lol

 

Do you not think if you are willing to bring in a ''stranger'' to save your relationship, isn't it already dead?
Personally I am a NO! when it comes to open relationships. I will only open one thing, for a guy who wants an open relationship, THE DOOR!!!

 

Damn-hahahahah. Love it.

 

Open relationships can be great and can work, but only in healthy relationships. You started off this post by saying y'all are having problems, opening up your relationship will not help, it will only make things worse. I guarantee it. Moreover, it will only work if y'all communicate it (almost exhaustively) and are on the same page. If one of you isn't all the way here for it, it won't work. Having an open relationship can honestly be more work than a traditional relationship, but I have seen it work and it can be fun.

Honestly, I think he suggested this so he can look for someone or something else while still having you as a fallback, but I could be wrong. If you do decide to open your relationship up you have to work out your issues first.

 

I'm going to say NO in capital letters because if you and your partner are having problems introducing new people into the mix will only make things wors, especially if you're not keen on the idea. If you're having problems you guys need to focus on the source of the problems. I'd recommend a couples therapy. If that doesn't work perhaps you should consider separating. But an open relationship will not help the situation. That's just my take.

 

Since you guys bumped this thread I'm gonna have to retract from my previous comment and just say: DON'T DO IT. I won't get into detail until it's put to rest but things haven gotten really messy for me these past 2 weeks. I knew what I was signing up for so don't shame me but the potential drama did creep on me sooner than I thought.